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....so my dad is so difficult that one can't access him,despite all I have learnt and implement for a better relationship, all to no avail.

.....Recently he offended me so much,even the neighbours and his friends heard about it and caution him.uptill now he his stiil not talking to me despite the fact he was guilty.


Am just so confused don't know what to do.

peeparty:
....so my dad is so difficult that one can't access him,despite all I have learnt and implement for a better relationship, all to no avail.

.....Recently he offended me so much,even the neighbours and his friends heard about it and caution him.uptill now he his stiil not talking to me despite the fact he was guilty.


Am just so confused don't know what to do.

you can't give what you don't have most times. he didn't get love from his dad probably. thank God you noticed this. Now make up your mind your son will not feel the same way you feel about your dad. ps: just an after thought, the word love above should be affection. the fact that our parents don't say sorry doesn't mean they don't love us! so, if our generation show love/affection to our children it continues down the line. am sure your dad is just being the typical African man.

I once had a serious misunderstanding with my dad, it was so serious that i called a family meeting and invited all his sisters to come because I know he listens to them. He was found guilty in the end but I apologized. All I needed was peace not his apology. I wish you could do same. ie stop waiting for his apology and start doing things the way you used to do when things were normal between both of you.

Op not all of them though my late mum God rest her soul would come back after wrongfully accusing you or hitting you and apologise, she was a gift to us honestly

tupem:
you can't give what you don't have most times. he didn't get love from his dad probably. thank God you noticed this. Now make up your mind your son will not feel the same way you feel about your dad. ps: just an after thought, the word love above should be affection. the fact that our parents don't say sorry doesn't mean they don't love us! so, if our generation show love/affection to our children it continues down the line. am sure your dad is just being the typical African man.

thanks bro

some parents always believe they are right in every decision they make concerning their children

My dad will never apologize directly...he'll just be beating about the bush...I understand...I move on

One of the pitfalls of our culture!

Age has nothing to do with an apology. It's a simple I'm sorry, just say it.

If parents can't teach their children how to be sorry by being apologetic (worthy example), they should blame themselves for raising an arrogant generation.

'Papa nor dey beg pikin' is a Nigerian cliché that continues to destroy father-child relationships in this country.

Tallesty1:
I once had a serious misunderstanding with my dad, it was so serious that i called a family meeting and invited all his sisters to come because I know he listens to them. He was found guilty in the end but I apologized. All I needed was peace not his apology. I wish you could do same. ie stop waiting for his apology and start doing things the way you used to do when things were normal between both of you.

why would it always be the child?don't think he needs peace if not he will know what to do.it takes nuffing to apologies to a child when ur wrung but I fink bkos of ego ish.tallesty d reason I don't want to apologies is because am giving him more grease to do such again, moreover it not d first time he is
messing up and I don't think it will be d last neither.so I can't keep cleaning his poo till I get old.

peeparty:
why would it always be the child?

Because the child wants peace, it doesn't always have to be the child but if the child wants peace then s/he will continue fighting for peace. Make peace with him then sit him down and talk to him so that such won't happen again.

peeparty:
don't think he needs peace if not he will know what to do.

What if I tell you that he may be seeing you as a disobedient child? Yes, some parents reason that way.

peeparty:
it takes nuffing to apologies to a child when ur wrung but I fink bkos of ego ish.

What if he thinks otherwise? Have a talk with him. Some old people think it is wrong to apologise to their juniors, that's just their mentality and you can't change it cause it worked during their own time. Your father could be one of such people.

peeparty:
tallesty d reason I don't want to apologies is because am giving him more grease to do such again,

The reason is because you are his child. He's blood runs in your veins so you are egoistic just like him.

peeparty:
moreover it not d first time he is messing up and I don't think it will be d last neither.

You can make it the last time if you want to. Parents generally enjoy to have a heart to heart discussing with their children especially if you do it in a matured way.

peeparty:
so I can't keep cleaning his poo till I get old.

I am not trying to make decisions for you, besides I don't even know what the problem is, I just want to tell you that being in peace with your parents is the sweetest thing ever. It makes the family impenetrable, brings about success, peace of mind and respect, especially from your wife.

Bros....d earlier you realize that a typical african parent will not say sorry willingly..the better for you and the less your headache. They all have superiority complex....and whether you like it or not, its been passed on.

p.s......let sleeping dogs lie, hes your pops nd nothing will change that.

Tallesty1:
Because the child wants peace, it doesn't always have to be the child but if the child wants peace then s/he will continue fighting for peace. Make peace with him then sit him down and talk to him so that such won't happen again.
What if I tell you that he may be seeing you as a disobedient child? Yes, some parents reason that way.
What if he thinks otherwise? Have a talk with him. Some old people think it is wrong to apologise to their juniors, that's just their mentality and you can't change it cause it worked during their own time. Your father could be one of such people. The reason is because you are his child. He's blood runs in your veins so you are egoistic just like him.You can make it the last time if you want to. Parents generally enjoy to have a heart to heart discussing with their children especially if you do it in a matured way.I am not trying to make decisions for you, besides I don't even know what the problem is, I just want to tell you that being in peace with your parents is the sweetest thing ever. It makes the family impenetrable, brings about success, peace of mind and respect, especially from your wife.

bless up bro

MsPat:
Bros....d earlier you realize that a typical african parent will not say sorry willingly..the better for you and the less your headache. They all have superiority complex....and whether you like it or not, its been passed on.

p.s......let sleeping dogs lie, hes your pops nd nothing will change that.

thanks ma

Sometimes, pride will not allow him apologize. If u put up an attitude, it wont help matters. Be the son u r and show him respect. His action will show u he appreciates u. He may not say the words but he will show it.

Dont ever expect an apology from ur folks. If it comes, fine...if it dosnt come verbally, it wuld come thru actions as long as ur not showing ur anger or keeping grudges.

Creamish:
Sometimes, pride will not allow him apologize. If u put up an attitude, it wont help matters. Be the son u r and show him respect. His action will show u he appreciates u. He may not say the words but he will show it.

Dont ever expect an apology from ur folks. If it comes, fine...if it dosnt come verbally, it wuld come thru actions as long as ur not showing ur anger or keeping grudges.

would do my best

If you're waiting for apology you will have to wait till the scientists discovers mohammeds dheek.

Nigerian men including you( as soon as you become a father) cannot say sorry because it affects their ego. So you better forget the matter and move on with your life





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