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7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 6:44pm On Aug 01, 2015
In many Countries, the issue of Bride price has been known to be a well grounded factor in determining your franchise over the lady.

In some parts of the world, this issue has been blown beyond proportion that huge money is usually asked by the Bride's parent and many suitors see this as very discouraging.

The amazing fact is that if you ask anyone why a bride price must be paid,they will be very quick to answer that GOD commanded it and even our pastors are quick to lay emphasis on this as a condition that must be met before a man and woman can be said to be married before GOD.

But is Bride price really a condition necessary for marriage? Can we say you are really married even if bride price have not been paid? Did GOD specifically lay down this as a law or was it man made tradition? Can Bride price be paid at anytime during the course of the couple living together as Man and wife? and is it proper for the bride's parents to present a list or ask for monetary bride price from the groom's family?

These shocking truths from the very Bible people use as yardstick for bride price will clear the air.


1. Bride price was never a commandment from GOD as a condition for marriage but only as a penalty for rape and in fact, you can still pay the Bride price and still be denied the woman to be your wife by the Father.


Lets read this from the book of exodus 22:16-17:
"If a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and sleeps with her, he must pay the bride-price, and she shall be his wife.If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he must still pay the bride-price for virgins."

Deuteronomy 22:28-29: "If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels[a] of silver. He must marry the young woman,for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.


2.Monetary bride is to be paid only on a virgin provided the man has slept with her before he decides to marry her but if the man has never slept with her,there should be no need to pay a dime on her.(Read again Exodus 22:16-17 above)


3.Even if a man meets a virgin and defiles her and decides to marry her,no man is expected to pay more than 50shekels of silver as a penalty and according to Google research, 50 shekels of silver is just about 15usd today so what is this madness going on where in some places a man is asked to pay hundreds and thousands for a lady who have probably slept with many men.

4.There was never ever a place in the Bible where GOD commanded the bride's parent to present a list but it is the groom's responsibility to bring whatever he dims fit for the lady he wants to marry.

The great example in the Bible was Isaac's marriage to Rebekah who was a virgin and there was no monetary exchange or penalty whatsoever between the two families but affordable gifts were giving to Rebekkah's family by Abraham but not demanded for by Rebekkah's family. Read Genesis 24:52-54.

5. Bride price according to the bible is all about virgins and all the references and bible verses all point to paying a penalty for defiling a virgin as well as giving gifts as Abraham did to Rebekah who also happen to be a virgin.

Genesis 24:15-16:Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milkah, who was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor.The woman was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again.

6.Payment of monetary bride price on ladies generally whether virgins or non virgins is a tradition and not a direct commandment from GOD and in some countries like india,its a woman that actually pays a dowry on the groom and not the other way round.



7.Presenting list or asking for monetary bride price from a man who conscientiously marries a lady is man made rule and not from GOD hence becomes a sin because its better to obey GOD rather than men.


Acts 5:29:Peter and the other apostles replied: "We must obey God rather than human beings!

Conclusively i would advice that we just flow with the fun fare and traditions of the land and pay the bride price to either the Father of the Bride or the Mother of any lady we want to marry even if she is a LovePeddler.

Nevertheless.outrageous monetary bride price or list must be discouraged because it is not even Biblical in the first place but only necessary to obey customs and traditions.

Even Prophet Mohamed(May the peace of GOD be upon him) has this to say:

"the most blessed marriage is one in which the marriage partners place the least burden on each other" (al-Haythami, Kitab ab-Nikah, 4:255).


My candid take.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by deadZONE: 6:45pm On Aug 01, 2015
Nigerian families been selling their
kids since 1899...
am just saving money to buy my own slave.
i dont know why a civilized country would still be doing trash.


This FTC is dedicated to the lady under me, sorry i didnt know u where behind would have open the door for u to walk in first.



kiss kiss kiss

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by iamtomi(f): 6:46pm On Aug 01, 2015
FTC!!!!! grin

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by iamtomi(f): 6:47pm On Aug 01, 2015
deadZONE:
shocked
u chanced me!!! angry

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Adamsdelrio(m): 6:48pm On Aug 01, 2015
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by deadZONE: 6:50pm On Aug 01, 2015
iamtomi:
u chanced me!!! angry
my lady u can take ur place

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 6:51pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin

No woman should be married for free but the groom should bring what he and his family dim fit for the lady so don't get it twisted.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Nobody: 6:52pm On Aug 01, 2015
Bride prices are outdated. Why would I pay money for A Used Cargo that could also be a potential Gold-Digga undecided

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by iamtomi(f): 6:56pm On Aug 01, 2015
deadZONE:
my lady u can take ur place
lol...thank u..

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 6:58pm On Aug 01, 2015
I want all the "My pastor said" to come on and argue these facts and i want the pastors and Bishops who preach contrary to come in and educate me more maybe there is something im missing.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Elosky20: 7:04pm On Aug 01, 2015
#refundourbrideprice

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by eluquenson(m): 7:09pm On Aug 01, 2015
I paid what I can afford as bride price.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 7:11pm On Aug 01, 2015
Elosky20:
#refundourbrideprice

LOL!

Its so annoying that many people are just quick to point to the bible whereas it is basically man made tradition occasioned by greed.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by AlienStar: 7:12pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin
den i pray dey wil b conc. pagans! lol
Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by cutieberie1(f): 7:14pm On Aug 01, 2015
op sef,
I dunno y pple re lookin 4 cheap articles.
op u can probably get a wife 4 free no need 4 u disturbing here

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Adamsdelrio(m): 7:14pm On Aug 01, 2015
AlienStar:
den i pray dey wil b conc. pagans! lol
God catch u.. They are Christians.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Whizzcute(m): 7:15pm On Aug 01, 2015
wink
Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Adaeze003(f): 7:16pm On Aug 01, 2015
Those laws are for jews you know?

We have our own traditions that have existed even before Christianity came to play. What Christianity did was to get rid of those traditions that were harmful to people. It doesn't abolish our traditions that's why before you're married in church, the priest makes sure you've carried out all rites.

I'm not a fan of bride price myself but all the passages you quoted are sort of irrelevant in the matter.

If you live by those laws you must abide by them all.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by AlienStar: 7:18pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
God catch u.. They are Christians.
lol
Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 7:35pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adaeze003:
Those laws are for jews you know?

We have our own traditions that have existed even before Christianity came to play. What Christianity did was to get rid of those traditions that were harmful to people. It doesn't abolish our traditions that's why before you're married in church, the priest makes sure you've carried out all rites.

I'm not a fan of bride price myself but all the passages you quoted are sort of irrelevant in the matter.

If you live by those laws you must abide by them all.




I honestly dont get your standview.

You are either a christian,muslim or pagan hence the need to adhere to the doctrines of your religion.

oh so its now that you agree that its tradition but probably would have concluded before now that its biblical.

Anyway my point is clear,i was not trying to say we should marry a lady for free and a paragraph in the write up made this clear.

My aim is to point out the fact as you also agreed that its man made tradition.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Gurgle(f): 7:38pm On Aug 01, 2015
deadZONE:

am just saving money to buy my own slave.



lol
Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 7:38pm On Aug 01, 2015
cutieberie1:
op sef, I dunno y pple re lookin 4 cheap articles. op u can probably get a wife 4 free no need 4 u disturbing here
I researched and wrote thios. i dont copy and paste my write ups.
I will advice that you discuss intelligently like the lady i quoted did.
This is an intellectual forum and not hostel discussion.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Nobody: 7:44pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin
keep dreaming

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by MsBliss(f): 7:46pm On Aug 01, 2015
Its all worth it at the end.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by therealdeal10: 7:49pm On Aug 01, 2015
Story story, dat wan no dey applied 2 9ija parents oo b4 dem born d gal sef dem don start 2 dey list heaven n earth 4 d man wey go carry am.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 7:55pm On Aug 01, 2015
MsBliss:
dry

I understand that this will sound dry to many ladies expecially the virgin part but the truth remains the truth and thank GOD this is not from human philosophy but directly from the words of GOD.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 7:57pm On Aug 01, 2015
therealdeal10:
Story story, dat wan no dey applied 2 9ija parents oo b4 dem born d gal sef dem don start 2 dey list heaven n earth 4 d man wey go carry am.

Before nko?

My aim is to clear that cheap propanganda they hold on to that its God commandment so whenever they are collecting any bride price they will have this truth ringing in their minds.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Nobody: 8:00pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin
You wan use trailer carry her?

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Adaeze003(f): 8:01pm On Aug 01, 2015
Toks2008:


I honestly dont get your standview.

You are either a christian,muslim or pagan hence the need to adhere to the doctrines of your religion.

oh so its now that you agree that its tradition but probably would have concluded before now that its biblical.

Anyway my point is clear,i was not trying to say we should marry a lady for free and a paragraph in the write up made this clear.

My aim is to point out the fact as you also agreed that its man made tradition.

The aim of religion is not to uproot us from our culture Mr. The aim of Christianity as far as I'm concerned is to have everlasting life amongst other things. Now, does paying bride price hinder that?

Like I said, those are laws for the jews and not Christians at large.

I do not subscribe to the idea of bride price as well. Slaves are bought not wives. But that's the tradition of the land you're in or intend to marry from. It can be changed but not by hiding behind Christianity. Christianity does not prohibit paying of bride price is all I'm saying.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Toks2008(m): 8:08pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adaeze003:


The aim of religion is not to uproot us from our culture Mr. The aim of Christianity as far as I'm concerned is to have everlasting life amongst other things. Now, does paying bride price hinder that?

Like I said, those are laws for the jews and not Christians at large.

I do not subscribe to the idea of bride price as well. Slaves are bought not wives. But that's the tradition of the land you're in or intend to marry from. It can be changed but not by hiding behind Christianity. Christianity does not prohibit paying of bride price is all I'm saying.

We are on the same page and that is exctly what the write up is all about.

I never wrote that traditions should not be followed but just as you wrote,people should stop using the bible as an excuse for their greedy bride price collection.

By all standard we should obey God not man but as i wrote....lets just flow with traditions.

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Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Omotayor123(f): 8:29pm On Aug 01, 2015
Hmmm... Point number 5 though.
Re: 7 Facts About Bride Price That Will Shock You. by Nobody: 8:36pm On Aug 01, 2015
Adamsdelrio:
Whaooooo! Thank God my prospective inlaws are Christians. I'm gonna present these facts to them so that I can marry their daughter for free... gringrin
Theif!!!! For free ko on credit ni

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