I'm not sure if she's inspired by me or straight-up competitive? Will you be worried?

How do you handle a close friend that copies everything you do. I mean, If i buy a brown bag today, she gets hers as well. I recently went on a vacation with the bf and now, she's talking about going there too. When she wanted to get into the same career field, I was there for her, advised her on schools and everything, but I'm getting uncomfortable.

Its so bad that I don't tell her what I plan to do with my hair. I showed her a picture of a hair style I wanted so she quickly went and did hers so I don't tell her nothing no more. I've not braided my hair in years. Now I have box braids on my hair, yesterday she mentioned that "she wouldn't mind braiding hers cos she likes the way it looks" I'm like, chile.....she tried it again!

Am I being petty?

Two things are involved ,
It's either she truly admires you and wants to be like you in every way (which is creepy)

Or she sees you as a competition that she always wants to outdo (fake friend alert)

So you should either be flattered, annoyed or just disturbed about the whole thing.
I don't think you're being petty though.

You're not, such friends tends to get jealous easily and i tell you such a friendship isn't healthy.

I think you should just ignore her ways.However,your friendship with her will cause a problem someday.She seems to have a complex.

Thanks. I've never had a best friend and I don't do cliques/sister-hood of girlfriends and all that so it's strange. There have been other extreme situations that I can't even mention, but I guess I'll have to "manage" it.

I use to have that type of friend(monitoring spirit). She doesn't admire you but rather sees you as a threat to her. She feels you are more beautiful and better than she is. So she no want make you win her.





Let me tell you how to deal with such kind. Ignore her. And stay very far away from her. Such kind will do anything and everything possible to see you fall. Even go as far as snitching to your boyfriend if she knows any of your bad secrets. Stop telling her things. I repeat, stop telling her anything. If she sees you with anything. Tell her it was a gift. From who? My pastors wife... by the time you tell her my pastors wife 5times, she will use her teeth to count her tongue or vice versa.






Me. Female friend? Tufiakwa!!! Have I finished roaming about on nairaland after the days work?

Odiegwu!!!

EyeKandy:
I'm not sure if she's inspired by me or straight-up competitive? Will you be worried?

How do you handle a close friend that copies everything you do. I mean, If i buy a brown bag today, she gets hers as well. I recently went on a vacation with the bf and now, she's talking about going there too. When she wanted to get into the same career field, I was there for her, advised her on schools and everything, but I'm getting uncomfortable.

Its so bad that I don't tell her what I plan to do with my hair. I showed her a picture of a hair style I wanted so she quickly went and did hers so I don't tell her nothing no more. I've not braided my hair in years. Now I have box braids on my hair, yesterday she mentioned that "she wouldn't mind braiding hers cos she likes the way it looks" I'm like, chile.....she tried it again!

Am I being petty?

Your friend is actually suffering from low self esteem.Some ladies are like that, even when they are not really your friends they copy styles, mode of dressing and mannerisms.The unfortunate thing with such people is they don't see it as a vice and if care is not taken it leads to envy, avarice, bitterness.However, you can still help her in your own way by subtly letting her know that she has to explore her own individuality because it is not every woman that has innate quality of being stylish.

dsquare33:
Your friend is actually suffering from low self esteem.

This summarizes it. I already know that but i'm not sure how to inteprete her actions given that its a bit too extreme for my liking. She's a very caring person that's always in my house asking about every single detail of my life and cares to know what's up. But, the chronic copy-cat aspect is like identity theft.

As in, i agree with you! Girls could be very terrible!

veave:
I use to have that type of friend(monitoring spirit). She doesn't admire you but rather sees you as a threat to her. She feels you are more beautiful and better than she is. So she no want make you win her.





Let me tell you how to deal with such kind. Ignore her. And stay very far away from her. Such kind will do anything and everything possible to see you fall. Even go as far as snitching to your boyfriend if she knows any of your bad secrets. Stop telling her things. I repeat, stop telling her anything. If she sees you with anything. Tell her it was a gift. From who? My pastors wife... by the time you tell her my pastors wife 5times, she will use her teeth to count her tongue or vice versa.






Me. Female friend? Tufiakwa!!! Have I finished roaming about on nairaland after the days work?

Odiegwu!!!

veave:
I use to have that type of friend(monitoring spirit). She doesn't admire you but rather sees you as a threat to her. She feels you are more beautiful and better than she is. So she no want make you win her.





Let me tell you how to deal with such kind. Ignore her. And stay very far away from her. Such kind will do anything and everything possible to see you fall. Even go as far as snitching to your boyfriend if she knows any of your bad secrets. Stop telling her things. I repeat, stop telling her anything. If she sees you with anything. Tell her it was a gift. From who? My pastors wife... by the time you tell her my pastors wife 5times, she will use her teeth to count her tongue or vice versa.






Me. Female friend? Tufiakwa!!! Have I finished roaming about on nairaland after the days work?

Odiegwu!!!

Why do you have a bad secret you are keeping from your boyfriend?

Isn't that deception?

angieberry:
As in, i agree with you! Girls could be very terrible!

Are you one of the terrible ones?

Any kind of friend can turn on you at any time be they male or female.
Just focus on meeting good folks and maintaining positive relationships instead of labeling every female you come across as 'tufiakwa'

I'd like to know if you also consider yourself as not fit to be someone's friend based on your femaleness.

veave:
I use to have that type of friend(monitoring spirit). She doesn't admire you but rather sees you as a threat to her. She feels you are more beautiful and better than she is. So she no want make you win her.
Let me tell you how to deal with such kind. Ignore her. And stay very far away from her. Such kind will do anything and everything possible to see you fall. Even go as far as snitching to your boyfriend if she knows any of your bad secrets. Stop telling her things. I repeat, stop telling her anything. If she sees you with anything. Tell her it was a gift. From who? My pastors wife... by the time you tell her my pastors wife 5times, she will use her teeth to count her tongue or vice versa.

Me. Female friend? Tufiakwa!!! Have I finished roaming about on nairaland after the days work?

Odiegwu!!!

bellong:


Why do you have a bad secret you are keeping from your boyfriend?

Isn't that deception?

Boyfriend not husband. Even if it were her husband, I'll nadmivh t skinny be detrimental to their relationship, she has a right to keep a few secrets of her own.

Though being a role model to someone is good,but when it gets to the extrementhen it becomes dangerous,and not healthy..

Try as much to avoid her,else you will be stalked by her.

Insidous:


Boyfriend not husband. Even if it were her husband, I'll nadmivh t skinny be detrimental to their relationship, she has a right to keep a few secrets of her own.

Right to keep secret in a relationship?

We understand differently.

bellong:


Right to keep secret in a relationship?

We understand differently.

Don't we all have secrets of our own?

Insidous:

Don't we all have secrets of our own?

I have none. I don't do secret things...

bellong:


I have none. I don't do secret things...

Good for you. Not everyone can be like you

She has personality issues probably inferiority complex. . She sees you as her role model, that's why she tries to do things you do.. To the extent of going into same career path with you.. mehn

Such characters breed jealousy esp when she doesn't meet up with you. .

I think you should buy her some motivational books... I also think you should limit the extent you let her into your personal lives...

cococandy:
Any kind of friend can turn on you at any time be they male or female.
Just focus on meeting good folks and maintaining positive relationships instead of labeling every female you come across as 'tufiakwa'

I'd like to know if you also consider yourself as not fit to be someone's friend based on your femaleness.

You, my dear, are full of wisdom in the real sense. Such clarity!!! Not just a pretty face afterall...

cococandy:


Are you one of the terrible ones?

How are you and family?

Back to ghost mode

bukatyne:




How are you and family?

Back to ghost mode

Madam come back from ghost mode please.

babygirlfl:


Madam come back from ghost mode please.

Lols

How are you and family?

bukatyne:


Lols

How are you and family?

We are fine . Thanks. How is yours?

EyeKandy:
I'm not sure if she's inspired by me or straight-up competitive? Will you be worried?

How do you handle a close friend that copies everything you do. I mean, If i buy a brown bag today, she gets hers as well. I recently went on a vacation with the bf and now, she's talking about going there too. When she wanted to get into the same career field, I was there for her, advised her on schools and everything, but I'm getting uncomfortable.

Its so bad that I don't tell her what I plan to do with my hair. I showed her a picture of a hair style I wanted so she quickly went and did hers so I don't tell her nothing no more. I've not braided my hair in years. Now I have box braids on my hair, yesterday she mentioned that "she wouldn't mind braiding hers cos she likes the way it looks" I'm like, chile.....she tried it again!

Am I being petty?

you should happy your friend tries to copy you......

bukatyne:




How are you and family?

Back to ghost mode

fine o.

Ghost ke? lol

How r u guys?

Aww.

And it not even Christmas yet.

Thanks

Qualer:


You, my dear, are full of wisdom in the real sense. Such clarity!!! Not just a pretty face afterall...

Buy her motivational books.

That sounds good.

MarvellousGod:
She has personality issues probably inferiority complex. . She sees you as her role model, that's why she tries to do things you do.. To the extent of going into same career path with you.. mehn

Such characters breed jealousy esp when she doesn't meet up with you. .

I think you should buy her some motivational books... I also think you should limit the extent you let her into your personal lives...

cococandy:
fine o.

Ghost ke? lol

How r u guys?

Splendid

babygirlfl:


We are fine . Thanks. How is yours?

Splendid, thanks

Lol no, but I've had my fair share of horrible experience with 'friends'

cococandy:


Are you one of the terrible ones?

angieberry:
Lol no, but I've had my fair share of horrible experience with 'friends'

If you claim not to be a 'horrible' friend, if Veave also claims not to be terrible...

Who are the terrible ones