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thanks for all ur comment................

Nigerian fathers sha.

Pele, you ain't the only one

Have you sat him down and had a calm discussion with him?
Not the shouting you tell him during arguments, but a one to one mature conversation with him. I am guessing that you are a man. So a man to man discussion with him.

It is also a little late as he has been doing this for years so it might be difficult for him to change suddenly, but at least he can reach and agree some compromises with you all.

Some parents are strict like that for reasons best known to themselves. He may have seen wayward children of his peers and wants to prevent that from happening but has chosen the wrong way to do it and he may be wrongly thinking that force rather than communication is the answer. Your mum should have smoothed over all that from long ago.

You have to keep on talking to him as well as showing him that you can be trusted. Your sister should have told him before she left home or at least left him a note to let him know where she is. 2 wrongs do not make a right.

I didnt undertand the last paragraph. Did you say your dad is having an affair?

I simply don't like when children live in their parents house, gets their fees paid by their parents, clothing's & food yet they think the discipline and rules of their parents are repugnant... Bros, i will advice you and your Sister to go rent your house & be free like the wind.. I simply don't see anything wrong with your fathers action but i see everything wrong in your insurbodination and youthful exuberance.

The last part of your statement is baseless & unfounded, your father has a girlfriend yet he saw you and your Sis. through school, clothed & fed you until you are grown to raise a baseless accusation on him.

So you find it okay that your sister is living with a man that is not her husband Why should he ever marry her.He has everything for free.
I hardly ever use make up and my daughters do not use make up either. It is something you use on occasionally and not every day. The reason being that if you paint constantly you look horrible without make up and it spoils your skin. Today make up is like painting, remove it and you see the true beauty or ugliness of a woman.

Honor your father and your days will be long in the land that God promised you. This is the only commandment to which God added the reward you receive for doing so.
Family can only move from Generation to generation and record success if the teachings of the parents are transferred.

As for your mother- It s natural for women to be soft but she will bleed the most if one of the kids go astray.

Finally- the right road is narrow, it takes discipline and hard work to stride that part. You need to forfiet on many things that give pleasure.

Thank you mutter. I appreciate your candid advice.

I have always thought that when I have a daughter and she is going to school as a baby, I will have to use adhesive tape for her pampers to ensure nobody has access to her private parts (This is literary though).

We young men and women of nowadays do not know what parents go through in their mind especially with the way the world is now.
Distrust, hypocrites, liars, rapist, ritual killings, religious fanatics and kidnappers are things that gives parents unrest everyday.
The recent problems of women not getting married as predicted by the bible is also coming to pass already and parents are so ever concerned than ever.

You think your dad has anything to gain in being strict with you? Naaahhhh. He has nothing to gain.

The only profit here is for you, your sister, your self esteem, your pride, your mum and your future.

deeptesting:
I simply don't like when children live in their parents house, gets their fees paid by their parents, clothing's & food yet they think the discipline and rules of their parents are repugnant... Bros, i will advice you and your Sister to go rent your house & be free like the wind.. I simply don't see anything wrong with your fathers action but i see everything wrong in your insurbodination and youthful exuberance.

The last part of your statement is baseless & unfounded, your father has a girlfriend yet he saw you and your Sis. through school, clothed & fed you until you are grown to raise a baseless accusation on him.

If the father has a girlfriend then he has no moral ground to cage his kids ... don't you think so?

@OP: what is the relationship between your parents?

And no, you father is not strict... He is just been a Nigerian father

As long as u r under ur father's roof anything he says is law. Its 4 ur own gOod. If not 4 his strict ways probably ur Sis would have gone wayward.

Op,you won't realized what your dad is doing,till you start having children.

He's only being protective,and to him,that's the best way he can do it..

Please bear with him,till you are independent.

bukatyne:
If the father has a girlfriend then he has no moral ground to cage his kids ... don't you think so?

@OP: what is the relationship between your parents?

And no, you father is not strict... He is just been a Nigerian father

Did you really write the bolded? SMH.. Because his father has a mistress he should not guide his children in the right direction? Jesus has to come quickly.

deeptesting:
Did you really write the bolded? SMH.. Because his father has a mistress he should not guide his children in the right direction? Jesus has to come quickly.

He honestly has to

Someone has not removed the log from his eyes and he is seeing the peck in his son's eyes...

What name did Jesus call them again

SO the father will say ... My son/daughter wait for s.ex till marriage and after marriage stick to your spouse. Don't mind my affairs o, they are just ... ''

Mynd44:
Nigerian fathers sha.

Pele, you ain't the only one

thank you sir

@OP: Your dad's house, his rules.

You either comply with them or look for your own place. It's that simple and it's about time you and your sister cut the apron strings. Alternatively, the best you can do is politely discuss with him, but if he sticks to his hardline stance, you both have no other choice but to comply with his rules.

Now pls amend your title and change "blink" to "brink". It's truly an eyesore...

EfemenaXY:
Now pls amend your title and change "blink" to "brink". It's truly an eyesore...

No need for amendment.
I wouldn't have opened the thread if the English was correct.
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Besides, must every topic have the word 'HELP'??

Winneygirl:
No need for amendment.
I wouldn't have opened the thread if the English was correct.
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Besides, must every topic have the word 'HELP'??

Er...I don't get your post.

I don't recall mentioning that every topic must have the word HELP, did I?