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Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
abbey621:Well this is just like a two edged sword. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 3:24pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Adaobi12: Yes but life is for those willing to take risks. Choose your glory! 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:26pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
bfatoba:am not saying no hustle, but when done at the detriment of your family happiness , its just a bad idea, a humble family life is worth fighting for, even more than silver and gold, no kid wants to be denied a fatherly affection, especialy the male kids. 5 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 3:27pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Billygee2u: You're being Illogical, Is this whole scenario possible if say, father works in Abuja and comes home to lagos, Once every 3 months for the weekend? I find that people aren't always truthful, especially in wanting others to achieve as much if not much more than they have. Why would anyone feel the need to discourage others from traveling abroad?, I sincerely hate it when people do that. I'll paint a scenario for you. Lets say you graduate with a Masters in Engineering from a reputable Nigerian University. it took all of the family resources to help you through, you spend the first year of your graduation going to NYSC, serving the country that doesn't provide you with any welfare state. You by all economical translation of the word "waste one year" in service. Only to realize that you've got three brother behind you, and one of them just gained admission, and your parents are looking to you to start "helping" your brothers, while they're simultaneously expecting marriage at the same time. You have a fiance from Univ, she's stuck with you through it all and you've told her, you'll marry her. Your families come together and you do a small marriage ceremony. she concieves... now you have, more responsibilities baring down your throat. Luck smiles at you, you come across an engineering job in Kuwait, you apply. they accept you, they tell you your average pay for an Electrical Engineer is KWD 8226 annually, which is about 5.4Million Naira.... Please decide now, if you won't leave your wife and unborn baby ? 5 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:28pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Speechless3: I love the scenery in your dp. Very soothing and lush landscape. Is it in Nigeria? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
bfatoba: I hear you. Nigerians limit themselves with emotions. Some US military are deployed overseas for years and what about those living in international space center. The greatest legacy I can leave for my children is that they can spread their wings. Even if one is living at home, an unruly wife could be shagging the Mai Guard. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN: Change that your environment. That one that you're surrounded by eloping husbands 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 3:43pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Randyhot: all Valid points, But how much of your childhood, Ages 2-6 do you remember. a vast number of the population will not be able to tell you, their daycare friends, kindergarten friends, even Nursery school friends, some won't even remember their friends, up till Primary 4. So what are you saying?, that is clearly the time you can really sacrifice and make up for after, As a father. plus we are from a culture where the community raises the children and it isn't just the responsibility of the parents alone.Plus the Dynamics of the family is constantly changing with the times. Male Kids need their mothers more in that age 2-8. You might not really get that, seeing as its a Patriarchal vs Matriarchal society. But I will accept, the importance of the Father all throughout the life of the children is unrivaled, cept only by that of the mother. 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:44pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
abbey621: i hope that your dad remembers the "obese" woman once in a while with financial assistance as she was the foundation of your families success. 5 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 3:48pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
EgunMogaji: Nope, he can't even remember her name. Omo Lasgidi we bad like that |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Aniomaman81(m): 3:50pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
bfatoba: I totally agree with the both of you and I'm currently in the same boat anyways. If my wife wants to cheat, she can go right ahead and do that, but it won't stop me from ensuring I get the best for my daughter by taking up expat opportunities as they arise; Hardship locations pay better and it does translate to a better life for your family, so I don't get what some people are saying on here. I would rather be out here working, than taking positions which would not be able to cater wholly for my family in Nigeria, just in the name of 'not missing' those moments. 3 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 3:50pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
So all the blame is on the husband now? Interesting! What about the wife? Was she forced to marry someone who lives abroad and was she forced to have two kids for the same person? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by MsGlobalwonder(f): 3:52pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
martineverest:you can say that again.. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 3:52pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN: The Things Women have held man back from... sad thing is you have no Idea what those men are facing, where they are. There are those that went to the US, who have no status, they live on the fringes, saving to come back home, and once they leave to come back home, knowing fully well they can never go back there again, because they've been staying there for that 10-15-20 years an illegal, working the lowest of the lowest of Jobs, and still providing for the same people that are back home. If you live your life according to the demands of a woman, you will move 20 steps forwards, 20 days of the month, and 10 steps back.. that 5 days of the month... the remaining 5 days, she won't like you. 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by MsGlobalwonder(f): 3:54pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
onatisi:he doesn't av to "get" a good job, he can create good jobs. Having a family is a job on it's own and decisions made shd be in the interest of the family. I personally cannot live single while married, I just can't. Everything has to be worked around that fact. If someone has to relocate, we do it together with proper planning. 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by praxisnetworks: 3:55pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
MsGlobalwonder:Men also love it..... But the thing that will make that stay at home rosy....na outside e dey 1 Like
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Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 3:57pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
abbey621: No to talk of the amount of Relatives that got to have a better life through your father. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 4:02pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
MsGlobalwonder: dare i say it... if an Opportunity arises for me to be in a better position and it meant, my wife and kids staying without me... and she refuses.. I might start seeing that wife as an enemy of progress.. and that might very well lead to the end of that relationship.... options are, take my children to my mother and file for divorce and go. If it was for my wife, i would gladly support her too. Marriage is about looking for the best interest of the family and if that means one going first, then thats what it will take. Reason with your brains and not your emotions. 3 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by esere826: 4:05pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
someone said something quite polite as this Billygee2u: and then you went ahead to respond with a fight like this: abbey621: umhhhh maybe i dont understand English anymore but if someone asks me if I've been to Japan before, the answer is NO, i've not been, but i've watched some japanese movies I dont think he was trying to diss youu |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bfatoba(m): 4:12pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Aniomaman81: what will you truly be missing in todays day in Age, you'll skype your daughter as much as she wants, she can tell you all about everything. And when it comes to the cheating, Ignorance is Bliss. Don't ask Don't tell.... is the motto in the Army. Life goes on. I wonder O, if WW3 breaks out now..... Nigerian women won't allow their men to go an defend them because they might get Hot at night. Simple Minds ... Just Can't DEAL. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 4:14pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
esere826: It's obvious you know the English language but you are not well versed in the art of interpretation or suggestive criticism! When someone issues a statement like this: have you traveled to abroad before? It shows the person has a preformed idea about his or her audience and this preformed sentiment allowed him to write in a condescending tone. If only he knew that the person he was replying was not only abroad but doing quite well, I'm absolutely sure he would have revised the statement! 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 4:16pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
MsGlobalwonder:ok ooo . I no go argue oooooo. I pray it all works out the way you want. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 4:20pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:how come you are surrounded by ppl with negative experiences? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by MsGlobalwonder(f): 4:22pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
onatisi:amin Jesu!! |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 4:24pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
If you want the sex Afam, egbon you can come and collect it. My children must get the best of me. 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 4:27pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
Ironically when a woman is given the choice of leaving her family for a job abroad with a very promising future and fantastic salary ,they never see anything wrong then in leaving their family > > That is when they will be telling the man they are working for him and the kids Women are queer species 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by esere826: 4:27pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
abbey621: uhmmm English is quite dynamic sha.. and probably subjective. i learnt the hard way only out of curiosity and small talk, whereabouts are you based? ..cheers |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by InvertedHammer: 4:29pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
/ I don't think anyone goes into marriage to live apart. All you can do is keep praying that "it shall not be your portion". Some people who thought they would fly in this world ended up crawling. Even though the scenario is a sad situation, everything happens for a reason. I met a gentleman in Guangzhou, China who overstayed his permit. Back in the days, he would be deported on arrest. But in recent times, he will be cleared like a container. For him, it has become a case of "damned if you, damned if you don't" that is, stay in China hoping for the best vs. submit yourself to the authority and be detained in China hoping for the best. \ |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 4:30pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
esere826: USA but the company I work for makes me travel over the world. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by MsGlobalwonder(f): 4:33pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
bfatoba:what I can infer from your submission: you are single and apparently don't know what it is to be married. We all learn daily, i'm learning too; please go learn what it means to be married. 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by correctyourself(m): 4:35pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
helovesme: Ok, I hope this would also be sensible to you! Please come and marry me and let me travel abroad, Please. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by esere826: 4:36pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
abbey621:Donald Trumps people Good that you travel round the world meeting new and diverse cultures nothing can take away from the joys of expanding ones world view beyond national barriers 1 Like |
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