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TooNoisy:
I am married and have many years of experience.



Read the story and tell me who has more faults. She never complained about her man until he lost his business. The only thing she says the man complains about is that she is cheating - which is actually true. Yes he was wrong to be physically abusive but he was right about her cheating ways.



I think the bold comments is addressed to you. If someone has done something wrong, let us say it is wrong. Let us not try to simulate other people's responses if the case were different. If the man was cheating, I will be the first to condemn him and I am sure several others will. So, please be objective and call a spade a spade. Wrong is wrong, whether man or woman.



The wife never for once mentioned he was cheating, so how can you even assume he was. You earlier accuse me of knowing more about her actions than she does but here you are even doing worse. She never said he was cheating, so he wasn't. Sorry, this assumption makes no sense.



As I said earlier, the marriage is over. She should stop trying to make her husband happy. She should continue enjoying the attention from her boss - while it lasts, cos that attention wouldn't last much longer.

you don't know anything you are talking about, if the most wrong you see is her's then you must still be in school. infact the only fault she has is that she is naive. If my brothers wife had been the one that fed that man for 2 months he would have been the one taking the beating by now.

LastProphet:
complete thrash, again I say thrash. which husband has a right to beat any woman because she agreed to marry him? I think your type is among the problem in the society.

actually, the problem in society is people (like yourself) who dont understand English.... i certainly didnt write that it was ok for anyone to beat their partner, simply because they are married (or for whatever other reasons)

Poverty is a terrible thing, a man loses his common sense because there is no money in his pocket, leads his wife to temptation and then brutalizes her for it.
Can we just put ourselves in this lady's shoes and ask what you would do if you were the one.
Now his bruised ego will not allow him reconcile with his wife, rather he is bad mouthing her about so that every other person will take sides with him instead of manning up to the situation.
sooooooo sad.

kidsam:
Poverty is a terrible thing, a man loses his common sense because there is no money in his pocket, leads his wife to temptation and then brutalizes her for it.
Can we just put ourselves in this lady's shoes and ask what you would do if you were the one.
Now his bruised ego will not allow him reconcile with his wife, rather he is bad mouthing her about so that every other person will take sides with him instead of manning up to the situation.
sooooooo sad.

Exactly my thoughts! Not trying to excuse the lady's acts but that silly husband is at fault here. I know how my dad misbehaved when he lost his job,just before my adolescent years. He was very brutal and harsh with his family,especially his kids. I thank God my mum wasn't a spiteful and vindictive woman cuz it would have been so easy to turn us against him.
The lady should leave the marriage for now cuz her life is in danger. That man can and will kill her someday and somehow. The ironic thing is that when he does that, society will hold him blameless.

TooNoisy:
I am married and have many years of experience.



Read the story and tell me who has more faults. She never complained about her man until he lost his business. The only thing she says the man complains about is that she is cheating - which is actually true. Yes he was wrong to be physically abusive but he was right about her cheating ways.



I think the bold comments is addressed to you. If someone has done something wrong, let us say it is wrong. Let us not try to simulate other people's responses if the case were different. If the man was cheating, I will be the first to condemn him and I am sure several others will. So, please be objective and call a spade a spade. Wrong is wrong, whether man or woman.



The wife never for once mentioned he was cheating, so how can you even assume he was. You earlier accuse me of knowing more about her actions than she does but here you are even doing worse. She never said he was cheating, so he wasn't. Sorry, this assumption makes no sense.



As I said earlier, the marriage is over. She should stop trying to make her husband happy. She should continue enjoying the attention from her boss - while it lasts, cos that attention wouldn't last much longer.

Dear, u av a right 2 ur opinion,howeva I learnt not 2 judge or condemn pple 4 dia action or inaction (especially those strugglin 2 make things wrk by all means)dey tend 2 admit all d blames n b lyk; 'am sori 4 everything let's just...'. Probably cos av met n talkd wit many women in marital crises, am not saying she is right,av not said she hasn't done sumthing wrong all am saying is dat one thing led 2 d oda n it's a two-way thing. We av grown 2 embrace dis idea of wen a man cheats he just being a man n shud b given anoda chance but wen a woman does,she shud b stoned 2 death!