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martijez:
Leaving him is not the problem,buh wah if the next is worse than him,for how long will I keep "leaving",for how long will I keep running instead of facing my fears,he made me promise to never leave him.....

Not trying to sound disrespectful, but i think you need to grow up.

Just take a look at what you wrote up there, this can only come from a helpless woman with a zero self respect. That relationship has done more harm to your self esteem than you can imagine.
Whatever you decide, i wish you the best!

martijez:
Good morning,I brought this here cos I blieve that y'all would be able to help me one way or the other even if I aint married yet...
please I have an issue at hand,I have being having sleepless nights..my relationship is gradually going down the drain.I and my bf have bin having issues over a certain gal which he claimed @ first was just his frnd..this is wah happened..every single day,this gal calls my bf,and he reciprocates the calls,he talks to her as tho he is talking to me,calls her all the sweet names he calls me and even sex chats with her,asking her to come and spend the night in his house that he is having wet dreams cos of her (saw it in his wahsapp chat). B4 I knew about the chats,tho they have bin talking,My bf came to see my family early april and cos it was late,he couldn't travel back and so he told me he would stay in his frnd's house buh I didn't know it was her,it was later on he told me he slept in her frnd's room and not in her room..which I doubt greatly. Last weekend,when I was in his house,this gal marched in as tho it was her bf's house,my bf didn't intoduce me,I later asked him to call her on fone that I wantu talk to her which he did,I asked her why she barged into my bf's house like that and she sed I don't have the right to ask her such question that its not my house,I told him and he sed that she was bin defensive that I shouldn't have asked her the question like that,he also told me that the calls,chats etc were all a game to see if I would get jealous,that I should ignore her,after much pressure he confessed that he only slept with her once(b4 his nysc) which I doubt,I bliv he spent the nite and many other nites in her house,he tells her he has deep feelings 4 her and she is his bestfrnd etc buh when I ask him why he sed that, he will say it was sed on a frndly note...the thing right now is that tho he confessed that he slept with her once,I doubt it and bliv there's more to it,also I made him call her and tell her that she shldnt call him anymore and their frndship has ended,buh the thing is I am not @ peace,cos I bliv he would go bhind my back to call her and apologise for ending their "frndship",I also bliv that he likes her cos he defends her,I don't want to end up with a man that is in love with another woman and again I can't seem to trust him or anything he says,he also sed while we were arguring that his mom doesn't like that..so I tot if his mom actually liked her,he woulda bin dating her meaning he likes or love her,I want to talk to him again buh I fear he would be angry that I brought up an issue which we had finalised already, please wah do I do because I love this man so much and our relationship is not upto 6mnths...was thinking of calling the gal myself cos am really hurting and confused,thanks

martijez:
Good morning,I brought this here cos I blieve that y'all would be able to help me one way or the other even if I aint married yet...
please I have an issue at hand,I have being having sleepless nights..my relationship is gradually going down the drain.I and my bf have bin having issues over a certain gal which he claimed @ first was just his frnd..this is wah happened..every single day,this gal calls my bf,and he reciprocates the calls,he talks to her as tho he is talking to me,calls her all the sweet names he calls me and even sex chats with her,asking her to come and spend the night in his house that he is having wet dreams cos of her (saw it in his wahsapp chat). B4 I knew about the chats,tho they have bin talking,My bf came to see my family early april and cos it was late,he couldn't travel back and so he told me he would stay in his frnd's house buh I didn't know it was her,it was later on he told me he slept in her frnd's room and not in her room..which I doubt greatly. Last weekend,when I was in his house,this gal marched in as tho it was her bf's house,my bf didn't intoduce me,I later asked him to call her on fone that I wantu talk to her which he did,I asked her why she barged into my bf's house like that and she sed I don't have the right to ask her such question that its not my house,I told him and he sed that she was bin defensive that I shouldn't have asked her the question like that,he also told me that the calls,chats etc were all a game to see if I would get jealous,that I should ignore her,after much pressure he confessed that he only slept with her once(b4 his nysc) which I doubt,I bliv he spent the nite and many other nites in her house,he tells her he has deep feelings 4 her and she is his bestfrnd etc buh when I ask him why he sed that, he will say it was sed on a frndly note...the thing right now is that tho he confessed that he slept with her once,I doubt it and bliv there's more to it,also I made him call her and tell her that she shldnt call him anymore and their frndship has ended,buh the thing is I am not @ peace,cos I bliv he would go bhind my back to call her and apologise for ending their "frndship",I also bliv that he likes her cos he defends her,I don't want to end up with a man that is in love with another woman and again I can't seem to trust him or anything he says,he also sed while we were arguring that his mom doesn't like that..so I tot if his mom actually liked her,he woulda bin dating her meaning he likes or love her,I want to talk to him again buh I fear he would be angry that I brought up an issue which we had finalised already, please wah do I do because I love this man so much and our relationship is not upto 6mnths...was thinking of calling the gal myself cos am really hurting and confused,thanks

My friend will YOU GROW UP? Your man that you love so much and his preferred sweet cheeks have turned YOU into the MISTRESS in your own relationship and you are here claiming you love someone so much who by his actions has shown that he detests you twice as much! He has disrespected you to the point of no return and that is why the other girl treats you and his property anyhow! It is done FULLY with his consent so if you like keep dulling yourself! Now park well and allow me go and handle REAL issues on other threads! Love wantintin!!!

Did you actually type 'I want to know if I am a main or side chick' with a straight face? You sure are trolling

Mtchew.

martijez:
Leaving him is not the problem,buh wah if the next is worse than him,for how long will I keep "leaving",for how long will I keep running instead of facing my fears,he made me promise to never leave him.....

Martijez, I feel so much pity for you already cuz you are about to take a decision you will regret forever. It would be more painful cuz you will remember you had doubts about the whole relationship but you still went ahead with him.

Maybe you don't realize things only become worse after marriage. If you think he will continue crying for your love after the wedding, then you must be very naive. All these crying will turn to slapping and boxing if you are unfortunate to marry him.

Well, It's obvious you are bent on going ahead with him. Kontinu

Sorry I was harsh, if only it would give you a head reset.

martijez:
The truth is that he makes me feel special,I know he likes me,I just wantu know who he likes more so I will know weda to stay or leave,I wanna know if actually it was once he slept with her and if there's more to it,I wanna know if his mom had liked the gal,if he woulda dated her,in the chat,he told her he loved her and miss her crazily and wanna have sex with her,I wanna know if the love he professed 4 her is true,I wanna know who is the side and main chiq...tho when I say jump,he ask how high,buh now he has given me reasons to doubt every thing he says or do

@OP:

If You are the lady in your profile then it will be safe to assume

1. The only thing you have going is your beauty/body

2. You have absolutely nothing to offer a potential husband

3. You are very ambitionless and visionless

4. You have no self worth or self esteem.

5. You are a disgrace to your family.

6. That guy is obviously rich and you have seen him as a step out of real/perceived poverty.

It also applies If you are not the one.

When you are saner, read all your posts on This thread and imagine your younger sister or friend reasons like This.

You sound like you were dropped on your head as a baby.

Infact, marry the man ASAP Or better still, you both should marry the guy same day....saw one wedding invite like that a while ago here.

Perhaps I would have been nicer If I was the first to comment or If you did not drop your subsequent posts.

Is this how you write in school?

bukatyne:
[s] @OP:

If You are the lady in your profile then it will be safe to assume

1. The only thing you have going is your beauty/body

2. You have absolutely nothing to offer a potential husband

3. You are very ambitionless and visionless

4. You have no self worth or self esteem.

5. You are a disgrace to your family.

6. That guy is obviously rich and you have seen him as a step out of real/perceived poverty.

It also applies If you are not the one.

When you are saner, read all your posts on This thread and imagine your younger sister or friend reasons like This.

You sound like you were dropped on your head as a baby.

Infact, marry the man ASAP Or better still, you both should marry the guy same day....saw one wedding invite like that a while ago here.

Perhaps I would have been nicer If I was the first to comment or If you did not drop your subsequent posts. [/s]

Madam,you are very heartless! This is no way to talk to someone who is broken hearted. Is this the kind of advice you give to a fellow woman who is about loosing her man to another woman?

Chai! Very wicked comment!

Abeg no reply me o!

Gosh this is sickening!

Beremx:
Madam,you are very heartless! This is no way to talk to someone who is broken hearted. Is this the kind of advice you give to a fellow woman who is about loosing her man to another woman?

Chai! Very wicked comment!

Abeg no reply me o!

Gosh this is sickening!

Although you didn't direct the response at me. However, I need to comment on the bolded.

Is it not possible that it is the other woman that is about losing "their" man to the OP?

From the posts the OP made, the guy is incurable of the other lady. Subsequent posts of the OP show her low self esteem and extreme disregard for her value, quality and person.

To reset a person like the Op, a thorough system restore is needed which I guess Bukatyne contributed to. I am surprised she could be bold enough to say such things...

Madam, this OP does not just need harsh words, she need several slaps to reset her to nature's/manufacturer's configuration in her thinking.

Between, the guy belongs to none of them and belongs to both of them...

martijez:
Good morning,I brought this here cos I blieve that y'all would be able to help me one way or the other even if I aint married yet...
please I have an issue at hand,I have being having sleepless nights..my relationship is gradually going down the drain.I and my bf have bin having issues over a certain gal which he claimed @ first was just his frnd..this is wah happened..every single day,this gal calls my bf,and he reciprocates the calls,he talks to her as tho he is talking to me,calls her all the sweet names he calls me and even sex chats with her,asking her to come and spend the night in his house that he is having wet dreams cos of her (saw it in his wahsapp chat). B4 I knew about the chats,tho they have bin talking,My bf came to see my family early april and cos it was late,he couldn't travel back and so he told me he would stay in his frnd's house buh I didn't know it was her,it was later on he told me he slept in her frnd's room and not in her room..which I doubt greatly. Last weekend,when I was in his house,this gal marched in as tho it was her bf's house,my bf didn't intoduce me,I later asked him to call her on fone that I wantu talk to her which he did,I asked her why she barged into my bf's house like that and she sed I don't have the right to ask her such question that its not my house,I told him and he sed that she was bin defensive that I shouldn't have asked her the question like that,he also told me that the calls,chats etc were all a game to see if I would get jealous,that I should ignore her,after much pressure he confessed that he only slept with her once(b4 his nysc) which I doubt,I bliv he spent the nite and many other nites in her house,he tells her he has deep feelings 4 her and she is his bestfrnd etc buh when I ask him why he sed that, he will say it was sed on a frndly note...the thing right now is that tho he confessed that he slept with her once,I doubt it and bliv there's more to it,also I made him call her and tell her that she shldnt call him anymore and their frndship has ended,buh the thing is I am not @ peace,cos I bliv he would go bhind my back to call her and apologise for ending their "frndship",I also bliv that he likes her cos he defends her,I don't want to end up with a man that is in love with another woman and again I can't seem to trust him or anything he says,he also sed while we were arguring that his mom doesn't like that..so I tot if his mom actually liked her,he woulda bin dating her meaning he likes or love her,I want to talk to him again buh I fear he would be angry that I brought up an issue which we had finalised already, please wah do I do because I love this man so much and our relationship is not upto 6mnths...was thinking of calling the gal myself cos am really hurting and confused,thanks

You my friend have no boyfriend.
He belongs to her before you.
You are for the ikwokirikwo

At the moment, here is a drink for you

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martijez:
The truth is that he makes me feel special,I know he likes me,I just wantu know who he likes more so I will know weda to stay or leave,I wanna know if actually it was once he slept with her and if there's more to it,I wanna know if his mom had liked the gal,if he woulda dated her,in the chat,he told her he loved her and miss her crazily and wanna have sex with her,I wanna know if the love he professed 4 her is true,I wanna know who is the side and main chiq...tho when I say jump,he ask how high,buh now he has given me reasons to doubt every thing he says or do

You don't require any help...
He likes you, get married to him
He is just trying to decide btw d two OPTIONS.











and tomorrow they'll cry all over d place about how men aren't faithful in marriage

bukatyne:
@OP:

If You are the lady in your profile then it will be safe to assume

1. The only thing you have going is your beauty/body

2. You have absolutely nothing to offer a potential husband

3. You are very ambitionless and visionless

4. You have no self worth or self esteem.

5. You are a disgrace to your family.

6. That guy is obviously rich and you have seen him as a step out of real/perceived poverty.

It also applies If you are not the one.

When you are saner, read all your posts on This thread and imagine your younger sister or friend reasons like This.

You sound like you were dropped on your head as a baby.

Infact, marry the man ASAP Or better still, you both should marry the guy same day....saw one wedding invite like that a while ago here.

Perhaps I would have been nicer If I was the first to comment or If you did not drop your subsequent posts.

Chinekeh
All this for one person?

easy tiger!

bellong:
Although you didn't direct the response at me. However, I need to comment on the bolded.

Is it not possible that it is the other woman that is about losing "their" man to the OP?


From the posts the OP made, the guy is incurable of the other lady. Subsequent posts of the OP show her low self esteem and extreme disregard for her value, quality and person.

To reset a person like the Op, a thorough system restore is needed which I guess Bukatyne contributed to. I am surprised she could be bold enough to say such things...

Madam, this OP does not just need harsh words, she need several slaps to reset her to nature's/manufacturer's configuration in her thinking.

does it sound so? A man who can't even defend her when she needs him most?
It is very clear she's about loosing the guy.

Telling her harsh words like she's a disgrace to her family? I mean that's totally uncalled for. If she's your sister,you wouldn't talk to her in that manner.

Abeg I have dropped my advice already. She should just move on and a better man will come her way.

*unfollows thread*

Beremx:
does it sound so? A man who can't even defend her when she needs him most?
It is very clear she's about loosing the guy.

Telling her harsh words like she's a disgrace to her family? I mean that's totally uncalled for. If she's your sister,you wouldn't talk to her in that manner.

Abeg I have dropped my advice already. She should just move on and a better man will come her way.

*unfollows thread*

Well you have a point with the a disgrace to the family part.

The guy am sure behaved same way in the presence of the other girl. It is an age long tactic used to prey ladies..

bellong:
Well you have a point with the a disgrace to the family part.

The guy am sure behaved same way in the presence of the other girl. It is an age long tactic used to prey ladies..

Bukatyne even said the Op has nothing to offer to potential husbands?

Very wicked comment I tell ya!

Kimoni:
Martijez, I feel so much pity for you already cuz you are about to take a decision you will regret forever. It would be more painful cuz you will remember you had doubts about the whole relationship but you still went ahead with him.

Maybe you don't realize things only become worse after marriage. If you think he will continue crying for your love after the wedding, then you must be very naive. All these crying will turn to slapping and boxing if you are unfortunate to marry him.

Well, It's obvious you are bent on going ahead with him. Kontinu

Sorry I was harsh, if only it would give you a head reset.

if you like talk from now till next yr.
She fit don carry belly sef

bukatyne:
@OP:

If You are the lady in your profile then it will be safe to assume

1. The only thing you have going is your beauty/body

2. You have absolutely nothing to offer a potential husband

3. You are very ambitionless and visionless

4. You have no self worth or self esteem.

5. You are a disgrace to your family.

6. That guy is obviously rich and you have seen him as a step out of real/perceived poverty.

It also applies If you are not the one.

When you are saner, read all your posts on This thread and imagine your younger sister or friend reasons like This.

You sound like you were dropped on your head as a baby.

Infact, marry the man ASAP Or better still, you both should marry the guy same day....saw one wedding invite like that a while ago here.

Perhaps I would have been nicer If I was the first to comment or If you did not drop your subsequent posts.

Are you a lady? If yes your a disgrace and a bloody hoe

Hello sweets, please firstly do not allow any nasty, evil comment you read here upset you...you have a beautiful soul and have not done anything wrong by falling in love with your boyfriend and trusting him 100%...Heck, even Science has revealed that the "frontal cortex" of the brain responsible for logical thinking shuts down when someone is genuinely in love, so don't feel bad.

Moving on, in this kinda love-triangle you presented, this dude is originally in love with the other girl and you are his plan B, and will always remain second fiddle, because for some reason yet unknown to you, he cannot be with the other girl - this might be due to different religious orientation, issues with SS blood group, tribal difference, age, lack of parental approval, etc...This is a risky venture to invest your heart in, because their breaking up was forced on them through no fault of theirs, so the love connection between these two will be hard to break...so even if this guy puts a ring on your finger, the girl will still be his number 1 choice and may still stick around...

Lastly, please Do not let his tears or pleas fool you, all those tears are from the frustration of being saddled with you, when he would rather be with the other girl -the girl his heart truly yearns for!

Heartbreak has also been clinically proven to have physical effects on the heart, so the earlier you evaluate where to disembark this unhealthy emotional coaster of a ride, the better for your general wellbeing...Wish you safe landing dear...

Chillisauce:
if you like talk from now till next yr.
She fit don carry belly sef

Na so ooo

Until them enter the thing before dem eyes go come clear

Wow..


See acidic advice

Do you want the girl to commit suicide


She was dropped on her head?...wow

pickabeau1:
Wow..


See acidic advice

Do you want the girl to commit suicide


She was dropped on her head?...wow

Pick

By the time she goes into the marriage and comes to NL a few weeks later saying all men are cheats and evil, tell me you won't be the first person to attack her, is it not better she gets a head reset now?

Won't she still feel like committing suicide when she marries the guy? Imagine wanting to know if she is the main or side chick? Someone you are already engaged to.

Na wa o

Kimoni:
Pick

By the time she goes into the marriage and comes to NL a few weeks later saying all men are cheats and evil, tell me you won't be the first person to attack her, is it not better she gets a head reset now?

Won't she still feel like committing suicide when she marries the guy? Imagine wanting to know if she is the main or side chick? Someone you are already engaged to.

Na wa o

Ok

I guess the tone of the advice resonates with so many her then

Carry go


However there is always a better way to give advice

bellong:
Young lady, you are on a ride share.

It is either you are happy being the main/side chick or you dump him ASAP.

The choice is yours. With all the naked indices, I wonder why it is difficult for you to know that you are sharing that thing between his legs with another chick who could be the main chick.

When we tell you to zip up, you call us old fashion/school. Now, you are soul-tied to him and cannot think straight.


The summary of my epistle is that you don't have a boyfriend but a servicing agent.

NB: Is he the rich guy that cheats?

Disclaimer: if you believe the most men cheat mantra, you will sell yourself cheap to any cheat. Disciplined men don't cheat.. The undisciplined men cheat.

Sometimes I'm glad when I play catch-up. This is one of those times . Well put Belly.


TV

pickabeau1:
Ok

I guess the tone of the advice resonates with so many her then

Carry go


However there is always a better way to give advice

From her subsequent posts, she has gotten to that stage where she isn't thinking straight anymore and will not heed to any gentle words

Reading those words from her, you are either too annoyed to advise her so you let her stray or you tell her some bitter truths

I hope she reads it all and makes some useful decisions for herself

They are always beclouded by "love" at this stage and lose their sense of good judgement

Beremx:
Bukatyne even said the Op has nothing to offer to potential husbands?

Very wicked comment I tell ya!

Wicked, but true.

bukatyne:
@OP:

If You are the lady in your profile then it will be safe to assume

1. The only thing you have going is your beauty/body

2. You have absolutely nothing to offer a potential husband

3. You are very ambitionless and visionless

4. You have no self worth or self esteem.

5. You are a disgrace to your family.

6. That guy is obviously rich and you have seen him as a step out of real/perceived poverty.

It also applies If you are not the one.

When you are saner, read all your posts on This thread and imagine your younger sister or friend reasons like This.

You sound like you were dropped on your head as a baby.

Infact, marry the man ASAP Or better still, you both should marry the guy same day....saw one wedding invite like that a while ago here.

Perhaps I would have been nicer If I was the first to comment or If you did not drop your subsequent posts.

Bukatyne


TV

Busybody2:
Hello

Holá - where you been? - as my boy always asks me !

TV01:
Sometimes I'm glad when I play catch-up. This is one of those times . Well put Belly.


TV

Stop playing catch up

Kimoni:
Stop playing catch up

It's not about the bro' or the ho' - it's clear the OP does not possess the requisite maturity to be involved in a full-on adult relationship. And certainly not with someone who is not wholesale commited to her and her wellbeing - who coul dat least be gentle with her as she grows.

How far? How et familia. Come, did you pass


TV

Kimoni:
From her subsequent posts, she has gotten to that stage where she isn't thinking straight anymore and will not heed to any gentle words

Reading those words from her, you are either too annoyed to advise her so you let her stray or you tell her some bitter truths

I hope she reads it all and makes some useful decisions for herself

They are always beclouded by "love" at this stage and lose their sense of good judgement

You are right. I was so annoyed to advice her. I know it's not the best thing to do but honestly, her posts were very annoying to read.

TV01:
It's not about the bro' or the ho' - it's clear the OP does not possess the requisite maturity to be involved in a full-on adult relationship. And certainly not with someone who is not wholesale commited to her and her wellbeing - who coul dat least be gentle with her as she grows.

Wicked!!

How far? How et familia. Come, did you pass


TV

Lol...family is fine.

The result of that one is not out naa, just submitted last week. I banged an earlier one though

If I should fail this particular one; you, pick, Coogar and tearoses will refund me millions of fees sharp sharp

Cuz you guys must have taught me nonsense

In Fela's words, teasher son teash me nansense

babygirlfl:
You are right. I was so annoyed to advice her. I know it's not the best thing to do but honestly, her posts were very annoying to read.

I feel you honestly...it takes so much to even tell her those harsh words

Beremx:
Madam,you are very heartless! This is no way to talk to someone who is broken hearted. Is this the kind of advice you give to a fellow woman who is about loosing her man to another woman?

Chai! Very wicked comment!

Abeg no reply me o!

Gosh this is sickening!

I am very glad to be heartless in this case. If I see a child playing with fore, I will give him or her a soild laidi.... I will not rub the child's head.

WTF do you mean by 'she is loosing her man to another woman'

A lady meets a guy 6 months ago and is saying lose her man? Who dash her man?