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may Allah reward you abundantly for this as well as all the contributors but I do have some questions
1. what does Islam say about forced intimate relationship by the husband on his wife.
2. what does Islam say about a husband who denies his wife sexual intercourse
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horlanreyfoward:
. Is it allowed in Islam to do it with mouth? Husband kissing/romancing the vagina with mouth or wive sucking the. Joystick?

I do not know about that but,insha Allah I will find out.

Mashaa Allah ... Jazakallahu khair.

nice info u shared..thumbs up. JAZAKALLAH KHAYR..
islam is does not end in observing all the obligatorys(wajib) buh also knowledge finding...
am imploring u guys to also search for d knowledge nt juz practice alone .....PEACE

jazakumullah khaeran

JazzakumuAllahu Kairan

Please is it Islamic for woman to be ontop during sex?

keepingmum:
Hi

can you please advise, dont take this as an offense and i apologies if anyone finds it offensive but I want to know, is it okay to have behind base sexx or even behind base pre-intimacy as a muslimah?
A few of my somalian friends says its okay and claim to practice it with their spouses but i am not sure

answer to this has been given in the topic, its not permissible, those practicing it incure the wrath of Allah upon themselves.

jazakumullah khairan

keepingmum:
Hi

can you please advise, dont take this as an offense and i apologies if anyone finds it offensive but I want to know, is it okay to have behind base sexx or even behind base pre-intimacy as a muslimah?
A few of my somalian friends says its okay and claim to practice it with their spouses but i am not sure

Read the opening post again, it is forbidden.

adisarasaq:
JazzakumuAllahu Kairan

Please is it Islamic for woman to be ontop during sex?

yes, there is not wrong about that - “Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will.” [al-Baqarah 2:223] The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “From the front or from the back, so long as it is in the vagina.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 8/154; Muslim, 4/156)

interesting post. let parents reduce d requirements for marriage not to scare away guys and not to promote zina

Jazalumullahu khaira @op

Mashallah, very Educative, may Almighty Allah (SWT) guide us to the right path. Indeed, we are so blessed to be part of this great Ummah.

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Assalamun'Alaikum brother , base on the what i know, it is allowed to go to your wife from behind, in as much as the couple don't practice sodomy (i.e. Penetrating your spouse from the butt hole, Anal sex) which we know is a major sin....... You can see the fatwa of (Al-Baqarah: 223)......Allah knows Best

keepingmum:
Hi

can you please advise, dont take this as an offense and i apologies if anyone finds it offensive but I want to know, is it okay to have behind base sexx or even behind base pre-intimacy as a muslimah?
A few of my somalian friends says its okay and claim to practice it with their spouses but i am not sure

Our sisters in islam should do their best in Satisfy their husband,because outside is full of temptation. May Allah assist us

xcesswag:
does Islam permit MouthAction and cunninglingus ? thanks

yes its allowed,it depends on the discretion of people involved. b'coz it's neither haram or halal in the Holy Qur'an.

adisarasaq:
JazzakumuAllahu Kairan

Please is it Islamic for woman to be ontop during sex?

There's no provision against it as far as I know. The major prohibition is for anal penetration.

Yaa sheikh Jazakhumllahu bil Jannah.

Its such a wonderful piece by sheikh Al-Munajjad.

Islaam is indeed unique.

is MouthAction Allowed in Islam

There is no prohibition against MouthAction in Islam and the scholars consider it halal. However, there is a general consensus that resulting bodily fluids should not be swallowed.

Aasif, did you read your own links? From your first link:


Shaikh Qaradawi: Muslim jurists are of the opinion that it is lawful for the husband to perform cunnilingus on his wife, or a wife to perform the similar act for her husband (MouthAction) and there is no wrong in doing so. But if sucking leads to releasing semen, then it is Makruh (blameworthy), but there is no decisive evidence (to forbid it).

Dr. Ali Jum`ah, professor of the Principles of Islamic Jurisprudence at Al-Azhar Univ., says further that licking, sucking and kissing spouse's sexual organs are all allowed, as long as it gives a person sexual gratification that will keep him away from Haram (unlawful) or starring at opposite sex (marriageable). But every Muslim must keep in mind that sexual intercourse is just a lust and passion that must be satisfied in a lawful way; it's not to be perceived as necessary as foods and drinks, as it's the case in the Western perverted ideology.

Shedding more light on this, Dr. Sabri `Abdul Ra’ouf, professor of Islamic Comparative Jurisprudence, at Al-Azhar Univ, says that it's allowed for the married couple to enjoy each other as long as what they do does not run counter to the teachings of Islam or violate the public norms. He also gives support to the view of Sheikh Al-Qaradawi that MouthAction or kissing private parts of the spouse is something viewed disgusting to Muslims, but if the aim is just kissing (without having constant indulgence in it) it's not sinful to do that, but people of high morality normally keep away from that, as not to give in to imitating non-Muslims.”

In conclusion, it has become clear now that MouthAction is not prohibited, but it is not the normal choice for committed Muslims and Muslimahs. That's, despite that MouthAction is not Haram, it is completely disgusting and does not conform to the pure taste and decency of a Muslim personality.

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I agree with these scholars when they speak from their Islamic knowledge, in terms of halal and hararm. When they begin expressing their own opinions about what Muslims view as disgusting, and see this act as "imitating non-Muslims", I think they show their own naiveté. MouthAction is something that is common in the world and has been for thousands of years. The Muslim world has traditionally never been shy of sensual pleasure. As long as it remains between husband and wife, there is nothing wrong with it.

See also some of the articles here: Sex in Islam

And Allah knows best.

Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor

http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/is-oral-sex-allowed-in-islam/


Please Note:

There's a suspicion that MouthAction increases the chances of oral cancer, you might want to consider this as well if you are tempted by or already do it.

Link between MouthAction and oral cancer http://edition.cnn.com/2013/06/03/health/hpv-oral-cancer-explainer/

Jazakumllahu Khaeran . May Allah bless u real Good for sharing this. please Muslims let's promote Islam, imagine 2 pages of response since yesterday. We are the best, enough of keeping mute. Pastors in Nigeria having a say in politics, pastor this endorsing GEJ, this one endorsing GMB, where are the Alfas and Imams. It might be wrong for the pastors but at least let's defend our religion, let's contribute. I read everything Masha Allah. So educative, is a guide for us all, as much as some think the religion is tough to practice, read the piece, ur life will never remain the same. U will love Islam more. Thank you Op, U made my day. Salam Alaykum Warahmah.

Jazakunlah kairan,
I av to say Astagafurulah becos I av committed something written in the post but I never new it was a sin b4 now.

algorithmz:
It is not permissible in Islam to inflict harm on your self and others, when spouses engage in mouth action, they are causing harm to their body, because the private part is meant for diacharge of waste in form of urine, no matter how clean the parts are bacterias are present, that is why some people swallow antibiotics after mouth action. The mouth is incharge of the digestive system, using the mouth on the excretory system will cause harm to the body, by this its haram in Islam.
Also mouth action is like anal sex this is because it goes against natural human habits, it is also associated with homosexuals.
Allah knows best.

(mouth action) or MouthAction na white folks invention, Very disgusting.

Ballotelle:
interesting post. let parents reduce d requirements for marriage not to scare away guys and not to promote zina

on point. papa and mama want hard currency $10Gs each.....making marriage a burden

Ballotelle:
interesting post. let parents reduce d requirements for marriage not to scare away guys and not to promote zina

haaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhaaaaaaa Is it xpensive

AishyWemsy:
Jazakumllahu Khaeran . May Allah bless u real Good for sharing this. please Muslims let's promote Islam, imagine 2 pages of response since yesterday. We are the best, enough of keeping mute. Pastors in Nigeria having a say in politics, pastor this endorsing GEJ, this one endorsing GMB, where are the Alfas and Imams. It might be wrong for the pastors but at least let's defend our religion, let's contribute. I read everything Masha Allah. So educative, is a guide for us all, as much as some think the religion is tough to practice, read the piece, ur life will never remain the same. U will love Islam more. Thank you Op, U made my day. Salam Alaykum Warahmah.

Wa alaykum salam wa rahmatuLlah wa barakatuhu

udatso:
may Allah reward you abundantly for this as well as all the contributors but I do have some questions
1. what does Islam say about forced intimate relationship by the husband on his wife.

Praise be to Allaah.

The woman does not have the right to refuse her husband, rather she must respond to his request every time he calls her, so long as that will not harm her or keep her from doing an obligatory duty.

Al-Bukhaari (3237) and Muslim (1436) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.”

If she refuses with no excuse, she is disobeying and is being defiant (nushooz), and he is no longer obliged to spend on her and clothe her.

The husband should admonish her and remind her of the punishment of Allaah, and forsake her in her bed. He also has the right to hit her, in a manner that does not cause injury. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great”

[al-Nisa’ 4:34]

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked what a husband should do if his wife refuses him when he asks for intimacy.

He replied:

It is not permissible for her to rebel against him or to withhold herself from him, rather if she refuses him and persists in doing so, he may hit her in a manner that does not cause injury, and she is not entitled to spending or a share of his time [in the case of plural marriage].” Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/279.

And he was asked about a man who has a wife who is rebellious and refuses intimacy – does she forfeit the right to maintenance and clothing, and what should she do?

He replied:

She forfeits her right to maintenance and clothing if she does not let him be intimate with her. He has the right to hit her if she persists in being defiant. It is not permissible for her to refuse intimacy if he asks for that, rather she is disobeying Allaah and His Messenger (by refusing). In al-Saheeh it says: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, the One Who is in heaven will be angry with her until morning comes.”

From Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 32/278. The hadeeth was narrated by Muslim, 1736.

So the wife should be admonished first, and warned against defiance (nushooz) and of the anger of Allaah and the curse of the angels. If she does not respond, then the husband should forsake her in her bed, and if she does not respond to that, then he may hit her in a manner that does not cause injury. If none of these steps are effective, then he may stop spending on her maintenance and clothing, and he has the right to divorce her or to allow her to separate from him by khula’ in return for some financial settlement, such as giving up the mahr.

Similarly a slave woman does not have the right to refuse her master’s requests unless she has a valid excuse. If she does that she is being disobedient and he has the right to discipline her in whatever manner he thinks is appropriate and is allowed in sharee’ah.

And Allaah knows best.

http://islamqa.info/en/33597

2. what does Islam say about a husband who denies his wife sexual intercourse

It should be stated first that Islam is keen to build a strong society. Since family is the cornerstone of society, Islam pays it much attention so as to preserve its stability and well-being. In doing so, Islam defines the main objectives of family life and clearly defines the role of each partner.

The relations between the spouses should be based on tranquility, love and mercy. Allah says, "And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." (Ar-Rum: 21)

Tranquility, love and mercy are very important concepts in Islam. These three summarize the ideals of Islamic marriage. It is the duty of the husband and wife to see that they are a source of comfort and tranquility for each other. They should do everything physically, emotionally and spiritually to make each other feel happy and comfortable.

In his response to the question you posed, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, gave the following answer:

As far as the teachings of the Qur’an and the Sunnah are concerned, just as the husband has rights over his wife, the wife has rights over her husband. Allah says in the Qur’an: “And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness…” (Al-Baqarah: 228)

As Imam Al-Ghazli has analyzed this issue, this includes women’s rights to sexual satisfaction. Therefore, just as a wife will be accountable for her refusal to the demand of her husband, the husband will be also accountable for his deliberate act or negligence in this matter.

In conclusion, let us remind each other that of the Prophet’s statement that “your spouse has right over you.” This involves both partners. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: “Man would be committing a huge sin if he were to neglect those who are dependant on him.”

All of these reminders would be sufficient for the husband who is conscious of Allah to do his best to please his wife just as she should be doing whatever she can within the permissible limits to please her husband.

Having said this, I would like to draw your attention to the fact that there might be some medical or psychological reasons for your husband’s unusual behavior towards you, so it is advised to seek professional help in this matter. People often become disinterested in sex because of depression for other reasons, so both of you should seek professional help in this matter.

Allah Almighty knows best.

http://www.onislam.net/english/ask-the-scholar/family/intimate-relations/175475-a-husband-refusing-intimacy-with-his-wife.html

salam bro ...I don't agree with your point...MouthAction has been in existed since the primitive days .

Empiree:
(mouth action) or MouthAction na white folks invention, Very disgusting.

Wow! Islam they say is a way of life. Islam teaches everything, evrything! Al-Islam; What a religion. Alhamdulillah I'm a muslim