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Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 2:24pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
coderXO:I am Rose2014 and I endorse this message |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 2:26pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Ochek: The man has beaten her twice already and that means nothing to u abi? |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
SmooshCHN: Wtf did I just read? A successful marriage is better than anyone's satisfaction? No please. Next time, use the words "happy marriage" then I'd agree with you. Y'all act like marriage is the ticket to heaven. No! It is not. There is no marriage in heaven. So I would never encourage anyone one to stick to an abusive relationship. Half the people who comment like you have never been victims. Smh. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by hakeemfatai217: 2:41pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
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Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Dlionsheart: 3:05pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
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Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Mclick(m): 3:12pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
If she is sure that her husband love her, she should just go back home apologise to her husband and not try to work him up. She is in the marriage already, I believe time will mend the cracks if she did not try to force her husband. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by coderXO(m): 3:14pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:heheh, ya obviously from America. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by SmooshCHN: 3:25pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
netizenbuzz:Thanks for using the correct word. Victims know better. And ignorant people like us just say what we only seem to know. No one ask her to stick to an abusive marriage. Other tales of past abuse appeared late in the thread. Don't judge too quickly. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Lightening: 3:57pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014: Why was there not a mention of the father-in-law in the whole 4 year old episode? Such mothers-in-law seldom last in their own marriage. She is unwittingly encouraging.her daughter to end up the same way she obviously ended 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by stankezzy: 4:49pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Lightening:mother s in law causeing problems since 1804, beaten twice in 4 years that's once every two year which may be caused by her and she called police for her son in law. One man from anambra state that made a YouTube video , he used to work with nnpc in nigeria but this lady made him to resign talked him into relocating to us , now she locks him up at any slitest excuse just because the man is a Christian and believe s in one man one wife. lady's are wicked , your husband loves you does not complain , now you no go face your family na to force him to love another person. You people wan do like oyibo by calling cops for your husband but you no learn well from them because if you put - mother in law , father in law even children before an oyibo wife to choose , she will always choose her husband and tell others to go and apologise to him. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 5:42pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Lightening:the father in law is dead. Jeez. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Ewuro4: 5:46pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
adebayour26: Lol. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Lightening: 6:46pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014: Please madam stop going about ranting about an issue you do not have any shred of experience about. The couple have since survived the misunderstanding and moved on. But you are busy swallowing pills on their behalf. There are many mistakes wives make in marriage that are weightier than their husband's spank, yet they appologise never get a divorce. Ask your mother and go back to your studies. Mcheeeeeeeeeeew |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by franksam2009: 9:16pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
rokiatu:. if my mother in-law did this to me, I will hate her forever, I will take her as an enemy of process |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 9:18pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
franksam2009:ok good for you. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by oladimeji09(m): 9:37pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
rokiatu: Let her go back home and try to know why her husband don't like her mum Cos there must be something behind that God know best sha...... May God help her |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by sharpchap: 10:35pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
a grown man does not have to go where he doesnt want to go. no matter where that place is. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
If I were the man I would file for immediate divorce! |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by slimikenna(m): 10:50pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
It's not wise to comment on another couple's marriage, because, just like it's evident in this case, we don't know the full story. But from the OP's narration, he may have assaulted her, yes, but we don't know why and obviously the issue had been settled amicably or seemingly so. The OP also said the wife packed and left with her 2 kids for the sole reason of getting the hubby and her mother to reconcile....? It's not rocket science. Her experiment failed. Go back to your matrimonial home. unless the marriage is already a failed one, which we also don't know. and the emotional blackmail of how she helped him abroad bla bla bla...is not enough reason to assume he must do all you desire. Saying the bloke is tired of the marriage is funny to me cos he never asked her to leave. He maybe tired but nothing in the story above indicates such. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:08pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
franksam2009:And if a son in law is trying his man power on ur daughter, I hope u'll hire atilogwu dance group to go n congratulate him Never raise hand on ur spouse male or female 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:16pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
Lightening:It's not advisable to leave an abuser immediately after the abuse else he or she kills u In this case, the man in question is already keeping girlfriends and has turned the woman to a punching bag. Cases abound about Naija men killing their wives abroad. Of course u don't see anything wrong in a man hitting his wife. Hope ur reaction will be same if ur daughter gets beaten at any slightest provocation Doesnt he get provoked by his sister, mom, bro, friends etc So why doesnt he beat someone up daily? Only cowards hit their wives IMO 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by JiggamanGh: 11:43pm On Mar 14, 2015 |
rokiatu: This is a no brainier, she goes back to husband. If the only thing keeping her away from her husband is the spat between her mom and husband but if it's more than like abuse then she should stay at her moms and leave her husband. If he abused her once then he will do it again. There's more to this story than just mom and husband. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by pragmatistm(m): 12:04am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Having read through many of the posts here, I will like to say the op is a little bias towards the man. Be that as it may, the main issues are that the man took wrong steps by not respecting the MIL, hitting the wife for coming home late from her mother's place and not calling the MIL. But I feel it has to do with his male ego not that he does not love the wife or the children. Meanwhile, the wife is more wrong by packing out of her matrimonial home to stay with her mother. The phrase "for better for worse" has a deep meaning and she's got to realize that. My advice: Let the wife return home and put up a friendly appearance before her husband. Then she will need to apply godly principle to tackle the issue on ground. I advice her to have a heart-to-heart talk on the matter with her hubby. I will give the folliwing links to reliable information on solving such marital issues that many have applied and save their marriage: http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20100201/dealing-with-in-laws/ http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201309/how-to-forgive/ http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/couples-parents/ The first deals with the issue on ground. The second deals with how to forgive while the third link gives a list of many issues that can arise in a marriage and godly ways of solving them. Let this lady read and digest the articles and even giving the hubby to read. Then they can discuss the points and how to apply them. That marriage can be saved. Yes, if godly ways, commitment and prayer are applied. @rokiatu, pls show this your friend my post. 2 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Ewuro4: 12:35am On Mar 15, 2015 |
slimikenna: Your post nailed it. Nne men some women never seize to amaze me... always rushed by their spurred anger to dismantle all their years worth of built miniature Lego castle. As per the PR opata, if you don't help him, someone else will ... Eventually. The man is obviously a randy dude with no iota of respect for elders so why beat the dead horse , afterall nobody put a gun to her head when their love began, and as long as he's continued to be good to you and your kids at home then what's with the brouhaha again? . Packing out of the house with his children to make a silly 'statement' and without being chased out in the first place is the most childish act I've ever heard of. It is well |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Ugosample(m): 1:49am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Originalsly:This is the only sensible post I've read so far. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 2:55am On Mar 15, 2015 |
pragmatistm:ok thank you thanks to all as well. She actually read everyone post on here. Thanks so much everyone. We appreciate all the advice. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by DinhoMVP: 4:59am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Rose2014: The last I checked it was NEVER reported that the man abused his wife physically...he simply has a misunderstanding with her mother and next thing she parks up and joins her mum...make she stay na! |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by DinhoMVP: 5:03am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Billyonaire: What ego are u referring to here pls...from face value of the story this young man doesn't have issues with his wife but his wife's mum! So u mean if ur loving faithful and caring husband has issues with ur mum u will pack up and leave the house to join ur mum when ur hubby has done nothing wrong to YOU! My dear think again please |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 5:04am On Mar 15, 2015 |
DinhoMVP:who told you he was faithful and loving? You better take your time and read some pages. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by coderXO(m): 5:14am On Mar 15, 2015 |
rokiatu: See love can be confusing at times. How do leave something u cherish and have kept together so long. He's beating you in between? They should try and work things out but he should never beat her again abeg. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 7:30am On Mar 15, 2015 |
Thank you so much everybody issue got resolved wife gone back to husband.....the husband even apologize to his mother in law. Nairaland have actually been useful to me this time. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 8:22am On Mar 15, 2015 |
DinhoMVP:I think our diverse responses depends on how we regard our respective mothers. If people are carefree about their mothers up to an extent you can wave-away people's negligences of your mother, then it shows you have no deep compassion and love for your mother. No woman on this planet, could separate me from my mother (RIP), no one. Even if your pu.ssy is sugarcoated with angelic honey. I feel same for that lady (wife), she can have another husband, she cant have another mother. The husband is egomaniac, I still believe that man hasnt got a loving mother. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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