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The Four Most Valuable Things In Life by XwhY(m): 11:07pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
Dear Nairalander, Even though we can never know for sure what the right direction is, we should spend time reflecting upon our direction, trying to understand ourselves and what we want out of this life of ours. Perhaps we should even dear asking ourselves the question of questions: What are the most important things in life? The four most important things in life are…. 1) Take care of your health “Health is life. Care for it as you would care for your newborn child.” Poor health will both reduce the time you have in this world and your capability to live the life you want to live. Therefore, if we want to live for a long time with a mind and body that can take us where we want, we must take care of our health. I’m not saying life can’t be good if we’re sick, disabled or have other health challenges. I’m saying that people would like to feel capable of living the way they value and to live for a long time. Health, consequently, is absolutely fundamental. Unfortunately, most of us only realize the importance of health when its gone. That’s a great shame. The good thing is that we’re capable of influencing our health and it’s easier than most people think. 2) Invest in your relationships “Spend quality time with the people you love and the relationships will grow stronger. Don’t, and they’ll slowly fade away.” When talking about life we’re used to hearing ourselves and others say that the most important thing in life is family and friends. It’s hard to disagree and the evidence supporting this is overwhelming. What’s not as fully understood or discussed however is the importance investing in relationships have for their ability to flourish and grow. To be frank; many of us have little knowledge about what “investing” means in this respect and consequently how to go about investing. The above is likely one of the reasons why we see so many people divorce, why the time we spend with our friends steadily declines as we age and why many of us spend more time in-front of the TV or computer than we spend with our kids. Personally, I don’t think these things happen because we want them to. I think they happen because we don’t allow ourselves the time to reflect on what really matters and consequently we’re not fully aware of the impact small choices we make in our day-to-day lives have on our relationships. In order to have good relationships I believe we need to both spend a considerable amount of time with the people we love and be really present during that time. 3) . Install a positive view of yourself “How we view ourselves is the foundation on which our life is built.” When we don’t have a positive self-view we typically compare ourselves with other people, feel insecure about ourselves and are too sensitive to the opinion of others. We also tend to make choices based on other people’s expectations rather than do what truly feels right for us. Having a positive self-view on the other hand means accepting ourselves for who we are and what we believe in. It means having the courage necessary to make our own decisions and to live life the way that’s right for us. Personally, I realized not long ago that I’ve lived most of my life without having a strong enough self-view. Only during the last few years have I been able to understand and accept myself to the degree where I very rarely feel “below” anyone or feel afraid to say things I believe because of other people’s judgment. I still have improvement areas however, especially with regards to dealing better with negative feedback and rejection. How you think is one of the key factors that influence the view we have of ourselves. 4) Live your purpose, values and dreams “Reflecting on what kind of person you want to be and what you want out of life will increase your understanding of yourself. Living according to this understanding will give you a sense of purpose, fulfilment and peace.” Being healthy, having great relationships and a positive self-view is wonderful. But who’s the “you” in you? What makes you different to everyone else? Let’s talk about purpose, values and dreams. Your life-purpose Your life-purpose is a clearly stated, high level description, of what you want to do with your life. Understanding your purpose is a journey that requires time and reflection. Personally, I feel I’ve only understood my own life-purpose reasonably well for a few years and for all I know my life-purpose might change in the future. Let me share my personal purpose with you so that you have an example of what a life-purpose can look like: The purpose of my life is to feel good, do good and leave a legacy. Why are you here on Earth? What’s your purpose? Your values Values are the thoughts and behaviours that define how you want to be as a person. The following analogy is a good way to understand values: Picture yourself being in a boat. You’re sailing at night and the sea is rough. Unfortunately for you, the weather is horrible and you don’t know if you’re steering the boat in the right direction. Suddenly you see a lighthouse straight ahead! You quickly steer the other way and get yourself, the boat and your crew out of danger. Values can act as lighthouses or guiding stars like the Northern Star. Values help you become aware of when your thoughts and behaviours aren’t alligned with the kind of person you want to be, just as a lighthouse make you aware of where to sail. Consequently, values can help you make better decisions in life Below are some of my core values: Live Love Learn Give Believe It’s important that your values are closely aligned with your life-purpose. As for your life- purpose, understanding what your values are is a journey that requires time and reflection. Personally, I had never thought about values until about five years ago. At the time my life wasn’t in balance and spending time understanding my values helped me make better decisions in my own life. What are the words that define how you want to think and behave? Your dreams Dreams are things you want to experience in life. Want to travel the world? Want to become a world-class teacher? Want to make the world a place where every creature is treated with respect? I know I do. Dream a little every day. Think about what you’d like to do, see, think, feel and so on. Don’t let your current as-is situation define what you dear hoping for. Dreams exist to be pursued! Many dreams do come true and the more positive your self-view is the easier it will be for you to achieve your dreams. Source: www.rethinkingtruth.com/2013/01/31/the-four-most-important-things-in-life/ What is the most valuable thing in your life? |
Re: The Four Most Valuable Things In Life by Nobody: 11:15pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
them plenty small oh, like 5m dollars, etc. |
Re: The Four Most Valuable Things In Life by XwhY(m): 7:16am On Jan 09, 2015 |
shyna01:. Yes, money is important. But what is money without good health and Joy in your heart. |
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