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Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by roseline083(op): 4:45pm On Jan 10, 2016

About three years ago, a friend of mine told me that her hubby have travelled abroad. pls, I will cut the story a little. just this afternoon, we were charting through whatsapp, along the line, I asked her this question, have your hubby back. see her replied' "if you want to know come and see me" ok.
so, after the chart i was thinking may be, i have asked a wrong question.
please, my Nairalanders, advise me on what to do, should i go and see her as she said or should i call her to apologize for the question. also, i want to know if I really asked a wrong question.

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Vyolet(f): 4:49pm On Jan 10, 2016

She is not your friend, your real friend would answer you well.

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by MizMyColi(f): 4:52pm On Jan 10, 2016

It's nothing really dear.
Have you done anything you feel might have offended her?

Have been in touch with her since her husband travelled?

Chances are that she currently finds herself in an unpleasant situation which might be connected to her hubby.

If you can, do reach out to her face to face, when you can, okay?
Don't let her initial reaction get you angry.
Be the bigger person and show some understanding and compassion.
Inugo?

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by MizMyColi(f): 4:55pm On Jan 10, 2016

Vyolet:
She is not your friend, your real friend would answer you well.

No Sis,
I think you're wrong here.

Let's not fan the embers of enmity because we do not know the whole story.

It is not too cool to just write people off even when they give us the cold shoulder without pursuing whatever the real issue might be to a logical conclusion.

Bless you tons dear and happy sunday

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Nobody: 4:58pm On Jan 10, 2016*

She might think u're making jest of her. But go. If she took offence in it, apologize right there and make her know u came to make amends or better still give her a call b4 u go

Besides, it might be a suprise 4 u. Her hubby may have arrived but Its bn 3yrs since u met her, she might be wondering why a friend would not say come say hi to her for 3yrs. And even if he's not arrived its still isn't ok to call each other friends and stay away from each other.

Whatever d case, its d condition u meet there that will determine ur radical response.

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by bjcole(m): 5:03pm On Jan 10, 2016

roseline083:
About three years ago, a friend of mine told me that her hubby have travelled abroad. pls, I will cut the story a little. just this afternoon, we were charting through whatsapp, along the line, I asked her this question, have your hubby back. see her replied' "if you want to know come and see me" ok.
so, after the chart i was thinking may be, i have asked a wrong question.
please, my Nairalanders, advise me on what to do, should i go and see her as she said or should i call her to apologize for the question. also, i want to know if I really asked a wrong question.

I think she is simply telling you that you are not friendly enough, because if she is really a friend, you should know if the man is back or not.
And sincerely your conversation should have been well tailored, before the issue of hubby comes in, any way, there is no big issue there, call her later to know how she is doing and you can raise the matter again. What matters is your own conscience.

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by roseline083(op): 5:07pm On Jan 10, 2016

thanks you all for the good advised

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Haywhymido(m): 5:07pm On Jan 10, 2016

Women

Dont try to understand 'em,Vry difficult folks. A male in that same case wld give u a clear n straightforward answer.

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Vyolet(f): 5:12pm On Jan 10, 2016

MizMyColi:
No Sis,
I think you're wrong here.

Let's not fan the embers of enmity because we do not know the whole story.

It is not too cool to just write people off even when they give us the cold shoulder without pursuing whatever the real issue might be to a logical conclusion.

Bless you tons dear and happy sunday

I was still typing though, I was going to modify after I finish what I'm doing here but no P.

I said that because there are different level of friendship, if the lady in question was truly her friend, they would be there for each other since the man traveled, Op would know everything even without asking, if the Op was a good friend a well, she would not feel bad with that response she would just visit and get to know what's up.
Opinions differ though, no one knows how good their friendship is.
Bless you too.

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by yomi007k(m): 7:57pm On Jan 10, 2016

Haywhymido:
Women Dont try to understand 'em,Vry difficult folks. A male in that same case wld give u a clear n straightforward answer.

Abi ooo. I jus taya.

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Swissheart(f): 9:37pm On Jan 10, 2016

Basically, we do not really understand the mood of the other person when chatting unless we really are into each other and it takes time too. I have a friend who chats like that especially when it has been a while I contacted her.... Her response to 'hey baby how far' is always 'do you care'?...... That's her usual..... So the next thing I write is' when are you gonna be off work?I wan cun greet you ..... So, let it pass. Try chat her up again before visiting, okay.
No big deal

Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by Nobody: 10:09pm On Jan 10, 2016

MizMyColi:

It's nothing really dear.
Have you done anything you feel might have offended her?

Have been in touch with her since her husband travelled?

Chances are that she currently finds herself in an unpleasant situation which might be connected to her hubby.

If you can, do reach out to her face to face, when you can, okay?
Don't let her initial reaction get you angry.
Be the bigger person and show some understanding and compassion.
Inugo?

Nice!

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Re: Fellow Nairalanders" Please Advise Me. by MizMyColi(f): 10:56pm On Jan 10, 2016

Mindfulness:
Nice!

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