Wrote this post on a thread years back and opened a thread based on it which was lost doing NL's tsunami. Just a word to we ladies

1. WE ladies should fear God: This is really the most important. Develop a personal relationship with him. It is not easy, I'm still trying but it's so important. He's the only one that can sustain us. He never fails; that loving dude can change tomorrow but GOD is ever faithful.

2. Let ladies endeavour of be women of their words: A lady should not say something because it's in vogue. A lady says she's a virgin and the bros finds out later that it's not true. It discredits all you have ever told him. I remember one evening in school my guy (now husband) and I went to this Mamaput to eat. A friend brought one of his 'runs' and this girl was ranting that she likes girls that are adventurous like spending 2 days in the forest etc. and the guy was just smiling. My guy and I was like when did spending two days in a thick forest become an adventure? A doll says she eats only this, uses bottled water to brush her teeth bla bla and the guy finds out they are lies. We lose credibility.

3. Let Ladies be content with what they have: Yes, very lady wants to look good, wear Jimmy Choo shoes, Carry Gucci, Prada and LV bags but we should remember that all fingers are not equal. We should be content with what we can afford. A guy is NOT our meal ticket. Back in school, a lot of ladies used stuffs their parents couldn't afford and felt they are enjoying life (whatever that means). We should not compete with others around us. God has given each of us something to make us stand out. Discover it and develop it.

4. Ladies should know there is no perfect man out there: A lot of ladies are looking for the TDHR dude: Tall, Dark, Handsome and Rich dude in addition to the God fearing, Intelligent, Caring, Loving, Pampering etc. qualities they want. Every dude out there has an imperfection. He might be dirty, impatient, short, fair etc. just how we are not perfect and we have to be patient with them. He might make wrong judgments, mistakes etc. but we encourage them in love. However, LADIES PLEASE know that some 'imperfections' are unacceptable: Cheating, Abuse (emotional, verbal, physical) etc. We should also note that even while we try to adapt to his imperfections, HE MUST be working towards changing else there might be problem. He should practice becoming more patient, tidy etc.

5. Ladies should develop their self - esteem: There is nothing as attractive as a lady that radiates confidence. She is beautiful, kind, gentle, believes in herself, is at peace with the world because she is content with who she is and is competing with no one. Confidence or self - esteem is NOT the same as been RUDE or VULGAR. Some ladies are rude because they are naturally on the defensive. They feel they have no worth and hence start doing gra gra to cover up. We should develop ourselves character wise, knowledge wise, domestic wise, career wise etc. and stop competing. No matter how beautiful or rich we are, there is someone out there better so why don't we develop what is unique to us: Our minds. When we have healthy self esteem, some dudes naturally won't come to us because they have no substance (not referring to money or material stuffs)to add to us. We will start to attract men of value into our lives. When we mistakenly accept losers into our lives, we immediately discharge them We know we are not handbags to always be attached to a man and take our time before making a choice. We know we have no business with cheats and abusers because we deserve better and know our worth. Remember that dolls don't beg a man's love.

6. Ladies should stop trying to earn a man' love: This sounds funny but a man that doesn't love you will never do no matter what you do. Love can't be forced ladies. NEVER FORCE A MAN TO MARRY YOU ELSE YOU WILL ONLY SMILE ON YOUR WEDDING DAY AND LIVE ALL THROUGH YOUR MARRIAGE IN SORROW. Once a man loves you, he will do everything to please you. Here is the tricky part: NEVER take a man's love for granted. When he does things a conventional man wouldn't do because he loves you, don't take him for a fool else you will regret it. Don't turn him into a discussion topic with your friends. Appreciate him and look for ways to please him too. Yes, some of your 'friends' would laugh and say 'hey, you don't do bla bla for a man' but pay them no mind because they don't know what your man does for you. They don't see when he cooks for you but when you decide to cook a delicacy for him, you are 'spending' too much. They wouldn't tell you they are also looking for such opportunities. We should mind the advices we follow. Before you decide to 'deal' with your man the way all 'men' deserve, has done anything to deserve such treatment?

7. Ladies should strive to be women of influence: What are our goals? visions? dreams? Getting married? Giving birth? and after marriage what next? We stop impacting our world or living life because we are now MRS? Please look around you and see what you can change. Decide to do everything you are involved in differently. See people in need and extend a helping hand. Life is more than BB, Brazilian weaves, etc. What gives you joy? Discover it and do. Please note that money/material things do not give joy. What do we want to be written in our obituary? The woman with the best collection of Prada bags? The woman who knew all the major hotels? Mrs. so and so or the woman who touched lives? the woman who volunteered in church? The woman who gave her all to motherless babies? Who fought for ...? We should live our live according to what we want to be said about us in the end.

8. Ladies should add value to their relationships: Now you have a man, what value are you bringing to the table? Food? S/ex? Cleaning? I tell you that if a man only wants these, he wouldn't bother with a wife because marriage entails sacrifices and so much giving from both sides. A brother is looking for a companion he can fall back on. Someone that he can hold hands with through the journey of life. Do you encourage your man with words? How has his life improved since he met you? Please don't tell me you cook or clean; you're not his maid. Can he count on you for advise, do you trust his judgment? can he trust yours? Are you a warm blanket or a cold one? Can he find comfort in your arms? Do you ridicule him? Can he really be himself without you judging him? Do you pamper him? Take him for a treat? Treat him to the good things of life? Do you tell him you love him? Not after BB 10 or Gucci Bag! Do you tell him you are feel blessed you have him? (He must really be a blessing to you sha).

Comments et all would be welcome

. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

bukatyne:
Comments et all would be welcome

Why?

itstpia8:


Why?

Because wire belongs to PHCN

Welcome to the thread

KanwuliaJara:
. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

The Op is actually a "Pro-Feminist".....

I agree that it should be directed to both gender.

Hmm

KanwuliaJara:
. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

I am a femminst

It sure can be tweaked to fit men

Welcome to the thread

**thinking aloud**... "why is The fear of God no.8" ?

bellong:




The Op is actually a "Pro-Feminist".....

I agree that it should be directed to both gender.

Stop stealing my lines

Welcome to the thread

Creamish:
**thinking aloud**... "why is The fear of God no.8" ?

It was stated it was the most important

Due to the thread I modified it from

Welcome to the thread

Ladies this. Ladies that....
Una no get work?

SuperSuave:
Hmm

Why Hmm?

Welcome to the thread

bukatyne:


I am a femminst

It sure can be tweaked to fit men

Welcome to the thread

Feminism is not about the rights of 'LADIES' alone.

Creamish:
**thinking aloud**... "why is The fear of God no.8" ?

Because it is always the last thing on an average girl's list after the usual Tall, Dark, Handsome and Rich, then the addendum he "should" fear God....

bukatyne:

Stop stealing my lines
Welcome to the thread

Never knew you worked with NITEL.. How many yards line did I steal?

KanwuliaJara:


Feminism is not about the rights of 'LADIES' alone.

Not coming from the feminist angle on this thread

Just my observation on stuff generally

bellong:




The Op is actually a "Pro-Feminist".....

I agree that it should be directed to both gender.

Exactly!

When the thread is SCREAMING about LADIES this . . . LADIES that?
It becomes SEXIST!

Even SATAN IS A CHILD OF GOD abi?

bellong:


Because it is always the last thing on an average girl's list after the usual Tall, Dark, Handsome and Rich, then the addendum he "should" fear God....



Never knew you worked with NITEL.. How many yards line did I steal?

How old am I?

ShakurM:
Ladies this. Ladies that....
Una no get work?

Welcome to the thread

why is no 8 not no 1? to me, 1,2,3 & 8 are good while the rest is to the recycle bin

bukatyne:


Not coming from the feminist angle on this thread

Just my observation on stuff generally

Hmmmmm. . . .
I see.
Please, carry on then.
My bad!

KanwuliaJara:


Hmmmmm. . . .
I see.
Please, carry on then.
My bad!

Perhaps Bellong can open a counter thread for guys

bukatyne:


Welcome to the thread

bye bye

KanwuliaJara:


Exactly!

When the thread is SCREAMING about LADIES this . . . LADIES that?
It becomes SEXIST!

Even SATAN IS A CHILD OF GOD abi?

Exactly but the "prodigal and bad child".....

bukatyne:


How old am I?

Probably "72" from behind....

bukatyne:


Perhaps Bellong can open a counter thread for guys

I think i'll pass on this...

bennyrazz:
why is no 8 not no 1? to me, 1,2,3 & 8 are good while the rest is to the recycle bin

It is for ladies and not guys

Posters seem to like No. 8 as No. 1; would do that

Welcome to the thread

bukatyne:




Perhaps Bellong can open a counter thread for guys

8. WE ladies should fear God: This is really the most important. Develop a personal relationship with him. It is not easy, I'm still trying but it's so important. He's the only one that can sustain us. He never fails; that loving dude can change tomorrow but GOD is ever faithful.

Hmmmmmm!

KanwuliaJara:
. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

Appreciate her writing and create your own thread if you think some things are missing on this one............


Which one is anti-feminism?

Tallesty1:
Appreciate her writing and create your own thread if you think some things are missing on this one............


Which one is anti-feminism?

Where were you before I responded to this thread?
Make your contributions and stop PIGGY-BACKING for 'BROWNIE POINTS'!

The OP has made the clarification. . . don't drag me back please!

ShakurM:
bye bye

Drop your offering on the way out

bukatyne:


It is for ladies and not guys

Posters seem to like No. 8 as No. 1; would do that

Welcome to the thread

drinking lacasera

bellong:

Probably "72" from behind....

I think i'll pass on this...

Running away??

1. WE ladies should fear God: This is really the most important. Develop a personal relationship with him. It is not easy, I'm still trying but it's so important. He's the only one that can sustain us. He never fails; that loving dude can change tomorrow but GOD is ever faithful

BOOOSHYTE!
I refuse to be
I can't hold it anymore.
If INDEED THAT GOD is the only one that can SUSTAIN the LADIES. . . AND THE SAME GOD IS EVER FAITHFUL. . . . THE LOVING DUDE CAN CHANGE. . . BUT NOT GOD?

What the PHOCK ARE 'LADIES' doing with DUDES?
They should MARRY GOD that never changes or fails abi?
Your LADIES can't have it both ways, so don't deceive them!

*There. . . I FEEL BETTER*!