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[quote author=queenfav post=39045749]I am surprised at the amorous nature of the interview.

I thought lawyers chose what they say or do very carefully

....."because anything you say or do may be used against you in court."

queenfav:
My joy knew no bounds when my landlord's wife called a lawyer she once worked with to get me an interview appointment with his firm. Despite my tiredness after the POP ceremony, I managed to wake up early to get there by 8.am. My hopes were high with the possibility of getting a job barely 24hrs after POP. That's how I waited till 10.am o, before the man showed up. He ushered me into his office, and the interview began.

First off, I pride myself as a lady who dresses decently both for corporate and for casual occasions. So, this wasn't a case of immoral dressing on my part. That's how the managing partner interviewing me started looking at me to the point of me wondering if something was amiss. The next thing he said was, "you look really smart, and pretty. I like you already counsel."I just mumbled "thank you Sir". As a lawyer, he asked some pretty tough scenario based questions, which I scaled through by giving my legal opinion. He then asked for my credentials, which I proceeded to give him. That was when the man proceeded to leave his seat and placed his hand on my shoulder. I was so pertrified! I shook free and he got the message that he should keep his hands to his damn self.

The interview then took a personal turn. He started asking about my relationship status. I quickly responded that I was engaged. His reply was "me too am married, can't you see my ring", I like you a lot...you are a very pretty lady. I am sure a lot of judges are fighting over you in this state. Your credentials are great, you seem smart, just my kind of woman..what if I want to date you?". I was so shocked!! That was when I told him straight off that I don't date married guys, let alone one who may become my boss. Also that I am in a very committed relationship and don't condole cheating. He was a bit stunned, but took it in good faith. He asked a few other questions before ending the interview, saying his other partners would interview me on monday, that's when I will know if I am getting the job.

This experience left me very shocked and sad, that an interviewer would blatantly ask me out. Whatever happened to work ethics and morality? I just hope I don't get experiences like this again. Its very insulting and demeaning to say the least. Please, Nigerian men this is so wrong. A woman should be interviewed and hired for her brains and academic intellect, not because she is pretty and you just want a new plaything. I was so close to insulting him, I just had to keep calm and address the issue in a very firm way. May God help all female jobseekers o. If there's anything I am not ready to do is to sleep with any man, because he is in a position to give me a job. Not after 6 years invested into my legal career. Not now, not ever!

Shame on this fellow. If he has sisters or daughters would he want similar experience for them.

OP avoid that company. There are other professional places and look to start your own chamber.

I still don't get it, why some men mortgage their career bc of punny. it's so not worth it. Certain professions are based on reputation and law is one of them. Why risk it all?

In Nigeria, punny is avsilable for sale round the clock in practically all neighborhood (badoo made sure). Why embarrass yourself esp with a professional colleague u may be seeing all your life?

Even If she comes hitting on you probably bc of your success, charm, charisma etc u still have to be very careful bc junior colleagues are never easy to shake off when things get sour - Relationship 101.

Nigerian girls are notorious for claiming a guy has been hitting on them even when they didn't. We live in a time when JOKES have to be properly explained sometimes so she doesn't leave your office with wrong impressions. And this mumu openly solicits from a junior colleague who was referred by a known person. Is he that daft or poster is actually all that?

queenfav:
My dear,that's the way most of them behave.A lot of young female lawyers can attest to that.I once called my former boss to help me get a job with a SAN,he just told me,'that man won't let you rest till he sleeps with you,I know him very well'.That's how I just killed the thought of working with the SAN.

E be like say they take woman do jazz for male lawyers.

Atmmachine:
Just answer this question.
Is your fiance the only one you have give your pusssy to ??
If your answer is "NO"
Why can't you give it to this interviewer and get a good job ?? Others have been pounding you for free.

ahen.this is one of the I must examine your vagina before giving you the job

na their type full university. Sex for grades

mr man if you are truly enlightened common sense should tell you that you don't indirectly coerce a woman to sleep with you because you are in a position of authority. If she likes you and wants to sleep with you just for the fun of it its different from a woman sleeping with her boss

as a matter of fact the moment she sleeps with her boss, every thing she has worked for will go down the drain. Grow up

Thank you.

See one of the few men that still use their brain to think and not their phrnese

Pennywise:
I still don't get it, why some men mortgage their career bc of punny. it's so not worth it. Certain professions are based on reputation and law is one of them. Why risk it all?

In Nigeria, punny is avsilable for sale round the clock in practically all neighborhood (badoo made sure). Why embarrass yourself esp with a professional colleague u may be seeing all your life?

Even If she comes hitting on you probably bc of your success, charm, charisma etc u still have to be very careful bc junior colleagues are never easy to shake off when things get going - Relationship 101.

Nigerian girls are notorious for claiming a guy has been hitting on them even when they didn't. We live in a time when JOKES have to be properly explained sometimes so she doesn't leave your office with wrong impressions. And this mumu openly solicits from a junior colleague who was referred by a known person. Is he that daft or u are actually all that?

BuddhaPalm:


So because one gentleman tried his luck, you don already start a crusade...

go and start hitting on your lecturer. Look at all these beasts that make all men look like the only thing men want is sek

ajuwarhodes:
U don't sound like a lawyer who can handle a rape case with these words...bucket lawyer

jealousy. How should she sound. Yeye dey boom

porka:
[size=13pt]Is this not how you would bring your client's case to the public one day?[/size]

shut up and go and read your books

Rexology:
What if he did that just to know your type of person? Because for him to have done that on the first day of the interview, to me it's quite suspicious. (Just want to think out of the box). Why not do a background check on him to know is antecedents in that regard?

good thinking

SAMBARRY:
jealousy. How should she sound. Yeye dey boom

thanks sambarry...I really don't have the energy to reply most of the stu.pid comments here.

Not surprised ladies of your solid high moral and ethical standard still exists. Keep it up. I pray your man values your worth! #JustThinkingAloud

queenfav:
thanks sambarry...I really don't have the energy to reply most of the stu.pid comments here.

a lot of little boys here on nl are usually intimidated and threatened when they see successful women. But when they hear they were kidnapped raped impregnated by unknown men involved in baby making business they're always happy hence the bile

the amusing thing is that if you eventually sleep with the guy just to get the job they're the same people who will bash you and even say you didn't earn your degree you most likely slept with lecturers to get the grades and now that you are out of school you are used to that habit. There are a lot of worthless men here on nl who thrive on women been downtrodden. Know your onions. The ones that are down need fear no fall, they're looking for those who will join them below

SAMBARRY:
a lot of little boys here on nl are usually intimidated and threatened when they see successful women. But when they hear they were kidnapped raped impregnated by unknown men involved in baby making business they're always happy hence the bile

the amusing thing is that if you eventually sleep with the guy just to get the job they're the same people who will bash you and even say you didn't earn your degree you most likely slept with lecturers to get the grades and now that you are out of school you are used to that habit. There are a lot of worthless men here on nl who thrive on women been downtrodden. Know your onions. The ones that are down need fear no fall, they're looking for those who will join them below

My dear,you have said it all.Thank God we still have people like you here who reason so maturely.Thanks a lot.

queenfav:
My dear,you have said it all.Thank God we still have people like you here who reason so maturely.Thanks a lot.

keep your head up high, be strong and hold on to your dreams

yoruba elders say the water you will drink will not pass you by

this should be your prayer

queenfav:
This is the exact thing my mum said to me just now when I called her. She was even laughing, that I am yet to encounter life as it really is.She adviced I go back on monday and if offered the job,state in clear terms that I won't date him.That if he isn't remorseful or willing to forget,then I can turn down the offer since it would be clear that he won't stop pestering me.

Yeah, ur mum has seen life and she knows so.

Meanwhile

And

that's from Tony to you @op

Yes op

Ahen

as for those Mr I have to see every woman's pants before I can employ them continue

nairaman66:
Best post ever! To all the males talking gibberish, you all should put yourself in her shoes or better still assume she is your sister.

But I doubt if you people will, because dumb guys don't think out of the box!!

It's a public forum, everyone is entitled to his/her opinions, plus there are just so many kids on here, typing without thinking.

Hmnn
Finally
@op

The only problem I have with you is coming on here. I find it amusing when people come to seek advice / talk about their personal life/experiences that needs to be kept confidential/professional on a forum as this where majority are unintelligent. Obviously, you need to garner more skills. I don't wanna conclude it's your first interview experience. Pls understand that you need to keep some experiences private. It would help you in your career.

majekdom2:
The only problem I have with you is coming on here. I find it amusing when people come to seek advice / talk about their personal life/experiences that needs to be kept confidential/professional. Obviously, you need to garner more skills. I don't wanna conclude it's your first interview experience. Pls understand that you need to keep some experiences private. It would help you in your career.

and die in silence. Abeg waka joor


how will other ladies learn? Shioorr

next

Op wow, you beautiful, hence the issue,if u were not engaged i would have been interested sharply , anyways keep up the search, you can't just help it, u gonna get what u want, always put it to GOD in prayer.catch u

SAMBARRY:
and die in silence. Abeg waka joor


how will other ladies learn? Shioorr

next

so, tell me, how will she die in silence ? Has she taken the interviewer to court? How is the experience going to kill her.? Tell me again, if perhaps the man kept the session professional and she didn't perform upto expectation , Would she come on here, die or move on ? There is nothing to be learnt in the above story. It's simple as ABC. Move on, one can tell the kind of environment one would be working from an interview , if it isn't upto one's standard or not professional enough, one simply moves on. An average intelligent graduate knows what to do in this situation. This is just a story put up by a lady who may perhaps had the thought of giving in.

Olaa:
Sorryyyy.... Next interview engage your smartphone( I believe you have one) . Record the entire interview (meanwhile, remember to enable the Airplane mode before you start recording o) Don't just put the phone on vibration or silence. It's usually your words against his or against hers as the case may be. Better luck next time...

This would simply be a waste of time. Do you think a lawyer who had the guts to do that would not win this case in court? How about he says he was trying to test her integrity? As long as there was no physical harassment, it's never a case

queenfav:
thank God you are joking.I don't live with my boyfriend,we talked on phone,He just has a way of knowing when I have something on my mind troubling me.I still stand on my decision never to compromise myself to get a job[b].I know my worth as a lawyer,[/b]it would just take a few more years and I will look back at these ugly experiences and smile.

young woman, it is not a lawyer thing. It's simply self dignity and esteem.

Kingbilo:
You have compromised your job search by putting this post up with your face on your profile

Thank you. If only many young graduates understand what professionalism is?

queenfav:
My dear,you have said it all.Thank God we still have people like you here who reason so maturely.Thanks a lot.

No offence tho, but how is it that you have a blue iris?
And are those strands of grey hair on your head?

Hater there's nothing wrong in sharing negative job hunting experience. She's not the first to share her negative job search experience

a guy on nl too has come here to lament about the sexual harassment he encountered when he was in search of a job at a bank so quit looking for something to criticize when there's nothing to criticize

majekdom2:
so, tell me, how will she die in silence ? Has she taken the interviewer to court? How is the experience going to kill her.? Tell me again, if perhaps the man kept the session professional and she didn't perform upto expectation , Would she come on here, die or move on ? There is nothing to be learnt in the above story. It's simple as ABC. Move on, one can tell the kind of environment one would be working from an interview , if it isn't upto one's standard or not professional enough, one simply moves on. An average intelligent graduate knows what to do in this situation. This is just a story put up by a lady who may perhaps had the thought of giving in.

SAMBARRY:
Hater there's nothing wrong in sharing negative job hunting experience. She's not the first to share her negative job search experience

a guy on nl too has come here to lament about the sexual harassment he encountered when he was in search of a job at a bank so quit looking for something to criticize when there's nothing to criticize

I don't wanna assume you are have no attention to detail. Where in my post did you read I talking solely about her negative experience I said, I find it amusing where " people " is she people? Please re- read, and fyi, it has never been about being critical or about her but majority of Nigerians .... this is a link to one of my comment before now https://www.nairaland.com/2604810/girl-kicked-out/3#38107628