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Dear Cynthia,

I have a 36 year old single very distant cousin living with me. He asked to spend days in my house but it been two years and he is not planning to leave. I have discussed so many times with him, and told him severally to get a place of his own but he simply is not batting an eyelid. I live in a two bedroom flat, so he shares the room with my teenage daughters. The worst thing is that he doesn't knock while entering the room and my daughter's have complained of him entering the bathroom while they are in there without knocking, also he has no job and is always boasting. He calls me mummy with my kids, I am 39, not very much older than himself but he joins my kids in calling me mummy.
Please how do I get rid of this parasite.

Imabong from Crossriver..

You are not fed up yet. Because if you are, no one would have to teach you how to get rid of a leech!

This is new year so let me not show myself

However I'll be right back

"Peacefully" ask him to pay the next rent

Lmao@ a 36 year old calling a 39 year old mummy. Shameless man he is. You are the only one to blame here. You indulged him and I'm really scared for your teenage daughters. I'm hoping uncle has not been "playing " with them. You have not been very wise.

In your situation and at this point, I would deal with it with little emotion. He needs to be pushed out. Give him and ultimatum to get a job, a life and get out of your house. Does he have a mother? Relations? A family house? Send him back anywhere but your home after his ultimatum lapses.
Where are those silent wicked feminine tactics too? The ones related to the "apari isu" proverb. Unleash them if you have to.
No one should be responsible for any ABLE 36 year old man under any circumstances circumstances. This is quite easy to fix when you are ready to fix it.

I don't think the husband / father of the children are around. If he were...

Drastic times call for drastic measures. Give him a time frame to move out and if he doesn't, pack his shhhiiiit and leave it on the curb. E eye go clear then.

A 36 year old man is sharing a room with your teenage daughters ??!? I don't believe what I am reading

Pack his stuff out of the house and change the padlock/locks . Alternatively arrange for agberos to escort him out if he delays

if na 'parasite' use baygon. If na 'pest' use ratpoison or trap. Hope dis helps if none of d above works,refer to boko

Throw him out!!!! He is in the same room with your teen daughters and you are asking to let him out peacfully!!! Throw hiim out!!!

1st of all, it doesn't have to be peaceful. You obviously do not have space for him and you are not his mummy. Give him a short ultimatum, 1 week in my opinion. Afterwards, change your locks and move his things out. You all can settle it in the future! Utter rubbish.

the poster above me got robbed of his brain last year

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia,

I have a 36 year old single very distant cousin living with me. He asked to spend days in my house but it been two years and he is not planning to leave. I have discussed so many times with him, and told him severally to get a place of his own but he simply is not batting an eyelid. I live in a two bedroom flat, so he shares the room with my teenage daughters. The worst thing is that he doesn't knock while entering the room and my daughter's have complained of him entering the bathroom while they are in there without knocking, also he has no job and is always boasting. He calls me mummy with my kids, I am 39, not very much older than himself but he joins my kids in calling me mummy.
Please how do I get rid of this parasite.

Imabong from Crossriver..

wait a minute did you say you are 39 years I seriously doubt that madam. you have a grown up man sharing same room with your daughters, who badges in on them in their room and bathroom for 2 years haaaaaaa mogbe, woman are you under a spell or what just asking though.

send him out ke. Maka why now, it's not yet time to send him out o. Please wait until he rapes and terminate 4 pregnancies each for your teenage daughters and then badges in on you too while you in the bathroom and give you 3 rounds forcefully then your eyes go clear.

36 Years is too much. My uncle sent me out at the age of 25. He said, young man I got married at the age of 24 and you are still here at 25...as from next week, I don't want to see you here except on visit. I left the second day. He is proud of me till date.

How can you allow a grown man share a room with your teenage daughters?

Are you for real? There's no nice way to go about it, but its best you send him out of your place. Give him a time frame, and when its the deadline, change all the locks in your house and send him out.
I'm sorry you are going to be mean about it, but he's left you no choice other than forcefully sending him out.

Unless of course you have extra cash to rent him a room somewhere, and he'll keep up with subsequent payments.

Some parents are the cause of their own misfortune

As old as you are aunty, you are still asking for advice on this type of issue.

It beats me how people are this slow in reasoning in life.

Wait a min, are you a widow? Cos from your write up there is no place you stated anything about your husband. That's by the way. Though i find this epistle funny and i can sense an atom of a false input. But notwithstanding, my advice for you is to be open to that cousin of yours cos frm the way i see things you are kinda afraid of him. He is 36 for christsake he should go out and look for something productive to engage in. Come to think of it you are endangering the lifes of your daughters. Take note, Konji is a respecter of nobody. Their future is at stake, if at all any of them gets pregnant for him it won't go well. Just tell him to his face to leave your home not minding the repercution of your act. Even if it's done violently by involving the police i will be in full support of it. A word they say is enough..........
#caLLmeBERG

You have been enabling a grown man, and worse, in your own home. The living situation is so unsuitable for your teenage daughters.

Write him a notice that he needs to leave. Give him 2 months max. Since he doesn't have a job now, he would need time to find one and save up if he doesn't have any savings, smh, but 2 months should suffice. Sign it and hand it to him. Get a witness if you must or record the conversation on your phone as proof that it happened. After that, if he refuses to leave, you can get him out with the help of the police. He himself has been doing himself a disfavour by remaining in your home. He needs to get out there, get his life together and be able to stand on his own two feet.

Just pack his belongings put them on the door, thank me later

It seems people can't handle any situation anymore.

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia,

I have a 36 year old single very distant cousin living with me. He asked to spend days in my house but it been two years and he is not planning to leave. I have discussed so many times with him, and told him severally to get a place of his own but he simply is not batting an eyelid. I live in a two bedroom flat, so he shares the room with my teenage daughters. The worst thing is that he doesn't knock while entering the room and my daughter's have complained of him entering the bathroom while they are in there without knocking, also he has no job and is always boasting. He calls me mummy with my kids, I am 39, not very much older than himself but he joins my kids in calling me mummy.
Please how do I get rid of this parasite.

Imabong from Crossriver..

If you don't own the property, plan with your landlord, temporarily pack out of the house, move in with friends (without this pest), when the pest goes, move back in (without the pest)!!!!

I would be very shocked If those daughters of yours havent been molested already. Sharply send that man out o. You can even get family members that are reasonable to talk to him

byvan03:
It seems people can't handle any situation anymore.

as in eh.
Every small thing. even in clear cases they will still ask "what should I do."

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia,

I have a 36 year old single very distant cousin living with me. He asked to spend days in my house but it been two years and he is not planning to leave. I have discussed so many times with him, and told him severally to get a place of his own but he simply is not batting an eyelid. I live in a two bedroom flat, so he shares the room with my teenage daughters. The worst thing is that he doesn't knock while entering the room and my daughter's have complained of him entering the bathroom while they are in there without knocking, also he has no job and is always boasting. He calls me mummy with my kids, I am 39, not very much older than himself but he joins my kids in calling me mummy.
Please how do I get rid of this parasite.

Imabong from Crossriver..

Aah? Cousin imabong! Na so you come cast me for nairaland! Okay na, na me be parasite ko? No wahala! For your informate I have been banging the hell out of those your 2 teenage skanks and the last one is currently pregnant! And by the way I'm not leaving if you try to force me out then I shall send those your nudes to your parents and let them know of our recent taboo sex sessions! Bring it biatch!!!

The only thing I heard was he shares a room with your 2 teenage daughters . Who does that

cococandy:
as in eh.
Every small thing. even in clear cases they will still ask "what should I do."

It's becoming ridiculous, full grown men and women for that matter.

cococandy:
as in eh.
Every small thing. even in clear cases they will still ask "what should I do."

Lol. no be nairaland. nairaland of comedy where anything can happen. lol.
happy new year sis.

36 year old...

very distant cousin...

sleeps in same room with ur daughters...

walks in when they are bathing...

jobless...

calls u mummy...

Is this a joke??

taryour:
Lol. no be nairaland. nairaland of comedy where anything can happen. lol.
happy new year sis.

Happy new year to you and yours dear

byvan03:
It's becoming ridiculous, full grown men and women for that matter.

I don't know if they do it for the attention.

cococandy:
I don't know if they do it for the attention.

Very possible....