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pashaun:
Black men fight all the time

Yeah, but not as much as women. And women should be quarreling and not fighting

Madampinkolo:
@Babyosisi

Hmmm na so I see myself oo.If only i had a time travelling machine i go do and undo.

Yea, i also would never remarry..what's the incentive?I've had kids,have money in the bank,can do what i want..
Why in heavens name would i want to complicate that by marrying again??NEVER oooo.My husband knows this as we have discussed this before.He made me promise that if anything happens to him I wont remarry cos if anything happens to me too he wont remarry.
If only he realizes how easy that promise was for me,hahahahahahaha

Anyway,in that event,as I am quite s ex centric i definitely won't be celibate..
Find a man,young or older,the only test would be personality and ability to deliver in the bedroom
After royal rumble please quietly return to your home..no unnecessary sleep over,nothing like breakfast in bed for you,if you had stroke you wouldn't be in my bed anyways.

Your own is oui oui,hahahahahhahahahhahahahahahaha. Si mami,si.

Andromida ,you know everything naaa.

Why wait for him to die to enjoy life?

Why not just divorce your husband and live the life you dream of? There are no second chances. We live life once.

In reality you know all the statements above are wild fantasies. With marriage as a safety cushion you can dream on. However it is a very different story when you are unmarried. So long as your husband treats you right you have no reason to complain.

pashaun:
Black men fight all the time

Miz Pashaun, are you a feminist?

kliq:
Black women and their 99 problems

you nko?

SAMBARRY:
you nko?

I'm cool like that so even if I've got all that problems,a problematic woman wouldn't be one....I love my peace!

Afam4eva:
I was just watching one of my favorite youtube videos where these black women quarell and fight. Those are extreme behaviors of black women. An average black woman has issues.

I can post videos of other races fighting and arguing if you want


What ignorance! it is not the race but the environment!

kandiikane:
I can post videos of other races fighting and arguing if you want


What ignorance! it is not the race but the environment!

well there are more disorganized environment in black communities than in white.
so what's your take?

seems the phrase "what ignorance!" applies mutually among.....errr.....well I....

Dheartless:
well there are more disorganized environment in black communities than in white.
so what's your take?

seems the phrase "what ignorance!" applies mutually among.....errr.....well I....

That's because if you are comparing two races, you have more blacks living in poorer environments than their white counterparts in certain countries. If you have those same white people, hispanics and asian living in that same poorer environment, they will have similar attitudes. Go to poland or these europeans countries that hardly have much of a black society and see their behaviours. Your ignorance only allows you to be bias and see black women as the devil. Bring up a black person equally in his richer counterpart's neighbourhood and see whether he will behave in that same mannerism as those in the poorer neighbourhoods. It was stup!d of you to quote me because if you were going to quote me at least quote me with an answer that negates my claim rather than actually acknowledge the point I made, which is, it is the environment that plays a role in the way a group of people behave rather than the race itself. Even in Africa, amongst blacks from different backgrounds you can differentiate those that come from poorer neighbourhoods and those that come from richer neighbourhoods by objectively looking at their behaviours and attitudes.

There is no "angry" gene in a black woman's genetic makeup. Why is it that when black people in Africa break bottles on each other and fight we don't mention the race but when a black woman in a white man's country shows some anger, the ignorant black man will be the first to scream, " the black woman is naturally aggressive" yet keep mute when the women of other races act in a similar manner. Is it only black women who quarrel and fight? You find yourself watching videos of just black women fighting and screaming at each other because you want to use it as a yardstick to paint your whole race of women as rotten.

kandiikane:
That's because if you are comparing two races, you have more blacks living in poorer environments than their white counterparts in certain countries. If you have those same white people, hispanics and asian living in that same poorer environment, they will have similar attitudes. Go to poland or these europeans countries that hardly have much of a black society and see their behaviours. Your ignorance only allows you to be bias and see black women as the devil. Bring up a black person equally in his richer counterpart's neighbourhood and see whether he will behave in that same mannerism as those in the poorer neighbourhoods. It was stup!d of you to quote me because if you were going to quote me at least quote me with an answer that negates my claim rather than actually acknowledge the point I made, which is, it is the environment that plays a role in the way a group of people behave rather than the race itself. Even in Africa, amongst blacks from different backgrounds you can differentiate those that come from poorer neighbourhoods and those that come from richer neighbourhoods by objectively looking at their behaviours and attitudes.

There is no "angry" gene in a black woman's genetic makeup. Why is it that when black people in Africa break bottles on each other and fight we don't mention the race but when a black woman in a white man's country shows some anger, the ignorant black man will be the first to scream, " the black woman is naturally aggressive" yet keep mute when the women of other races act in a similar manner. Is it only black women who quarrel and fight? You find yourself watching videos of just black women fighting and screaming at each other because you want to use it as a yardstick to paint your whole race of women as rotten.

this article to what end?

there are more disorganized. black communities compared to that of the white.

its either the constituents(black people) of the black community are poor, uneducated, violent..........you name it.

in all, they are responsible for the state of their communities, and since they have a more scattered communities then they must have more disorganized amount of persons, and that is nobodies fault but Thiers.

it's truly indeed stup!d for anybody to quote a black woman

This is not about Nigerian women but African American women.
The stereotype does not reflect Nigerian women I know.

Dheartless:
this article to what end?

there are more disorganized. black communities compared to that of the white.

its either the constituents(black people) of the black community are poor, uneducated, violent..........you name it.

in all, they are responsible for the state of their communities, and since they have a more scattered communities then they must have more disorganized amount of persons, and that is nobodies fault but Thiers.

it's truly indeed stup!d for anybody to quote a black woman

in the end, it all comes down to the environment....I still don't see why you quoted me.

kandiikane:
I can post videos of other races fighting and arguing if you want


What ignorance! it is not the race but the environment!

Of course we're saying the same thing. It's the environment. And this is not a comparison with other races. We know it's a general phenomenum but it's more common in poor neighborhoods which black unfortunately dominate.

Kontinu deceiving your self

kliq:
I'm cool like that so even if I've got all that problems,a problematic woman wouldn't be one....I love my peace!

SAMBARRY:
Kontinu deceiving your self

Lol


I'm a real man

...and when White men marry black women they just happen to find the most decent black women. How do white men do it? There surely is a disconnect somewhere. Are black men more attracted to the ghetto types? And when they get bitten they disturb the peace of cyberspace? White men should teach black men how to get decent women and be better husbands . Statistics even show black male/white woman more likely to divorce than all other interracial combinations, lol.

I hope Nigerian women have not imbibed that nonsense loyalty to race that plague black american women. For example Jill Scott went on national television to say something along the line of black women for black men. God forbid bad thing. Sometimes these AA women can vex me. I trust my Naija girls anyway, no shaking. We don't and will not limit ourselves.

Afam4eva:
Of course we're saying the same thing. It's the environment. And this is not a comparison with other races. We know it's a general phenomenum but it's more common in poor neighborhoods which black unfortunately dominate.

No afam, we are not saying the same thing. You watched a couple of videos and made an ignorant statement that black women have issues. Yes, blacks tend to live in poorer neighbourhoods because they are a minority in these countries but compare the minority to the majority, you will have more of the majority living in those same neighbourhoods with the blacks. By your statement, you have clumped together all black women, even the average black woman who lives in better neighbourhoods in the same box.

kandiikane:
No afam, we are not saying the same thing. You watched a couple of videos and made an ignorant statement that black women have issues. Yes, blacks tend to live in poorer neighbourhoods because they are a minority in these countries but compare the minority to the majority, you will have more of the majority living in those same neighbourhoods with the blacks. By your statement, you have clumped together all black women, even the average black woman who lives in better neighbourhoods in the same box.

The comment i made was actually a snide comment and should not be taken seriously. I actually don't think all black women have issues or let's say this issue is not necessarily bad. it's just a perspective. Black women tend to be more confrontational than women from other races and it's not necessarily a bad thing. it only becomes bad when exibited like seen in those youtube videos.

Afam4eva:
The comment i made was actually a snide comment and should not be taken seriously. I actually don't think all black women have issues or let's say this issue is not necessarily bad. it's just a perspective. Black women tend to be more confrontational than women from other races and it's not necessarily a bad thing. it only becomes bad when exibited like seen in those youtube videos.

Right ok.
Black women are more confrontational because they are the race you are use to and it's constantly thrown in your face, so you assume any burst of anger or stand-offish behaviour to be more of a black woman trait. You are being fed a lie by tv and internet that black women are aggressors. They have been painted to be this in such a way that even if someone picks a fight or argument with them, people will always feel sorry for the one who started it. The confrontational behaviour exhibited on youtube videos occurs in every race. I have seen more people calling black women animals in fight videos than I have seen(if any) in white women videos. I normally just see a couple of comments saying how it seems people are ok saying horrible stuff about black women for fighting yet say nothing on the video of another race fighting.

The idea that white women or other races of women are docile and quiet is a lie being fed to you just so you can look down on black women. Expand your search on youtube and you will see what I am talking about. If anyone wants to go for other women, that is perfectly fine(free world) but do not insult black women along the way.

I think most educated career-focused black men do not see colour. The people who are mostly colour-focused are the educated illiterates who still nurse outdated cultural beliefs about only being with someone of your own colour. A good person is a good person regardless of colour, good and bad examples exist amongst all races.

Tbh, I don't think his personal choice of dates warrants a 'reasons why' letter. It's his choice after all. So, why does he feel the need to defend it? Scanning through it read pretty awkward, like he was validating it to himself(?) Also, Loll/smh @ the title ('Why I Sold Out'). Really?

Date whom you please, and spare the world the essay, lol.

totally agree.

claremont:
I think most educated career-focused black men do not see colour. The people who are mostly colour-focused are the educated illiterates who still nurse outdated cultural beliefs about only being with someone of your own colour. A good person is a good person regardless of colour, good and bad examples exist amongst all races.

The article to me sounds more like a self hater than a sell out. It gives off a discriminatory racism than criticism.

Me personally, I love black woman. A black woman will stay with you through thin and thick. If you have no money, a black woman would hold you down while trying to uplift you to be better. A white woman would not do that. Once you broke, she's gone like the wind. While for black women, it's the opposite unless they are thots.

Black women got attitude problem and so do latinos and even white. The only race of women with no nagging tendencies are Asian women. God bless the Asian women. For me, the problem is black women do not know where to stop with the attitude. They'll put you down, belittle you till you cry. I've anyways said if you survive a black woman argument with you without knocking the bitch out, you'll survive any race. I swear black women want to wear the jeans in the relationship as well. When I was younger I used to see it as a bad thing but as I've grown and dated several races, I now understand why black women constantly argue. They do it as a protection for themselves but also, at least in my case, build you up mentally strong.

I'll choose a black woman over a white woman anyday. No offense but white women are ugly to me. It's black then asians then Latino then Indians followed by Arabs and finally white.

OneNaira6:
The article to me sounds more like a self hater than a sell out. It gives off a discriminatory racism than criticism.

Me personally, I love black woman. A black woman will stay with you through thin and thick. If you have no money, a black woman would hold you down while trying to uplift you to be better. A white woman do not do that. Once you broke, she's gone like the wind. While for black women, it's the opposite unless they are thots.

Black women got attitude problem and so do latinos and even white. The only race of women with no nagging tendencies are Asian women. God bless the Asian women. For me, the problem is black women do not know where to stop with the attitude. They'll put you down, belittle you till you cry. I've anyways said if you survive a black woman argument with you without knocking the bitch out, you'll survive any race. I swear black women want to wear the jeans in the relationship as well. When I was younger I used to see it as a bad thing but as I've grown and dated several races, I now understand why black women constantly argue. They do it as a protection for themselves but also, at least in my case, build you up mentally strong.

I'll choose a black woman over a white woman anyday. No offense but white women are ugly to me. It's black then asians then Latino then Indians followed by Arabs and finally white.

I think I have an answer to why black women would voice their opinion. If you look at history compared to other races black women are being compared to and unfairly judged by, the African culture did not silence women. The African culture gives women the rights to voice their opinions. Women could organize themselves in groups and stage boycotts and riots if their demands were not met. Please I am not talking about African culture tainted by christainity or islam. The fragile, weak symbolism of femininity is not an African construct. And black men should stop judging their women by the characteristics of other cultures. The African feminine symbol is one of regal strength. If our forefathers had the sense to give women the right to speak their minds, then black men of today have no right to shut up the black woman. And no I'm not talking about bad mannered, argumentative women, that one is just a result of bad home training and economic status.

Stillfire:
I think I have an answer to why black women would voice their opinion. If you look at history compared to other races black women are being compared to and unfairly judged by, the African culture did not silence women. The African culture gives women the rights to voice their opinions. Women could organize themselves in groups and stage boycotts and riots if their demands were not met. Please I am not talking about African culture tainted by christainity or islam. The fragile, weak symbolism of femininity is not an African construct. And black men should stop judging their women by the characteristics of other cultures. The African feminine symbol is one of regal strength. If our forefathers had the sense to give women the right to speak their minds, then black men of today have no right to shut up the black woman. And no I'm not talking about bad mannered, argumentative women, that one is just a result of bad home training and economic status.

I didn't say anything negative about black women. Why address me and scolding me about black women? Chai wetin I do?

cococandy:
Actually white men don't talk trash about all white women. They know to refer the bad ones as bad and leave the good ones out of the generalization.

There's no race of men in this world that complain about their women as much as the black men.

In fact they complain about practically everything.
1) racism is the reason why they are still behind.
Even years after it has been abolished and folks have tried to move on, they still use it as excuse to stay down. Not saying it doesn't exist but it is not an excuse to be lazy and ambition-less. The same black women have surpassed them in education yet they keep complaining.

Now come to african scene. That one is something else
- be educated but not too educated.
- if you earn more you will be proud and not submissive -if you earn less you're a liability

-you want a sexless relationship until marriage. Nah. Who be mugu? -if you give in, you're trash and a hoe.

-they like real women but go gaga over Nicki minaj's fake ass and Beyoncé fake hair. Makes you wonder what they even understand real to be.
Since real girls don't even get a second glance from them in the first place.

There's no pleasing them.

So true. I would think that the men that fall into this category are struggling with attaining a balanced expectation and reality of black relationship.

OneNaira6:
I didn't say anything negative about black women. Why address me and scolding me about black women? Chai wetin I do?

Lol, I did not scold you. I'm speaking in general terms. I just gave reasons why certain things appear the way they do.
Black American women are just an extension of their foremothers. Igbo women were already dealing with recalcitrant men long before Western women could stage a protest on how unfairly they were being treated by men thereby creating feminism.
African women appear reserved today because of Christianity/Islam and the lack of freedom America grants the Black American woman. Otherwise...
Black men need to know their history and stop comparing us with other races. If you do nonsense, you will be told off.

Afam4eva:
What they're simply saying is that white women can act like a dummy. You know black men love women that do whatever they say unlike black women who always has an opinion.

You mean white women that are smitten by black men. If you are referring to whitee women who are just open to any option, you are mistaken.

Boland:
Miz Pashaun, are you a feminist?

Are you a misogynist?

OneNaira6:
The article to me sounds more like a self hater than a sell out. It gives off a discriminatory racism than criticism.

Me personally, I love black woman. A black woman will stay with you through thin and thick. If you have no money, a black woman would hold you down while trying to uplift you to be better. A white woman would not do that. Once you broke, she's gone like the wind. While for black women, it's the opposite unless they are thots.

Black women got attitude problem and so do latinos and even white. The only race of women with no nagging tendencies are Asian women. God bless the Asian women. For me, the problem is black women do not know where to stop with the attitude. They'll put you down, belittle you till you cry. I've anyways said if you survive a black woman argument with you without knocking the bitch out, you'll survive any race. I swear black women want to wear the jeans in the relationship as well. When I was younger I used to see it as a bad thing but as I've grown and dated several races, I now understand why black women constantly argue. They do it as a protection for themselves but also, at least in my case, build you up mentally strong.

I'll choose a black woman over a white woman anyday. No offense but white women are ugly to me. It's black then asians then Latino then Indians followed by Arabs and finally white.

Asian women don't nag? I hate to bust your bubble, but generally speaking Asian women are NOT docile, submissive and obedient. In fact, if you mess with them they'll F you up. I've heard plenty of stories about them cutting off joysticks.

pashaun:
Are you a misogynist?

Don't answer my question with question miss...

Btw, I'm no misogynist...

remsonik:
We are not unnecessarily loud,we just try so much to fix someone's life before fixing our's. Though I like the way we africans scold ourselves,it's not pokenosing as it seems but it's love. Where I grew up an adult can scold a child and the parents of the child wont see it as an issue even if someone is having a behaviour not expected of the person the whole family join hands to scold the person. It's not getting loud,it's communal love


So I paid for food in a restaurant and I shouldn't talk, hell no! Once again that type of criticism you gave to the waiter is called constructive criticism and once again we are correcting societal ills borne out of love.



If you really want to plan for your future please get a woman who equally wants to plan for her future and saves too! There are alot of black women who are really doing well in their career and working so hard to be successful. Not all black women wants to just spend. Find a woman who you are on the same page. Women are emotional and there's no way I will have a bad day at work on friday and issues are waiting at my desk to be solved on monday then I go on a romantic getaway over the weekend.Men like you are quick to label such women as NFAs and s.luts/wh.ores.
What is worth doing at all is worth doing well

Working out is good and measuring your calories is good but there's no way I am gonna look malnourished and anorexic all because I want to loose weight. I have a good shape,been blessed with enough curves and I dont wanna loose my curves I only want to maintain my weight and work out to look good.


That's a fallacy, alot of black women are intellectuals too and we read books on a wide range of subjects. From politics,to economics and even fiction. So if I decide to always subscribe monthly for mags like genevieve,Today's woman,and even the softsells like citypeople, encomium etc What's the fuss Finding a balance is what matters

I got tired of planning adventerous sex and then having it blown off
with "I don`t do that" or "Uh huh". Now, I am not talking bondage,
S&M, or anything like that. But, maybe turning on some blacklights
and painting each other with flourescent body paints or oiling each
others bodies down or making love in my hot tub, or maybe even in
the greenhouse that I built last year behind my home.
Now if we re gonna have an awesome sex experience then we are gonna learn to adjust to each other's preferences. If I cant do some sex styles that thrills you what stops you from teaching how to like it and enjoy it? Thats why pre-intimacy is very nice

I got tired of hot love making sessions come to a shattering end
because her nail broke. I got tired of that funky attitude, that
nasty ass confrontation demeanor, that "me first" mentality, that
low level of thinking. I got tired of black women and the drama that
always comes with dating one. I got tired of women who don`t let
a man be a man and make the critical decisions but instead butt
him on every turn and them call him trifling or weak if he just gives
up. Now, I know the first thing some of you women are saying is "I
bet he dates women that even white men don`t want". Nope,
every white woman I date is fine. Ultra fine. Bodies like Jennifer
Lopez. Faces like Vanessa Williams. I have high standards in
everything from cologne, to clothes which I have fitted), to food (I
don`t eat red meat, fried food, or artificially preserved
fruits/vegetables), to women (I don`t date women who don`t take
care of their bodies, minds, or souls).
Yes I dont have a smooth face but my skin is filled with enough elasticity and I dont look pale or wrinkled, I dont have to do a nose job,lips jobs.bosom implants,butt implants,liposuctions, to look like kim kardashian.



I date only white women. I used to date black but I got tired of
wasting gentlemen qualities on women who don`t appreciate and
therefore don`t deserve them. And, I speak for a lot of brothers
because I have talked to lot of brothers.
I date only white women.
I refuse to go back to black women
Whatever rocks your boat but the black woman is awesome in beauty and as their are good white women there are also the bad. I know alot of black woman who have successfully been able to hold it together in terms of their career,goals,men,home and they have done well being married for years. I think you should look inwards,If you date a black woman and you have all this complaints about all the black women you have dated then there's something you are not doing right!!!

A perfect example of the OP.