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bukatyne:
You need to get rid of all friendzoned guys around you first.

Next, if you do not like mummy's boy, forget about him and move on. Don't sling him around and be looking to chase other men.

RE: mummy's boy: I do not think it is a negative that he wants to always help out his mum since he is accessible to her. What you should look out for is if he understands priorities and loyalties. Right now, his mother/parents/nuclear family are his priority. When he gets married, his priority becomes his newly formed family. You said 'it seems the mother controls his life'. Seems? you do not even have a proof of this control. I am 100% you would appreciate an obedient son in future. The guy sounds well trained however, I do not know him.

And yes, there are some 'mummy's boys' that are bad news for marriage.

Most times, you attract like minds so ensure you are projecting the image of a girl ready to date while you want to have a serious relationship (Leading to marriage?).

Also mind your packaging and friends around you. I am not saying you should pretend to be what you are not. If you are a life of the party person, please continue to be so with decency; if you are reserved.. same. You know your attitudes that need changing; work on them.

These tips are not really to snag a man for a serious relationship... it is to make your life generally more worthwhile and sustain your relationships/marriages when you eventually get there.

Also have something going for you (are you schooling, serving, job hunting or working?), improve yourself along the way.

Goodluck.

bukatyne:
You need to get rid of all friendzoned guys around you first.

Next, if you do not like mummy's boy, forget about him and move on. Don't sling him around and be looking to chase other men.

RE: mummy's boy: I do not think it is a negative that he wants to always help out his mum since he is accessible to her. What you should look out for is if he understands priorities and loyalties. Right now, his mother/parents/nuclear family are his priority. When he gets married, his priority becomes his newly formed family. You said 'it seems the mother controls his life'. Seems? you do not even have a proof of this control. I am 100% you would appreciate an obedient son in future. The guy sounds well trained however, I do not know him.

And yes, there are some 'mummy's boys' that are bad news for marriage.

Most times, you attract like minds so ensure you are projecting the image of a girl ready to date while you want to have a serious relationship (Leading to marriage?).

Also mind your packaging and friends around you. I am not saying you should pretend to be what you are not. If you are a life of the party person, please continue to be so with decency; if you are reserved.. same. You know your attitudes that need changing; work on them.

These tips are not really to snag a man for a serious relationship... it is to make your life generally more worthwhile and sustain your relationships/marriages when you eventually get there.

Also have something going for you (are you schooling, serving, job hunting or working?), improve yourself along the way.

Goodluck.

Enahi:
OK am seriously tired of dating,am ready to take someone serious but right now I don't know who?

For instance the person am thinking of giving a chance to seems to act like a mummy's boy. He is not young,the few times we sit down to gist he always talk abt going to do stuff for his mum. Am very sure if his mum was based on the moon,the man won't mind going there to do stuff for her.

Am getting irritated,seems the mum controls his life.

Enahi:
I ain't gat time for your s I l l y jokes OK. Now beat it.

funlord:
So by your own admission.. "U ARE READY 2 TAKE SOMEONE SERIOUS NOW BUT U DON'T KNOW WHO?" Na so your customers plenty reach? Well maybe his mum can smell your scam and is trying 2 save her boy so try 2 find your next victim elsewhere! Good luck

nairalandbuzz:
The former one too dey get ban every now and then

VictoriaBee:
OP, ignore those small boys above me and heed to bukatyne's advice.

*Na family section end-time men*
I'm sure you don't know how things operate here.

veraponpo:
OP, Bukatyne has given you a perfect advice.

The only addition I would make is that you should understand what they call Reverse Psychology. One of the laws of nature (Natural Law) is Law of Reciprocity- whatever you do is what will be done to you (Kama, etc).

This man that helps his mum today, obeys his mum today, appreciates his mum today, etc should be the one you will be praying to marry because it already shows how much of precious value that he places on his loved ones.

If a man dishonours his parent because of you; be sure one day, he will dishonour you because of somebody else. It is all about value.

He is a good man to follow baring other factors that you have not mentioned.

Timbuktuo:
Hehehehe. Dem done chop dis one ponmo taya. Ndo, o. God will make a way.

crackhaus:
Oh please shut it!
What are you bringing to the table, and what can you offer a man apart from your body?

This is what you should be bothered about, every other thing will fall into place.

Enahi:
lol,please read my post again,did I write anything like I was dating anyone? Taking someone serious means am ready to accept and go beyond dating with the person,don't you get?

Enahi:
where are you dumbo guys creeping out from and commenting on my thread don't get me upset,I don't have time for your thrash OK.

chibic:
Ok you are tired of dating and wants to take some one serious? So you never took all your boyfriends serious? You must have caused some of them pains, and after double dating and cheating like every other nigerian girls, you are looking for a real man when you are not a real woman.
You even found one that obeys his mom yet you hate him for that. So you will like it if your own son disrespect you because of an ordinary woman? Which type of human being are you?

Honestly, karma is always waiting for nigerian women for all they did before looking for one mumu to tie down. That mumu will start seeing other women and they taste how it feels to jump from one partner to another.

Kimoni:


OP ndo, you are caught up in something you were not part of and you don't even realize it yet.

"Family" section is not really family like you innocently think.

Anyways, bukatyne has given you a sound advice, follow it and don't forget to constantly improve yourself, then the best of them will always be on your case.

chibic:
truth is bitter. It seems I narrated your life story up there. If not, I don't see why you'll be hurt by my post.

That's exactly nigerian women for you. After multiple dating, they'll start searching faithful man. It doesn't work that way. You need to be faithful before you seek for one. The OP for eg never took any of her dates serious, now she wants a real man who will take her serious?

Btw, naija girls can't do shhit to me. I know them very well and I know what to expect from them- nothing good. So when they display that evil side of them, I'm never caught unprepared or surprised.

Enahi:
No I sincerely don't know how things operate here,I thought the family section was the best place to post this.

crackhaus:
You don't like the question?

I'll ask again,
What are you bringing to the table, and what can
you offer a man apart from your body?

Let's see how smart you are, genius.

VictoriaBee:
You'll get a sincere advice from retarrded male species on this section if you're male.

Since you're a female, you're always wrong and they'd rather make mockery of you.
There's gender discrimination here.

Enahi:
who ate your ponmo you must be daft,now run on t w a t and don't comment on my thread again.

Enahi:
yeah you are right,I see what you mean. Especially the dumbo called crackhaus,the guy must be high on cheap crack.

VictoriaBee:
Keep narrating the stories of your female family members and girls that broke your heart.

I still maintain my stand that it shall be well with your soul when you've finally found peace after so many years of bittered relationships.

crackhaus:
Cheap crack is the reason you haven't found a real man yet, you keep dating losers.

Enahi:
yeah you are right,I see what you mean. Especially the dumbo called crackhaus,the guy must be high on cheap crack.

Enahi:
the chibic guy is sick.

Enahi:
I hate to reply you,but I have to.
What's your business with what I bring to the table,my topic is not finance related.
Why cant you advice me like every other person is doing,than asking about what I bring to the table? Please don't quote me again to ask about what I bring to the table.

Enahi:
don't quote me again leave me alone crackhead

crackhaus:
Am I the one that quoted you first on here?

I have no interest in giving advice to a girl who doesn't know how to mould any man into someone she'd be proud of.

If you're looking for an already-made real man, then you better be bringing something to the table to meet him halfway.

Err, I never typed or implied anything about finances either...or are you broke?

Enahi:
Yeah am broke too,that's what you want to hear right. Hope you are satisfied now,can I breath now

crackhaus:
Lol, I'm not satisfied.

What are you bringing to the table, and what can you offer a man apart from your body.

I will advise you after you answer.

crackhaus:
Lol, I'm not satisfied.

What are you bringing to the table, and what can you offer a man apart from your body.

I will advise you after you answer.

Enahi:
Nah sorry I don't need your advice, I have given you the answer you need already.