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When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by Nobody: 8:05pm On Jun 12, 2015

I have seen couples who find this difficult especially when their adopted child is of age, they are torn in between telling the child if he/she was adopted or simple leave things the way they are.

Is there any perfect time or situation when it is right to tell such a child that he/she was adopted or is it better not to since the child already sees you as a parent.

What do you think guys?.

Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by ammyluv2002(f): 8:06pm On Jun 12, 2015

10 *thinking*

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by beycity(m): 8:20pm On Jun 12, 2015

I think once the child in question is old enough to handle the news... Maybe from 18 years should be fine.

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by tiredface: 8:22pm On Jun 12, 2015

ILL NOT WORRY ABOUT THAT ONLY WHEN HE/SHE ASKS. JUST SHOW LOVE LIKE ANY PARENT WOULD

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Jun 12, 2015*

[color=#000050]In my opinion, it's best the parents start opening up to him gradually from when he is a child. As he grows older the idea that he is adopted would have already be ingrained in him.
By the time his reaches his late teens he would have already come to terms with the fact that he is adopted but all the same, he would still see the adopted parents as the only parents he actually knows. He would still accord them with the respect and love he would have accorded his biological parents.

But if parents break this sort of news to an already grown child especially one in his late teens and above, the child would feel betrayed. He would begin to develop hate and anger towards the adopted parents for not telling him earlier.
He would begin to see his adopted family differently from the way he had seen them.[/color]

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by elantraceey(f): 8:42pm On Jun 12, 2015

I'll say early enough , at least before the child is grown up because of the adverse effect it could have on the child if he/she is told when they're grown up .

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by Feranchek(m): 8:46pm On Jun 12, 2015

Buh seriously, is it REALLY necessary huh

As long as there is peace and harmony in the family. If God will bless me with the financial stability iPray for, I plan adopting child even if he blesses me with boys and girls as kids. I soooooo much love kids!

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by kasimseun(m): 9:13pm On Jun 12, 2015

am planning in adoption a child even before I have my own children.... as far as I can take care of them....

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by kasimseun(m): 9:20pm On Jun 12, 2015

not planning in telling him or her at all..... I will let him or her believed that am his or her biological father

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by Galacious1: 9:38pm On Jun 12, 2015

kasimseun:
not planning in telling him or her at all..... I will let him or her believed that am his or her biological father

gud idea, but when any issue relating to DNA arises, what will u do?

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by flyca: 7:42am On Jun 13, 2015

kasimseun:
not planning in telling him or her at all..... I will let him or her believed that am his or her biological father

What of it penetrates his ears through the society?

Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by Nobody: 8:01am On Jun 13, 2015

misssclassy:
[color=#000050]In my opinion, it's best the parents start opening up to him gradually from when he is a child. As he grows older the idea that he is adopted would have already be ingrained in him.
By the time his reaches his late teens he would have already come to terms with the fact that he is adopted but all the same, he would still see the adopted parents as the only parents he actually knows. He would still accord them with the respect and love he would have accorded his biological parents.

But if parents break this sort of news to an already grown child especially one in his late teens and above, the child would feel betrayed. He would begin to develop hate and anger towards the adopted parents for not telling him earlier.
He would begin to see his adopted family differently from the way he had seen them.[/color]

Good point. The earlier the better.

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Re: When Is It Right To Tell Your Adopted Child That He/she Was Adopted? by robosky02(m): 9:39am On Jun 13, 2015

misssclassy:
[color=#000050]In my opinion, it's best the parents start opening up to him gradually from when he is a child. As he grows older the idea that he is adopted would have already be ingrained in him.
By the time his reaches his late teens he would have already come to terms with the fact that he is adopted but all the same, he would still see the adopted parents as the only parents he actually knows. He would still accord them with the respect and love he would have accorded his biological parents.

But if parents break this sort of news to an already grown child especially one in his late teens and above, the child would feel betrayed. He would begin to develop hate and anger towards the adopted parents for not telling him earlier.
He would begin to see his adopted family differently from the way he had seen them.[/color]

nice line of thinking...

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