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gidjah:
I do not think ur oga has any reason not to pack to a more comforting and serene enviroment, at least two rooms will fairly do for a wife and two kids. but if its d schooling things and taking care of d kids thats making him to be financially un able to move out, then u two must re strategise and let more money come in. Are through with school!is he him self through with sch?how old are d kids??how well is ur oga doing? This qustions begging to b answered, will help us into givinging out

advice.

SAMBARRY:
Thats what happens when you fail to plan your own life while he's planning his. You are relying on promise of the mouth propelled by agro that can fail at anytime without proper documentation (registry wedding) that will force him to behave like a man even if his brain is not better than a 5year old.

You didn't even wait for him to execute his promise before popping out children so if he doesn't you can talk to your legs. You popped out 2, e Don see you finish, he knows you don't have a choice and your options are non existent you're now crying foul.


Don't worry he'll build the house when you are 89years old





#singing# kokoro moshuary oun lo shi oun loti.gaji ti mara

EggovinMma:
Harsh, but bitter truth.
I don't know why people who are not financially buoyant drops kids like kilode. She for first hold one, dey watch the guy, just in case. I tire for some ladies o.

SAMBARRY:
the guy Don see her finish na so he'll be like what's the point in wasting money. It's just like buying a car without paying and using it for like 5years. It's not the same as it used to be then the seller is now pressurising you for his money. Of course you won't be keen on paying or fulfilling the promise


but if you see a car and the owner says before you can even touch this car much less enter it you have to do abcdef. Naturally you'll be eager to do it just so you can have the car


that's the case of the lady. If she had insisted that the guy has to build the house before marriage whether he's a student or not that one no concern her. As long as he wants to get married to her and if he's not ready he can check the next bus top

of which if he had even built the house it'll have been mutually beneficial sef.

from the look of things that guy is not willing to move out of there even if he has the money. Shiooorrr

EggovinMma:
My dear, the lady first find trouble. The family of the guy doesn't like her from the ononset.This is the first red flag, now, am sure they might not give two fuccs about what is going on with the marriage. I don't know why people don't plan well before settling down.The guy obviously do not care about her opinion In this case. Ladies need to get sense.One guy here say some Women get fish brain, the guy no no say some na jellyfish.

SAMBARRY:
Very true. At this point his family won't send her. That reminds me of what Tony said

EggovinMma:
Exactly, but where has she been all those while with the kids? Make she continue to endure the infection, all na sacrifice.If she carry disease shebi she go share am give the husband ke?

okangisaiah:
I think both patners salary is hundred thousand plus #30000 allowance of husband. Kids are girls 5 and 18 months. The man's reason is that he needs to start planning for the future.

okangisaiah:
I think both patners salary is hundred thousand plus #30000 allowance of husband. Kids are girls 5 and 18 months. The man's reason is that he needs to start planning for the future.

gidjah:
Hmm,,for a 100k in PH?,i served as a corper there and i know wot life ova there looks like, but since they aint both going to sch again, immediate comfort is much more impotant than any future u are not perfectly sure of.what if after buildind d skyscrapper, those kids become street kids due to d kind of life they gat exposed to in d creeks?all this investmnt his talking about wont be able to solve that trouble o.if madam contact a seious and mor deadly sickness from dat enviomnt dat might even defise medical teatment, can ds investments stay long?,will he b ever happy?a lady frend of mine who use to starve while piling up her money in d little days, now have chronic first class Ulcer,(i man d type u will be seeing wintches and wizards in your room when the crisis starts!).now she is rich, she cant eat all she like ,d ulcer is dealin with her seiously, she can just start throwing up in d middle of dignitaries when the ulcer thing starts!,i use to tell her to eat on time then,but she will tell me she is saving for this, saving for that, now the money don come, no full enjoyment.pls let d oga see good reasons to the side of this, the ngative effect will far outweigh the positive.a little two room wont do any harm na.i hope they are really working on savings too.madam appeal to his conscience pls,lse contract me to help do d talking

EggovinMma:
Harsh, but bitter truth.
I don't know why people who are not financially buoyant drops kids like kilode. She for first hold one, dey watch the guy, just in case. I tire for some ladies o.

ireneidiva:
Please work on you English. It's terrible!

SAMBARRY:
Thats what happens when you fail to plan your own life while he's planning his. You are relying on promise of the mouth propelled by agro that can fail at anytime without proper documentation (registry wedding) that will force him to behave like a man even if his brain is not better than a 5year old.

You didn't even wait for him to execute his promise before popping out children so if he doesn't you can talk to your legs. You popped out 2, e

They decided to marry, money did not come as expected so they opted for traditional and court marriage(some siblings of hussy did not welcome her)

okangisaiah:
A friend of mine told me this:

She met her husband in 2008 both working and schooling. They decided to marry, money did not come as expected so they opted for traditional and court marriage(some siblings of hussy did not welcome her). She earlier complained of the environment her husband was living which is waterside in ph, her husband said he is only living there to school after graduation he will rent a new accommodation and marriage blessing will be done after wife's graduation when she is ready to join him( she was schooling in a different state).

Fast forward to 2015 after 5years of graduation with 2 kids hussy said he will not do wedding or rent house again that he wants to still in the waterside, buy a land and build his own house before packing.

There has been series of problem threatening the survival of the marriage as wife insist the marriage blessing must be done as promised and a new accommodation. That she can't share toilet with over 50 people which has been causing her series of toilet infection.


Mature and serious advise needed please

edwife:
Please what does this mean? If i read correctly they did have a wedding(traditional and court),no?

What i see here is what they call entitlement princess,they only have one problem here and it's the house-she is a very married woman as far as i know.Does wearing a white dress in front of a priest promise a blissful marriage? This is not a priority,a new accommodation is.

That man should move his family to a sane place for pete's sake,it is disgusting to make all that money and subject your family to such lifestyle.