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BABE3:
...that is the question.

In this day and age, they say a smartphone says a lot about a person than words of mouth. So in a relationship(any kind of relationship), is going through your partner's phone/laptop advisable ?

•Some say "Snoop!".
Snooping has saved a lot of people from STDs. Snooping has made some so called main chics realized they were side chics. Snooping has even prompted a father somewhere to know that he is not the father of his 2 kids.

•Some say "Don't snoop, you have to trust him/her".
However, the trust you have in someone has no bearing on what the person will do or will not do. Trusting is a personal decision just like "faith", it has no impact on the truth.


So, what say ye ?

I am of the opinion that snooping should be mutually allowed by every married couple for each other.

I see no reason why any spouse would hide his/her phone contents from the other. There should be total openness between the couple.

Hence, the man should be free to go through his wife's phone without hindrance and vice verse. This even helps to do away with unnecessary suspicion in marriage.

BABE3:
...that is the question.

In this day and age, they say a smartphone says a lot about a person than words of mouth. So in a relationship(any kind of relationship), is going through your partner's phone/laptop advisable ?

•Some say "Snoop!".
Snooping has saved a lot of people from STDs. Snooping has made some so called main chics realized they were side chics. Snooping has even prompted a father somewhere to know that he is not the father of his 2 kids.

•Some say "Don't snoop, you have to trust him/her".
However, the trust you have in someone has no bearing on what the person will do or will not do. Trusting is a personal decision just like "faith", it has no impact on the truth.


So, what say ye ?

BABE3, how far na. T'is been a while, girl.

Re: topic - I say snooping is for bone idle folks.

Honestly, I think it's energy-draining to say the least. Why spend so much time and effort giving one's self a heart attack, when that time and energy can be used for something more productive - like making yourself happy? That aside, I think snooping on a spouse's or partner's phone is extremely distasteful.

What many folks don't seem to realize is that a person who intends to play the field will do so irrespective of whether the other chooses to play CIA / FBI. What stops a philandering partner from discretely getting another phone / number just for cheating? Abeg life's too short to bother oneself unnecessarily. I personally don't touch hubby's phone. I'm not even in the least curious. Whenever his phone rings and he's not there to pick it up, I find it massively irritating and inconveniencing to pick it up and hand over to him without bothering to answer the call.

EfemenaXY:
BABE3, how far na. T'is been a while, girl.

Re: topic - I say snooping is for bone idle folks.

Honestly, I think it's energy-draining to say the least. Why spend so much time and effort giving one's self a heart attack, when that time and energy can be used for something more productive - like making yourself happy? That aside, I think snooping on a spouse's or partner's phone is extremely distasteful.

What many folks don't seem to realize is that a person who intends to play the field will do so irrespective of whether the other chooses to play CIA / FBI. What stops a philandering partner from discretely getting another phone / number just for cheating? Abeg life's too short to bother oneself unnecessarily. I personally don't touch hubby's phone. I'm not even in the least curious. Whenever his phone rings and he's not there to pick it up, I find it massively irritating and inconveniencing to pick it up and hand over to him without bothering to answer the call.

I'm fine thank you. Thanks for asking. I'm sure you're fine too.

Noted. Just wanted to get people's opinions.

NO. That's what the intuition is for.

I don't snoop.

Naturally, married or not, I allow those around me to be.

He gives me my space too. Who get time for all these?
Will it stop him/her from cheating if they want to?