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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 5:42am On Feb 20, 2015
First off, be wary of some pastors and their counsels. Some have been known to cause more troubles in the family than they have solved.

Secondly, I think instead of renewing your rent you should have obliged your wife and moved, since you had the money.

I agree with you that moving may not solve anything but at least your wife would have this reassurance that she has someone who listens and wants the best for her.

If I were in your shoes right now I would assure her that we will move but it will only be after the year's rent has expired or she gets someone willing to accept a subletting deal, whichever comes first.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by LewsTherin: 7:16am On Feb 20, 2015
I am not going to comment on the spiritual aspect of this even though I have had evidence of situations like the OP is talking about. I agree with the OP. I believe we should stand our ground against every attack that comes against us. ButnI also agree with the wife. There are times we have no spiritually legal basis to stand on that ground. The key is being open to God to learn which is which.

I guess I still spoke about the spiritual.

However, I am totally and massively ticked off at the OP whose wife is having a nervous breakdown and still went and renewd his rent a few days ago even though the wife has been pleading and nagging for a change for months! That is the height of insensitivity and wickedness!!! No matter your spiritual leanings, as a man, your PRIMARY responsibility is to your family! Starting with your wife!! What sort of stubborn wickedness will make you so uncaring that you go ahead without trying to resolve her fears first? I really am pissed!!!!!!

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 7:22am On Feb 20, 2015
cococandy:
The same wife that was sensing evil in your house help not long ago?
Now it is the house?
Sir no disrespect to you and your lovely wife but I think she should sort her issues with the help of a psychologist.
Paranoia is most likely her problem.
They will give her proper diagnosis and help her overcome her fears.
If not, you will keep moving from house to house and with the help of her pastor,you will make a lot of enemies from perceived 'spiritual attacks'
One day it is your house help,the next day one pastor will convince her that your mother is attacking her.
Spiritually paranoid ppl can be uncomfortable to live with. Get her help.

Yo are right .
Also OP, I hope you bot know how to pray . Follow the pattern of prayer Jesus taught you. Let her relax, with a quiet voice and say our father , who art in heaven... She should meditate on this one prayer . Then go to bed with the faith that God has taken over.
Sometimes I hear the way some people pray and shake my head. Why Won't you have nightmares when all your prayers involve fire burning the devil, flying witches etc. When you have stored all these horrible picture in your mind while praying, the effect continues in your dream and later you blame it on spiritual attack. undecided

Let her also clean her home thoroughly, kill all cockroaches, wall gecko, ants,. These things can also cause nightmare. By the time they climb your body, while climbing on you, you might start having some sensation s which might be interpreted as something else in your subconscious mind.

Myself, 90 % of the time, I don't even pray because you Know why? I don't need to remind God his duty every night. He knows everything, why would I wanna remind him. I just lie down there and let him take over the wheel.

Your wife should try it. She needs to relax. Make her home comfortable. And stop being afraid of the dark.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by dein77(m): 7:24am On Feb 20, 2015
babyosisi:
Take her to a hotel for a weekend and see if it happens there too
Then try another location ,say a friend or relative's house so you don't go sign another lease and the issue continues
Since you had lived there 5 years before this started,I doubt if the house is the problem
I hope you all overcome this soon
God is greater

As usual, very helpful.

I'll try it. When one's wife isn't peaceful, it's bothering.

Thank you!

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by dein77(m): 7:27am On Feb 20, 2015
Chillisauce:


Yo are right .
Also OP, I hope you bot know how to pray . Follow the pattern of prayer Jesus taught you. Let her relax, with a quiet voice and say our father , who art in heaven... She should meditate on this one prayer . Then go to bed with the faith that God has taken over.
Sometimes I hear the way some people pray and shake my head. Why Won't you have nightmares when all your prayers involve fire burning the devil, flying witches etc. When you have stored all these horrible picture in your mind while praying, the effect continues in your dream and later you blame it on spiritual attack. undecided

Let her also clean her home thoroughly, kill all cockroaches, wall gecko, ants,. These things can also cause nightmare. By the time they climb your body, while climbing on you, you might start having some sensation s which might be interpreted as something else in your subconscious mind.

Myself, 90 % of the time, I don't even pray because you Know why? I don't need to remind God his duty every night. He knows everything, why would I wanna remind him. I just lie down there and let him take over the wheel.

Your wife should try it. She needs to relax. Make her home comfortable. And stop being afraid of the dark.


Hmmmm. When it comes to cleanliness, there isn't a woman alive that could take her place.

Thanks for the advice. Duly noted.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 7:58am On Feb 20, 2015
coogar:


if he seeks a pastor on his own, i can bet something else would be revealed. spiritual attacks don't just single out one person in the house, spiritual attacks hound everyone in the house.

Sometimes it does, I can remember my mum talked of how they were attacking her before I was born. She now became born again and later elder sis until but they didn't succeed cos my mum na prayer woman.
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 8:41am On Feb 20, 2015
She should take a break. Go somewhere else, if it continues, then she has issues she's supposed to settle.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by KanwuliaJara: 8:53am On Feb 20, 2015
For her peace of mind, you need to relocate.
Pastor or no pastor. . . just move.
Simple. kiss

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 9:41am On Feb 20, 2015
The house is haunted. You do not have to fight all battles, cos some victories are Pyrrhic.

Women are more psychic than most men, and they can sense danger ahead as reflected here. If you do not move, bad things will happen. That, I am sure of.

If possible, move today. Do not wait even for another day.
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Lumpyy(f): 9:57am On Feb 20, 2015
Boss13:


There is nothing like spiritual attacks that is what I am trying to say. The living has nothing to do with the dead. If the wife is having nightmares she should change her routine. We all have nightmares but changing houses after rent has been paid it just ridiculous to me. The wife can try sleeping with the lights on especially when she sleeps alone or watch a very funny movie. If ghost wan kill am, e go don kill am since but for sure ghosts have no effect on us.

I forgot to add that pastoring is one of the most dubious profession in the world.
Sleeping with the lights on?shed just be lighting the way for em witches grin!
i pray u dont believe this things the hard way o,they are very real and right under your nose too!
Op was any revelations made abt the house/environment?i n hubby have ad several attacks indicating a lot of darkness in my neigbourhood and its been recently confirmed,only got us closer to God and asking him to protect us as we go about our daily lives till we can afford to move to a better place.your wife as a Christian should take her stand as she has more power than anything else because shes nt sure about the next area you might move to too grin,!
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by WENGERNOMICS(m): 10:22am On Feb 20, 2015
dein77:
Good evening, my able people. I initially wanted to post this thread on RELIGION section, but on a second thought, I considered it will make more sense to post it here. The issues to be discussed cut across FAMILY and RELIGION, hence my confusion over which section it should be posted.

My wife's been having recurrent nightmares. Seriously, she hardly have a smooth night. Its all screams and screams, and incessant dreams of death hovering around us. We have prayed and fasted, but the dreams keep coming. Whenever I'm on night shift, I'm also worried about her safety back home. Its either she dreams of our kids having serious attacks or herself being under attacks. Its really challenging.

A few weeks ago, we visited a pastor, and after some discussions he suggested we should relocate to another apartment/place. I pretended like I didnt hear him. When we got home, my wife brought the issue up again and I told her we werent going anywhere. I told her we should continue praying and believe God to see us through. We've been in our current apartment for a little over 5 years. Now she says shes no longer comfortable with the house and that we must relocate. Honestly, she hardly enjoys the place. Whether or not it got anything to do with what our pastor told us, I couldnt tell.

Today, she brought it up again. She had gone to see her business colleague, and according to her they zoomed off into religious stuff, and the issue of our house and the bad dreams came up. Of course, her pastor friend also suggested we relocate. A little argument came up and i had to leave the house. I'm typing from the office; night duty things.

My stand is this: being a Christian over a decade, plus knowing the fact relocating to a new place may not necessarily stop the attacks, I still believe we should ask some of our pastors to come over to our house and join us in prayer. I believe a Christian shouldnt run from demonic attacks, but should instead fight back and withstand these foes. Its my belief shaa!

I just renewed our rent for the year a few days ago. But my wife is still insisting we relocate. Her health and happiness, needless to say, is very important to the both of us, and I dont want to appear insensitive and selfish. What should I do? What if she is right? Should I stand my ground? What if I'm wrong? Too many thoughts crossing my mind. That will be the third place we will be relocating to within our axis.

Whats the best way to handle this situation? Please, I will appreciate all meaningful suggestions and advice....

Thanks, in advance.

Dear OP.............This is my advice. Light does not need to appeal to darkness to disappear when it arrives. Light means understanding of spiritual truth. Since you have stayed there for 5 years and the attacks just began few weeks ago, the house is not the problem. Get a book that teaches about a Christian's authority over satan and darkness. Let your wife read it and understand it and the problem will disappear like it never existed. I recommend ''SATAN GET LOST'' by Bishop David Oyedepo.. Its about 600 naira If she reads that book, you will never hear of that situation again. Satan will become like a Nylon bag to you and her. I advice that you send her to a hotel for 1 week and let her do personal fasting with her bible......understanding all the passages of the bible the book refers to. God will show her Light and darkness will escape.

At least it is dreams she is having. In my case, 2 Owls were living in the celin of the flat i just paid for. And they made terrible noises by our windows every single night. I almost ran mad. I knew i could not go anywhere. I had to fight the battle. I am sure even those that planted those things there respect me now. Total Silence! grin

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by rattlesnake(m): 10:32am On Feb 20, 2015
Who did her last BIS subscription for her undecided
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by traware(m): 10:36am On Feb 20, 2015
LewsTherin:
I am not going to comment on the spiritual aspect of this even though I have had evidence of situations like the OP is talking about. I agree with the OP. I believe we should stand our ground against every attack that comes against us. ButnI also agree with the wife. There are times we have no spiritually legal basis to stand on that ground. The key is being open to God to learn which is which.

I guess I still spoke about the spiritual.

However, I am totally and massively ticked off at the OP whose wife is having a nervous breakdown and still went and renewd his rent a few days ago even though the wife has been pleading and nagging for a change for months! That is the height of insensitivity and wickedness!!! No matter your spiritual leanings, as a man, your PRIMARY responsibility is to your family! Starting with your wife!! What sort of stubborn wickedness will make you so uncaring that you go ahead without trying to resolve her fears first? I really am pissed!!!!!!
You dey craze!!!...a man works his ar.se off...HIS FUCCKING AR.SE OFF!!! to get money to pay for his house rent and you have the audacity to label him 'stubbornly wicked' and 'insensitive' because of his wifes' mental issues?Sheeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiit!!!! If the wife wants to move to a new apartment,let her go and search for a new one and also pay for its rent.
@OP I also blame you for tallying to your wifes' whims.Put your foot down and lay down the rules muthafuccker!!!!!

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by traware(m): 10:42am On Feb 20, 2015
WENGERNOMICS:


Dear OP.............This is my advice. Light does not need to appeal to darkness to disappear when it arrives. Light means understanding of spiritual truth. Since you have stayed there for 5 years and the attacks just began few weeks ago, the house is not the problem. Get a book that teaches about a Christian's authority over satan and darkness. Let your wife read it and understand it and the problem will disappear like it never existed. I recommend ''SATAN GET LOST'' by Bishop David Oyedepo.. Its about 600 naira If she reads that book, you will never hear of that situation again. Satan will become like a Nylon bag to you and her. I advice that you send her to a hotel for 1 week and let her do personal fasting with her bible......understanding all the passages of the bible the book refers to. God will show her Light and darkness will escape.

At least it is dreams she is having. In my case, 2 Owls were living in the celin of the flat i just paid for. And they made terrible noises by our windows every single night. I almost ran mad. I knew i could not go anywhere. I had to fight the battle. I am sure even those that planted those things there respect me now. Total Silence! grin

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by dein77(m): 10:43am On Feb 20, 2015
Billyonaire:
The house is haunted. You do not have to fight all battles, cos some victories are Pyrrhic.

Women are more psychic than most men, and they can sense danger ahead as reflected here. If you do not move, bad things will happen. That, I am sure of.

If possible, move today. Do not wait even for another day.

E no easy like that ooo...To get a decent apartment for my axis in PH na die....

U can't move a family of 5 like that na....

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 11:18am On Feb 20, 2015
dein77:


E no easy like that ooo...To get a decent apartment for my axis in PH na die....

U can't move a family of 5 like that na....

So if you get a quit notice won't you move undecided undecided

Honestly, I don't know why you don't want to move. Even if its not from he apartment, if it will give your wife her peace, I think it's very much worth it.

. . . MOVE!!!
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by dein77(m): 11:40am On Feb 20, 2015
traware:
You dey craze!!!...a man works his ar.se off...HIS FUCCKING AR.SE OFF!!! to get money to pay for his house rent and you have the audacity to label him 'stubbornly wicked' and 'insensitive' because of his wifes' mental issues?Sheeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiit!!!! If the wife wants to move to a new apartment,let her go and search for a new one and also pay for its rent.
@OP I also blame you for tallying to your wifes' whims.Put your foot down and lay down the rules muthafuccker!!!!!

You just know when one of them comes along!

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by kokonuthead: 11:44am On Feb 20, 2015
pray is well
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by ribbit: 11:47am On Feb 20, 2015
This is one of the reasons on I can never date or marry someone deep on spiritual mumbo jumbo... It makes them paranoid and sometimes leads to schizophrenia.

OP take your wife to a good therapist not a pastor.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Ishilove: 11:48am On Feb 20, 2015
dein77:

Thats the problem.
Why do I sense that the house is not the problem but something else?

Meanwhile, you need to intensify your efforts.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Ishilove: 11:50am On Feb 20, 2015
sunkoye:
Moving out of the house might not be the solution. You need to understand what is really happening. Wateva is happening to ur wife just started which makes it safe to believe that the house is not haunted.
U can ask ur wife her recent spiritual activities. Things don't just start happening spiritually without a crack sumwia.pls pray too for spiritual guidance.

My thoughts exactly

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by nkemdi89(f): 11:58am On Feb 20, 2015
You are lucky you have a prayerful wife, maybe your landlord wants to renew his blood sacrifice now and he is trying to pick from your family, leave the house o unless you want to bury your family. Women naturally we always pay attention to things happening around us than men maybe due to your busy schedule you may not really observe. Most landlords are evil that's why its important to conduct vetting on any facility you are paying for before getting it.
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by KpagoGIN(m): 11:59am On Feb 20, 2015
coogar:
what kinda attacks are we talking about?
spiritual attack or what? you better sit your wife down & make her confess if she had done anything vile in the past. i cannot understand why she's the only one being attacked while you(the hubby) is immune to the attack.

make your own private enquiry & draw a logical conclusion from it.
I suggest you do the needful as mentioned above and not just calling men of God to come over, please do ask questions especially from her past.
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by IbkD: 11:59am On Feb 20, 2015
Dein , it's strange she just started having this nightmares after many years in the house. I'm sending you a pm via your mailbox

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by eleko1: 12:02pm On Feb 20, 2015
@ OP.The secret thing belong to God and those thing revealed belong to u.Dnt kip on watching,ARISE AND FIGHT BACK.U and ur wife should go to CCC on Sunday/Tues @ 10AM.u dnt need to tell them anything b4 the Holy Spirit d revealer of the truth reveal the issue to u.Mind u,they dnt collect money..MAY GOD DELIVER UR FAMILY 4RM D ATTACK OF D WICKED FORCE
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by sammyke(m): 12:03pm On Feb 20, 2015
@ Op let her visit a psychiatrist , they av drugs for dis kind of disorder. Can't remember the precise drug at the moment

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by Nobody: 12:04pm On Feb 20, 2015
Move. You can continue the spiritual warfare in your next apartment.

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by millhouse: 12:05pm On Feb 20, 2015
hmmm women ...she will tell u no such dreams in the hotel .....as long as her mind is made up to move ..she do every to convince her man


babyosisi:
Take her to a hotel for a weekend and see if it happens there too
Then try another location ,say a friend or relative's house so you don't go sign another lease and the issue continues
Since you had lived there 5 years before this started,I doubt if the house is the problem
I hope you all overcome this soon
God is greater

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Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by fikky2013(f): 12:05pm On Feb 20, 2015
ITbomb:
Women are more sensitive to Spiritual influence than men.
For your wife to ask you to relocate and you still go ahead to pay the rent, in spite of the genuine fears, is very selfish of you.

Has she been having this nightmares before you pack in or it is only there. If it has been having before, let her find her solution. If not, let her sleep somewhere else and confirm if the house is really haunted.

Never ignore hunch from your wife if you want to live long, sometimes our masculine nature block spiritual hints but a true woman that has not lost her spiritual inclination gets those hints most times and inform the man

God bless you for this wonderful advice.
I will suggest you leave the house soon, if you have financial capability to do so considering the fact you just renew your house rent.
Re: I'm Confused: My Wife's Pressuring Us To Relocate To Another Apartment!!!!! by dein77(m): 12:07pm On Feb 20, 2015
Ishilove:

Why do I sense that the house is not the problem but something else?

Meanwhile, you need to intensify your efforts.

I am. I'm just a little confused.

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