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First f al.. My sunday was awesum. Normally i chill aut by listenin' 2 radio stations wen its a bit late. Precisely 10pm.. So in my usual quest for sultry nd heartwarmin' songs on a sunday nite(shoutout 2 jason myraz) , i stumbled on raypower 100.5fm.. I expectd d usual pushplays nd request shows buh i encountered a quite odd scenario.. The title f d programme was 'd grail msg' nd d anchor happend 2 b a priest cum doctor(is dat possible?) .. Wel evrytin went wel up until d issue f divorce kame up.. D man was lyk "If u feel there's no happiness,peace n love anymore(buh there was wen d marriage startd) the two parties shud just go their seperate ways.. N i was like wtf? Is dis rily coming frm a supposd "MAN F GOD"? .. Dis rily spoilt my nite anyways.. Buh is divorce d bst option wen d aforementiond suddenly disappears?
Pls share ur tots on dis..

What do you suggest they do when there's no love in the marriage?

^^^^live for something bigger than them and stay for the kids.

Dude, love is a decision.

Holywood is replete with examples of divorce when "the love has faded" how many of them remarried and the "love didn't fade"? I choose to love my woman. And as long as she isn't stalking me with a knife against my throat, I will remain in the same house, sleep in the same bed, eat from the same plate, wear the same colours, until the love "unfades" back to what it was. Abi you think being married in love na beans?

5minsmadness:
^^^^live for something bigger than them and stay for the kids.

okkk then what of in this kind of scenario

SAMBARRY:
okkk then what of in this kind of scenario

This is a crraaazzzy world with lots of ccrrrraaaaaaazzzzzzzyyyyyyy people.

LewsTherin:
This is a crraaazzzy world with lots of ccrrrraaaaaaazzzzzzzyyyyyyy people.

meaning?

Tallesty1:
What do you suggest they do when there's no love in the marriage?

i blive d guy below ur quote just gave d ansa 2 ur questn.

SAMBARRY:
okkk then what of in this kind of scenario

In this case they can still go thier separate ways since the marriage hasn't been legally consummated.

Short answer; no!

The very nature of love is that it fades - at least the euphoric tingly kind of love. That feeling of love is not supposed to be the basis of marriage in the first place. That should have been a shared commitment to to the marital journey, and the act "to love", no matter what one feels.

A marriage founded a on a proper foundation will ultimately develop a deeper kind of love, that goes way beyond feeling. Using abstract terms like happiness, peace and love to warrant divorce or otherwise, is so subjective as to render ones vows meaningless.

One could well say "I am not happy that I've lost the freedom of my single days, have no peace because my wife keeps asking me for money and the kids won't keep quiet, and I don't love my wife like before, as her body changed after childbirth.

Using abstract terms terms or phrases like "shitty marriage" to justify divorce is at best justification for selfishly willful behaviour. Even legally, divorce was only permitted for the thre A's - adultery, abandonment and abuse, and even these would have to be quantified.

I suppose there may be are ideologies/religions that may sanction "frivolous" or feelings based divorce sha!



TV

In my opinion, love might seem to fade on the long run and it is the friendship developed between the spouses that keeps them going. The Lovewantintin thing fades in about 5 years after marriage, the spouses must then learn how to be friends with each other and continue in love. Except they started out with lust.

TV01:
Short answer; no!

The very nature of love is that it fades - at least the euphoric tingly kind of love. That feeling of love is not supposed to be the basis of marriage in the first place. That should have been a shared commitment to to the marital journey, and the act "to love", no matter what one feels.

A marriage founded a on a proper foundation will ultimately develop a deeper kind of love, that goes way beyond feeling. Using abstract terms like happiness, peace and love to warrant divorce or otherwise, is so subjective as to render ones vows meaningless.

One could well say "I am not happy that I've lost the freedom of my single days, have no peace because my wife keeps asking me for money and the kids won't keep quiet, and I don't love my wife like before, as her body changed after childbirth.

Using abstract terms terms or phrases like "shitty marriage" to justify divorce is at best justification for selfishly willful behaviour. Even legally, divorce was only permitted for the thre A's - adultery, abandonment and abuse, and even these would have to be quantified.

I suppose there may be are ideologies/religions that may sanction "frivolous" or feelings based divorce sha!



TV

u just naild it.

Yes!
Simple kwayshun, simple h-ansah!
WHY should ANYONE be forced to be with another for CHARITY?

Yes!
Simple kwayshun, simple h-ansah!
WHY should ANYONE be forced to be with another for CHARITY?

Na only JESUS fit suffer dat kain death o!

It depends on what made the fall out of love

Isaacmacdon:
First f al.. My sunday was awesum. Normally i chill aut by listenin' 2 radio stations wen its a bit late. Precisely 10pm.. So in my usual quest for sultry nd heartwarmin' songs on a sunday nite(shoutout 2 jason myraz) , i stumbled on raypower 100.5fm.. I expectd d usual pushplays nd request shows buh i encountered a quite odd scenario.. The title f d programme was 'd grail msg' nd d anchor happend 2 b a priest cum doctor(is dat possible?) .. Wel evrytin went wel up until d issue f divorce kame up.. D man was lyk "If u feel there's no happiness,peace n love anymore(buh there was wen d marriage startd) the two parties shud just go their seperate ways.. N i was like wtf? Is dis rily coming frm a supposd "MAN F GOD"? .. Dis rily spoilt my nite anyways.. Buh is divorce d bst option wen d aforementiond suddenly disappears?
Pls share ur tots on dis..

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