Seun:
Here's a more serious question: what's a woman's birthday and gender after marriage? A wife should adopt her husband's birthday and gender.

HungerBAD:


I gave my advice purely on the Nigerian Societal Context.

In the Diaspora,don't think it matters(at least in my adopted country )

Kachisbarbie:
This argument has been on between my colleagues and I, some of us insist a woman maintains her maiden state of origin (officially) after marriage, others say she changes to her marital state of origin .

To the Mrs in the house, which state of origin do you put on official forms (e.g) bank documents, travelling, sim registration...etc.?

Kachisbarbie:
This argument has been on between my colleagues and I, some of us insist a woman maintains her maiden state of origin (officially) after marriage, others say she changes to her marital state of origin .

To the Mrs in the house, which state of origin do you put on official forms (e.g) bank documents, travelling, sim registration...etc.?

Seun:
Here's a more serious question: what's a woman's birthday and gender after marriage? A wife should adopt her husband's birthday and gender.

babygirlfl:



Sweetheart, you are right. State of origin does not change. Origin means start. It does not change. I and hubby come from the same state so would be the same state irrespective and I also hardly ever need to write such as I hardly ever get asked that.I perfectly understand why you asked. Some women have changed every trace of their existence before marriage. This is not bad on itself except that they expect every woman to do same. Please my dear, for your sanity, do not get into arguement with them. To such women. I always tell them to do what suit them let me do mine.

Cutehector:
Mrs intellectuality.. your topic is daft! And I will say it again and again and again.

Don't u understand what origin means? Your root? Your father's state. Jeez. I see no reason why very obvious things like these shoud cause a debate.

Elxandre:

I agree 100%!

The question is daft!

However, no one knows everything.

So you use style say my oga is daft?
Respect yasef o

Kachisbarbie:
This argument has been on between my colleagues and I, some of us insist a woman maintains her maiden state of origin (officially) after marriage, others say she changes to her marital state of origin .

To the Mrs in the house, which state of origin do you put on official forms (e.g) bank documents, travelling, sim registration...etc.?

cococandy:

I really don't know.
But I remember when I wanted to get intl passport a while ago and they asked me for letter of identification from my LGA, I gave them the one I had but they were saying I needed one from my hubby's LGA since I'm now married in a different state. I was Like 'for real'!

I certainly didn't know where his LGA headquarters is. much less traveling there to look for letter of identification.
I think I paid them some money and they did some abracadabra and my passport was ready.

I was already hot, tired and getting frustrated from much activity that day. So I didn't really care if they were saying it to fleece me of some money or if I was legally required to adopt a new place of identification as soon as I got married.

But you're right people do expect women to change everything about them when they get married. So don't mind those yabbing your thread as if what you're saying is a lie or doesn't happen.

Kachisbarbie:

I am surprised it has gotten to the point of tagging my question daft. Everyday I give women KYC forms, once they get to State of Origin_ some would pause and ask me "my own or husbands own?". Some would authoritatively write their husband's own, till I notice the discrepancy with their IDs.

Abi is it an eastern thing? Because it's common here in the East o

cococandy:
It's NL na. Don't let the comments get to you.
Some people who haven't experienced something will still comment as if they know how it works.

I don't know if it's an eastern thing.
I think the main problem is that there's no clear constitution on that. So people tend to do it either ways leading to more confusion. One official might tell you to use yours and another will tell you to use your husband's. All based on their personal opinions.

Kachisbarbie:

alright Sir.
Endeavour to drive your points home constructively. Obviously there are people here who feel it should change to the husband's. The aim of this thread is to educate us all properly, but no...some people here think they are smart and every other person with wrong view(s) is a daft being.

cococandy:

I really don't know.
But I remember when I wanted to get intl passport a while ago and they asked me for letter of identification from my LGA, I gave them the one I had but they were saying I needed one from my hubby's LGA since I'm now married in a different state. I was Like 'for real'!

I certainly didn't know where his LGA headquarters is. much less traveling there to look for letter of identification.
I think I paid them some money and they did some abracadabra and my passport was ready.

I was already hot, tired and getting frustrated from much activity that day. So I didn't really care if they were saying it to fleece me of some money or if I was legally required to adopt a new place of identification as soon as I got married.

But you're right people do expect women to change everything about them when they get married. So don't mind those yabbing your thread as if what you're saying is a lie or doesn't happen.

Kachisbarbie:

I am surprised it has gotten to the point of tagging my question daft. Everyday I give women KYC forms, once they get to State of Origin_ some would pause and ask me "my own or husbands own?". Some would authoritatively write their husband's own, till I notice the discrepancy with their IDs.

Abi is it an eastern thing? Because it's common here in the East o

Ishilove:

I don't know why you are bothering to reply. Some people are childish and they don't think deeply enough, hence they wave the multi-coloured banner of their ignorance with unrepentant pride.

Your question is a very valid one and anyone who says it is daft need to reevaluate their education

Askseek:


I think the problem here is when we say Nigeria we are referring to a really large group of people and not all do the same. Culture differs. I never experienced this. When I got a new passport after marriage all I was asked for was marriage certificate.

darkenedrebel:



Whoever pauses even for a second to think, or ask if a woman should alter her state of origin after she gets married also needs to reevaluate his/her education.
Are we living in the dark ages or what?

Women are human beings, not properties or automatons abeg.

cococandy:

That's why I said I think it might be a thing of the official's personal opinion.
I didn't generalize.

Askseek:


Not at you personally, just saying and sharing a differing experience

cococandy:
I agree. <But women are still expected to. Hence the question and debate.

darkenedrebel:


Why?..Is she a slave?, and won't that be depriving the progenies the diversity marriage is supposed to offer?..

Father(Ibo) + mother(Yoruba) = offspring(Ibo & Yoruba)

•If the woman changes her state of origin, then the child loses that right.

So if a Nigerian man marries a Caucasian from St.Louis, she's expected to denounce her state of origin?

Come on...

darkenedrebel:


Why?..Is she a slave?, and won't that be depriving the progenies the diversity marriage is supposed to offer?..

Father(Ibo) + mother(Yoruba) = offspring(Ibo & Yoruba)

•If the woman changes her state of origin, then the child loses that right.

So if a Nigerian man marries a Caucasian from St.Louis, she's expected to denounce her state of origin?

Come on...

Askseek:


People have different practices..Have heard of renaming a wife not changing where you come from. My younger sister married a man from the same state and ethnic group, only different village and after marriage the family wanted to rename her. All the other wives accepted the new names they were given. My sister gently told the family it was not happening, her hubby supported her. The family huffed and puffed and then gave up. People can ask or say what they want, you don't have to accept it.