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How do you resolve issues with a woman that doesn't want anybody around you and as a man that people are always earger to be with .
Sensible contribution please

Do me I do u na

Treat her very nicely and make her feel special when people are around you. That way she ll be looking forward to ppl being around u so u ll treat her like a queen.

Just ve have quest house

Be sincere with her and keep off anything dat can bring suspicion.

Try to explain things to her and also understand her view.

ademega:
How do you resolve issues with a woman that doesn't want anybody around you and as a man that people are always earger to be with .
Sensible contribution please

that one na big matter o. If it is just courtship, that is a no go sign that it should be ended as family and friends would be made very uncomfortable in your home. But if na marriage, bro I dunno again. Maybe u go manage.

qbd2:
Be sincere with her and keep off anything dat can bring suspicion.

the problem with such people isn't about trust or suspicion, they often believe others are either not good enough for you or have no business hanging out around you. But more often than not, they cherish the company of their own friends and family.

mcdokwe:
the problem with such people isn't about trust or suspicion, they often believe others are either not good enough for you or have no business hanging out around you. But more often than not, they cherish the company of their own friends and family.

You must be talking from experience . exactly the issue

Funny thread

mcdokwe:
the problem with such people isn't about trust or suspicion, they often believe others are either not good enough for you or have no business hanging out around you. But more often than not, they cherish the company of their own friends and family.

Hmm tmaybe not so negative asu paint it.

ademega:
You must be talking from experience . exactly the issue

na you Sabi o

Your wife has serious self esteem issues, she should see a shrink or something.

By not wanting people around her too.

The woman in question must be either selfish ,has something to hide or is just not a people-person like you are . Except the company you keep generally isn't good company, what she doing is unhealthy.
You might need her to come out with her fears about it,you allay them if you can but you do have to nip it in the bud now else she alienates you from the people that matter.One way to do that is to address it straight-up-she having to accept the reality that your friends and family are as important as she is. Your life cannot revolve around her alone. It usually doesn't end nicely.

ademega:
How do you resolve issues with a woman that doesn't want anybody around you and as a man that people are always earger to be with .
Sensible contribution please

What do you/the husband mean by anybody?

bukatyne:
What do you/the husband mean by anybody?

Me and my husband alone thing .hope you get

ademega:
Me and my husband alone thing .hope you get

Is she just anti social or is she anti her husband's circle (friends and family)?

I hope she is not a sociopath.

bukatyne:
Is she just anti social or is she anti her husband's circle (friends and family)?

Anti social and want to enforce that on her social husband

ademega:
Anti social and want to enforce that on her social husband

Good to isolate the problem

The wife should realise that she is different from her husband in that area and should ride on his strength then.

He becomes the automatic PR person, calling and initiating visits.

She should also get a hobby

Her husband should also not force her to be like him.

bukatyne:
Good to isolate the problem

The wife should realise that she is different from her husband in that area and should ride on his strength then.

He becomes the automatic PR person, calling and initiating visits.

She should also get a hobby

Her husband should also not force her to be like him.

I like this. I av heard of a couple with this problem. Their backgrounds are very different. He regrets the marriage and they may break up soon.

My advice would be for the husband to have an understanding. Let them decide how much time to spend her way and how much his way.

This post is a reflection of my home, I am a very private person, have very few friends, and my husband is the exact opposite.We have disagreements, about him bringing people to the house.At the moment, I have three guests in my house, eating, sleeping and generally invading my privacy. What we argue about most times, is the lack of notice, I could get home from work today, to find yet another stranger in my house.

I work full-time, have two toddlers to watch, now I have to cook and clean after not only my family, but for all the strays he brings home too. when i complain, he'll say his mission in life is to help, very noble, but do u have to add to my stress while fulfilling your mission?.

I think its a two-way thing, I should respect his character, but he also needs to respect my feelings too.cant remember the last time i sat in my living room undressed or in a relaxed state, my house is always cluttered with people, and it makes me mad. I hope i will get other peoples views on this, cos for this problem, I have a very wonderful and loving husband.

samyan12:
This post is a reflection of my home, I am a very private person, have very few friends, and my husband is the exact opposite.We have disagreements, about him bringing people to the house.At the moment, I have three guests in my house, eating, sleeping and generally invading my privacy. What we argue about most times, is the lack of notice, I could get home from work today, to find yet another stranger in my house.

I work full-time, have two toddlers to watch, now I have to cook and clean after not only my family, but for all the strays he brings home too. when i complain, he'll say his mission in life is to help, very noble, but do u have to add to my stress while fulfilling your mission?.

I think its a two-way thing, I should respect his character, but he also needs to respect my feelings too.cant remember the last time i sat in my living room undressed or in a relaxed state, my house is always cluttered with people, and it makes me mad. I hope i will get other peoples views on this, cos for this problem, I have a very wonderful and loving husband.

You are a good woman too because my uncle's wife has sent all visitors packing .and nobody has the got to step their house

samyan12:
This post is a reflection of my home, I am a very private person, have very few friends, and my husband is the exact opposite.We have disagreements, about him bringing people to the house.At the moment, I have three guests in my house, eating, sleeping and generally invading my privacy. What we argue about most times, is the lack of notice, I could get home from work today, to find yet another stranger in my house.

I work full-time, have two toddlers to watch, now I have to cook and clean after not only my family, but for all the strays he brings home too. when i complain, he'll say his mission in life is to help, very noble, but do u have to add to my stress while fulfilling your mission?.

I think its a two-way thing, I should respect his character, but he also needs to respect my feelings too.cant remember the last time i sat in my living room undressed or in a relaxed state, my house is always cluttered with people, and it makes me mad. I hope i will get other peoples views on this, cos for this problem, I have a very wonderful and loving husband.

You have tried. Get your husband involved in cleaning up after his guests. That should make him realise how much work it is.

samyan12:
This post is a reflection of my home, I am a very private person, have very few friends, and my husband is the exact opposite.We have disagreements, about him bringing people to the house.At the moment, I have three guests in my house, eating, sleeping and generally invading my privacy. What we argue about most times, is the lack of notice, I could get home from work today, to find yet another stranger in my house.

I work full-time, have two toddlers to watch, now I have to cook and clean after not only my family, but for all the strays he brings home too. when i complain, he'll say his mission in life is to help, very noble, but do u have to add to my stress while fulfilling your mission?.

I think its a two-way thing, I should respect his character, but he also needs to respect my feelings too.cant remember the last time i sat in my living room undressed or in a relaxed state, my house is always cluttered with people, and it makes me mad. I hope i will get other peoples views on this, cos for this problem, I have a very wonderful and loving husband.

Sweetheart quiet stressful but I believe we all someday need our friends and family so pls be diplomatic about it with your hubby and before you know it things will fall to normalcy

op i guess you spend too much money when you are with your friends.