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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:36pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
You find it so hard to make sense. Smh
Ode!
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:44pm On May 29, 2015
ApexTitan:
How would you have it then? grin
2 max grin
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:45pm On May 29, 2015
Justfollowit:
Ode!
Come over tomorrow. I'll be home alone.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 12:46pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
True deception isn't characteristic of any gender, but we know women are more prone to lying to keep a relationship than men are.

While I don't believe in y+, it's likely the guy would tell his future wife of his extra efforts to succeed.

Per the rapist, he's a criminal. I doubt he would be bold to declare something as vile as rape to a love interest. That said, not all men are rapists and sticking to the general direction of the thread, we're talking relationship history not criminal history. wink
So gang raping your Gf is suddenly a criminal history that should not be disclosed? But having a party is not a criminal history?

Interesting

Besides Why should people not disclose their criminal history?
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by dinachi(m): 12:49pm On May 29, 2015
kilode100:
cheesy cheesy
Who broke your heart boy??
Whether you like it or not you deserve commendention for your gangartum courage in posting that picture as your dp. I will personally lead a crusade for your immortalization in naira land for your ability to walk on those tree trunks you call legs and what is more your ability to move those yam tubers you have as hands and those coke bottle sized fingers you type with. I am not bothered by the fact that you are pygmishly short and actually look like a wag! You are definitely a hero for being able to lift open your tiny eyea under those heavy layer of fats you call eyelids.
That said, only Jehova God almighty knows how terribly your down bellow stinks putting into consideration the sweaty thighs and stretch mark infested body. Good luck in your foolery grin grin grin
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by crackhaus: 12:57pm On May 29, 2015
4teelaw:
Actually a man with no self esteem will be looking for a virgin to marry. Happy searching. My advise, look for a mom to betrothe her newborn to you, so that you can marry her at 15, okay?
Lmao...
Please tell me you thought about this before typing it, Lol... grin
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by kilode100(f): 12:58pm On May 29, 2015
dinachi:
Whether you like it or not you deserve commendention for your gangartum courage in posting that picture as your dp. I will personally lead a crusade for your immortalization in naira land for your ability to walk on those tree trunks you call legs and what is more your ability to move those yam tubers you have as hands and those coke bottle sized fingers you type with. I am not bothered by the fact that you are pygmishly short and actually look like a wag! You are definitely a hero for being able to lift open your tiny eyea under those heavy layer of fats you call eyelids.
That said, only Jehova God almighty knows how terribly your down bellow stinks putting into consideration the sweaty thighs and stretch mark infested body. Good luck in your foolery grin grin grin
Is that ithuh
You need to come up with stronger words because these sound "kindergarten"and it makes you look really small and foolish.
I have heard it all.. Oh, there she is, she's fat and short, after that, what else is new?

You need to go back to your dictionary and come up with something that might actually make me blush.


I still gotta ask you tho, who messed you up so badlyhuh grin grin cheesy
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:02pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
Come over tomorrow. I'll be home alone.
Nah

I will send someone else

If I decide to do it myself, it will be gory

I will definitely go overboard. And I don't want that
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by dinachi(m): 1:10pm On May 29, 2015
kilode100:
Is that ithuh
You need to come up with stronger words because these sound "kindergarten"and it makes you look really small and foolish.
U have heard it all.. Oh, there she is, she's fat and short, after that, what else is new?
You need to go back to your dictionary and come up with something that might actually make me blush.
I still gotta ask you tho, who messed you up so badlyhuh grin grin cheesy
Who dash monkey banana? Oh you actually hope for a back and forth? grin grin grin
What is kindergarten is sucking unwashed assholes and admitting it on naira land with your actual pix in your dp yet insisting you will hide same from spouse!
Being short and fat may actually not be anybody's problem, you alone will bear that cross with its obvious medical challenges.
As for being terriblly ugly, I can hardly blame you for that one an apple rarely falls far from its parent tree! grin grin grin In other words it is in the genes.
What's my own if nature and providence decides in its wisdom to churn out damaged goods!
You get mouth to talk about being messed up? You mean as messed up as you were when you admittedly was fvcking three guys at once and you prefer being beaten and pounded before sex?
My dear apart from a mental hospital for the violently deranged, I may not be able to recommend any other better place for you to be right now all things considered.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Chivee(f): 1:12pm On May 29, 2015
moca:
@chivee, u haven't changed a bit from ur tone.
U need to see a psychologist cos it's not normal.

Ur background is bringing the worst outta u.

U don't need to be in any relationship now till u sort urself out.

Anger,hurt,revenge,depression are all deep seated emotions u don't handle lightly.
And u can't help urself without direction.

I believe that underneath lies a wonderful young man crying to be liberated.
Don't macho it.
Seek help as soon as possible.
I beg to disagree. My fiancee thinks I'm the sweetest guy in the world& I'll never do harm to her coz she understands me better than every other. We've been in a happy relationship & it stays that way as long as she doesn't know anyrhing about my past coz It changes everything. Hence my reason for loving thiz thread & connecting with it so deeply...Except u ppl are trying to isolate the message of this thread to only cases of women with non-chaste & promiscuous history..
I deserve happiness too don't I?
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by 4teelaw(f): 1:12pm On May 29, 2015
ApexTitan:
Maybe you are joking or you want to get back at the other poster but this statement is patently untrue. Men should be encouraged to marry virgins or women with very low number count as possible. In fact I think that once N>4 for the woman you are heading into troubled waters.

More than half of the weddings you see conducted every saturday end in a quick and nasty divorce, all kinds of people enter into matrimony without being fit for it. In vetting for wife a man should exercise the highest diligence possible, he must have very high standards otherwise he is setting himself up for a world of hurt pain and disappointment. If he cannot do so he is best advised not to marry! The women who have a promiscuous history will continue to play the "pump & dump" role that they are used to even in marriage, why would any man make a wife out of such a woman? It is usually after playing the field that these type of women look to get married then they latch on to the so called good men that they can find. The poor sucker is told that love is all that matters, her history is of no importance meanwhile he is taking in a woman that many others have 'gone to town with' as his wife.

Men should marry virgins or women that are close as possible to one. There is nothing so extraordinary that should drive a man into marriage with a woman with a promiscuous past! This advice is necessary for the times we live in, if you can't find a woman who meets your very high standards then hold aloof from marriage. It is not a do or die affair.
Does that place have a meter that measures Body count! grin If a woman doesn't tell you, you will never know. So why set yourself up for a big surprise?
Some things are not necessary. It's the 'I must marry virgin or low body count' school of thought that makes women lie about these things, and
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:14pm On May 29, 2015
harveyspec:
[b]YOUR ADVISE THEN, OUGHT TO BE don't spill too early!! [/b]Let the relationship progress & study your partner to know if he is serious or not & find out the best way to tell him

You said above "knowing your husband as well as you do" his past won't shake you now cos you KNOW HIM. To know they say is to love!!

If you had found out that he killed somebody before within 1month of your dating him, you would have fled with every inch of your life!!

there have been cases where one partner revealed they had HIV, they still forged ahead with the relationship

If I truly love you & I hear about ur past, I will go back to the table & lay out all the facts & weigh them if I can handle that & check to see if you have truly turned a new leaf & also the chances of a reoccurrence too. Based on all of this I will make an informed decision

what's with this how many abortions has he procured ? Some girls have so lived a slutty life that they think all men are the same, so if a man has lived a normal life, he is wrong to want to know your past!! Did he live a good life just to settle for a slut?
My advise remains the same
If it has no detriment to the marriage,keep your mouth shut
Simple
Everyone has a past
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:17pm On May 29, 2015
Royalroy,if dinachi is still being an ass on this thread please take him out
This thread must not be derailed by anyone
Thanks
Since he is incapable of expressing his views like an adult,take care of that
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by VintageCocktail(m): 1:19pm On May 29, 2015
Chivee:
I beg to disagree. My fiancee thinks I'm the sweetest guy in the world& I'll never do harm to her coz she understands me better than every other. We've been in a happy relationship & it stays that way as long as she doesn't know anyrhing about my past coz It changes everything. Hence my reason for loving thiz thread & connecting with it so deeply...Except u ppl are trying to isolate the message of this thread to only cases of women with non-chaste & promiscuous history..
I deserve happiness too don't I?
Don't ever spill that chiiit, download it too the sub of your subconscious so you wont have to upload unknowingly. !make peace with God and be a changed man., the rest will fall in line.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by 4teelaw(f): 1:19pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
Nobody told you to go fvck the entire neighbourhood. Don't be bringing your slack puccy here, child! It is, in fact, a man with the healthiest self-esteem that would go for only a virgin. He'll be getting an unspoiled specimen, not you loose-puccied lot.

Let me be the first to book your first daughter then. I promise not to fvck her till she's five years old, in the arze. grin
Read my earlier posts on this thread, then borrow yourself brain. Keep looking for a virgin, child. When kids your age these days have thrown caution to the wind and sleep with any man that shows the money, you would most probably be a very old bachelor. FYI, Some of us have been married for half your age, and even if we weren't virgins, have kept our marriages and the marriage bed intact over the years. If you need schooling, as politely. Okay?
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by 4teelaw(f): 1:20pm On May 29, 2015
babyosisi:
My advise remains the same
If it has no detriment to the marriage,keep your mouth shut
Simple
Everyone has a past
Simple oooo!
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Emaprince: 1:20pm On May 29, 2015
Rubbish!!!
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Fkforyou(m): 1:22pm On May 29, 2015
dinachi:
No he is not! You actually look like a hefty abandoned iroko tree trunk.The truth hurts! But it is what it is.
grin wicked.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by kilode100(f): 1:23pm On May 29, 2015
dinachi:
Who dash monkey banana? Oh you actually hope for a back and forth? grin grin grin
What is kindergarten is sucking unwashed assholes and admitting it on naira land with your actual pix in your dp yet insisting you will hide same from spouse!
Being short may actually not be anybody's problem, you alone will bear that cross with its obvious medical challenges.
As for being terriblly ugly, I can hardly blame you for that one an apple rarely falls far from its parent tree! grin grin grin In other words it is in the genes.
What's my own if nature and providence decides in its wisdom to churn out damaged goods!
However, being silly can hardly be pardoned!
Dinachi righthuh
I actually feel sorry for you, joke apart...
You are seriously pained and I wonder whyhuh

I actually feel good about my life and I am BLESSED!

I get where you are coming from, I really do, I see you as me many years back after sucking those unwashed ass holes, I always look for who to vent and take out my frustrations on... And that's why, I keep asking you who messed you up so badly.

You are the damaged goods, you are the one hurting, you are the one who's ugly because I know I am very beautiful.....

Should I continue?
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:24pm On May 29, 2015
bukatyne:
So gang raping your Gf is suddenly a criminal history that should not be disclosed? But having a three-some is not a criminal history?

Interesting

Besides Why should people not disclose their criminal history?
I never said criminal history shouldn't be disclosed. I only said I would understand why a criminal would not be inclined to doing so. Doesn't mean I support it. If anybody doesn't want to have to disclose past misdeeds, maybe they shouldn't be doing them in the first place.

Also, rape and a menage are different things. Apples and oranges.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Emaprince: 1:25pm On May 29, 2015
4teelaw:
Read my earlier posts on this thread, then borrow yourself brain. Keep looking for a virgin, child. When kids your age these days have thrown caution to the wind and sleep with any man that shows the money, you would most probably be a very old bachelor. FYI, Some of us have been married for your age, and even if we weren't virgins, have kept our marriages and the marriage bed intact over the years. If you need schooling, as politely. Okay?
what are you preaching, woman? Will you allow your daughters to throw caution in wind and act like those girls that sleep with any man that shows the money? If you never married a virgin, there are girls that kept themselves intact till they met their husbands. Stop glorifying the promiscuity of some of our girls.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:28pm On May 29, 2015
4teelaw:
Read my earlier posts on this thread, then borrow yourself brain. Keep looking for a virgin, child. When kids your age these days have thrown caution to the wind and sleep with any man that shows the money, you would most probably be a very old bachelor. FYI, Some of us have been married for half your age, and even if we weren't virgins, have kept our marriages and the marriage bed intact over the years. If you need schooling, as politely. Okay?
what if I'm not a bachelor? What if I married a virgin? I'm not to blame for the looseness of your puccy, blame your past for that. You've kept your marriage bed intact yet call for treachery and duplicity? Tell your story to the marines. Your marriage may be 'intact', I doubt the marriage bed is. I'm not mad at you, I'm not your husband. But I will call out your BS if and when I feel like it.

And you can school your daughters on the virtue of fvcking around till their puccies lose whatEver firmness it has. And tell your sons, feel free to pluck from that rotten tree, it's all in the past after all.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by dinachi(m): 1:31pm On May 29, 2015
kilode100:
Dinachi righthuh
I actually feel sorry for you, joke apart...
You are seriously pained and I wonder whyhuh
I actually feel good about my life and I am BLESSED!
I get where you are coming from, I really do, I see you as me many years back after sucking those unwashed ass holes, I always look for who to vent and take out my frustrations on... And that's why, I keep asking you who messed you up so badly.
You are the damaged goods, you are the one hurting, you are the one who's ugly because I know I am very beautiful.....
Should I continue?
Did I hear you say you are blessed? grin grin grin. How can I doubt that? The shit from those unwashed assholes you sucked and those you foursome guys who drilled you mercilessly like a newly discovered oil well only did their job too well!
Keep being delusional!
As for venting your frustrations you can beat on your flat chest as many times as you like, it still does not alter the fact that you are frustrated!
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody:
harveyspec:
Firstly, I don't watch nollywood

Secondly, I ain't a minor, it's a far cry from it

Thirdly, if Emeka doesn't spill his escapades with the lady's husband then trust that he will spill it to his husbands circle of friends or at the husband whenever they quarrel just to spite him

I had great respect for you but with all of this, I will unfollow ur thread on "marital advice for newly weds & intending couples"


You are the type that can poison a man & watch him eating the food while petting him!!

Come to think of it, you were in a relationship with a man while at same time romping with azubuike!!

God save me from your type

PS: I'm aware my tone is harsh, no hard feelings o
You are well entitled to your opinion
Being a minor can be in mentality not necessarily chronological age so I am still in order.
You don't have to announce the unfollowing of my thread when I didn't know you were following it,you just unfollow it quietly.
That is what an adult would do and what I expect an adult to do
Now run along
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:32pm On May 29, 2015
Emaprince:
what are you preaching, woman? Will you allow your daughters to throw caution in wind and act like those girls that sleep with any man that shows the money? If you never married a virgin, there are girls that kept themselves intact till they met their husbands. Stop glorifying the promiscuity of some of our girls.
Don't mind the promiscuous Aunty 4teelaw. She done fvck all her youth troway come carry tokunbo Grade7 give one mumu man wey no sabi say yansh dey tight. She's apparently trying to force-feed us the bvllshit that seeking to marry a virgin or woman of virtue is symptomatic of a childish mind. What effrontery. cheesy
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:36pm On May 29, 2015
Everything I have written here I bet you majority of men and women already do
That it's a topic on a thread doesn't make it a new concept at all
All it has done is show forth the double standards of society so it has in essence achieved it's aim
Even the girls that spill always have areas they keep,I will hope that those of them reading will learn to keep their mouths shut from now on rather than destroy their own reputation with their mouths of things done in the past.
Worst of all the ones that meet a man and within days you are telling stories about your past,are you crazy?
That is very very foolish
Hopefully some will get it
Stop the foolishness,they serve no purposes
Don't go destroying yourself with your own mouth all in the name of being in love or infatuated
If you've been that naive in the past,do that no more
He has a past,and so do you
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 1:38pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
I never said criminal history shouldn't be disclosed. I only said I would understand why a criminal would not be inclined to doing so. Doesn't mean I support it. If anybody doesn't want to have to disclose past misdeeds, maybe they shouldn't be doing them in the first place.

Also, rape and a menage are different things. Apples and oranges.
If you understand why a criminal doesn't want to disclose his past misdeeds, why can't you understand why a former escort or runs girl might not want to disclose her past?

What is the difference between rape and party?

@bold, I agree
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Emaprince: 1:42pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
Don't mind the promiscuous Aunty 4teelaw. She done fvck all her youth troway come carry tokunbo Grade7 give one mumu man wey no sabi say yansh dey tight. She's apparently trying to force-feed us the bvllshit that seeking to marry a virgin or woman of virtue is symptomatic of a childish mind. What effrontery. cheesy
LWKMD bwahahahaha..

Honestly, I do not condem women that dated other men before marriage, but I hate it when non-virgins starts deriding the idea of men wanting to marry virgins. Its a thing of choice and every men should take pride in having that once in a life time cheesy opportunity of tieing the knot with a virgin- a woman that NO man have touched.
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by 4teelaw(f): 1:43pm On May 29, 2015
Timbuktou:
what if I'm not a bachelor? What if I married a virgin? I'm not to blame for the looseness of your puccy, blame your past for that. You've kept your marriage bed intact yet call for treachery and duplicity? Tell your story to the marines. Your marriage may be 'intact', I doubt the marriage bed is. I'm not mad at you, I'm not your husband. But I will call out your BS if and when I feel like it.

And you can school your daughters on the virtue of fvcking around till their puccies lose whatEver firmness it has. And tell your sons, feel free to pluck from that rotten tree, it's all in the past after all.
Kids everywhere sha. You can't be married. Marriage is not for babies. If a small issue like marrying a virgin or not is making you sound like a baby who's lost his rattle, then taking care of a woman and kids will set you off a cliff.
You even need reading lessons, or is it comprehension? Who says a babe should sleep around? I'm saying you shouldn't set your mind on such issues. I didn't marry as a virgin, doesn't mean I didn't marry who I gave it to. I have an old friend who married as a virgin, and she's out on the streets right now? You know why? She had attitude problems, was totally irresponsible and a bad cook. Her hubby stylishly moved out and left her. Did her being a virgin make her a better wife?
There's more to marriage than body counts. What's in her past is in her past. If the future is bright, she completes you, makes you a better person, is full of love and compassion, by all means, carry on!
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:45pm On May 29, 2015
Emaprince:
LWKMD bwahahahaha..

Honestly, I do not condem women that dated other men before marriage, but I hate it when non-virgins starts deriding the idea of men wanting to marry virgins. Its a thing of choice and every men should take pride in having that once in a life time cheesy opportunity of tieing the knot with a virgin- a woman that NO man have touched.
Hahahaha
Have you checked her nyash ?
Do giving BJs and getting fing.ered still qualify
Do you know there are traditional ways to tighten the V and she passes off as a virgin
You are still a learner
You sound very naive

I am yet to meet a grown man whose requirement for a wife includes virgin and I have done a few matchmaking
It seems like a dream of small boys
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by jadelyn007(f):
charles316:
How do you mistakenly cheat? you mean you can mistakenly remove your pants,still mistakenly open your legs and mistakenly take the di,ck?




I`m happy you asked. I will make you understand. angry angry angry
Why do you think people ask for the mileage of a vehicle before they buy it? They do that to evaluate the wear and tear the car must have undergone and to know its true value.
So baby,a smart guy will want to know `where and how many times you`ve been there` to evaluate your true worth.
A new car and a fairly used one are not of the same value.
Have I been able to educate you ? grin grin grin
can I knw d mileage of ur own d.icck too? Of what use is such info to me huh
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:45pm On May 29, 2015
bukatyne:
If you understand why a criminal doesn't want to disclose his past misdeeds, why can't you understand why a former escort or runs girl might not want to disclose her past?

What is the difference between rape and party?

@bold, I agree
Perhaps, tongues may wag and they may faced with the demands of the law. Scorned lovers have been known to do the most hideous things, you know? If I were a criminal, the fear of jail time would deter me from being honest. If all my history holds is sordid details of a romantic/promiscuous nature, I would be more than willing to disclose my indiscretions to someone who I'm sure loves me. After which I would hope for magnanimity, if I don't get it though, I'd blame myself not them, it was my fault, not theirs. Sayong if they can't handle it they can take a walk or calling them immature for inability to deal with my mess is disgusting and entitled, to say the least.

The difference is consent and lack of. Come on sis, stop trolling.

*i think you should leave a space between three and some. Didn't know what a party was till I had my reply ready and had to change it accordingly.
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