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lezz:
Nicely opined. But your recommendation is more suitable for an ordinary romantic relationship, not marriage.

The bottom line is she won her husband over and conquered his lustful indiscretion while keeping her family safe and United.

That's a legacy to me.
I bet society would be marked by broken homes, insecure children and teen prostitutes and drug addicts if mommy decides that daddy isn't worth a fighting chance.



You modern women equate marriage with just any other romantic relationship. That woman was a hero.

And if her God took her, her crown will be the grandest amongst crowns. She was a soldier who never abandoned her mission.

D33VA:
@ op
With no offence to the memory of your late aunt, but no woman can be that calm and rational if she truly cares.it ain't in our dna to forever silently tolerate. Ur aunt was busy doing smth, ur uncle just dint know what

lezz:
How do measure when a partner strays? Since one can have emotional affair or physical ones. Inside marriage, emotional affairs are often more dangerous than physical ones.

How can you drag marriage to a mere contract? It is a convenant of the highest order. The Catholic church deems it a Sacrament. It is a union of life, spirit, soul and body.



Too much 21st century _sex has cheapen the institution of marriage.

joseph1832:
No doubt its hard, all the more reason why I always tell my friends who intends to get married to think it true and true.

If truly the fear of God has everything to do with it, how many christian men cheat on their wives, even some pastors too?

The fear of God has absolutely nothing to do with it, most Nigerian men fear babalawo more than they fear God because the babalawo' judgment is instant, unlike their christian or moslem God.

lezz:
I do not advocate cheating in marriage from either partners.

But when it does happen , if it ever does, it serves no purpose running for the exit door. What's the point?

The balance of a home is always in the hands of the woman as is the power to rail her straying husband in.


And yes, women should be meek, it is their only undisputed strength.


90 % of women are guilty of emotional affairs as men are guilty of physical affairs.

Are we advocating mass divorce ?

lezz:
Cheating husbands still feel guilty enough to hide their acts and respectful enough to shroud it from their wives, so it isn't a birth right. They are castigated hence they hide their actions.

However, the women and men have a role to play in marriage. None is perfect.
Men will always struggle with lust today, and it isn't helped by the way the modern woman dresses.

Women will always struggle with emotional betrayal as well. The onus is on today's women to define their roles and draw a line between career/ wife/ mother.

zeongeon:
Can you do any better than her... some men will damn you and throw you out and in your presence bring in the mistress.

Some marital issues can't be conquered by being stubborn, feminism or women empowerment..in fact with all your empowerment or education nah hairdresser, bar girl or even campus babe may be the mistress or Goliath mocking and defiling your marriage.

some marital issues you have to be humble and stoop to conquer or in some cases go on your knees before God.

The earlier the better you generation x girls know that marriage is not telemundo the better.

God won't let us see bad thing.

Omotayor123:
Not bad... Say me well to the Alhaja

Is she a nairalander

SAMBARRY:
it's because you have exposed what kept the aunty in a dead marriage

You are a woman.so you're not supposed to be talking when they're talking

Its their exclusive right. Remember

daretodiffer:
I didn't know she was dead. Learn to look at the cause instead of misquoting somebody

He uses his aunt as a case study. If you are a student or better still a lawyer, you should know that you attacking/assassinating the evidence yo win the argument. In this case it was his aunt.

Don't quote me again please, if you are biased.

I like objective minds

RoyalPriesthuud:
I have nothing to say, I just want to quote. The only thing you can do is to delete my comment, I dare you

xtervaganza:
afonu just gerrarahia

daretodiffer:

daretodiffer:
No, I logged in because of another thread like that

You know I am like a dog. I find it hard to let go of issues that I am passionate about.

daretodiffer:
Mo sin yin je

Joy1706:
Just so you know, women struggle with lust too. We're not robots

daretodiffer:
I find the title and your post really insulting to women. You used the words 'mature and learn'. Do you assume that we are stupid or what? I do not understand what you are trying to achieve?

Did you try asking your aunty if she had any toasters and admirers after marriage? Ask her what stopped her? She is going to tell that she did and it was respect for her husband and their marriage that stopped her. But her husband does not the same respect for her and their marriage yet you will come tomorrow and insult a woman who cheats on her husband. Some men think that it is their birthright to cheat and he does not need to have respect for women. He goes ahead to do so and the world expects the woman to maturely deal with him. Yet you won't stop calling us petty or gold-diggers or less intelligent beings, How can you expect a specie with all that characteristics to be wiser and more mature than you are?


Why should women be wiser and more matured than man? I thought you were supposed to be the leader and the smarter one . Don't you think that the lack of those qualities make it unfit to be in a relationship not to mention lead a family?

The happy ending your uncle told you about rarely happen. You need to be mature to be able to learn that it is just a case out of many.


Moral of my rant:
Don't dish what you can take.
Respect is reciprocal
Every action has its unforeseen consequences

These apply to males and females. Treat people, most especially your partner the way you want to be treated. If they don't mind you treating them like garbage then good for you.

Joy1706:
Your wife cheats on you over and over again. Would honestly say you won't divorce her? Honestly?

Joy1706:
No no no! You men have cheapened the institution of marriage. So you know it's a covenant of the highest order, yet you make light of adultery?

lezz:
Your lust isn't anywhere near what a man goes through.

If I should inject you with a drop of testosterone, you won't be shopping for cloths and spending 30 minutes in front of a mirror.

You won't be playing hard to get
Or needing a man to take you to fancy eateries,

You will be _fucking us just for the hell of it.

zeongeon:
Can you do any better than her... some men will damn you and throw you out and in your presence bring in the mistress.

Some marital issues can't be conquered by being stubborn, feminism or women empowerment..in fact with all your empowerment or education nah hairdresser, bar girl or even campus babe may be the mistress or Goliath mocking and defiling your marriage.

some marital issues you have to be humble and stoop to conquer or in some cases go on your knees before God.

The earlier the better you generation x girls know that marriage is not telemundo the better.

God won't let us see bad thing.

SAMBARRY:


E still dey pain them

Thank God a man said this

Pamelayoung:
My dear they ain't worth it after all

Pamelayoung:
My dear they ain't worth it after all

lezz:
Your lust isn't anywhere near what a man goes through.

If I should inject you with a drop of testosterone, you won't be shopping for cloths and spending 30 minutes in front of a mirror.

You won't be playing hard to get
Or needing a man to take you to fancy eateries,

You will be _fucking us just for the hell of it.

Godmother:
Thank you a million times for this. Its just amazing the amount of bullcrap men expect women to take and still act "The Good Wife" . Do they even know the extent of pain cheating gives a woman psychologically and emotionally?

Men will cheat and say "its just sex" yet they can't take this just sex cos it wounds their pride. As a woman you go out and get hit on by men you know will spoil you rotten if you as much as smile at them, yet you say no cos you are protecting one man who you may even be sponsoring.

Like you rightly said, staying faithful is a choice and is just as hard for us women. Men should stop justifying this bad behaviour and stop expecting us to to be superwomen.