prettythicksme:
My marriage is now 20yrs!

You married when you were 10?

Strahovski1:
I will take you serious when you post the other version of this directed at men as this is directed at women.

Besides a woman refusing control over her husband should not break a marriage it means there wasn't love in the first place. Today people have turned marriage into an obligation whether their love is true or not.. marriage! And that is when things like this come in.. why would a man be picky because he cannot control his wife? Did he marry her to control her? Also why would a woman be rude to her husband because she is in a higher position? There is no love.

Man, what makes marriage last is love.. not subjection or advanced slavery.. love is what keeps marriage. When there is love.. the woman would respect her hubby as the hubby will respect her. Not one sided subjection because one god commanded it.

Strahovski1:
I will take you serious when you post the other version of this directed at men as this is directed at women.

Besides a woman refusing control over her husband should not break a marriage it means there wasn't love in the first place. Today people have turned marriage into an obligation whether their love is true or not.. marriage! And that is when things like this come in.. why would a man be picky because he cannot control his wife? Did he marry her to control her? Also why would a woman be rude to her husband because she is in a higher position? There is no love.

Man, what makes marriage last is love.. not subjection or advanced slavery.. love is what keeps marriage. When there is love.. the woman would respect her hubby as the hubby will respect her. Not one sided subjection because one god commanded it.

OMG! You're amazing!!



Sadly! NOT Nigerian. We really Could Use Your brains Around Here.

sinaj:
S

naijaboiy:

You married when you were 10?

MrsChima:


Didn't a Nigerian Senator married a 9 years old girl? It is possible boo.

oh LOL!

I forgot that.

I don't see you around these days again...what's up?

DrPurposeful:
I see you are one of those a people Read it again my brother. smh are you male or female?

DrPurposeful:
S for sinaj. keep buying land... govt would soon take them

naijaboiy:

You married when you were 10?

naijaboiy:

oh LOL!

I forgot that.

I don't see you around these days again...what's up?

MrsChima:
There are many different reasons why many marriages do not exceed 10 years.

Some people gets married for the wrong reasons; green cards, to escape poverty, family pressure, desperation, deception, and many more.

However, couples that are married or have been married in good faith will still have struggles in their marriages. Cheating, addiction of some sorts, death, abuse, disconnection from the Higher Power, and many more can break a marriage. Marriage is not easy and it is not for the faint hearts it requires work and dedication. It is about teamwork and supporting each other.

Some couples needs to be honest about marriage and encourage professional counseling or seek advice of a TRUSTED NEUTRAL person that won't takes sides. Sometimes a fresh pair of eyes may be what your marriage needs and not everyone wants to see
Couples unhappy and miserable.

Respect and effective communication is imperative to a longer and happy marriages . Some couples are so caught up with trying to outdo other family members that are married many decades and NOT FOCUSED on the health of their marriage. It is not about how long you have been married, but it is about how to have a happy and healthy marriage until it is time to part ways (hopefully it is death).

To control your house (men) doesn't mean you have to treat your wife like one of the children. Even if you have a submissive wife to no fault, she will eventually rebel. You will get more out of her if she feels loved and cherished and you are making good decisions that ensures her stability. Women likes to feel secured and safe. Two heads are better than one when it comes to decisions and planning. Asking your wife for her opinions and thoughts doesn't make you less of a man but more importantly, well-informed decision maker.

If there is no love and intimacy in the marriage, it won't last beyond a few years regardless.

Women choose men based on sustenance attributes and not superficial matters. A man that truly loves his mother will truly love you. Look at how he treats his mother and the female relatives. It is a true indication of how he will treat you! I understand that you do not want a man that has nothing, but instead of looking at what he has material wisely, pay attention how he manage his upkeep and business. If he is not effective, the car and nice house won't be accessible for long! Pay attention to how he is with money and what he does when he is not around his business. You will then see his priority and if he is money obsessive.

Choose compatible spouses and focus on the 80% of the person. A woman of 80% guarantee is better than a woman of 20% guarantee. Get married because you are ready and understand what work is required to maintain it. If you are married and truly gave it your all to make your marriage stronger and you are still not happy. Walk away. Maybe separation is necessary to see the bigger picture and discover other possible solutions. Do not stay in a toxic marriage for the sake of your children. You are reaching your children it is okay to settle and accept this type of treatment from your relationship. They will choose based on their experience they have learned from their parents and continue the vicious cycle that will pass down generations. I am sure that is not THE LEGACY you want to leave behind!

DrPurposeful: