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Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

According to the caption, Ask your mama
According to the content Ask your papa
In summary you know what you want ,then go for it.
Lol

dikeigbo2:
According to the caption, Ask your mama According to the content Ask your papa In summary you know what you want ,then go for it. Lol

If them no dey nnko? na who i go ask?

donpata:
If them no dey nnko? na who i go ask?

Otio,
Ask amadioha

I was financial independent before marriage.

If the only value a man or a woman can bring to marriage is monetary, then the person is useless because many people can provide money. Yes, I got financially independent, we shared one pocket(his), I was the family 's accountant general. Now we share two pockets, there is love in sharing .

Op you are not serious, you finally opened this thread . I wonder what happens if the independent spouse's loses the job,that means divorce because he or she automatically becomes a liability in Nl's logic.

ur type is known as food is ready.

so u would reject a girl even if she is not working yet but is determined and seems to be d hustling type.

*ur mentality though, I pray not to meet ur type cos d brightness of my future can make one blind.

fav444:
ur type is known as food is ready.

so u would reject a girl even if she is not working yet but is determined and seems to be d hustling type.

*ur mentality though, I pray not to meet ur type cos d brightness of my future can make one blind.

You mean ready-made.

donpata:
Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

You need to decide what it is you want from your partner. What are your expectations apart from the monetary aspect? What if the lady in question is the exact opposite to what you want but is loaded / working? Does this mean you'll reconsider your values and expectations?

If so, then I sense sugar mummy things.

Ask google

OP if you are not too financially ok, please look for a woman who is financially independent so both of you can make the financial contribution to build the home, don`t fall for love conquers all things....Very few ladies understands what it means to be with a man who is low on finance.. Financial crises is a home breaker but if you find a woman who understands the concept of submission,loyalty and humility even when it seems that the dry season is only affecting your home then you are good to go but wait a minute "Nobody wants to suffer" that is the new cool..

@Op thanks for opening the thread; Im eagerly awaiting advise/opinions. I am financially independent but haven't reached the level I thought I would have at this point ,marriage is on the cards for sometime next year, fiancé is all ok with where I am financially and career wise, yet my own family is not so supportive saying we should "hold on" a bit on getting married and I should focus on my career and financial growth

EfemenaXY:
You mean ready-made.
You need to decide what it is you want from your partner. What are your expectations apart from the monetary aspect? What if the lady in question is the exact opposite to what you want but is loaded / working? Does this mean you'll reconsider your values and expectations?
If so, then I sense sugar mummy things.

yes o. He is looking for an already made wife.

So guys now look for financially stable ladies? What should we call them? Diamonddiggers?

After looking for ladies to help ease their responsibilities, some of them will say they can't do house chores. . Issoraaiit..

donpata:
Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

I think you might need to give the parameters for financial independence as it relates to you cos with such an ambiguous question, no woman here will admit they were NOT financially independent before getting married.

Some were financially independent, most were not...

The wisdom you need is not the wisdom to know whether to marry a woman who's not financially independent...the wisdom you absolutely need is that which guides you in selecting a woman you will be compatible with in the long run, someone who is your close friend as much as she is your lover.

hahahahahahaha. Op,so you finally opened this thread. Very good ooo.
I am patiently waiting for their comments.

Some can be financially independent, but there one naira, you wont smell it. Just go for a lady who is hardworking and has a nice character.

Wot a coincedence,discussf dat with my mum today;as 4 me,m going to b independent when dat time comes..

This ecönomy aint even smiling on any 1..i have frnds dat get married in sch and i just wonder,if una c their husbands,e b lyk say them dey suffer..tufia

nd we all knw d part of nigeria were ladies get married while still in sch with no handiwork bringing in anythng,cos having a job aint feasible..#AintBashing

donpata:
Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

Some ladies earn 70K per month, have 200K saved somewhere and for them, that's "financial independence" , same goes for men.

I think it's best to marry someone who have a clear cut vision and plans for him/her self and working towards achieving that.

Canelle:
@Op thanks for opening the thread; Im eagerly awaiting advise/opinions. I am financially independent but haven't reached the level I thought I would have at this point ,marriage is on the cards for sometime next year, fiancé is all ok with where I am financially and career wise, yet my own family is not so supportive saying we should "hold on" a bit on getting married and I should focus on my career and financial growth

my type of family.i like dt bt if u r nt too old cool down jare

donpata:
Help me satisfy my curiousity to know if its wise to marry a lady who is not financially independent. there's this thread i saw and NLanders made it look like its not a good idea for a man to marry such a liability. As i dey think my marriage late next year, i won Know who i should keep off from.
Also, married guys, was your wife independent?

Guy dont marry a woman who will not bring anything to the floor.study her,is she focused,industrious,ambitious and energetic.some women biliv a man must do everything even if she earns more than the man.i just got married this october.i earn low and still husling.e no easy.my woman never get work and she does nothing at the moment.fi ara bale dada and ensure you marry a mature woman who understands what marriage is all about.no forget abeg.marry a woman with a source of livelihood.a month after wedding,your eyes go clear.there is nothing called love.oyinbo use am deciv us ni o.owo ni koko.i am speaking from experience.