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CountDracula:
Just like u wudnt say "fvck u" to ur child if he/she offends u, u shudnt say sorry either

so whats the right way to let them know we are wrong and sorry about it

winetapper:
so whats the right way to let them know we are wrong and sorry about it

There's no way... Let it go, wen dey grow up dey wil understand... My parents made mistakes, I now understand dat

afolag:
ar u saying is customary, custom or cultural? what is your argument.

I won't even dignify ur mindless question wit an answer

ammyluv2002:
Lol..lies! Look, those kids have brains too so they know if their parents aren't the perfect role models so they don't need to fake it.You think they don't see abi you think they don't dicuss family matters with their friends even at a very tender age. Pls, let's not deceive ourselves here cause respect is earned.

If they see u and dey talk abt it to their friends do u really think apologisin is d next step if u offend ur child? Calm down for a second and think abt dis... U offend ur child, so u apologise?? Why?? So ur child knws ure sorry?? So wat wil he/she gain from knwin ure sorry?? Dey won't forget wat u did and dey wil stil talk abt it... A child dt sees a human being being killed doesn't knw if its wrong or right... Dts why dey tag dose films +12, +16 dey just want to emulate, dey dnt hav sense of judgement, ur apology is jus anoda piece of word from "my mom" or "dad" to d child

My Dad says sorry as did my mum while she was here.

Though I have noticed it is quite difficult for most adults in this part of the world, to admit they can be wrong/are wrong, let alone say sorry, I guess it has to do with the notion that, elders know better.

tcalc:
when someone was clearly wrong and did not apologize for their behavior. It caused a lot of resentment when we felt we were unfairly treated. children have an acute sense of fairness. Resentment grows and eats away at good feelings and a barrier grows between children and parents.

u cudnt b more wrong darling, children have zero sense of fairness... Dats why dey need parents,

Op, don't worry. you will soon be a parent then you will know why parents don't say sorry. Experience is the best teacher.

CountDracula:
Trust isn't based on love and care bro...

What is it based on? Failing to admit a mistake, when everyone knows u re wrong?

vfactor:
What is it based on? Failing to admit a mistake, when everyone knows u re wrong?

If trust were based on love and care couples won't b havin d issues dey have these days and divorce won't b rampant... Trust is based on knowin d decision of d person ure trustin is always goin to b right

CountDracula:
I dnt agree wit dat, if u apologize to a child d child wud feel ur imperfection and knw u can't always b ryt, d child won't see u as a moral compass anymore... Its like havin a computer dt u found out is liable to mistake, wil u stil hav complete trust in it?

A child whose parents are real will develop more trust than a child whose parents are fake.

winetapper:
Nigerian parents find it pretty hard to say sorry..
The closest sorry you would hear is
Have you eaten
Is it pride or your opinion.

40s,50s ,60s & few early 70s generation .. YES. ( gosh irredeemable)

The new age , late 70s and up ... Evolution and awareness have tremendously changed our outlook to life and how we raise kids compared to former.

#Even when they sneeze & you as a parent forget to say 'bless you', hehe they'll call your attention to it talkless of 'sorry' hian

innervoice:
A child whose parents are real will develop more trust than a child whose parents are fake.

Hw wil u knw ur parents are fake if u can't understand d meanin of fake/real? These ar kids nt adults pls try and understand

CountDracula:
If trust were based on love and care couples won't b havin d issues dey have these days and divorce won't b rampant... Trust is based on knowin d decision of d person ure trustin is always goin to b right

I meant children! A child will quickly trust someone who is friendly and caring to him. That's why u see children follow strangers who buy them candies and who are nice to them. And even teenagers trust strangers who give them an attentive and listening ear.


And your statement that trust is based on knowing d decision of d person u re trusting is always going to be right is kind of vague. For one to have that trust, the object of trust has proven himself trustworthy. Now would you consider someone who does not accept his mistakes as trustworthy? That's the bane here.

CountDracula:
Hw wil u knw ur parents are fake if u can't understand d meanin of fake/real? These ar kids nt adults pls try and understand

The point is that u think children don't understand. U need to read researches about them and observe them more. Children can quickly tell when your action differ from your words.

Eg. You tell your 5yr old boy not to lie and almost immediately u received a phone call and u tell the person on the fone that you re not at home, while u re at home. Tell me the child won't understand.

My bro, children decode more than you know

CountDracula:
Hw wil u knw ur parents are fake if u can't understand d meanin of fake/real? These ar kids nt adults pls try and understand

Children aren't stu_pid.

vfactor:
The point is that u think children don't understand. U need to read researches about them and observe them more. Children can quickly tell when your action differ from your words.

Eg. You tell your 5yr old boy not to lie and almost immediately u received a phone call and u tell the person on the fone that you re not at home, while u re at home. Tell me the child won't understand.

My bro, children decode more than you know

I'm nt askin u to lie in front of a child, d main point was if u made a mistake wud u apologise. If someone calls and u lie wud u apologise to ur own child?

innervoice:
Children aren't stu_pid.

A dolphin isn't stvpid either bt stil doesn't understand d human language, wats ur point?

CountDracula:
I'm nt askin u to lie in front of a child, d main point was if u made a mistake wud u apologise. If someone calls and u lie wud u apologise to ur own child?

No body is saying you asked me or any person to lie. Let's not forget the point! Apologizing to a child when a parents makes a mistake. Your argument was that apologies undermine the authority of the parents. Your reason was that chidren don't know when u make a mistake and if the child is old enough to know its a mistake, then there's no need for an apology.

My argument was that parents should teach their children to own up to mistakes and apologize by example and that adults make mistake and should strive to make amends. My reason was that is that kids know when ur actions don't match ur words and could easily learn that it is right not to accept mistakes. I used the parents lying as an example.

I would apologize to my child if need be.

qbd2:
Cos d child will start growing wings when u do that.

Oh please.....

CountDracula:
A dolphin isn't stvpid either bt stil doesn't understand d human language, wats ur point?

My point is that a strong parent leads by example and apologizes when necessary. Simples.

innervoice:
My point is that a strong parent leads by example and apologizes when necessary. Simples.

Am saying a reasonable parent leads by nt apologizing for their mistakes... Simpler!

CountDracula:
I won't even dignify ur mindless question wit an answer

dracula I don't think its wrong for me to ask for more clarification. sorry if have offended you.
shed more light on your view on the topic.

afolag:
dracula I don't think its wrong for me to ask for more clarification. sorry if have offended you.
shed more light on your view on the topic.

I av shed enof pls. Its exhausting