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pple marrying for reasons like these are why marriages don't last and why others are married but miserable

For fvking sake..who the fvk feels guilty after having sex....trying having sex with an ESCORT then come back and edit this stupid post...

Shi.t on thread

People also get married for vendetta. I used to have a girlfriend (we broke up after dating for 8 years). She got engaged immediately she got d wind that I was engaged and got married exactly a month before my wedding. She later told me she didn't really plan it. She just did it to feel even. I was 'whao-ed'. We're good friends now though.

dickrider:
[size=34pt]I GO FOR SEX[/size]

no one asked you... Slut

I hate ''marriage''
that word scares the hell out of me

When it comes to marriage, you can never graduate.

Hello angel, been keenly folowing you..how do i contact you?

dickrider:
[size=34pt]I GO FOR SEX[/size]

baybeeboi:
I hate ''marriage''
that word scares the hell out of me

it is an institution, so that means you don't like school

when I posted worst type of people to be in a relationship with.They wanted to crucify me.

Its a lil bit of everytn u mentioned.everybdy dt has ever gotn married since d beginning of time got married for sm selfish reasons ,all d talk bout luv romance etc is jus to gloss over it and make it appealing, if not u wont hear for better or for worse cos d knw both parties r coming wit different selfish reasons

lordyugo:
Its a lil bit of everytn u mentioned.everybdy dt has ever gotn married since d beginning of time got married for sm selfish reasons ,all d talk bout luv romance etc is jus to gloss over it and make it appealing, if not u wont hear for better or for worse cos d knw both parties r coming wit different selfish reasons

Yes ! Dats d word "selfish reasons"

justi4jesu:
it is an institution, so that means you don't like school

av never leaked that secret.
I mean, how'd you know?

jamex93:
na wa o

this your points contains bad reasons than good oo

Ehn na Most people marry for "bad reasons" n dats y we hav mor "bad marriages" dan good

my own reason for geting married is to have a legal SEX, BECAUSE AM A VIRGIN

baybeeboi:
av never leaked that secret.
I mean, how'd you know?

Your secret is safe with me.

gospi:
Ehn na Most people marry for "bad reasons" n dats y we hav mor "bad marriages" dan good

hmmmm

No 2. Nearly happened to me...I ran 4 my dear life. I just noticed the way he would say when we get married atleast I'll have someone to take care of the house. Even once he said in my village men don't enter the kitchen..Omo I had to bolt, if I must get married it's not to become a househelp

Nice thread gospi

tpiadotcom:
What is with nairaland and nutjobs.

This one even named his or herself, gossip.

Shame nor dey.

Cos the world is full of Nuts

justi4jesu:
Your secret is safe with me.

oh!
You know i 4got we are inboxing.

[size=40pt] Lame reasons!![/size]

Interesting points there gospi. I think this happens more in Nigeria. In other parts of the world they avoid marriage cos when people aren't getting what they want they file for divorce and easily get it. Additionally, like you mentioned, they like the spectator event, most marriages and even religious services are done quietly in the western world especially Europe, so the urge to marry for the ceremony is heightened in Nigeria cos of the extravagant ceremonies.

Yeah, just to substitute 'ISS' with 'RS' in the word 'MISS'.

emusmith:
Nice thread gospi

Thanx dearie . I knw u .....









Thankssss

The reason why i want to get married is that my father put a marital clause on his will.......None of his children is entitled to his properties until they get married

Making a lot of sense @OP

I got married because i wants to stop talking to myself each time i cameback from work and i spent much on credits at night calling she dat was in Abuja,PH,Enugu,Maiduguri dat refused to understand my good intentions its dawn on me one day dat i should just search within my locality the first searched creeked and we got marrid i stoped talking to myself i share with my wife now. She is my companion and my all.

HEY I DISAGREE WITH THIS 2.Guys:THEY NEED A HELPER ( Especially a
house help)
Hmm. 90 percent of African Men get married for
this reason. A guy goes to work comes back
and there is no food .. He tells himself "mehn I
need a wife" No dear.. U need a cook. Most
guys will propose when they seee u as
someone that can cook very well, sweep d
house, wash dia clothes,wash dia
plates...name dem...all oda tins are secondary
to dem...
Guys untill you stop mistaking the word
"HELPER" for "HOUSE HELP" ,I guess we hav a
long way to go in marriage. the bible says that in Colossians 3:17-18 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

gospi:
People get married for various reasons. A lot of reasons people get married for won't be revealed to their partners even wen asked trust me, cos wen u know d real reason ur partner is marrying or agreeing to marry U, you mite not just wana go ahead.

You would hear reasons like, I need a companion,because I love him/her bla bla bla...

While these mite be true ,deep down are som reasons u don't want to hear...which are possibly d main reasons she is accepting ur proposal or why d guy is proposing...
Here ;

1.For Ladies ;THE WEDDING CEREMONY

Hmmmm. This happens especially wen ladies attend dia friend's wedding ceremony, they love the whole paparazzi..wearing wedding gowns, people gathering for their sake,reception,everybody is looking at me, snapping pictures.d whole PARTY TINGy... Forgetin dat d weddin ceremony lasts for A DAY and d marriage is (suposd) to b forever .Take dis out and a lot of ladies won't be so eager to get married...

2.Guys:THEY NEED A HELPER ( Especially a house help)
Hmm. 90 percent of African Men get married for this reason. A guy goes to work comes back and there is no food .. He tells himself "mehn I need a wife" No dear.. U need a cook. Most guys will propose when they seee u as someone that can cook very well, sweep d house, wash dia clothes,wash dia plates...name dem...all oda tins are secondary to dem...
Guys untill you stop mistaking the word "HELPER" for "HOUSE HELP" ,I guess we hav a long way to go in marriage.

3.For both guys and ladies : THEIR PARENTS WON'T LET THEM BE.
This reason tho... If not for parental pressure a lot of singles won't be so eager for marriage..
You hear singles say "my mother has told me that if I don't want her to die bfor her time den I should get married",So dis guys goes out searching for Her for dat reason,not like dats wat he would hav done if left alone by parents.
D lady also accepts d guys proposal and inside her she's like very "Wow at last my mum won't die bfor her time "!!!
Marriages like dis do not last.As much as we Love our parents let's be careful not to let them push us into tins we ar not ready for.

4. For guys and ladies: KIDS
Minus kids ,like 80 percent of singles wll still remain Singles for life but because they want kids and they want them to grow up wit a mother or father ,hence dey want to get married.
As much as I acknowledge the fact that kids are very important,that shouldn't be the topmost reason for getting married...What if the kids don't even come?

5.For guys and ladies (especially guys);SEX
We all know that a lot of guys don't joke with sex,for so many if not for sex they won't get married. For ladies who love sex so much :they want to get married and have legal sex.
Yea I know a lot of people hav sex dese days witout getting married..But som feel guilty after d act cos they know its not right.
So to hav sex and feel good about it they want to get married.
Sex shouldn't be ur top most priority for marriage, U would hav lots and lots of it wen married and with time u wll understand that there is more to marriage than just sex.

There are several other reasons like
All my friends are getting married,Menopause getting close to menoSTOP(lol)...,money etc

Like I said earlier don't expect to hear dis reasons from people when you ask..
Very few people marry for companionship,for love or because of what they want to give.
Almost everyone is about what they want to get from the other person and what marriage offers.

If I think about WHAT I WANT TO GIVE in marriage and you think about WHAT u want to give ...Why won't marriage work?

Selfishness kills try being Selfless at least sometimes.

So for singles ;Why do you want to get married?
For the married: Why did U get married?
Abeg talk true

@ Op, are u married"

OP why? After reading this post I now want to get Married! Not for all the reasons posted but for the fact that none of them seem to apply to me, therefore I should be ready to settle down. Just need to find the right Mrs.

What's he ta,king about What other reason could it have being Op, y do u choose a spouse?

Imagine a 40yr old man still being referred to as a "youth" in the church cause he is not married. Why would a man like that not think of marrying just any available girl to get that tag off.

For me, the legalism in and around marriage is what I fear and loath the most.