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| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by pjosh1(m): 8:41am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Bros u get chill o. Assuming say na me, na cutlass I go use pursue the girl immediately she announce her surname. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by prettyphlake(f): 8:41am On Jan 18, 2016 |
guy,its good to have a forgiving spirit, just forgive the man,also call the girl and tell her your grudge about her father or better still convince your parents to tell your brother abt the issue, I bliv true love will prevail |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by innocentchuks(m): 8:45am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Do also know that ur brother marriage to the man's daughter is a kind of vengeance on the man, such will weaking him and conscientious him. That is emmotional battle. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Sunshinelady(f): 8:59am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter:. Ha! Na wa o, d man dat supposedly caused d whole commotion is even dead. This is really complex. But wat will be will be sha |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Boyooosa(m): 9:00am On Jan 18, 2016 |
[quote author=SSpeter p n u luv d ost=42080872]I heard the supposed in-law is late. My parents and the wife had seemed to be communicating. My dad was a close friend to the late brother who sold the property to him. but I believe my parents are just being too emotional. I don't have issue with the lady but I don't want my brother to get married to her. Although my dad said he will tell my brother but I believe he is going to tell him the same version he told my sisters..........[/quote]Why did u insist dat ur brother should not marry her, is it because of d vow u made, or the hatred u av for d family already b4 knowin about d lady or just feel like being unforgiving soul? assuming u r in ur brother's shoes n u love n wish to marry d babae, wont you let it go? Afterall, if ur brother can let go, I dont think u av much hold on their marriage in as much the story is told to ur bro. BOL! |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Nobody: 9:01am On Jan 18, 2016 |
DAVE5:my brother it's not like that o. What the family did was wrong and there's no way the girl will be welcome into the family. Will you prefer her to be an outcast to her in laws. Me, I no be Jesus o, I no fit forgive this one |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by stonecoldcafe: 9:18am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter:[b]I understand how you feel and i dont have the answers you seek. It is a tough one. I feel for your family and the girls family. Now before i say much, remember that this girl didn't do anything to your family. She had no hand in it just as you personally didn't covert her parents property. It is between your supposed inlaw, your parents and whoever sold the house to them. Now let's look at it in another way. What if this your supposed in law is right? Put yourself in his shoes. If you were the one who was left to dispose to your father's property and a rogue brother sold it to a nice family, would you agree. Yes, take a minute and think. Remove your parents from the equation and all they suffered. If indeed your supposed inlaw was right, he HAD EVERY RIGHT TO FIGHT FOR THAT PROPERTY RIGHT till the very end. And don't forget the court agreed with him. Your parents lawyer also saw sense in it (after chopping their money as per his legal fees) and advised your parents to allow sleeping dogs lie. WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? Perhaps your so called inlaw was right afterall! Now when i began this advice, i was confused but now i'm done, i think i will tow your parents path as well. Allow your egbon brother be. Leave the lovers alone. You may even be shocked your brother knows about it. Perhaps the girl has put two and two together and has told your brother all he needs to know. The history between your family runs too deep for everyone to be playing ignorance. surnames have been mentioned and i believe your parents have met with the girls parents. They all know themselves and i assume the girl's parents must have told her certain things too. If they don't, a nosey relation must have told her and the girl would have told your brother in turn. Love does funny things to people. Your brother that has sworn to fight for your family will grow soft once he learns its wife to be family that caused the heartache for your parents. Yes, that's what love can do. It turns man to mumu. Don't make everlasting enemy with your blood brother. You will miss out on alot. If your parents who were most hurt can forgive, WHO ARE YOU to hold it against them. Let it be and let God have his way. Just go on your knees and pray. If it is God's will, let the marriage happen but if its not, let it scatter. Dont play God in anyone's affair. Leave the young lovers alone. God bless you bro. [/b] |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Skmoda360(m): 9:32am On Jan 18, 2016 |
zizazizu:your last sentence doesnt make sense. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by aimuan(m): 9:34am On Jan 18, 2016 |
My broda pls don't do it,I prefer u let ur suppose inlaw conscious judge him.children are not suppose to suffer for sins o their parents. SSpeter: |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by accelion(m): 9:46am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Just a quick question from the genesis: How come this girl's surname doesn't strike your brother's mind throughout till now? What surname did you call your father's "close friend" brother throughout your email to your brother? I am sensitive to the matter, but then, are we missing something here? My Questions: What's your father's name? What's the late man's name? What's the late man's brother's name? Court case was between your father and whose surname ![]() Does your brother know about the court case? Now What's your brother's fiancee's surname? Doesn't your brother know your father's friends name that sold where he supposedly was born lived? Your brother hasn't on his own studied the court case or trace the girl's lineage since he's determined to revenge? Is something wrong here? These questions should be answered first before any advise. @op, please forgive my curiosity but it could help you too |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by maxti: 9:50am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter:The best you can do is let him know the truth and then respect and agree to whatever decisions he decides to take [color=#000099][/color] |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by chocolateme(f): 9:52am On Jan 18, 2016 |
For me, I will suggest that you let your brother know the details of what transpired between the two families then so that he will decide for himself what decision to take considering the fact that he already had a payback feelings for the man that maltreated your family. Allow him to sought his it out with his own judgement since he is the one about to reconnect the two families again after so long. He should also consider the war the lady's father may bring to the family again should he have misunderstanding and serious quarels with his wife in future. Stop being angry ok? Just calm down, who even told you that the man has gone scot free? Law of Karma will visit him amd its goog that he is once again closer to ur family so that you will observ when his own starts, who knows, he will come running to your dad. What goes aroud comes around. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Codyt(m): 9:58am On Jan 18, 2016 |
yinkus4u2c:Msteew What's the correlation with the story written now? I blame ur ISP |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Bobicey(m): 9:59am On Jan 18, 2016 |
I can imagine hw it felt watchin ur parents go thru dose hard times. Do u knw u cud hav gotten d wrong impression bout dis whole tin, bin dat u were young den? Also 4 ur parents who went thru d hell u tot dey went thru 2 hav 4given dis 'ur sworn enemies', Guy, u rili shud also learn hw 2 4give. I knw its a hard decision, buh ur nt ruinin ur supposed in-laws life by tellin ur broda d whole truth, buh dat of d innocent grl. Who knws if ur broda might decide 2 4give dem due 2 d fact dat he's in luv wit deir daughter? How wud u feel den? |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by mrspeaker: 10:04am On Jan 18, 2016 |
There is nothing that can be hidding under the sun. for how long will your parent hide it from him? The truth will certainly unfold,the best thing is to tell him now rather than finding out later. Forgiveness is not forgetting but it is your duty to explained details with diplomacy so that all will be well. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Nobody: 10:05am On Jan 18, 2016 |
laprince:yp |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Damikevin(m): 10:16am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter:What would Jesus Do? That's all I have to say. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by ellarry(m): 10:36am On Jan 18, 2016 |
there is close to 90% chance i wont revenge when given the option if you hurt me, but you hurt my family you are going nowhere even if it takes me 100yrs. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by jayebros01(m): 10:42am On Jan 18, 2016 |
lofty900:Naso meself dey ur back bro..... I'll do the same if I dey ur shoe |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by MisterSam(m): 10:47am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Children paying for their parents sins ...since in the days of Adam n Eve. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Creamish(f): 10:54am On Jan 18, 2016 |
avalontony: Opetech: asatemple:...Yes i'm aware... Im basically trying to understand the rationale behind it... ![]() |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by beemzy2014(f): 10:55am On Jan 18, 2016 |
IamLEGEND1:lol. agbaya |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by lonelydora: 11:15am On Jan 18, 2016 |
IamLEGEND1:As simple as that. I always believe "an eye for an eye won't make the world go blind" but will make people to be cautious when dealing with others. Op, we dey your back, she can't reap where she didn't sow. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by MhzzKay(f): 11:16am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter: |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by mizlovette(f): 11:17am On Jan 18, 2016 |
My dear I felt goose pimples while reading ur story. It's heartbreaking left for me I'd say u should let ur brother know let him decided but he nids to know d truth. Even if u forgive them I don't think a man that had the heart to do this 2 ur family will ever regard ur parents as equal inlaws. The evil that men do lives with dem. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by IamLEGEND1: 11:25am On Jan 18, 2016 |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by yinkus4u2c(f): 11:35am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Codyt:You don't understand English I'm sure... Sorry hun ![]() |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by omotades: 12:12pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
Hmmmmmmn....this is serious, man. With all u said abt ur brother, I want to blv he is also aggrieved of wat befell his family. If in d future, he found out his bride's father is a dare devil( that's wat he is), how wud he react knowing u didn't tell him before time. I also believe he loves this lady well.This is where the ball is in ur court. Find a place in ur heart to forgive the man just as ur parents have forgiven him. If u can do this, the way u'll put it across to ur brother will be innocuous and that will douse the tension. At the end, ur brother is told without ruining his relationship |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by omotades: 12:15pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
Hmmmmmmn....this is serious, man. With all u said abt ur brother, I want to blv he is also aggrieved of wat befell his family. If in d future, he found out his bride's father is a dare devil( that's wat he is), how wud he react knowing u didn't tell him before time. I also believe he loves this lady well.This is where the ball is in ur court. Find a place in ur heart to forgive the man just as ur parents have forgiven him. If u can do this, the way u'll put it across to ur brother will be innocuous and that will douse the tension. At the end, ur brother is told without ruining his relationship. It's very difficult, I know, but u just av to forgive. |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by saasala(m): 12:24pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
amunkita:Very valid... |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by mobaladf: 12:35pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
Shey na u won marry him |
| Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Chrisx1x(m): 1:33pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
This story wuld make nice nollywood movie.it has a lot of morals in it. |
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