₦airaland Forum

2rez:
My brother, me sef i taya for them using that phrase oh. Akike, u can't deny u didnt see that. U wont oppose that now oh. Issokay

queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!

queenfav:
thank God you are joking.I don't live with my boyfriend,we talked on phone,He just has a way of knowing when I have something on my mind troubling me.I still stand on my decision never to compromise myself to get a job.I know my worth as a lawyer,it would just take a few more years and I will look back at these ugly experiences and smile.

sadoz:
good move I just hope u sef no dey lie ooh. U just said in a previous post dt your boyfriend noticed from your countenance that something was amiss. How come he noticed your facial expression via phone call abi Na grammar kleg

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jesussaves22:
No apologies to u ok. You have a block cerebelum and that makes you a certified dunce ok. Women are block headed including you. Bkos i dont know you dats why you are claiming a genius . You may be messing up with your boss nonsense you. See wo-man see bragging

Atmmachine:
You can get what you want with what you have.
Meanwhile others fuccked you for free without offering you a job

Atmmachine:
Just answer this question.
Is your fiance the only one you have give your pusssy to ??
If your answer is "NO"
Why can't you give it to this interviewer and get a good job ?? Others have been pounding you for free.

akike:
You have every right to give her a befitting reply. It is not my headache.

2rez:
Guess it used to be but has stopped.

4lorunsho:
wereh ni oruko ti won so e ; can u tell ur blood sister to sleep with a man old enough to be your father or anybody to get a job. Your life is adaripon

queenfav:
With the kind of comments people are making,I am sso convinced that many are indeed mad!yet few are roaming.who here would advice his sister of his girlfriend to do that just to get a job?Its wrong how many who are meant to be mature reason on nairaland.Well,I didn't post this for commendation or whatever trash many are spewing here.I just needed to vent and get it off my chest.I must say,I pity our generation with the kind of comments am reading here.

spikesC:
What kind of test? what is wrong with this my country men self

0rex:
Miss Favour! So you brought this issue to an online forum? You should know I'm a well connected & tech-savvy man.
Well... I guess you have already decided not to follow up with the offer.

All the best to you.

4lorunsho:
wereh ni oruko ti won so e ; can u tell ur blood sister to sleep with a man old enough to be your father or anybody to get a job. Your life is adaripon

queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!

queenfav:
lol..guy everyone knows lawyers are meant to dress smartly.A client or firm looking to hire you assesses you first by your dress sense.They wouldn't want to hire someone who looks shabby.Infact,lawyers who dress shabbilly are either percieved as unsuccessful or not smart enough.That's because the profession is all about a good image and charisma.Besides,my makeup was very minimal.So make I go on deeper life level for the interview,then when am resuming work,I will turn up looking sharp?The toasting will still take place na.Men who are He-goats just don't know where to draw the line professionally.If they even interview a goat wearing a skirt suit,they will still make a move regardless.

queenfav:
That would make the workplace very uncomfortable for me.Plus,once a boss has asked a lady out,he starts criticizing her work,treating her with disrespect just because she turned him down.How can I be at my best professionally in that kind of tense atmosphere?

indigene:
See you Nwa lawyer. You re also a sinner before God, if you believe in him.
Your saying committed relationship? Are you married? Committed relationship, No cheating! Likely you and your boyfriend has been changing bedsheets far more than married people.
Get married to be legit. As a lawyer don't you known what living with a man who is not statutorily married to you amount to?

Kingbilo:
You have compromised your job search by putting this post up with your face on your profile

maestroferddi:
The conduct of the interviewer was undeniably reprehensible.
However, you need to get street-smart. Your comments sound/look simplistic and naïve.
You should grow the thick skin requisite for survival both out there and in the corporate jungle. And that is not suggesting that you compromise on your morals and values.
Just learn the skills that are vital to keeping your head above water...

queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!

Donpuzo:
An employer has a right to go beyond academic test to interview on morals or decency.

No concrete statement on her part to conclude that it was not a mere test. Most especially drawing from the fact that someone made the recommendation.

Just my view though, I might be wrong.

baibijay:
Every female job seeker, in my opinion has faced this same situation at one time or the other.

My first experience of such was on completing my bsc, I stated looking for a place to gain some working experience since I knew that we won't be mobilized till after about 9months.

I got referred to this man by a bank manager.

During the interview he got personal and started the 'are you free to hang out later' talk. I made sure to tell him I usually spend my free time with my fiancé. And he still went on. He even made an attempt to tempt me with salary and said Ishould come next day to a hotel.
So people now pick up job letters in the hotel. That was how I left there and forgot about it.

Things like this come up everyday. Don't let it affect your search for a job. Because the experience can be really discouraging and devastating.