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Burntpalace:
Lol!

Hmmm, if JK, carefree, osisi, shollypopz et al regrouped on another forum, they didn't invite me

Shout out to bukatyne!

E-hugs....

Was reading the thread from where I left off joor.

Ileoba.... I missed you

Welcome back once again.

PresVA:
Your message here is flexibility right?

Er...not exactly. I'd rather use the phrase open to other's views. I.e: hear them out first, before dismissing them outrightly without so much as giving them a chance to air their views.

PresVA:
There are times I compromise but unfortunately I can't do that on this matter because as a Christian, the commandment is clear.... So I told mindful it was better we ended the argument because she can NEVER convince me that adultery isn't sinful and I may never convince her on my stance too... besides I didn't want to talk too much then. ..

This isn't about compromising one's views, and I don't think I ever implied that on here.

Re: the bolded, I also don't think Mindfulness ever argued about adultery being sinful or not. The argument was on why people felt emphasis should be placed on the side chick.

PresVA:
However, I get your point but I must also tell you that you can NEVER make an opinion that will suit/cut across everyone.. people must always object. .. There's no one shoe fits all...

True that. And in discussing with others, despite their different perspectives, we could learn a thing or two from them.

Ewuro4:
Bastardo.

Ewuro4:
Bastardo.

And oloshious fellow

EfemenaXY:
Lol! Thanks, Bukky.

You are welcome

Mindfulness:
Peace be with you too.

Aha, I think I know you...
Ciao

MusingsOfALady:
Gotcha! Lol.

Ok. Another angle is the role our society has played in this matter. Men are excused while a woman who is being cheated on is asked to try harder, wear lingerie, cook better food, offer 24/7 sex. The men are given a playful slap on the wrist (if any) and told to be more careful next time.

Now if that bit doesn't shoot one's BP up, I don't know what else can. I could feel my hackles rise, just reading that.

Mindfulness:
How did I miss this comment?
Bukatyne, thanks for quoting it and Efe 100 000 likes.

Sending my invoice ma'am

damiso:
I can't even begin to imagine ..I did not understand whether it was low self esteem,inferiority complex or just plain stupidity.

Maybe because I have always been allergic to drama but the most reasonable reaction to me even at that young age was to break up with him Abi how hard is that

I understand marriage is a bit more complicated but that example was just to show the mindset of people even from that young age.

Oh, that's easy na.

She hung clung on to him because of the money. It's just the cold, hard cash. D'you think she would have tolerated an iota of that behaviour from him if he was a broke arsed nigger?

bukatyne:
E-hugs....

Was reading the thread from where I left off joor.

Ileoba.... I missed you

Welcome back once again.

I missed you too Buka.

Na wa oh!

This thread is flying and I'm desperately trying to play "catch-up".

MusingsOfALady:
This abandonment thing in my opinion is not a great idea, except you are like 2decades younger.

I mean you spend your youth suffering and smiling then when he is 60 and you are 55 you leave him and start life all over,?
Start living alone or being a burden to your kids.

If a woman wants to leave, leave now whole you have your youth.

My opinion though

Who told you :

1. she has to be suffering and smiling living with him?

2. She has to start living her life all over again?

And (3) Must be a burden to the society/kids coz she's alone @ 55? What else is she looking for, shrivelled blockoses around town?


@Bold , Phew!

Mindfulness:
You can trust people, husband or not, but you should never depend on them. Trust is useful, dependency is harmful. If you trust people without depending on them, you are self-sufficient and nothing can do you. This is the difference.

I like this.

Let's also remember that trust is earned.

damiso:
And oloshious fellow

Dami is that you?

Mindfulness:

Mindfulness:
I am leaving now everyone. Have a lovely day, evening, night, morning - wherever you may be - and never forget that life is supposed to be FUN.
Have a blessed Sunday!

Fun fun fun!
You too dear.

Burntpalace:
Nice thread OP. The sanity of it brought me out of 'retirement'. My apologies for derailing.

No need to apologise abeg. T'is good this thread "teased" you out of your cocoon. It's so good to have you back dear. My friends (some) are back in town.

Mindfulness:
How did I miss this comment?
Bukatyne, thanks for quoting it and Efe 100 000 likes.

Lol! Thanks!

Mindfulness:
I am leaving now everyone. Have a lovely day, evening, night, morning - wherever you may be - and never forget that life is supposed to be FUN.

Have a blessed Sunday!

Goodnight dear.

njokusboy:
Wait up, is dis place a woman chatroom or what, e be like I go run oh...

Coward!

Mindfulness:
I am leaving now everyone. Have a lovely day, evening, night, morning - wherever you may be - and never forget that life is supposed to be FUN.

Have a blessed Sunday!

Goodnight.

Ewuro4:
Dami is that you?

Haha! That's what I thought too.

EfemenaXY:
No need to apologise abeg. T'is good this thread "teased" you out of your cocoon. It's so good to have you back dear. My friends (some) are back in town.

It's good to be back! Let me know if you spot anyone else.

EfemenaXY:
Coward!

Lol, not at all...

Una fit suffocate person for here...

When 4 or 5 women are gathered, fear dem

Burntpalace:
Thanks dear! Things have been going well. We thank God.

Hello to my tennis buddy Mr Bellong!

Bukatyne,

Thanks for the "gossip"...

Welcome back Ile, I thought Coogar arranged snipers for you, been looking for how to arrest him..


Efe, the moniker may need to proof she is Ile but her " Tennis buddy" line to me sounds convincing. She is the only one that calls me that.

Bukatyne, your "gossip" resurrected the handle, I guess.

To all those girls that ever slept with married men,your husbands will cheat on you too. Fvck vow.

Karma is real.

To all those girls that ever slept with married men,your husbands will cheat on you too. Fvck vow.

Karma is real.


See them trying to shift the goal post to suit them.

Ewuro4:
Who told you :

1. she has to be suffering and smiling living with him?

2. She has to start living her life all over again?

And (3) Must be a burden to the society/kids coz she's alone @ 55? What else is she looking for, shrivelled blockoses around town?


@Bold , Phew!

Ok so how does the abandonment plan go? Live with him in misery till 55 and then go screwing young boys around town.

Isn't that a waste of life?

njokusboy:
Lol, not at all...

Una fit suffocate person for here...

When 4 or 5 women are gathered, fear dem

Don't worry. You are safe.

bellong:
Bukatyne,
Thanks for the "gossip"...
Welcome back Ile, I thought Coogar arranged snipers for you, been looking for how to arrest him..
Efe, the moniker may need to proof she is Ile but her " Tennis buddy" line to me sounds convincing. She is the only one that calls me that.
Bukatyne, your "gossip" resurrected the handle, I guess.

She already proved she's Ile to me. And very well done also.

Burntpalace:
It's good to be back! Let me know if you spot anyone else.

Lol! I must warn you that I'm quite useless and deciphering who's who most of the time, but if I do find out any, will definitely give you a "thumbs up".

Mindfulness:
I am leaving now everyone. Have a lovely day, evening, night, morning - wherever you may be - and never forget that life is supposed to be FUN.

Have a blessed Sunday!

You too. Take care.

EfemenaXY:


Don't worry. You are safe.

She already proved she's Ile to me. And very well done also.

Good..

So what are you ladies talking about here?

Where I come from, we don't understand English..

iykedare:
To all those girls that ever slept with married men,your husbands will cheat on you too. Fvck vow.

Karma is real.


See them trying to shift the goal post to suit them.

What goal post is being shifted?

Mindfulness:
You can trust people, husband or not, but you should never depend on them. Trust is useful, dependency is harmful. If you trust people without depending on them, you are self-sufficient and nothing can do you. This is the difference.

So how can I not get hurt when a husband who I trust cheats on me? Or are you saying trust doesn't hurt people? Only dependency does? I really don't the difference btw the two as regards the issue we're talking about. ..

You're saying trusting your husband and not depending on him will prevent you from getting hurt when he cheats on you?

My opinion is that either way, you'll still feel hurt and betrayed. ..

EfemenaXY, I have gotten your message.

njokusboy:
Lol, not at all...

Una fit suffocate person for here...

When 4 or 5 women are gathered, fear dem

Very safe infact

bellong:
Good..

So what are you ladies talking about here?

Where I come from, we don't understand English..

Lol!

Okay, lemme see... some people dey talk say if oga waka, im girlfriend dey blameless. Others dey talk say blame oga + girlfriend. Some dey even gist say madam must to hold oga's wrapper with, "you go kill me today".

Damiso, Burntpalace - Oya translate into Yoruba.

Edwife and Cococandy - do the Igbo version.