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| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by crackhaus: 9:56pm On Dec 14, 2014*. Modified: 10:11pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
cococandy:You know I will always call you out on these slip ups - now tell me how I took the first jab. Is it on the first one-line question I asked you on this thread? Or is it on the second I asked in about three lines, which was a repeat of the first question...one which you saw fit to reply with a PhD dissertation cum the emotional rants of cococandy? Or is it my reply to that rant calling you out on it? Care to tell me where Crackhaus took first jab, or does your definition of first jab have to do with my asking a simple and direct question which got you spiralling out of control? Something is definitely up with you! Who told you black women detest black men?you only seek to improve that which you love because it is yours.Ohh, so what black women seek to do is improve black men huh? Have you improved yourselves? If the fact that I stated that black women are superceeeding the men in education and holding families together.And I said that this is a failed attempt. - Where and how are black women superseding black men in education? How many female professors did you have in Uni compared to males? - Where and where are black women holding families together? The same black women who will disrespect their husbands for being this or for being that, and are eager to divorce and turn children against their own fathers or husbands against their siblings/parents? These same women? - The majority of prison populations are black men, but you forget that the majority of black women are only marrying for financial stability and trying to avoid being labelled old singles - marrying the same black men who hold the largest number in prisons BTW. Do you people marry criminals, or is it that the ones you marry conveniently get exempted from your beer parlor statistics? Mind you the comment that you're hyperventilating over was made by your fellow black man. Maybe I should direct you to him or better still you help encourage your fellow black men to stop loving as if the certainty of their existence depends on their ego being serviced at all times.A simple question to you in one line 'what do black woman have going for them' is hyperventilation? What will you then call your 500-word PhD dissertation reply? Hypoventilation? You are not serious! Imagine the disgusting posts by MEN on this threadThat they can't live in a house their wives built, how is that a bad thing? Is it not their choice? How many of you women will live comfortably in a house your husband's parents built, or just outrightly live with your in-laws indefinitely? Is too much ego the problem behind that as well, or is it choice? You act like y'all don't live in the real world, which is why I always string you folks up for roast beef on here and expose your hypocrisy. It is known fact that most Nigerian women will not fail to bring up the issue of I did this, and I did that once a little disagreement comes up between them and their husbands - power and black women don't go hand in hand, it will be rubbed in the faces of her unfortunate subjects sooner than later. Very few black women have been able to break free from that mentality of wanting to be worshipped for having some small change to throw around even when it's the husband's wealth and not theirs, and that's saying something - no mincing words, no sentiments. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by damiso(f): 9:56pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Ideally (I know life Is not ideal sha) in a marriage it should be 'OUR' house.All this 'my' 'her' house things .'he'or 'she'might contribute the lion share to the property acquisition but it's meant to be 'our' house.That said, I really don't blame women who want to have their own property esp with the 'all men are polygamous crew'. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by chupcake(m): 9:58pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod:May God Bless You. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by BenGlobal1(m): 10:01pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Dagah2:. Hahaha...abi? |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 10:34pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Y not? she is d bone of my bone and flesh from my butt |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by zinaLPF: 10:35pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Interesting to read the responses - I would bet that most of these rejections of the idea, based on the mans "headship" of the home, are not religious at all, but based on chauvinism, ego and uncertainty. We continue to perpetuate the idea that women are given to irrational bursts of anger and huge egos borne of material wealth. Is this not hpocritical? Is that not in fact a stereotypical description of men in general? Who, when he gets a raise or promotion, suddenly finds time and resources for the additional girlfriend or wife? Yep, men. On the other hand, what sane woman, when loved and respected by her husband (and his family), wakes up one day and asks her husband to "pack out"? Yet to find one. It sounds like men, aware of their bad behaviour and the effect on their marriages, have decided that they must retain control or risk being thrown out on their butts. S t upid old adages coined by badly behaved grandfathers with 5 wives and more girl friends, then become the shield and weapon! Wake up guys! Treat your wives, and therefore yourselves, with more love and respect! |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Cheny(m): 10:40pm On Dec 14, 2014*. Modified: 10:21pm On Apr 13, 2020 |
After going through some comments on this topic, it has become glaring that most people don't even understand the concept of marriage. Habba! in an ideal union btw matured and compatible soulmates, the issue of my this,my that or I am this should not even come up. We must know that marriage goes beyond procreation, or bragging about being a Superman or Superwoman in the house. Please,are u married to a lifepartner or a rival?why compete with ur better-half if truly you care. Unnecessary egotism and misdirected macho-manliness coupled with a myopic mindset has really eaten deep into our heads. An ideal wife who knows honour will not misbehave even if she owns the house. Remember,it is not the house that matters but the home,this is what every wise couple should think about. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Tosinville(m): 10:57pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
And she never use your name on those properties? Then that kind house na FK o!, be ready for humiliation and she can even kick u out in d middle of d night anytime. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by fightforchange1(f): 11:08pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Wow. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Mutaino7(m): 11:11pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
I know marriage is suppose to (ours) and not (mine) type of relationship..but weytin rich/enabled women including d so called christians utter when at fit will make a man commit sucide.. 4 example i was driving wit my uncle once and we were held in a gridlock only to discover after coming out of d car that d whole palava was caused by a woman in a suv..who refused to reverse so dat on coming vehicle cud pass thru becus her moving back will ensure free flow and enable her own manoever..but she form strong head until people started picking on her b4 she did d right thing.. Someone once said when a black woman has a small change she believes she is winfrey so people shudnt talk anyhow.. Witout money sef women still dhey misyarn talkless of when she dhey enabled. But all in all is am goner b wit a successive woman am goner b on d watchout 4 any pompous xter during d dating period cos me no like divorce so weytin go gv me headache nah larvae stage i go nip am. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by queebeediva(f): 11:27pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
Some men sha? What is wrong living in your wife house? Somting you can not do a woman did it . My bro applaude her and respect her. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Olaone1: 11:28pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
We are talking about a gender that is naturally hypergamous. A gender that naturally marries up. We need to understand the real meaning of security and protection that women crave for in marriage. The main undertones of "security and protection" are finance -material stuff....MONEY. Being submissive is intertwined with the aforementioned as far as women are concerned. Women, naturally, don't cope well if they find themselves as providers in marriage. Not that the love is no longer there, but what makes the man the HEAD of the family is no longer there if she's the breadwinner. They just want you to be better no matter what. If a woman is a commissioner, she wants her man to be a minister/governor. This does not meant that a commissioner is poor. They just prefer it if you are ahead. It is nature. May God help any man who finds himself in this ![]() |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Etetejake(m): 11:52pm On Dec 14, 2014 |
moca:No one is saying they shouldn't build. All we are saying is that we will not live under that roof. It is not ego. We ar happy to b African men with African mentality. Those your white men u think are better than us are dieing in silence. Ask them and they will tell u. that is if they are ready to let go their stupid pride that whatever their country do is better than Africans effort. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by sukkot: 12:19am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:lmao nuff bredas done froze to death in sub zero temperatures thanks to these ' delicate ' daughters of eve evacuating niggaz out of they homes. nuff frozen bredrins in the morgue as we speak ![]() |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 12:28am On Dec 15, 2014 |
sukkot:Bwahahhaha I have seen an old man in his 60s get kicked out on these streets, trust me. ![]() Bredrin, rather than take notes, these emasculated kids think they know. It's bad enough to even live off a chic as a man, where ya manhood at? Now, imagine feeling funky under a woman's roof. It's only a matter of time before you piss her off, and get ya ar.se thrown out of the house. You would be extremely lucky if she doesn't even get a restraining order on ya ar.se. ![]() Bwoi, a lot of these manginas, folks are breeding today, are a disgrace to the original men. I still can't believe folks don't see anything wrong with a man living off women. Women? - the most unstable specie of humanoid due to emotional impulses. Once you show them ya weakness, ya balls will forever be lost like Atlantis. ![]() |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by DrGroove(f): 1:01am On Dec 15, 2014 |
.....And why should I even build a house for a man to live in it? I rather build a house and rent out somewhere else while we remain tenants pending when hubby builds family house.... Build a house with your sweat,hubby brings in another woman n fvck in there, can even throw you out.Lol |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by corektchic: 1:14am On Dec 15, 2014 |
[quote author=Ilekokonit post=28844547]Will the Westernised African women be calm enough to realise this ?? Of course not with the way things are going. Their Western education has deceived them to the point that dating websites are full of women in their very late 40's hunting for suitors and they are no longer ashamed to put their pictures online as against 20 years ago.The Black woman plays into the "systems" hands time and time again by kicking her husband out of the house for flimsy reasons most likely because her erstwhile bouyant hubby has hit on hard times and she forgets the good times they had when he was bouyant and then the ungrateful cow forgetting that she has a male child to bring up chases the man out of the house using the ever willing cops and then true to the "script" (written by those who are afraid of the black man's latent strengths) the single mother inspite of the single parent benefits she receives from her surrogate husband - i.e the government - realises that bringing up a male child "properly" is not something a woman can do alone. The male child now sees himself as the man of the house and if she is unlucky the boy will start rebelling against her and possibly join gangs which in a lot of cases is a one way route to prison which is where the "system" wants every black man. Anytime I hear of a black woman kicking her husband out of the house for "flimsy" reasons, i just wonder when the penny is going to drop for these women that they are actually playing their parts as pawns in a well thought out "script" with the ultimate aim of rubbishing and tearing apart the black family system which in times past was our glory and strength as a race. That's why there are increasing cases of the male children of single black women turning against them with brutal consequences of late. Story story, story. The marriage system worked those days because the women were dying in fear n frustration n were hidden from knowledge so dat d men kept exploiting their ignorance. Besides, the men then we're very hardworking n worth the pains to some extent plus they had integrity. These days u only hv men who want to sit n lazy abt yet hv all d best things of life n my dear I can't labor for such, evn in d eyes of God its pure injustice. So live with the fact dat we now know what u pple didn’t want us to know n it has empowered us, so live with it . Say no to slavery |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Ilekokonit: 1:24am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:ANY man that is afraid of HIS OWN WIFE is no longer a man and he is wearing a skirt whilst his wife dons the trousers. His burial by that woman is just a matter of time. Once a woman smells fear in her once assertive man, she has tasted blood and the euphoric feelings she gets every time she harrasses the man and sees him submit to her is more pleasurable to her that the one she gets from sex. Thats why someones wife had the guts to for flimsy reasons punch, then bite, then slap her husband and when the guy locks himself in a room she starts banging the door with a piece of wood in a bid to continue seeing the chaps facial expressions as she continues battering him as her mans facial expressions in such lowly state is a source of enjoyment to her greater that sex. Looking at it from a spiritual angle, any woman than wrongfully harrases her husband to submission like so [img]http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSnHO7TeXJBRxNwQQMBv4bHaTjMOlKWXPugQXuIncVVDZABO4Pl[/img] is a witch. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 1:55am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Ilekokonit:Interesting. However, do you mean esoteric witch with supernatural powers, or just a control-freak? A lot of these "modern" women are scary beings. But the problem is that: they have perfected how to mask their evil ways, till you're in-too-deep, and in a space,where you can't really check-out. Thus giving them the leverage to exploit your weakness(es) to their own advantage. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Truckpusher(m): 2:01am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:This is where the real man in you has to wake up and take decisions and wait for the consequences. Do you know that an average woman would naturally respect themselves and give you your deserved space if they are 100 % sure that the next minute you begin to experience what you didn't sign up for that you would walk out of her life for good without considering anything? |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Man51ut(m): 2:05am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:The whole 21st century free black people tripe is just a ruse created for an utopian society. Hence most of them always end up poor and homeless. And their death and incarceration rate is as high as it's today. A lot of these blacks have lost touch with reality, and we should hark back to the old books and sayings that says that black people were subhuman and unable to rule themselves. After all when they were slaves and calling the white man massa- they were not dying or in jail. they understood the unique position of the negroid race and their thought processes. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Ilekokonit: 2:07am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:I'll say "Advanced" control-freak for want of a more extreme word. I don't really believe in witchcraft but if there was anything as close to withcraft, it would have to be a woman who hen pecks her man into submission. Now thinking of it, why do you think Mothers In law worldwide always watch their Son's wives like hawks because their greatest fear is that their son will become dominated to submission by his wife because women know the extent of the manipulative cunningness of their fellow womens hearts. And thats why equally a wife doesn't want her Mother in law or anyone who can give her husband liberation advice near him so that she can completely manipulate the man to her whims and caprices. And thats why equally on this forum women will fight tooth and nail to attack any man who is equipping the younger generation of men (especially diaspora africans) with tools they will need to remain the head and not the tail in their marriages. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 2:11am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Truckpusher:Honestly, I'm not even going to lie to you, I've never been a quitter. And once I'm on something, I just ride it to the end. Perhaps, it has to do with the fact that I'm innately stubborn, and that tenacity, is basically what keeps me going everyday. So, it'll be difficult for me to ever walk-out on anything I signed-up for. I'd say with me, analysing and studying people attentively, before signing-up for anything, is my best bet. So, when it comes to women, for me to even make it official, I've to see a lot of things. And afterwards, I set the rules of engagement, and play by those rules. ![]() |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Ilekokonit: 2:18am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Truckpusher:Now thats a real man. I'm all for loving the right woman if she deserves it and gives you "unconditional" love in return. But the problem a lot of men make is to think that the first woman you marry is your life time partner even if she becomes obstinate and unmanageable. Thats why most wives try their level best to keep anyone who can knock some home truths into their husband away from him so that when they start dealing with him, he is on his own and at their mercy. To be honest 21st Century marriage is like Russian Roulette and its only worth it if you meet your soul mate. In fact marriage is worse than politics. Too many mind games majorly from the female folk. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 2:20am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Ilekokonit:Word! Emeritus Prof.. I just had to clarify that cos I don't believe in witchcraft. ![]() I'm taking notes, the same way I take notes whenever I'm around my Uncles. Women are very deceptive, and I remember one of Uncles alluded to everything you said a few months ago. And he also said: most women are always in it for something, hence during courtship, they tend to mask their real intentions. However, once you put a ring on it, that's when their real intentions are going to come into full glare. And it requires a lot to tame them, especially when they start earning more than you do. So, basically, the whole thing these days is about domination, hence most marriages don't work. And it isn't even about black women vs. black men alone - it cuts across all races of people. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 2:22am On Dec 15, 2014 |
[s] Man51ut:[/s] Stop trolling! |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Truckpusher(m): 2:29am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:I was actually referring to what you said about mordern ladies pretending to be saints and acting all nice but sooner or later they begin to show you their true colors and you're deep inside. My point is that the rules should be made very clear right from the word go and the no nonsense attitude shouldn't be sacrificed for love which is what most men are guilty of. I once dated a lady that wanted to impose all her western ideology on me at all cost and I'm a typical African ,after sometimes I yielded and the more I yielded the more demands she keep throwing at me with all bravado and the complain keep coming until I got fed up and called it quit ,stood my ground - You need to see the begging that followed.Because from all her attitude she made me feel that she was doing me a great favor even as I was spending my money,strength and time on her,I wanted to make it easier for her to walk away since we both can't be captain in one ship but this chick never really wanted to leave she was only using my African background to tame and turn me to a house kitten. But I refused to be cowed like that by a woman I labor for all night.Are men worthless to them? Because they keep behaving that way. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Nobody: 2:41am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Truckpusher:Lmao @ western ideology. Don't let these primitive slobs sell the non-existent "western ideology" dream to you. What most of them term as "western" has more to do with utopian beliefs that only exist in their heads - it doesn't exist in the real world. Heck, a lot of white chics are easier to tame than most of these belligerent black women who spout the "western ideology" they have no clue about everywhere. Why do you think a lot of rich and successful black men prefer white women, who're the true definition of everything western? - it's basically because they know how to play their role, in the family structure. Also, the most anti-feminist people out there are white men. You just need to come on CIF whenever there's a topic about feminism, and see how folks always clown them. These folks are just bush-babies trying to feel funky by spouting idi.otic western ideology everywhere, trust me.Fam, whenever I meet phony chics like the one you just cited - I see through them and click "next." lool There's no point wasting time on people like that cos they're frauds. Don't go near people like that next time. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Ilekokonit: 2:42am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:As long as you RUTHLESSLY stick to those rules mid stream and don't break your own rules. Its just like Forex Trading, the 2% of traders who don't get their capital wiped out are those who RUTHLESSLY stick to their rules of capital management come rain or shine. The problem most men have is seeing something that is detrimential to their well being in their women and instead of addressing it to a logical conclusion there and then, they let her get away with blue murder and then wonder why the woman turns them to a mop head. I can't get this guy out of my head whose wife is turning him into a punching bag because of his predictable demeanour of softness a.k.a. weakness |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Truckpusher(m): 2:47am On Dec 15, 2014 |
Ilekokonit:You can't blame them all the time when you have feminists running amok everywhere and western values that have sold their place to their women all in the name of equal rights which most of these women of low IQ have misinterpreted and the chaos seems to be gathering steam which only time will tell. I personally feel that once you can provide for your woman ,shower her with love and give her protection then you have the right to live peacefully but if she keeps demanding for unrealistic rights and turning you into something you never wished for then it is time to call her to order and of course issue the riot act to her. Funny enough the men that sits down to give them these rights are controlling their wives while the poor people that buys into the idea are destroying their families with divorce cases all over the place - How hard is it for women to understand that the elites are using them to weaken the society? And this is the ideology that the modern African women are clamoring for.They will get it but they'll have to pay the price too. |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by Truckpusher(m): 2:57am On Dec 15, 2014 |
SirShymex:Lmao... ![]() I wasn't tamed at all - I used that opportunity to give myself full immunity from her constant arm twisting and automatically kept her where she was naturally suppose to be as a woman and the harmony came but I learnt one lesson :If you don't stamp your feet and demand that your manhood shouldn't be taken away from you these girls will run you down to a point of no return.I tell ya ![]() |
| Re: Will You Live In A House Built By Your Wife? Men Speak by raumdeuter: 3:13am On Dec 15, 2014 |
The biggest lie sold to the black race is feminism. I see a lot of white families especially in the USA and none of these women even practice the feminism they sold to black women. You are more likely to see a black woman beat her husband than a white woman. White family values are being preserved while the blacks destroy theirs |
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.'he'or 'she'might contribute the lion share to the property acquisition but it's meant to be 'our' house.
?? Of course not with the way things are going. Their Western education has deceived them to the point that dating websites are full of women in their very late 40's hunting for suitors and they are no longer ashamed to put their pictures online as against 20 years ago.