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Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Fourwinds: 10:32am On Feb 22, 2015
ankh1600:
Use femdom for comfort, condoms are for people who sleep around and are not safe from all STDs.
ur opinion is invalid. There are responsible couples dat use condoms in marriages yet dey do not sleep around.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 11:06am On Feb 22, 2015
justmag:
Mmmm and who confirmed that it was d pill dat caused this?? Well...I can only speak for two people who used it. So idk
pharmacist, doctors and even mere neighbours after telling them '...
when she stopped taking the nonsense family planning drugs, everything started clearing.
when you take drugs try to read the leaflet, side effects are written there!
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by phiszo(m): 11:11am On Feb 22, 2015
ukandi1:
ur Question was okay, but conclusion too harsh. I bet u can be nicer than that.
i'm not Mr. nice guy. undecided
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by canalily(m): 11:23am On Feb 22, 2015
chiibekee:
Good for safety
u r so cute nd robust. Happy sunday. Pls i wnt us to smile togetherwink
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 11:24am On Feb 22, 2015
shevon:
Biko, no vex but I beg to differ on the part of your comment I quoted.
The biblical record says,
"But Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the Lord's sight; so the LORD put him to death. Then Judah said to Onan, “Lie with your brother's wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to produce offspring for your brother.” But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. What he did was wicked in the Lord's sight; so He put him to death also."(Genesis 38:7-10, NIV)
Some have mistakenly assumed that Onan's sin was masturbation. However, it seems that this is not the case (please, note the emphasis on seems) Onan was prematurely withdrawing from sexual intercourse with his new wife, Tamar. This is a form of birth control still practiced today (coiitus interruptus per Latin - or should I say Catholic - parlance). Onan had an obligation to provide his wife with a child, and his brother with an heir (Deut. 25:5-6; Matt. 22:24). He was now the oldest son in a tribe that was supposed to be fruitful and multiply in fulfillment of God's promise to Abraham. As the heir of Judah, he was destined to one day become the tribe's spiritual and moral leader. Onan's sin was in purposely disobeying his father, denying his wife the opportunity of conceiving the child that she wanted (and probably needed). There were strong cultural and practical reasons for her desire for children, especially a male heir. Onan enjoyed sex, but rebelliously prevented its natural result, the conception of a child. He was selfish, and showed disrespect for his brother, his wife, his father, and God.
God judged Onan not fit for his ultimate position as the leader of this especially important tribe of God's chosen people, which was destined to be the line of King David, and ultimately of Mary and Joseph, the parents of Jesus. The tribe would one day become known as “the Jews.”
Onan died in the land of Canaan before grandfather Jacob and all his descendants went into Egypt (Genesis 46:12).
Tamar, his wife, later bore a child who is listed in the genealogy of Jesus Christ.
My post is not to support masturbation (and I'd say whoever is without sin as far as masturbation is concerned should cast the first stone) or promote fornication/adultery, it is just for us to put things in the right perspective but I may be wrong because I am not an authority on this topic.
For the records, I feel sex is meant for both procreation and to promote closeness between a husband and a wife; having to procreate more than you have capability to take care of while you are trying to engender closeness is wrong and as such you should try and control birth while you enjoy sex (this is strictly my own opinion). Every individual have their beliefs and practice, what is good for one man may be a sin to the other person. So the mode for which each person practice this rest solely on the individual. If you like sef, no Bleep unless you wan born and after the pikin don enter, hang ya boot, na ye sabi. grin
Let's not try not to misconstrue facts just to promote an argument.
Abeg, like I mentioned when I started, no vex, I don't mean any disrespect. This is just the way I see that part of your post I quoted.
Regards.
No worries. I just said that some scholars use that as a basis to support their view on birth control.
I know it is exegesis. I am not a supported of that group of thoughts.. Shalom.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by justmag(m): 11:25am On Feb 22, 2015
shadowgwalker:
pharmacist, doctors and even mere neighbours after telling them '...
when she stopped taking the nonsense family planning drugs, everything started clearing.
when you take drugs try to read the leaflet, side effects are written there!
everyone ones body is different. Some people show negligence and chose to ignore the intrusions that outline side effects and effects when you have previously existing conditions. When that happens you make things worse. Now in the case of my ex and my old friend. I am sure the read the instructions clearly and worked accordingly. Now they are side effect free.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 11:25am On Feb 22, 2015
jerrymej:
Use Condom say waiting na? Ah
...watch as you raise a community lipsrsealed tongue grin. grin wink
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by sekzy99(m): 11:27am On Feb 22, 2015
justmag:
wish I could give an example but that wwould mean calling up my ex and be like

"Hey! I know we haven't talked in years but I am just trying to figure out the name of the birth control pill you use!"

awkward 101!!
Lwkmd... Funny u. Guess d ladies in d room can pm den Momlilyseyi@gmail.com
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by canalily(m): 11:43am On Feb 22, 2015
CHIAAGRO:
USE OF CONDOM AND WITHDRAWAL IN MARRIAGE IF MUTUALLY AGREED BETWEEN THE PARTNERS IS NOT A SIN! MIND YOU ONAISM(withdrawal by Onan) WAS AN EVIL AGAINST GOD'S DIRECTIVE AND THE PARTNER WAS CHEATED. BUT COUPLES THAT ARE CONTROLLING THEIR BIRTH RATE SO AS TO ENHANCE PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY ARE RATHER DOING GOD'S WILL! e.g we had two kids after our NCE,no job and I went into university,money from business as of then was able to pay school fees for us and keep the family alive,we decided to control untill my graduation and more financial strength! GOD IS VERY HAPPY WITH US BECAUSE WE ARE IN GREAT LOVE AND TRUST AS A FAMILY. SO IT DEPENDS ON THE PURPOSE AND CONDITION FOR WHICH CONDOM IS USED!
am married, buh i cnt say not ready to procreat now, again i wnt to go in for Med/Surg with my B.sc. Whats ur advice then? Candid advice.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by netflydotcom(m): 11:59am On Feb 22, 2015
Late Pope JohnPaul 11 approve that for married.google to read more
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by axfix(m): 12:23pm On Feb 22, 2015
ronald4lif:
Condom shouldn't be used when there's a need for procreation, but when the sex is just for the fun and conji then condom should be used.
cheesy
ronald4lif:
Condom shouldn't be used when there's a need for procreation, but when the sex is just for the fun and conji then condom should be used.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by tollybabe15: 12:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
it is good for family planing
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by chibaik(m): 1:04pm On Feb 22, 2015
justmag:
I know two people using the same pill and they are perfectly fine. I think it depends on the pill. If it's some over the counter cheap product then I can understand why someone may have side effect. The most side effect I heard is partial diziness in the first two week and that's it.
Yeah they look so fine!

To you they look fine today but do you know the long term effect?

I can list a number of it here for you but I will advise you to be your own teacher, try google.

But I wonder how you believe man made invention is PERFECTLY OKAY.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by chibaik(m): 1:08pm On Feb 22, 2015
netflydotcom:
Late Pope JohnPaul 11 approve that for married.google to read more
And to you once Pope approved it then it is without flaws. Meanwhile you are talking talking about Pope who never used it.

Common give me a break!!!
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Xynthialuvy(f): 1:13pm On Feb 22, 2015
ApostlePeter:
Childish question
Childish response.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Revolva(m): 1:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
grin grin grin oya make una continue to dey nak dey pregnant una self dey bring pikin come this world una no fit take care of.......if una like born 7 pikin ...one or two female child go be olosho one guy go be tout..lol.. without family planning...look cd is also for family planing..and YES to it when u r married
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by justmag(m): 1:49pm On Feb 22, 2015
chibaik:
Yeah they look so fine!

To you they look fine today but do you know the long term effect?

I can list a number of it here for you but I will advise you to be your own teacher, try google.

But I wonder how you believe man made invention is PERFECTLY OKAY.
again. I will repeat. Not all birth controls have side effect. And these kinds are rare and expensive. I wish I knew the name of this darn thing. I only remember they used to run out of them at the clinic my ex used to get them. She has been using them since she was 17 or so.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by mimikio(f): 2:23pm On Feb 22, 2015
Only use it wen ur wife is stil nursing a baby. After dat, ders no oda reason. But its very important 4 d cheaters 2 use, 4protection.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by dantanik(m): 2:55pm On Feb 22, 2015
Islam has permitted the spacing of children
in a marriage, if one wishes to do so. It has
been reported in authentic narrations that
some of the noble companions of the
Messenger of Allah (saws) used to practice
‘coitus-interruptus’, whereby the male organ
is removed from the female organ just
before ejaculation.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.136 Narrated by
Jabir
We used to practice ‘coitus interruptus’
during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger
(saws) while the Qur'an was being Revealed.
Most of the scholars of Islam are of the
opinion, that there is no harm if one wishes
or tries to space the birth of one’s child, or
even uses one of the modern forms of birth
control (condoms, pills, etc.) to space the
ages of their children. But all of them are
absolutely unanimous in their opinion that
any form of permanent birth control is
absolutely forbidden in Islam.
But if one were to stop or limit the number
of their children only because of the fear of
how they will provide for them or feed
them….then such a fear and belief is
absolutely against the guidance of Allah and
His Messenger (saws), and a grave sin in the
Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 140:
Most surely they became losers, who, in
their folly and ignorance killed their own
children; and made unlawful what Allah had
provided them as sustenance, falsely
ascribing prohibitions to Allah. Surely, they
went astray and were not at all rightly
guided.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 151 (part):
You should not kill your children for fear of
poverty; for We provide sustenance for you
and will provide sustenance for them also.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17
Surah Israa verse 31:
Do not kill your children for fear of want;
for it is We Who provide for them, and for
you as well. Indeed, their killing is a heinous
crime!
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by jibs4lv(m): 2:58pm On Feb 22, 2015
bamog:
grin at last!! 1st to comment!! Abeg wu get garri?? Up chelsea!! Bleep david luiz!! ASUU don call off strike!! Api new year!! Odun lo n sopin ooo baba rere!!!
lolz,u sure say u ar part of dis planet?I gues u ar alien....
bamog:
grin at last!! 1st to comment!! Abeg wu get garri?? Up chelsea!! Bleep david luiz!! ASUU don call off strike!! Api new year!! Odun lo n sopin ooo baba rere!!!
lolz,u sure say u ar part of dis planet?I gues u ar alien....
bamog:
grin at last!! 1st to comment!! Abeg wu get garri?? Up chelsea!! Bleep david luiz!! ASUU don call off strike!! Api new year!! Odun lo n sopin ooo baba rere!!!
lolz,u sure say u ar part of dis planet?I gues u ar alien....
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by kennyok(m): 3:52pm On Feb 22, 2015
use the best nd suitable control measure that best suit you and you partner in marriage and dont copy others..although im not married but if wen i am, my wife enjoys the use of condom y not;;;;;;
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by maureeoy: 3:56pm On Feb 22, 2015
i prefer it for married ppel dan other family planning stuff
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by pomsky: 4:10pm On Feb 22, 2015
dmjinc:
Withdrawal Method/pull out method is okay wink































[size=80pt]Safe, easy, and convenient[/size]
.. .....sori to burst your bubble, but you're wrong!
[size=80pt]IT'S NOT EASY, DEFINITELY NOT CONVENIENT, AND I'M NOT REALLY SURE IT'S SAFE ENOUGH TO PREVENT PREGNANCY![/size]
cool
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 5:29pm On Feb 22, 2015
justmag:
everyone ones body is different. Some people show negligence and chose to ignore the intrusions that outline side effects and effects when you have previously existing conditions. When that happens you make things worse. Now in the case of my ex and my old friend. I am sure the read the instructions clearly and worked accordingly. Now they are side effect free.
well, this person stopped totally with the drugs. America should go and relax with their family planning shit. we will use withdrawal and timetable. if e no work then the child is a new Blessing.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by giftiy(m): 5:54pm On Feb 22, 2015
Daninya11:
To be honest with you op, the issue of birth control - use of contraceptives, condom and withdrawal is a major concern in the Christiandom..
The Roman Catholic are at the pivot of the matter but the debate still rages on with the pentecostal and evangelical with divergent view..
Sex is for procreation and intimacy (soul tie). Some scholars point to the fact that because God slayed Onan because he spilled his seed on the ground (withdrawal method) any form of birth control is wrong..
I know of a MOG who told me that before he got married, He told God that he wanted 3 children - 2 boys and a girl.. God answer his prayers oo, the man in question is almost 90 years.. Do you expect such a man to use birth control method when he has a God that answer prayer?
I will rather opine that, a man should ask God for counsel, pray and then act accordingly.
Next to God's word, there is no more precious treasure than holy matrimony..
Enjoy your marital life according to God's will
what are you then saying?
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 6:00pm On Feb 22, 2015
giftiy:
what are you then saying?
Use your intuition and decipher what I am saying..
If you can't, you are on a long thing..
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by sweettease(f): 6:15pm On Feb 22, 2015
shadowgwalker:
well, this person stopped totally with the drugs. America should go and relax with their family planning shit. we will use withdrawal and timetable. if e no work then the child is a new Blessing.
shocked shocked shocked
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by kunle1960: 6:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
I keep wondering why people ask stupid questions on nairaland platform.Condom is for prevention against STDs,birth control etc
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Mrbigman1(m): 9:24pm On Feb 22, 2015
drnoel:
The pills has side effects that condoms don't. It's not everyone that wants to add (x5) weight cos she wants to enjoy sex.
And who said condoms dnt ve side effect on women?
That fluid abi grease on is anti-fertility to a woman my doctor told me
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Mrbigman1(m): 9:28pm On Feb 22, 2015
Daninya11:
To be honest with you op, the issue of birth control - use of contraceptives, condom and withdrawal is a major concern in the Christiandom..
The Roman Catholic are at the pivot of the matter but the debate still rages on with the pentecostal and evangelical with divergent view..
Sex is for procreation and intimacy (soul tie). Some scholars point to the fact that because God slayed Onan because he spilled his seed on the ground (withdrawal method) any form of birth control is wrong..
I know of a MOG who told me that before he got married, He told God that he wanted 3 children - 2 boys and a girl.. God answer his prayers oo, the man in question is almost 90 years.. Do you expect such a man to use birth control method when he has a God that answer prayer?
I will rather opine that, a man should ask God for counsel, pray and then act accordingly.
Next to God's word, there is no more precious treasure than holy matrimony..
Enjoy your marital life according to God's will
Good one,
Am not good in bible quotation,
Check 1st john u'd find it.

If u no want pikin, calm down, better still ur wife should know her self and understanding should abound.

If she is fertile, u guys can just chill, e no dey run, na for ever e dey dia.
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Nobody: 10:03pm On Feb 22, 2015
Mrbigman1:
Good one,
Am not good in bible quotation,
Check 1st john u'd find it.

If u no want pikin, calm down, better still ur wife should know her self and understanding should abound.

If she is fertile, u guys can just chill, e no dey run, na for ever e dey dia.
Nice input.. You can be a walking human bible..
One day you will be able to write apologetics to defend the Christiandom..
Re: Using Condom In Marriage:good Or Bad? by Pamcrest(f): 10:06pm On Feb 22, 2015
This is one issue I disagree with in my church. Catholic frowns at (preaches against) any form of contraceptive. But I think it's more practical to use a condom than bring children into d world that u can't adequately cater for. Yes yes yes I know about abstinence but in reality which husband n wife fit hold body.....sleeping in d same bed, rolling over, bodies touching.....every night, not so? Those s.e.xu.al tensions must find an outlet that won't result in unwanted pregnancy abeg.
My humble submission
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