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I888:
well, she knows better already and I guess she has seen where is made a mistake. If this got to front page, she would be roasted alive lol.

It makes sense now because she has at least told us the circumstances, after confusing us lol,

I think posters should be upfront with valid information from get go.

This is why I can and will never marry a man with a kid/s.. Baggage!!

It is easier to correct your own child,even send her away in this case, be strict,use cane..no worries..but being a step mother, you better be careful...even using calm words to correct her shows you are a wicked person trying to build a bridge between papa and daughter as if the man sef na fool to allow any one separate him from his child.

As for the thread, I cant relate but I can vividly remember how my mum stopped me from sitting on my dad's lap when I was 10.

I can see one person with a good heart who loves children , every other person here hates children.
With time sha,your heart will heal and will be more real here instead of trying hard to gain sympathy over your broken heart.. Cheer up

on nairaland even married men/women behave like kids someone talked about having a step mum and it automatically opens that person up for insult on a matter that isn't even ours. At your age

Hahahahahahaha. Traumatic childhoods on the loose. Hmm, 2016, our year of confession and enlightenment. Hmm, puts a lot of comments and attitudes in perspective right now. Cast all your cares upon him yall.

zeb04:
on nairaland even married men/women behave like kids someone talked about having a step mum and it automatically opens that person up for insult on a matter that isn't even ours. At your age

If you dunno agree with them,you are not on their side and everything you say is wrong.
Fools everywhere..

Some people are just crazy... I had to check the thread again to see if women were the only ones against this issue.. I dont get where the wicked step mum came from, when there are guys who also saw the nonsense.. What do we call the guys

Miami11:
It makes sense now because she has at least told us the circumstances, after confusing us lol,

I think posters should be upfront with valid information from get go.

oh really? Make I check am.

quivah:
This is why I can and will never marry a man with a kid/s.. Baggage!!

It is easier to correct your own child,even send her away in this case, be strict,use cane..no worries..but being a step mother, you better be careful...even using calm words to correct her shows you are a wicked person trying to build a bridge between papa and daughter as if the man sef na fool to allow any one separate him from his child.

As for the thread, I cant relate but I can vividly remember how my mum stopped me from sitting on my dad's lap when I was 10.

Your mum must have been wicked too.
Just kidding.
A lot of people aren't being real. Maybe because it's online or what?.
A 14 year old shouldn't be sleeping with the parents. Even when we were ill as young kids, we slept in our rooms, and our parents would check up on us intermittently in the middle of the night. You'll Just hear the door open, or feel hands on your neck checking your temp.
The young girl needs love as all children do no doubt, but been asked to sleep in your own room instead of your parents room doesn't mean they don't love you.
The whole thing sef shouldn't be an issue, and I'm surprised some feel the OP is harsh or something.

eyinjuege:
Your mum must have been wicked too.
Just kidding.
A lot of people aren't being real. Maybe because it's online or what?.
A 14 year old shouldn't be sleeping with the parents. Even when we were ill as young kids, we slept in our rooms, and our parents would check up on us intermittently in the middle of the night. You'll Just hear the door open, or feel hands on your neck checking your temp.
The young girl needs love as all children do no doubt, but been asked to sleep in your own room instead of your parents room doesn't mean they don't love you.
The whole thing sef shouldn't be an issue, and I'm surprised some feel the OP is harsh or something.

Yes,she would have been if she was my stepmum but shes my mum and was just being a 'mum' .
I'm surprised too, and every body (females and males) who dont subscribe to the girl's behavior are wicked people who dont love children just because the op is a stepmum... There would be a change of tune if she were the mum.
I dont see how sleeping with the parents proves/shows any kinda love..

Sometimes, being a stepmum isn't the problem... Its the way people count your actions while you are at it that is the problem. Better to be a mum gangan and shut anybody's useless mouth than crawl on their opinions cause I'm a stepmum.
The issue in the op is that; she is a stepmum..
The child might be wrong in everybody's view but the op is a stepmum and c'mon shes only trying to tear father and child apart.
Maybe op should leave the room for them and let her sleep besides papa till 21 since she needs papa's love.

Timbuktou:
What is wowing you? Shouldn't rápe victims be more careful than the rest of the general population by virtue of experience alone?

Lmao....

They should, indeed...

Timbuktou:
Crackhaus, are you seeing what am saw? Most of our sisters here grew up fatherless. Now, I understand the root of bitterness and hatred for men in this section. Chai. Pity, pity.

I dey see am o bros, no be small sometin...

BTW, hope you saw my response to you on the next thread where you asked about my whereabouts before that trigger-finger happy mod hid it?

eyinjuege:
Your mum must have been wicked too.
Just kidding.
A lot of people aren't being real. Maybe because it's online or what?.
A 14 year old shouldn't be sleeping with the parents. Even when we were ill as young kids, we slept in our rooms, and our parents would check up on us intermittently in the middle of the night. You'll Just hear the door open, or feel hands on your neck checking your temp.
The young girl needs love as all children do no doubt, but been asked to sleep in your own room instead of your parents room doesn't mean they don't love you.
The whole thing sef shouldn't be an issue, and I'm surprised some feel the OP is harsh or something.

quivah:
Yes,she would have been if she was my stepmum but shes my mum and was just being a 'mum' .
I'm surprised too, and every body (females and males) who dont subscribe to the girl's behavior are wicked people who dont love children just because the op is a stepmum... There would be a change of tune if she were the mum.
I dont see how sleeping with the parents proves/shows any kinda love..

Sometimes, being a stepmum isn't the problem... Its the way people count your actions while you are at it that is the problem. Better to be a mum gangan and shut anybody's useless mouth than crawl on their opinions cause I'm a stepmum.
The issue in the op is that; she is a stepmum..
The child might be wrong in everybody's view but the op is a stepmum and c'mon shes only trying to tear father and child apart.
Maybe op should leave the room for them and let her sleep besides papa till 21 since she needs papa's love.

You both don't seem to get it yet, a 14year old sleeping on the same bed as her dad and mom or step-mommy is definitely not a normal routine.

The issue here is how one should go about treating the situation - check the first page and see the moronic excuses people were coming up with as to why it's bad, some even came off so aggressive like they already have a bad experience with daughters sleeping on the same bed as their dads.

And to think a sexual connotation is being ascribed to it while others were mentioning menses...like seriously?

I888:
that's because there are too many bitter women in this section. This is just a tip of what crawls around here. Others are still in their cave and would be out like vampires at night.

Only a few are matured and reason from all angles before they make a post.

Honestly i'am disgusted at what some of these women are writing. I'am a feminist and i am not bitter so abeg don't judge all of us by the words of actions of some.

Too many selfish women here, as a woman with 2 step daughters and who grew up with divorced parents, OP you are over-reacting. The girl hardly ever gets to see her father and obviously she just misses him and wants to spend as much time as possible with him. You can't compare that with a child that lives with her father regularly. You yourself in the child's place, do you know what it means to see your Dad so infrequently and then you have to sleep in a strange house in a strange bedroom. All those reading sinister thoughts into this child's innocent act are sick. Simply take her back to her room when she comes and then you or the Dad should stay with her till she falls asleep. After a while she'll get to trust you and know she'll always have the security of her Dad in her life.

By the way no one is saying it shouldn't be corrected , people are just disgusted that some people are trying to make it like the child has an agenda.

Mamatee07:
Honestly i'am disgusted at what some of these women are writing. I'am a feminist and i am not bitter so abeg don't judge all of us by the words of actions of some.

Too many selfish women here, as a woman with 2 step daughters and who grew up with divorced parents, OP you are over-reacting. The girl hardly ever gets to see her father and obviously she just misses him and wants to spend as much time as possible with him. You can't compare that with a child that lives with her father regularly. You yourself in the child's place, do you know what it means to see your Dad so infrequently and then you have to sleep in a strange house in a strange bedroom. All those reading sinister thoughts into this child's innocent act are sick. Simply take her back to her room when she comes and then you or the Dad should stay with her till she falls asleep. After a while she'll get to trust you and know she'll always have the security of her Dad in her life.

By the way no one is saying it shouldn't be corrected , people are just disgusted that some people are trying to make it like the child has an agenda.

Case No. 1 - First bold text.
Case No. 2 - Second bold text.
Case No. 3 - Third bold text.

Verdict:
All parties should and must take note of all case files listed above and move to adopt a motion for the use of the commonest of common sense.

crackhaus:
I dey see am o bros, no be small sometin...

BTW, hope you saw my response to you on the next thread where you asked about my whereabouts before that trigger-finger happy- mod hid it?

I dey tell you.

Didn't see it o. What mod is that? . Are you like a new year outlaw or something?

Miami11:
It makes sense now because she has at least told us the circumstances, after confusing us lol,

I think posters should be upfront with valid information from get go.

I didn't the update o.

crackhaus:
You both don't seem to get it yet, a 14year old sleeping on the same bed as her dad and mom or step-mommy is definitely not a normal routine.

The issue here is how one should go about treating the situation - check the first page and see the moronic excuses people were coming up with as to why it's bad, some even came off so aggressive life they already have a bad experience with daughters sleeping on the same bed as their dads.

And to think a sexual connotation is being ascribed to it while others were mentioning menses...like seriously?

Yeah, I saw the comments on the first page... However, it was the guys that started with the aggressive method, while the first few ladies brought up the 'talk to the dad' solution,I don't see how that's aggressive.. It's cause she's a step mum in this case,,if she were the mother,she would have scolded her not wait to have any chit chat with the dad... And,nobody called the dudes wicked btw..
Since other people's opinions on the thread do not make sense to you.,, why do you think a 14yr old girl sleeping on the same bed as dad n mum is not a normal routine

Mamatee07:
Honestly i'am disgusted at what some of these women are writing. I'am a feminist and i am not bitter so abeg don't judge all of us by the words of actions of some.

Too many selfish women here, as a woman with 2 step daughters and who grew up with divorced parents, OP you are over-reacting. The girl hardly ever gets to see her father and obviously she just misses him and wants to spend as much time as possible with him. You can't compare that with a child that lives with her father regularly. You yourself in the child's place, do you know what it means to see your Dad so infrequently and then you have to sleep in a strange house in a strange bedroom. All those reading sinister thoughts into this child's innocent act are sick. Simply take her back to her room when she comes and then you or the Dad should stay with her till she falls asleep. After a while she'll get to trust you and know she'll always have the security of her Dad in her life.

By the way no one is saying it shouldn't be corrected , people are just disgusted that some people are trying to make it like the child has an agenda.

Madam, I have respect for women but to be honest with you, I fear for the men who house these women I see in this section.

All is not well I tell you.

Based on what I have seen in the section, I can as well say many grew up in homes where love and bond holds no grain of substance and that we you these bitter elements around here. I can't say much because Nigerians mostly don't love each other and little wonder in my school days after answering a call from my sister, she said " I love you" and I replied "I love you too" My then roommate felt disgusted and shocked on hearing that. He said how can you tell you sister "I love you"?

I took pic at the airport with my sister and hugged her from behind. Till date, people are asking if that is my sister or am I sure she is my sister? Well, that is how we roll where I grew up and I can't speak for others.

Much ado about nothing.

The daughter has some issues. Whether it is jealousy or not is subject to speculation but it probably is.

I wouldn't make her issues my own. I will gladly take the guest room and enjoy a night or two without the sound of snoring.


Just because I am married to her father, does not mean that I have the right or obligation to discipline her. She was 12 when I got married to her father and her mother is still alive. She is her parent's responsibility. And her jealousy issues are hers, I am too confident to compete against a teenager. Besides, what for and to what end? Let her sleep with her father on one bed. The girl does not see him as much as she was used to and as much as she would love to.

I don't know why people must make life so complicated. I consciously choose the easy path.

Happy Sunday! Relax!

crackhaus:
And this one will look in the mirror before going to church tomorrow morning and believe she has intelligence.

So what's the difference if a 14year old or a 6year old sleeps on your bed?
Your own daughter oo.

Mr intelligencia, the only thing I have seen in your posts is aggression and tackling.
So I pass.

Mindfulness:
Much ado about nothing.

The daughter has some issues. Whether it is jealousy or not is subject to speculation but it probably is.

I wouldn't make her issues my own. I will gladly take the guest room and enjoy a night or two without the sound of snoring.


Just because I am married to her father, does not mean that I have the right or obligation to discipline her. She was 12 when I got married to her father and her mother is still alive. She is her parent's responsibility. And her jealousy issues are hers, I am too confident to compete against a teenager. Besides, what for and to what end? Let her sleep with her father on one bed. The girl does not see him as much as she was used to and as much as she would love to.

I don't know why people must make life so complicated. I consciously choose the easy path.

Happy Sunday! Relax!

God bless you

TheArchangel:
Mr intelligencia, the only thing I have seen in your posts is aggression and tackling.
So I pass.

Mumu!

quivah:
Yeah, I saw the comments on the first page... However, it was the guys that started with the aggressive method, while the first few ladies brought up the 'talk to the dad' solution,I don't see how that's aggressive.. It's cause she's a step mum in this case,,if she were the mother,she would have scolded her not wait to have any chit chat with the dad... And,nobody called the dudes wicked btw..
Since other people's opinions on the thread do not make sense to you.,, why do you think a 14yr old girl sleeping on the same bed as dad n mum is not a normal routine

Duh, she's 14years old

But does this mean anyone should be throwing hissyfits on that account?
It's not normal, does not mean daddy will be playing with her nips underneath the covers or that her menses or periods bla bla bla (I can't even believe how someone would think any of these)

Timbuktou:
I dey tell you.

Didn't see it o. What mod is that? . Are you like a new year outlaw or something?

Mynd something...

Dude must really think I stole his girl, except that I don't remember sending a PM recently to any chic residing in Lagos hence I can't understand the fixation on my moniker, ergo, indiscrimately ambitious bans

Mindfulness:
Much ado about nothing.

The daughter has some issues. Whether it is jealousy or not is subject to speculation but it probably is.

I wouldn't make her issues my own. I will gladly take the guest room and enjoy a night or two without the sound of snoring.


Just because I am married to her father, does not mean that I have the right or obligation to discipline her. She was 12 when I got married to her father and her mother is still alive. She is her parent's responsibility. And her jealousy issues are hers, I am too confident to compete against a teenager. Besides, what for and to what end? Let her sleep with her father on one bed. The girl does not see him as much as she was used to and as much as she would love to.

I don't know why people must make life so complicated. I consciously choose the easy path.

Happy Sunday! Relax!

Okay... *thinking* Okay... *thinking* Okay...

I think I'm going to buy what you just sold this time

crackhaus:
Mynd something...

Dude must really think I stole his girl, except that I don't remember sending a PM recently to any chic residing in Lagos.

Lol. Mynd44? Dude used to be cool way back when. I guess you guys should talk it out over drinks and soya

Timbuktou:
Lol. Mynd? Dude used to be cool way back when. I guess you guys should talk it out over drinks and soya

I will suffocate him with awesomeness if we step into the same room.

crackhaus:
I will suffocate him with awesomeness if we step into the same room.

Lol. Give the guy a break biko. I hear he's a supermod these days, perhaps he's being a tad over-zealous?

Timbuktou:
Lol. Give the guy a break biko. I hear he's a supermod these days, perhaps he's being a tad over-zealous?

Over-zealous and vindictive...however, this too shall pass.

It's a phase

crackhaus:
Over-zealous and vindictive...however, this too shall pass.
It's a phase

Indeed, it usually does.

crackhaus:
Mumu!

I'll pass.