Everybody wants to live a fulfilled life; have enough money to take care of themselves and their family, rise to the top in their field, build a house of their taste, but a lot of people tend not to achieve this till they die. I want to list 5 reasons why most people don't succeed in life.




1. Wishful Thinking
"How I wish I could find a 'Ghana must go' bag filled with dollars, aargh! I will change my life." "How i wish I was as rich as Dangote." "How I wish I was a star like Don Jazzy." People wish, and wish, and wish, and their wishes change everyday. If wishes came true, every man would be living in a mansion. But, that's not how life works. You have to know exactly what you want, be definite about it, and start working towards getting whatever you want. How many people do this?



2. Most People Believe in Luck
This is another major reason why people don't succeed in life. For example, a lot of people believe Beyonce is lucky to be as successful as she is, but they don't know that she started singing professionally at the age of 9 (with her friend, Kelly Rowland), and she didn't taste success till she was 15 years old. People feel Linda Ikeji is lucky, but they don't know that she blogged consistently for 4 years before she made a kobo from blogging. They also don't know that one day around 3 years ago, she walked up to the ATM trying to withdraw N500 from her account (she had only N1,500 in the account), and had to go back home with nothing as the ATM didn't dispense in N500 notes.

The truth is, everyone you might think is lucky had to sacrifice a lot (pls, I'm not talking about blood sacrifice) to get where he/she is. There is no such thing as luck.



3. People Are Not Ready to Give to Receive
There is nothing like something for nothing in this world. If you want something (anything at all), you have to be willing to give something in return. Even salvation which a lot of people say is free comes with a cost (your freedom).

You want to be rich? Are you willing to work 16 hours everyday, 7 days a week? Are you willing to take big risks? Are you willing to give up going for parties in order to spend more time on your goals? Are you willing to be alone? Are you willing to delay gratification?




4. Some People Believe They Would be Successful If They Are Meant to Be, Without Working Towards Success
I used to live next to this man who I noticed played draft (checkers) all day, every day. I found out the man had lost his job, and he wasn't doing anything to make things better in his life...living all the burden on his hardworking school teacher wife. One day, I heard the man say "If it is my time, God will bless me." That was 10 years ago; I still gave the man N200 last month for food.

There is a Yoruba adage that says "omo to ba no owo e soke ni iya re ma gbe." Translation- It is the child that stretches his hands up that the mother would carry. how can you expect God to bless you, how can you expect God to lift you up when you are not doing anything to better your own situation?

If every man on Earth had the mentality this man has, how will there be progress in this world? It is because of having a lot of men like this as dead weight in the society that Africa seem to be so backwards when compared to the rest of the world.




5. Crowd Mentality
Majority of people don't think for themselves, they just flow with the crowd. And when it comes to what they want, they also flow with what the society dictates. So, we have a bunch of "zombie like" people who don't know exactly what they want out of life, or why they are here. Or, I can say they do know what they want, which is what the next man wants. So, when there is a new booming business making some people money, they flock there without carrying out research on the business or even having passion for the business. And when the business becomes saturated, they jump on the next train.

And this system goes on and on like that till they are old and grey. They never try to be creative, or even try to discover what their real passion is...they just FOLLOW THE CROWD.

Thnks for d advice

The Whole Truth.


You just made my day @OP

Cutehector4u:
Thnks for d advice

You are welcome.

Youngzedd:
The Whole Truth.


You just made my day @OP

Cool article

I think one other thing is being religiously blinded that you leave what you can do by yourself to God.

nice one, like i keep telling my friends If you want to be truly successful invest
in yourself to get the knowledge you
need to find your unique factor. When
you find it and focus on it and persevere
your success will blossom.

They keep saying i was very lucky to be successful in this hard country, As if i was sleeping and success came to knock on my door.

Infuse your life with action. Don't wait
for it to happen. Make it happen. Make
your own future. Make your own hope.
Make your own love. And whatever your
beliefs, honor your creator, not by
passively waiting for grace to come
down from upon high, but by doing
what you can to make grace happen...
yourself, right now, right down here on
Earth.

Meditatinq...

tspun:
nice one, like i keep telling my friends If you want to be truly successful invest
in yourself to get the knowledge you
need to find your unique factor. When
you find it and focus on it and persevere
your success will blossom.

They keep saying i was very lucky to be successful in this hard country, As if i was sleeping and success came to knock on my door.

Infuse your life with action. Don't wait
for it to happen. Make it happen. Make
your own future. Make your own hope.
Make your own love. And whatever your
beliefs, honor your creator, not by
passively waiting for grace to come
down from upon high, but by doing
what you can to make grace happen...
yourself, right now, right down here on
Earth.

A lot of people have this mentality...a very bad way of thinking.

Nice one Op

you didn't add WOMEN!!

Not trying to offend any, but any aspiring young man should do away with unnecessary relationships with women-they draw one back!!

likewise unnecessary male friends

So true.

This should be directed towards all those football-betters,they believe so much in luck.

So simple, and the best i have seen in recent times.
5 points aptly put.

Yeah....you are so right at OP.


If there is one thing that has aided my success today as a sole enterpreneur is my ability to say 'No!!!'.

You can't please everyone and no matter what you do for some friends they will still go home with the thought that you didn't do enough for them.

Learn not to please people/friends beyond your capacity and ability because you might end up being choked and most of them will continue their lives and forgot that you ever existed in their lives until you bounce back to your feet again (there are good friends notwithstanding).


Please, learn to say NO to some unnecessary demands from friends who lazy their azz around and wait for you to walk for them...they will end up draining and drowning you.


Also, just like someone said up there...do away with some relationships that are uncalled for. As a young struggling man...you don't need such friendships...they will only end up distracting you and discharging your profitable energy uncluding your reserved energy.


Life is easy when you discipline yourself and live a principled life.

Oro lo so !!! U just said it all

Thanks for sharing

Fact is,
no matter how hardworking we all are, not all of us will succeed in life,

front page material

hungryboy:
Fact is,
no matter how hardworking we all are, not all of us will succeed in life,

No need, your name says it all....

christian11:

No need, your name says it all....

LMAO!!!

#WORD

Those reasons apply directly to our African mentality especially Nigerians, not all these copycat motivational speakers copying oyinbos ideas.

Lala, naijacutee, Dominique... This is front page material.