₦airaland Forum

Mondisweets:
what visa again? I was a passenger on my friend's broom

Truckpusher:
Yimu

That thing no dey itch you for night?

IYANGBALI:
dem tell you say I no get finger or bottle no dey?

IYANGBALI:
winsh

Mondisweets:
so only winshes use broom abi?

IYANGBALI:
and you

zleemshaddy:
na 2dae, by 3pm

delishpot:
Oh, another woman bashing thread. NL men, una favourite food done cook o. E don done. Make una come chop.


Eh, let me say what the typical NLand men/ boys will say, its the womens fault. A mans attitude should be borne by the wife no matter what, our fathers beat our mothers yet they still stayed. Our fathers married and fathered kids all over our village yet mommy still stayed, she made him happy, knelt down to serve him water and food, knelt down every morning to greet him. Our women of these days have been exposed to education. They can now get jobs and feed their kids instead of depending on us as before thereby making them our slaves. Our parents no longer send their abused daughters back to the abusive husbands again. In the good old days, fathers will return abused daughters cos they had no food to care for her and her kids. Nowadays they dare keep them!
Hmnnnn, men be wise marry a church rats daughter who is ignorant, do not let her earn a penny, keep her always on her toes, trying to make you happy even after you rain her some hot slaps or insults like, has your father ever bought a TV in his life? In the village where I picked you, did you even know what a wC meant? Howmany of your brothers can afford to lay a stone on the ground talkless of building a house? She will still lick your bum cos she aint got no where to run to. Shebi its the type of wife most NL boys want to marry? Good luck finding one sha.

carefreewannabe:
Do I know you?

uzolexis:
Men and this "head" issue, I tire o. Marriage is like a partnership, no one is above the other, decisions n all should be made jointly and nobody's opinion should supersede the other. Both parties should be ready 2 compromise,that's what marriage is about.

delishpot:
Any story to allow men have more wives ba? Anything to promote polygamy ba? Dont you think allowing your wife to have more husbands will also remove her wahala from focusing on you? What do you have to lose except lack of sex? If she has more husbands the less she will worry you.
Oh wait, did I strike the wrong cord? How dare I sugest men are denied s€x? Arent women built to be abandoned and given less s€x while the men enjoy all the s€x they crave? Ohhh oooo, see asce pain you for body? Na so e dey pain women when they are pressured by society to agree to be treated like a piece of furniture in a mans house.
See question, so for your mind lack of sex is good for the woman ba? But not acceptable for the men? I wonder why men think sex is not important to women. No wonder marriages break theae days.

My dear, the only reason marriages seemed to be working well then was porverty, financial dependence on men and the society shielding the woman/ girl child from having any desire in life other tjan to get married and do as hubby says. Anything outside that she is considered a bad woman or over ambitious. cos women were economicaly tied to their husbands. Men marry more women than they could catter for., he abandons them to their fate. If he loves them well enough, he gives them a piece of land to farm on. If they leave him, they forfiet the land and thus cant grow crops to feed their kids or sell to raise funds for kids school fees so they are smart enough to sit thight and ignore the man. They just shift focus on their kids. If the man dies, the woman may be killed, treated badly by his people after tagging her a witch or passed on to another member of his family and if she refuses to be passed around, she is kicked out and the source of income which she got by marriage to her late husband is taken from her. So she ia wise and betteroff staying married to that family. But ask yourself, is that the life a woman deserves? If you were a woman, is that what you would want your future to be?
Why the hell are women expected to endure marriages?
Marriages seemed to last longer because if a woman left the man, her family will be made to refund the bride price, she will be ridiculed by the village people and she will be a diagrace to her family so she sits tight and is encouraged to find something to do to take her mind off the man and focus on her kids. Even till today, a lot of wives are still told to sit tight, pray and fast and forget about the wayward man( dont bring polygamy here cos I know about men with 10 wives who still have girlfriends out side so polygamy does not cure cheating. all those Alhajis with 4 wives yet are still runsing campus babes will tell you same thing)
Its because you are not women sha. A white man may not see any problem with enslaving a black man but if he suddenly turns black and is enslaved, he will then see how painful the treatment is to the black man.
I don tire. When una finish to blame women for the woes of mankind, make una tell me.
I am sure women are to blame for boko haram and for GEJ becoming naija presido.
I am not saying there are no bad women o. I know there are bad women. but, not all broken marriages are caused by the women. Most I know are caused by the men, who believe they can behave anyhow, deny the wives sex while they go out to get some and still expect to come home to smilling wives and hot edikaikong soup and foofoo waiting on the table.
Women now are not presaured to stay if they dont feel happy in their marriages. They can now move on and make a happy or peaceful or safe lives for themselves thus, more wives are making the decision to leave their marriages.
Any woman with a good husband that does not appreciate him and makes him leave or she packs out, its her loss. I have no time to start making a data for her.
Marriages involve men and women and not women alone. Both paeties have equal role to play in making it work. Not like most men who expect wives to go out and work to feed them and yet do all the chores at home while they answer master, daddy, and do nada or do as they please. Men like to treat wives the way they will never accept to be treated. No sane woman with a loving, kind and good husband will mess her marriage up. If you find any that destroys her happy home with her hands on purpose, she is insane quote me to her!

delishpot:
Any story to allow men have more wives ba? Anything to promote polygamy ba? Dont you think allowing your wife to have more husbands will also remove her wahala from focusing on you? What do you have to lose except lack of sex? If she has more husbands the less she will worry you.
Oh wait, did I strike the wrong cord? How dare I sugest men are denied s€x? Arent women built to be abandoned and given less s€x while the men enjoy all the s€x they crave? Ohhh oooo, see asce pain you for body? Na so e dey pain women when they are pressured by society to agree to be treated like a piece of furniture in a mans house.
See question, so for your mind lack of sex is good for the woman ba? But not acceptable for the men? I wonder why men think sex is not important to women. No wonder marriages break theae days.

My dear, the only reason marriages seemed to be working well then was porverty, financial dependence on men and the society shielding the woman/ girl child from having any desire in life other tjan to get married and do as hubby says. Anything outside that she is considered a bad woman or over ambitious. cos women were economicaly tied to their husbands. Men marry more women than they could catter for., he abandons them to their fate. If he loves them well enough, he gives them a piece of land to farm on. If they leave him, they forfiet the land and thus cant grow crops to feed their kids or sell to raise funds for kids school fees so they are smart enough to sit thight and ignore the man. They just shift focus on their kids. If the man dies, the woman may be killed, treated badly by his people after tagging her a witch or passed on to another member of his family and if she refuses to be passed around, she is kicked out and the source of income which she got by marriage to her late husband is taken from her. So she ia wise and betteroff staying married to that family. But ask yourself, is that the life a woman deserves? If you were a woman, is that what you would want your future to be?
Why the hell are women expected to endure marriages?
Marriages seemed to last longer because if a woman left the man, her family will be made to refund the bride price, she will be ridiculed by the village people and she will be a diagrace to her family so she sits tight and is encouraged to find something to do to take her mind off the man and focus on her kids. Even till today, a lot of wives are still told to sit tight, pray and fast and forget about the wayward man( dont bring polygamy here cos I know about men with 10 wives who still have girlfriends out side so polygamy does not cure cheating. all those Alhajis with 4 wives yet are still runsing campus babes will tell you same thing)
Its because you are not women sha. A white man may not see any problem with enslaving a black man but if he suddenly turns black and is enslaved, he will then see how painful the treatment is to the black man.
I don tire. When una finish to blame women for the woes of mankind, make una tell me.
I am sure women are to blame for boko haram and for GEJ becoming naija presido.
I am not saying there are no bad women o. I know there are bad women. but, not all broken marriages are caused by the women. Most I know are caused by the men, who believe they can behave anyhow, deny the wives sex while they go out to get some and still expect to come home to smilling wives and hot edikaikong soup and foofoo waiting on the table.
Women now are not presaured to stay if they dont feel happy in their marriages. They can now move on and make a happy or peaceful or safe lives for themselves thus, more wives are making the decision to leave their marriages.
Any woman with a good husband that does not appreciate him and makes him leave or she packs out, its her loss. I have no time to start making a data for her.
Marriages involve men and women and not women alone. Both paeties have equal role to play in making it work. Not like most men who expect wives to go out and work to feed them and yet do all the chores at home while they answer master, daddy, and do nada or do as they please. Men like to treat wives the way they will never accept to be treated. No sane woman with a loving, kind and good husband will mess her marriage up. If you find any that destroys her happy home with her hands on purpose, she is insane quote me to her!

terefe:
I think people have become selfish and lazy which i believe is due to the influence of western media that has changed definition of certain ideals. You dont drop out of school just because a course is hard or your having problems in some quarters, rather u work it out..but these days ppl seem to b taking the easy route out.
Also, dese days , having a fulfilled life has changed from having strong relationship bonds vis-a-vis d family system to being materially rich and having unlimited freedom or independence to do what you want... It is what is it is

Emmalot121:
Whatever. Mind the way you speak about Nigeria, pathetic fool!

Billyonaire:
The difference is social media. There were lots of divorce too but there was no means of transmission of the news of divorce.

The very reason Islam promote illiteracy amongst women is to make sure women remain loyal to men, so was it those days, because men refuse to train their daughters too, out of ignorance and dependence on men as bread winners, but now women have equal opportunity to get education and work to earn a living, so women can decide to divorce at will, for "irreconcilable differences".

Love isnt a good reason to get married, not then, and not even now, because love is unlimited in nature, it can be depleted, but friendships keep unions strong after the diffusion of love.

Billyonaire:
The difference is social media. There were lots of divorce too but there was no means of transmission of the news of divorce.

The very reason Islam promote illiteracy amongst women is to make sure women remain loyal to men, so was it those days, because men refuse to train their daughters too, out of ignorance and dependence on men as bread winners, but now women have equal opportunity to get education and work to earn a living, so women can decide to divorce at will, for "irreconcilable differences".

Love isnt a good reason to get married, not then, and not even now, because love is unlimited in nature, it can be depleted, but friendships keep unions strong after the diffusion of love.

CoCoLav:
Cc @Anaskie. Can you now see?

Billyonaire:
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The very reason Islam promote illiteracy amongst women is to make sure women remain loyal to men, so was it those days, because men refuse to train their daughters too, out of ignorance and dependence on men as bread winners, but now women have equal opportunity to get education and work to earn a living, so women can decide to divorce at will, for "irreconcilable differences".
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Sophyrocks:
Lets not deceive ourselves with this comparison. There were still divorces back then even though they were not as rampant as it is now. The fact that the marriages lasted longer then does not mean they were all happy, healthy ones. Some of them had dysfunctional families and were just merely patching up. We have people who can testify to this in their indivdual homes. These same marriages of then produced new generations with a lot more horrible mentality towards marriage thus transfering the same dysfunction from generations to generations. Now add that to the low morals of now plus marrying for flimsy reasons or to please society, then you see the product as many more dysfunctional marriages and more divorces. A good marriage of an old generation will produce sane and sound individuals with a healthy mentality towards marriage.

Lets just say that people are now more aware of what they want and would not remain in a marriage when their lives are at stake unlike that of marriages of old. Since many are marrying to please society or to fulfill righteousness then expect more divorces.

SenatorJames:
True talk. But don't you think that respect and submission from the side of women has reduced drastically nowadays, also men are less responsible, which is a contributing factor.

Billyonaire:
Islam is biased about education, and its even worst when its western education. Girls do not have opportunity to get proper education in most Islamic states. in Saudi Arabia, the home country of Mohammed (where Osama is also from), women are not allowed to drive, not allowed to join the police or military, not allowed to go into sports except recently when few ladies are showcased for image laundering. And guess what ? Women are forced to wear veils covering their sexy natural curves. I am just saying it the way it is, I am not religious and I will never be.

David4best:
It is simply because, nowadays relationship before marriage is 10% behavioural/character or emotional connection & 90% money, beauty, height, education, tribe, status/class & children connection . Which is not suppose. The foundation of many relationships of today is as a result of enough money being spent on the girl. Any guy that cannot spend on a girl in a lovely relationship, is being called a greedy & wicked guy that will maltreat the girl after marriage. Then, men & wowen in our modern society will advice the girl to leave the boy even when they know that the guy has much responsibility to do with his little money or the the guy cannot spend on the girl above his income. I am not poor, I am a level 8 step 4 staff in civil service. But I will be happy to get married to a good girl that love me apart from my income. Divorse is not common among husband & wife that got rich after marriage. It is not common among the d poor or average married couple. Divorse is common among the well-educated married couple. It is not compulsory I must marry a lady who is a graduate simply because I am a graduate. I know of a female lawyer that divorced & seperated from her else husband till now just because the husband said he wanted his mother that is lonely in the village to stay with them in the city.