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TruthHurts1:
Apart from opening yourself to criticism, you've shown yourself up to be very stupid too. There are so many references to marriage in the Bible:

Mark 10 VS 8 to 9; 1 Corinthians 7:1 - 7:40 - Ephesians 5:22 -
5:33 - Ephesians 5:25 - 5:33

Just to mention a few.

Secondly, you're confusing "wedding" with "marriage". Wedding is a ceremony, marriage is an institution.
The Bible laid down the template of a Christian marriage as the voluntary union of a man and woman for the rest of their lives. What manner of ceremony they choose in solemnising their union does not matter as long as the SUBSTANCE of the union complies with Biblical standards.
I sense you are not a Christian and that may account for your ignorance. And if indeed you call yourself a Christian, it is possible you may be living a lie. Read the Bible well before disparaging it, or God's wrath will abide on you.

donholy28:
Its no where in d Bible... Bible only supports traditional marriage of paying bride price

femidejulius:
Yesterday on this forum I read how a church bought sorrow to the life of a to-be couple by turning down their wedding even after people have been seated inside the church. A lot of churches nowadays will not give their nod to marriages because the wife to-be is already pregnant. Whilst this thread is in no way justifying pre marital sex, it does intend to open the mind of people to the truth about churches and their responsibilities as regards marriage and to save people from shame which might eventually lead them away from the church :

1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional belief. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding according to the bible.

2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church.

3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. Remember the parable of the lost coin and the parable of the lost sheep. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.

4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash? Getting the "pastor's blessings" do not in any way guarantee your success in marriage. You don't necessarily need it.

5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear. They ask for this and that before the wedding,but then, how much do they pay for salvation?
Conclusion: A traditional marriage is what actually makes you husband and wife. While there's nothing really wrong about with church marriage, it is actually avoidable. You aren't committing any sin by doing only traditional wedding.

NB: While these are my person opinions, I am open to criticism.

femidejulius:
Yesterday on this forum I read how a church bought sorrow to the life of a to-be couple by turning down their wedding even after people have been seated inside the church. A lot of churches nowadays will not give their nod to marriages because the wife to-be is already pregnant. Whilst this thread is in no way justifying pre marital sex, it does intend to open the mind of people to the truth about churches and their responsibilities as regards marriage and to save people from shame which might eventually lead them away from the church :

1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional belief. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding according to the bible.

2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church.

3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. Remember the parable of the lost coin and the parable of the lost sheep. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.

4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash? Getting the "pastor's blessings" do not in any way guarantee your success in marriage. You don't necessarily need it.

5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear. They ask for this and that before the wedding,but then, how much do they pay for salvation?
Conclusion: A traditional marriage is what actually makes you husband and wife. While there's nothing really wrong about with church marriage, it is actually avoidable. You aren't committing any sin by doing only traditional wedding.

NB: While these are my person opinions, I am open to criticism.

Etizz:
Pls what chapter n verse in the bible does it started dat marriage should b Done based on tradition a lone..?

I just need to know...

Thanks.!

Taich:
Op your right but I doubt if upto 5% of our ladies will like your idea. I was chatting with a lady who told me that is fornication if she sleeps with her husband after Traditional wedding before church wedding. That one got me thinking I asked her to show me where that is in the Bible, where actually church wedding is the bible. All the wedding that happened in the bible where all traditional including the famous one that our dear lord turn water to wine. I hope we will be wiser after this post.

femidejulius:
Yesterday on this forum I read how a church bought sorrow to the life of a to-be couple by turning down their wedding even after people have been seated inside the church. A lot of churches nowadays will not give their nod to marriages because the wife to-be is already pregnant. Whilst this thread is in no way justifying pre marital sex, it does intend to open the mind of people to the truth about churches and their responsibilities as regards marriage and to save people from shame which might eventually lead them away from the church :

1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional belief. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding according to the bible.

2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church.

3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. Remember the parable of the lost coin and the parable of the lost sheep. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.

4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash? Getting the "pastor's blessings" do not in any way guarantee your success in marriage. You don't necessarily need it.

5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear. They ask for this and that before the wedding,but then, how much do they pay for salvation?
Conclusion: A traditional marriage is what actually makes you husband and wife. While there's nothing really wrong about with church marriage, it is actually avoidable. You aren't committing any sin by doing only traditional wedding.

NB: While these are my person opinions, I am open to criticism.

Toks2008:
You are even wrong.Bride price is only a penalty for rape.

The Bible does not give any instruction regarding the type of wedding to do.

zomoears:
So if she gets pregnant but aborts, it is not fornication?

What about those who use condom and don't get pregnant?

Double standard hypocrites...our Lord had something to say about pretenders ... cast the first stone if you are without sin!

nnahernest:
my brother,don't encourage fornication,before I say anything read Hebrew 13:4 the bible said,marriage must be holy,with the marital bed undefiled,whoremongers and adulteries God will judge,
secondly saying they only look after those who are pregnant so as to punish them and leave those who commit premarital sex you are wrong,in my church,if you have had sex with your wife to be no wedding,that is the correct standard of Christ,the bible said,if the foundation is faulty what those the righteous do,and the bible still said,the righteous has nothing to do,so therefore you can't start your marriage on a faulty foundation of fornication
3rdly,marriage in the scripture happened then before the establishment of church,and no church will tell you not to do traditional marriage, but what they avoid is pouring libation to the ancestors,which happens in almost every traditional marriage,and by the time you do that,you are connect the couples to the spirit of there forefathers,that is why most marriages experience what they don't know about,which is against the scripture in exodus 20:1_10,for more clarification add me on whatsapp, 07039476669

xhamel89:
What kind of bible do you read? Nowadays people are lazy to read their bibles. Some even read it as novel, giving it their own interpretations. How can you say wedding is unbiblical and unchristian? I am very sure you did not read any bible rather you just write based on what you feel. Feeling can deceive but God's word standeth sure. The first wedding was conducted by God himself between Adam and Eve. It does follow that God's people should wed before God representatives. When the bible says who soever God has join together let no man put asunder" was he saying this for saying sake. It's totally wrong and a curse to mislead people based on spiritual matters. May God forgive you. (Amen).

nnahernest:
my brother,don't encourage fornication,before I say anything read Hebrew 13:4 the bible said,marriage must be holy,with the marital bed undefiled,whoremongers and adulteries God will judge,
secondly saying they only look after those who are pregnant so as to punish them and leave those who commit premarital sex you are wrong,in my church,if you have had sex with your wife to be no wedding,that is the correct standard of Christ,the bible said,if the foundation is faulty what those the righteous do,and the bible still said,the righteous has nothing to do,so therefore you can't start your marriage on a faulty foundation of fornication
3rdly,marriage in the scripture happened then before the establishment of church,and no church will tell you not to do traditional marriage, but what they avoid is pouring libation to the ancestors,which happens in almost every traditional marriage,and by the time you do that,you are connect the couples to the spirit of there forefathers,that is why most marriages experience what they don't know about,which is against the scripture in exodus 20:1_10,for more clarification add me on whatsapp, 07039476669

PastorAIO:
See double wahala for worshippers of bible. Bible based people like us. People who will not eat Amala because it is not in the bible.


Most of the church wedding ceremonies we practice today are pagan in origin. The exchanging of rings is an ancient egyptian ritual. In America jumping over broomsticks has it's origins in Africa. Most of all these rituals have pagan origins. Since people like to complain about christmas's pagan origin, they should stop the wedding ceremonies too.

What about medicine? Why stop with wedding? There is no paracetamol in the bible. The concept of medicine is connected with witchcraft in the bible. The Greek word Pharmakoi, from which we derive our pharmacology today, means witchcraft and the practice of witchcraft and dispensing of medicinal herbs were one and the same practice.

A true bible based slowpoke must refrain from using drugs for any ailment. As well as wedding rituals etc ....

femidejulius:
Yesterday on this forum I read how a church bought sorrow to the life of a to-be couple by turning down their wedding even after people have been seated inside the church. A lot of churches nowadays will not give their nod to marriages because the wife to-be is already pregnant. Whilst this thread is in no way justifying pre marital sex, it does intend to open the mind of people to the truth about churches and their responsibilities as regards marriage and to save people from shame which might eventually lead them away from the church :

1. Church wedding is unchristian and unbiblical: Go through the bible and see for yourself. The weddings take place according to traditional belief. From this, traditional wedding is the acceptable wedding according to the bible.

2. These churches won't test for your virginity but will test for pregnancy. The result is that dos who have constant sexual intercourse but are smart enough not to get pregnant and those who have been severally pregnant but have done abortion are free to get married in the church. This is injustice by the church.

3. Lord don't despise sinners : Jesus throughout his life on earth is always seen amongst sinners. Remember the parable of the lost coin and the parable of the lost sheep. He said he came because of them. He will never turn them back. Okay, but the church will refuse to join the to-be couple together because they have sinned (she has indulge in pre marital sex). When you turn them down from the church, where do you expect them to go? A lot has since been discouraged from the church because of this.

4. Why do marriages still crash even after the wedding took place in the church? Why do even pastors wedding crash? Getting the "pastor's blessings" do not in any way guarantee your success in marriage. You don't necessarily need it.

5. I know some pastor and churches have turn the church wedding to money making venture. If you hear what they collect to make the church wedding happen in their church, una go fear fear. They ask for this and that before the wedding,but then, how much do they pay for salvation?
Conclusion: A traditional marriage is what actually makes you husband and wife. While there's nothing really wrong about with church marriage, it is actually avoidable. You aren't committing any sin by doing only traditional wedding.

NB: While these are my person opinions, I am open to criticism.

chuna1985:
In Anglican church wedding, u pay about 10k for marriage certificate.

U give all the presiding priests money average of 10k.

U give all d priests food n drinks as well, that's all I can remember.

@ Least about 30k don go.

Thieves

donholy28:
read your Bible well...so Isaac raped Rebeka eh? and so did Jacob?

xhamel89:
What kind of bible do you read? Nowadays people are lazy to read their bibles. Some even read it as novel, giving it their own interpretations. How can you say wedding is unbiblical and unchristian? I am very sure you did not read any bible rather you just write based on what you feel. Feeling can deceive but God's word standeth sure. The first wedding was conducted by God himself between Adam and Eve. It does follow that God's people should wed before God representatives. When the bible says who soever God has join together let no man put asunder" was he saying this for saying sake. It's totally wrong and a curse to mislead people based on spiritual matters. May God forgive you. (Amen).

benji93:
Let us not dispute unnecessarily abouth these things, we must do just as the bible teaches us, Jesus never spoke of a particular location where a wedding must be conducted, it is like we are overly concerned about the physicality of our actions, Jesus specifically says in the book of mark ch 10 vs 8:For this cause a man shall leave his mother and father and be clung to his wife, and they shall be joined together in one flesh, whatever God has joined together let no man put assunder. So let us discen this, a man leaves his mother and father and clings to his wife, there must be concent here, without which a man cannot cling to his wife, now in those days morality was at its peak, people rarely get married for wealth acquisition or material benefits, either by the parents or by any of the couples, so then when the parents approve a marriage God approves to, once they willingly concent, that is it, but today the same cannot be said, some parents marry their children out because of the material benefits they hope to derive from it, likewise some people also get married because of the material benefits they hope to derive from it, so the question now is does God approve of it. No ofcourse, God cannot be mocked, he does not approve of anything sham. It is important to be careful when we talk about traditional wedding, the isrealite state then was established by the doctrines instituted by God himself, so their traditional wedding were always according to the dictates of God, though i cant peak for those that deliberately deviate from the the pathe God layed down. So their traditional wedding was the dictate of God. The same cannot be said about our traditional weddings, i can say much about Muslims, asccording to general christian doctrines, our traditional stuffs are fetish. So if we are not sure of the Godliness of the complex marriage, why not do just the simplest, and the needful, obtain the concent of your parents when when you are sure you sincerely want to live with your to be wife or husband for the rest of your life, organize a small party that brings the two families together, thus cementing and formalizing the relationship and afterwards registering according to the laws of the land. The latter would not have been that important if the world was inorder. So the conclusion of the matter is the most important pre-requisite for a union is consent, i mean holy consent, without this God does not approve,this is the honour God gives your parents for accepting the responsibilty and doing the imperative. We will all have that honor, if we decide to get married. if you if you do a church wedding, its not sinful, its only an addition infact through that the church recognizes you as a couple, and it is a good thing to dicuss our woes and happiness with the people of the household of faith, as the bible directs. Whether overtly or covertly the holy consent is most important. God bless Nigeria. I rest my case.

Ishilove:
You're neither here nor there, pastor. For people who don't have energy for intellectual analysis, can be so kind as to state your views on the topic PLAINLY

PastorAIO:
You're asking me to dumb down. I refuse.

I'll repeat what I said in fewer words. There are many daily practices of christians that do not have their origin in the bible. Most have blatantly pagan religious origins.

jamace:
That's why the marriage crashes more often like a pack of cards because it is established on wrong foundation and desire.

emzila:
I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF A WHITE MAN WHO DID TRADITIONAL WEDDING AND WHITE WEDDING, WHAT WE CALL WHITE WEDDING IS THEIR OWN STYLE OF WEDDING OVER THERE. TRADITIONAL AND WHITE WEDDING IS A DUPLICATION OF EFFORT, THE PASTOR CAN AS WELL COME TO THE TRADITIONAL WEDDING VENUE TO OFFER BLESSINGS AFTER THE PARENTS.

kristen12:
I think church wedding is as important as traditional wedding [/b]even though it's overrated.

[b]And there's nothing like church wedding in the bible.