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Re: Girls night out discussions by Kimoni: 3:54pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
Sagamite: Saga, you are a clown. "Happily married" does not mean there are no challenges naa How can true love be a scam biko. Too much book is affecting you o |
Re: Girls night out discussions by bukatyne(f): 4:32pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
Sagamite: There is a minority of married people who are 'truly' happily married Don't tell me you are just going through the thread now |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 9:14pm On Aug 25, 2015 |
sagamite nice try . . you are sha always trying to excape marriage by all means It wont work o! Happy is personal What I consider happy may be different from others What it takes to make me happy may be different from others Everyone has bad days, even the best marriages do its how they cope with those bad days that determines what next |
Re: Girls night out discussions by thelish(f): 1:12am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Kimoni:I feel in love with ur post. full of wisdom. Tank u |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 8:51am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Kimoni: Abegi! There is rarely anything like "happily married". What you have is "contently married". The whole happily married phrase is just a self-and-public-deceit term conjured up by delusional and dubious people who are avidly pro-marriage. It is so rare, those that have it are possibly not normal. I love to say it as it is. Nothing wrong with "contently married" but no one should try and fooool me. I live my life being a completely independent and divergent thinker, who is comfortable being a contrarian to popular belief. The whole world can be going one way and I will say "Fck it, I am going the other way". If you noticed earlier, I reminded cococandy that I was not a follow-follow person when I was talking about my Sagakids. bukatyne: I just am o. I was called in to answer a question and I strictly did that. Never looked at original post. Yes, there are a minority. ........................A very tiny minority. ............................ A negligible minority. ......................... A strange minority. tearoses: I have escaped o. Mo bo lowo won. (I escaped from them). The more I look at the institution, its history, the changes taking place and the unrealistic expectations, the more it is less attractive to me. Many confuse happiness to contentment. Secondly, I can tell you with all self-assured authority that majority of marriages are DEFINITELY unhappy. 2 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Kimoni: 9:35am On Aug 26, 2015 |
thelish: Thank you |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Kimoni: 9:45am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Sagamite: When are Sagakids arriving? Or has any arrived? Are they arriving outside or within the marriage institution? (I am not expecting any answers o) You realise it's easier to impact them when you are still young, able and agile? At least speaking from my own experience, my older siblings say my dad had gone "soft" by the time I was born and I did not meet his "very disciplined" nature. And I hear and see the same trend around me. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by jaybee3(m): 10:46am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Saga's views about union will change when he finds that one special person jare... Love as they say usually makes us do silly things so nothing dey happen |
Re: Girls night out discussions by cococandy(f): 11:15am On Aug 26, 2015 |
Sagamite how many times have you been married? |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Idowuogbo(f): 11:22am On Aug 26, 2015 |
jaybee3:EXACTLY!!! .all this one he dey tok na paparazzi. My own is,he should just send us colour when time reach. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 12:36pm On Aug 26, 2015 |
Sagamite: And I had one very beautiful "sister" with very good pedigree that I wanted to give you o! Abeg dont use big grammer here joor! If you are content arent you happy? Plus there are some things that marriage cant do for you. You have to be able to do those things yourself. Its when people expect too much they become dissapointed. Marriage will not make a sad person happy. Marriage will not complete a "half person" and make them whole. Thats why you need to be matured and ready before you get married 1 Like |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 4:41pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
cococandy: See question o. 12 times. jaybee3: Idowuogbo: You mean that attractive girl (lepa, Orobo, inbetween, I like them all), who is sexy, who has a nice attitude, is not selfish, is willing to consider my interest and does not think I came to world only/it is my responsibility to satisfy her interest because she is the ish, fun to be around and hardly are we fighting, can have an intellectual conversation or is at least willing to listen to one and learn, is ready to sign prenup and would not argument that my success was dependent on being with her, is not a slut, is a good mother, who is not emotionally needy and is at least reasonable in the kitchen (any cuisine is fine)? You mean when I find that? Think about it, how long do you think that will take before I find those in one person? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 4:44pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Kimoni: Ideally it would be within marriage, but I suspect most likely it will be outside marriage as that makes more sense. I think if you have not had any, your energy would still be stored with limited diminishment even as you grow older. 1 Like |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 4:47pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
tearoses: Beautiful sister? How many times have I heard that and the girl come worwor small? Contentment is not happy. Happiness is about meeting most of your aspirations. Contentment is about meeting the minimum threshold of your aspirations and feeling/realising/convincing yourself that you can't do better or not having the willpower to do better. 2 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by 2CatWoman: 9:17pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Sagamite: And what are you bringing to the table apart from your "wealth" [size=2pt] and ego [/size] ? 2 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by bukatyne(f): 9:18pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Sagamite: What are you bringing to the table? |
Re: Girls night out discussions by bukatyne(f): 9:19pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
2CatWoman: Hahahahahaha! Are you a mind reader? |
Re: Girls night out discussions by 2CatWoman: 9:21pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: Babes, I'm glad someone else was thinking the same thing . |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 10:08pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
2CatWoman: bukatyne: You mean apart from the privilege of making her dreams come through? Lets park the fact that I am not the one that wants to get married, so I really don't have to bring something to the table to negotiate over something I am not keen on doing. The whole nonsense perception the average woman thinks marriage is or should be is definitely not my perception, so I am very happy for them to find a man that shares their perception because I will DEFINITELY define mine. Why? I no be follow-follow persin o! But that apart. I am bringing financial, emotional and physical security. I am bringing a guy that can and will 100% provide because this nigga aint the type of option available in the black community to leave his child. I am bringing a guy that is everly and everlastingly interesting, funny and knowledgeable. I am bringing a guy that is a problem solver and mentorship. I am bringing a guy that can raise SUPER-kids. I am also bringing to the table a few in a lifetime opportunity for them to have kids with Sagamu blood running in their veins. What I am definitely not bringing is the patience for BS. I can marry today and divorce 6 days later if I need to. ABSOLUTELY ZERO PATIENCE! No woman should ever think because we are married now, she can now misbehave. And also I aint bringing a guy that will give away 50% of his assets. So, yes, I am the MVP. I am bringing to the table far more than I need to bring. Now how many women bring anything to the table to be worth that? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Girls night out discussions by cococandy(f): 3:57am On Sep 05, 2015 |
What's on this list that the woman won't be bringing? Her own money. Her own knowledge. Her own emotional security to the union and what have you. Giving you the privilege of being the father of her kids. What 100% financial security are you brining except you're dangote and not telling us. I've noticed some men exaggerate their worth as if the women they will get married to are kitchen stools that don't contribute anything to the marriage. Sagamite: 4 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:24am On Sep 05, 2015 |
cococandy: Una dey see? Women and twisting argument. How did financial security and 100% that were separate conjoined for me all of a sudden? Secondly, are we now going to waste some time arguing that most women do not marry up and aim for that? They are not looking for and aiming for a guy that is more affluent than them? Thirdly, are we saying it is not the norm for men to spend on women? Fourthly, if a woman has money, knowledge, emotional security etc and thinks that is what I am going to be attracted to, then I am afraid she can shove it up her arsse because that is not what will make me marry her? That is like an illegal migrant crossing the Ocean to Europe saying he is coming with $50K so the Western countries should open their borders and celebrate he is entering their country. If he comes and says he is a potential Nobel prize winning scientist that can cure Alzeimer's, they might send a private jet though. One has something they want and need, the other has something of very little value to them. The illegal immigrant is the one that wants to enter the country not the country inviting him, even though he might eventually be a valued member of the society. I am not the one looking to marry, even though it may eventually be a good union. It is important the more relunctant party is enticed with what they would like. As for her giving me the "privilege" of being the father of her kid, well I am sorry to say, I have seen many women giving some black men the "privilege" of being the father of their kids but the men showed them how "privileged" they felt by being humble enough to renounce the right to that "privilege" and then disappear so she can hold on to the "privilege". Sorry, cococandy babes, black men like me are gold to the black community. It is the woman's privilege I am the father of the child. Too many useless black men around. 4 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 9:28am On Sep 05, 2015 |
jaybee3: Thank you jare When he meets Mrs Saga . . .he will be hopping & singing to the tube station in the mornings |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 9:35am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sagamite: Haaaaaa! Beru Olorun o Fear God Which community are you talking about The average God fearing educated Naija black man in the UK is a decent man . . . . are you not decent? What makes you think that you are in a minority? You better pick someone now, before you are left with ajeku & bones. Forget TV01's argument o! The older you get the lesser your chances of being able to pick an "all inclusive" becasue she would have already been snapped up by someone who knows her worth. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:38am On Sep 05, 2015 |
tearoses: When I meet a girl, even if she makes my heart skip a beat, I have come to an awareness level that means I don't conjure up this romantic, bury-your-head-in-the-sand fairytale of us being together. I will evaluate thoroughly (but not anally) to ensure it is worth a longterm commitment. A lot of fine women's attitude of thinking you have to worship the ground they live on, and it is their entitlement, makes them fail evaluation. I have to be happy and live happily. It is a freaking priority. I didn't come to this world to follow social rules, norms or beliefs. I am in this world to enjoy the only one unrewindable chance I will get at living in it. 2 Likes |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 9:40am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sagamite: You will enjoy it even more with Mrs Saga by your side Trust me |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:42am On Sep 05, 2015 |
tearoses: You mean the ones that beat their wives, get drunk to stupor and have concubines lined up outside? The funny thing is how they would pride themselves on not missing church on Sundays in their best dress. Only someone desperate to marry will pick ajeku and bones. And by the way, they modern world we live in now, majority of the girls and guys are ajeku and bones by 25. They should be worried about me being "snapped up". 1 Like |
Re: Girls night out discussions by cococandy(f): 9:43am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sagamite: @bold, yet it is the black men who won't let us hear for 'provision' they provide to their own kids and it is them who make more noise about what a lady has to offer or bring to the table. Thank god say you know they are the even more prone to disappoint when it comes to being responsible. More prone to leaving strings of kids in their wake than others (maybe rivaled by Mexicans ) I wonder what all the noise is about. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:43am On Sep 05, 2015 |
tearoses: Yeah right. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:46am On Sep 05, 2015 |
cococandy: I already said that long ago. https://www.nairaland.com/1579818/girls-night-out-discussions/30#37014651 That is why I know I am gold-dust! |
Re: Girls night out discussions by cococandy(f): 9:47am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sagamite: I hear you |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Nobody: 9:48am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sagamite: LOL I have a cousin that said double the things you say here Double!!! if not triple sef. His mama was so worried at the things he used to say Me sef I was worried. I wont lie. Then GHEN GHEN Today all I see is FB pictures & wifey and kids all over it BTW he had 2 kids in one year We are begging him to slow down. If I didnt know better I would have said it was juju I will send that bug that bit him to bite you. |
Re: Girls night out discussions by Sagamite(m): 9:53am On Sep 05, 2015 |
tearoses: If I find the woman I described above, maybe that miracle will happen. |
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