gradekoko:
Wow! Sad to hear what you're passing through but you need to act differently.
1) Get out of self-pity and depression quickly.
2) Dont act so dependent on him anymore and start looking for a job.
3) Stop reporting him to his family as it hasnt yielded fruit. Confide in your own family instead.
4) Look for someone else he respects/ looks up to and talk to them about it.
5) Try not to pick a fight with him, watch out for any day you see he is in a good mood and discuss your condom discovery with him.
I wish you the best.

Jobia:
I see his kind of men everyday on this forum.

If it were me i would leave the idìot. Imagine telling you to your face that he will 'get it' outside, after you sacrificed your job for the marriage. Mtchw.

Hope you have something to sustain you though..

adviseseeker:
So it is an idiot who will tell his wife he will go outside? I have told my wife the same thing at least 3 times and I meant it.

Women need to get serious. The OP's case is totally different from mine because to be honest, she is with an idiot. Only an idiot will not want to see his own child. It is madness actually. But in a case whereby your wife thinks she can deny you sex ( when you only ask 3 times per day ) and expect you to get it whenever she wants and will go any mile to get it nko?

Sex is not the be it all of marriage, but it is very important too.

Uncle, go and get it na.
3times per day? You guys don't have 'regular jobs' or what?
Your wife's attitude is bad though. I remember a thread where a woman complained of this issue, for the first time I saw practical advice from NLders. Some even suggested natural libido boosters.
I was amazed and impressed.

So, uncle adviceseekerr, go google remedies for ya wife.

PaperLace:

Uncle, go and get it na.
3times per day? You guys don't have 'regular jobs' or what?
Your wife's attitude is bad though. I remember a thread where a woman complained of this issue, for the first time I saw practical advice from NLders. Some even suggested natural libido boosters.
I was amazed and impressed.

So, uncle adviceseekerr, go google remedies for ya wife.

adorablepepple:
With your two wide eyes you married him... Despite his father's philandering attitude abi... .well done.
You are the kind of woman that thinks she can change a man that's why your husband's family are calling you Ruth abokoku.
Normally we would say communication is the key but in this case it's not. He is not going to stop now or tomorrow .
My advice.....
Stop telling his family..... Most of them are happy because of the difficulty you are facing.
Buy a pack of confirm condom for him and put some in his pocket, car, office files, shoes, socks etc don't bother telling him anything, wait for his reaction.
Meanwhile start looking for another job and keep caring and loving your child.
Don't challenge him o.

Ujoan:
With the kind of emotional abuse prevalent in our society these days, I wonder why any right thinking woman will be 100% dependent on a man!

@ OP, he's only acting that way because you are not working . . . depending on solely on his income for you and your baby's upkeep. While it should never be a problem in an 'ideal' world, these days it's a HUGE problem. Nobody wants a free-loader . . FACT!!! Men these days are lazy and selfish and were barely raised to cater for themselves, much less a family. I blame our parents and the parents before them for that . . but that's a story for another day!

I think you let this man get away with too many things. You probably think because he works he deserves some special treatment. Well he doesn't! You guys are in this TOGETHER. He can't stay late because he doesn't want the baby to 'disturb' him, when it's his sperm that produced the baby.

PLEASE get some sort of income . . . . It will go a long way in giving you a voice that that home.

Pick yourself up and STOP playing the victim . . . By the time you leave the house every morning looking all corporate/sexy, he will never have the guts to threaten you with an affair, because he'll wonder just how many men are admiring you out there.

donfemo:
Truth is you knew him before marriage, you saw this signs but hoped he will change. All you can do now is pray. God answers prayers.