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cococandy:
Hahaha

wristbangle:
[s]If I do that, what will now be the responsibility of my wife. I can babysit her for few days but for all days?? Who is going to provide the financial assistance for the upkeep of the family[/s].

Anyway dear I understand u are speaking from the emotional aspect but I am speaking from a logical perspective.

MzCorleone:
Am sorry to say,your argument abi concern is baseless,let go of your ego for your kid(s) sake.



Logical ko,logistics ni

SalC:
Seriously when I see the number of women on the streets of Naija with babies strapped to their backs and perhaps pulling another by the hand and a tray of groundnut of a bowl of sachet water on their heads, another in the market place with baby on the back and a pushing a wheel barrow of this or that under the scorching sun. Then you come online to see men claiming they can't take care of their own babies because they work for the upkeep of their family, it beats my imagination.

So the women who work or do business and still take care of the babies are now fools? I don't even want to go into the fact that most of these men who claim to be to busy to take care of their children are actually being fed and cared for by their wives

If they are actually providing for their families as they want us to believe, those women should be at home or more conducive places doing their business with those children and not under the sun.

Real men work for their families' upkeep and still have time for their kids.

You suggested they should sell the kids, incase they don't find buyers, I suggest they sow the kids as seed on faith in their churches

wristbangle:
Seems u cannot comprehend my comments.

cococandy:
Na side eye I dey use look anyone who says that rubbish on this forum.
They are insincere and mischievous.

You're talking of the market place. Go to the civil service sectors and private companies, banks and what have you and see that working class women are of the same proportion is not more than the men.

Yet somehow they all believe the wives are all dependent.

Sow the children as seed?
Lol those churches need money. .

damiso:
You pay/ask/beg someone to babysit or nanny your child. A parent can't 'babysit or nanny' their own child.

So a father is simply taking care of his child when the mother is not around is the same way the mother does when the dad is not around. I also used to say 'hubby is babysitting the kids' but someone brought the use of the word to my attention.

Granted some mums(to be fair some dads too) tend to be more reluctant to be away from their children for extended periods ( I know i say I can't wait to offload them but after 3 days am missing their wahala ) but a child or anyone forms a bond with someone they spend one on one time with.how y'all gonna bond with your kids if you don't want to spend one on one time with them?

SalC:
Seriously when I see the number of women on the streets of Naija with babies strapped to their backs and perhaps pulling another by the hand and a tray of groundnut or a bowl of sachet water on their heads, another in the market place with baby on the back while pushing a wheel barrow of this or that under the scorching sun. Then you come online to see men claiming they can't take care of their own babies because they work for the upkeep of their family, it beats my imagination.

So the women who work or do business and still take care of the babies are now fools? I don't even want to go into the fact that most of these men who claim too be to busy to take care of their children are actually being fed and cared for by their wives

If they are actually providing for their families as they want us to believe, those women should be at home or more conducive places doing their business with those children and not under the sun.

Real men work for their families' upkeep and still have time for their kids.

You suggested they should sell the kids, incase they don't find buyers, I suggest they sow the kids as seed on faith in their churches

MzCorleone:
Seems you cannot comprehend mine either.

Oahray:
you are right about the babysitting word usage. One can't 'nanny' a child though, regardless of who the person is, because nanny is a noun and not a verb.

Some men only bond with their friends, mistresses and bottles of beer. Why would they try to bond with their kids, when the African society sees it as an unmanly thing to do? We still have a long way to go.

5minsmadness:
The only thing is thier mom got upset when she found out i was giving her kids beer to help them sleep at night...She refused to leave them with me after that

TV01:
...abi 0, 5 mins.

You too have the type that thinks nobody can look after the child like she can? Always raising an eyebrow at my unique "manparenting" methodology

She went on a 5 day residential course once. Always calling, constant face-timing. We'd be playing our special "gbosa" wrestling game, F/T, just sitting down to eat F/T, we'd be in the middle of having water games in the bath, F/T. And I rarely keep my phone to hand. Kilode gan sef

Even small things like calling the baby carrier a holster? Slightly late nappy changes or not feeding to the second. Proper helicopter mum. I can't even tell her half the escapades we have when she's not around - she'd like faint .
TV

ogogoro:
When i got a new job, my husband who was self-employed at the time looked after the kids and I paid him half of what I would have paid a nanny. Win-win

Kimoni:


I just had this feeling I don't hear half of it and nobody would tell, [size=18pt] I had to install a CCTV in the house[/size] so I can see every damn thing that goes on in the house. And the app is right there on my phone so I get to see it all from anywhere on this planet

It's just that I rarely have the chance to playback everything I miss Of course, my husband thinks I am paranoid but I remind him of my 9 month journey

5minsmadness:
You are seriously paranoid.
Oh wait, you already admitted it.

Somtimes I let them side from the Stairway and catch them as they fall. It's mad fun

innervoice:
I have the feeling I am surrounded by i.diots. Why would I not want to take care of MY children?

Joy1706:
After ya'll will be asking why children prefer their mothers to their fathers. Smh

5minsmadness:
You are seriously paranoid.

Oh wait, you already admitted it.

Somtimes I let them slide from the Stairway and catch them as they fall. It's mad fun

wristbangle:
The responsibilities of a wife in a marriage centres more on the welfare of her family in terms of cooking, washing, upkeep, and taking care of the children is one of her top priority.

However, an unforeseen circumstances or emergency situation may arise that would put the husband in no position than need the service of a nanny to help babysit the child

So guys can you employ the responsibility of a nanny to help take care of your child in the absence of your wife or you will compromise by taking the child to nanny home?

innervoice:
I have the feeling I am surrounded by i.diots. Why would I not want to take care of MY children?

wristbangle:
The responsibilities of a wife in a marriage centres more on the welfare of her family in terms of cooking, washing, upkeep, and taking care of the children is one of her top priority.

However, an unforeseen circumstances or emergency situation may arise that would put the husband in no position than need the service of a nanny to help babysit the child

So guys can you employ the responsibility of a nanny to help take care of your child in the absence of your wife or you will compromise by taking the child to nanny home?

cococandy:
Good morning

Timbuktou:
Ediot, read the question again. I've taken the liberty of reposting it here so you can read.



Innervoice, ediot, now answer according to the OP. Stop projecting your abysmal childhood on the rest of Nairaland.

Timbuktou:
As usual, the paranoid ediots have to make it a he versus she argument. The OP clearly asks if the husband would bring a nanny to the home or drop the kids of at a sitter's. Thread has been derailed to slay fathers reluctant to care for their kids. Too many women with daddy issues in this forum.

Weep not women. You can make up for your fatherlessness by marrying the perfect man.

Kimoni:


I just had this feeling I don't hear half of it and nobody would tell, so I had to install a CCTV in the house so I can see every damn thing that goes on in the house. And the app is right there on my phone so I get to see it all from anywhere on this planet

It's just that I rarely have the chance to playback everything I miss Of course, my husband thinks I am paranoid but I remind him of my 9 month journey

Timbuktou:
As usual, the paranoid ediots have to make it a he versus she argument.

Timbuktou:
Ediot, read the question again. I've taken the liberty of reposting it here so you can read.



Innervoice, ediot, now answer according to the OP. Stop projecting your abysmal childhood on the rest of Nairaland.

innervoice:
So you are still hurting?

wristbangle:
Thanks baba. I almost regret posting this thread. Even the married ones follow suite the dim nitwit kids. Shame on them all.