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ferhyntorlah:
At the bolded, you are very right. I like how guys take it cool and easy unlike ladies. You see two men fighting this minute and the next, they are already laughing and patting each other's back but ladies? Malice unlimited activated!

beegurl:
It happens well well, abi na u dey france naijanfor show

shirazlova:
Yea I have a lil sis who is just 9yrs



Why would my personal dilemma sound made up? I guess it's very unsual to see someone whose got no female friends. However, that's the truth in my situation believe it or not Thanx for your advice all the same!




Hello!

Not having friends is really bad. It means all or some these.
1. you are not friendly
2. You are not tolerant
3. You are the shy type
4. You are very presumptious
5. you are not trusting

you are really going to choke your husband with lots of expectations. Remember a husband is a friend but not a girl friend.
You need to really sit down and discuss these issues with him.
I guess you are not friendly with your female cousins as well so there is no easy way out.







Thanx for this, I've been coping perfectly fine without friends for a long time now. My fiancee has been and will always be my best friend. Just that I'm suddenly starting to feel some-type-of-way about it now that my wedding is coming up. I appreciate your comment bbe.

tablu:
Dont feel bad! After all some of the the ladies in d train will diss ur weddin dress afterall...my sister had only one bridesmaid.And I know u have a friend u can ask to do same for u or u can jst ask one of ur sisters, cousins or close family relations...

bobbyluis:
if u have one female cousin or any female close that can fit into ur bridal train,tell her to invite her friends over(if she has any),that way u can make and tell them abt ur wedding
Or
get ur male cousins to bring their girlfriends 4 u

shirazlova:
Pride? not at all sir. It's just unfortunate that I spent my first years at uni living in introversion. I hardly socialized. Towards the end of my studies I got tired of being lonely and decided to make friends. Unfortunately, I fell into a clique of girls who almost ruined my life, ruin my studies, tried to seduce my man, back-biting, stabbing one another in the back etc... We eventually all went our separate ways some leaving the country completely. So it's not that I'm pompous, I've just been unfortunate with friendships that's all. I'm also someone that is a lil introverted too. Please don't be quick to assume someone's lack of friends is their own fault.

tete7000:
Your main problem must be pride. If not at times like this I am sure there will be one or two friends of yours who have good hearts and who if you call upon will be willing to overlook the past and be willing to come around and celebrate with you. However, it looks like you behave too big and pompous to put calls through anyone.
One thing however I will like to remind you is that you can't be a good wife with this attitude. How will you be able to pull your husband relatives and friends close and not draw them away when you probably don't have the right attitude to make friends? You really need to work on your humble side, learn to say sorry if you err others and be always willing to confine the past to past. Your husband to be now may not mind your attitude now but by the time you extend the same attitude to his friends and family, he will definitely begin to take it as a serious issue. Please work on yourself if you desire a blissful and happy marriage!

sassygal:
Hush now with your silly assumptions! You know about the op and youjacksh have concluded that she is proud and pompous and wontwont
ake a good wife because she is an introvert?

Really?!!!

tete7000:
Some of you just lack manners and don't know how to converse. The op herself has replied me and didn't reply in this stu_pid and in_solent manner. smh

sassygal:
The same lack of manners you used in making your assumptions, I presume

tete7000:
You lack the capacity to understand the angle I am arguing from.

NosoChic:
Must you have bridemaids?

You may decide to use children on your bridal train if you insist you want a long train. I feel you must have a chief bridemaids only.

shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

Mariecakes:
Its not pride, I have worked with brides that are too humble, but they have no friends, we had to rent female ushers as bridesmaid cause the parents ddnt want guest to feel like "yur daughter dont have friends" they just dnt know how to connect with people, their only true friend is their fiancé....
Funny but these set of people are the most loveable , they show lots of love but they don't get it in return...

MoNickk:
where is the wedding holding? is it not aso ebi? There will be jollof rice abi? pm me n I could call up some of my friends for you. believe me...We are fun

sassygal:
Oh really? Cos the only angle you argued from was passing judgment without trial, when you said she was proud and pompous and would not make a good wife if she does not have friends.

Pray, indulge me, and explain your angle better

SAMBARRY:
na wedding you get to know the essence of friendship. Have you heard the yoruba proverb that says eyan laso mi . bridesmaid help weddings get colourful and help with the logistics like attending to guests, help serve food, get to see those who haven't eating etc


a wedding without bridal train is dry. Especially after looking at your wedding photographs.you don't want your kids friends and siblings looking at few pages of your album and getting bored.



Don't mind all those saying wedding feferity doesn't matter . you only marry once except you plan to marry 3or 4 times like some of my friends then I can say don't pay attention to details like that. Abi don't you like these

shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.

tete7000:
I have replied the op and another civil person to explain my position. If it interests you, you can read through my conversation with them.

shirazlova:
Im a regular contributor here on Nairaland but have had to create a new profile for the sake of being anonymous

My problem is that all my life I've struggled to make or maintain female friendships due to one reason or another. Distance, change of location, falling out/unresolved conflict, jealousy, fake friends etc.. It's something I'm ashamed of and I often feel sad that I don't have my clique of friends especially now that I'm about getting married. It saddens me that at this time of my life where I'm supposed to be joyous and be surrounded by girlfriends helping me with wedding preparations, choosing a dress etc, I have no one to call on. I've had to shop for my dress alone which was quite a depressing experience. Everytime my parents or aunties ask of my friends I come up with one story or another or just change the topic completely.

My fiancée is very much aware of my lack of friends but he's not bothered by it at all. I'm in my early/mid twenties and I feel so saddened to see other girls my age with lots of girlfriends. I have a big family however most of my cousins are male.

How do I go about doing my wedding with no bridesmaids whatsoever! It'll be such a mortifying experience for my wedding guests and family members to notice I have no friends.
What do I do about this?
I'd appreciate matured responses pls.