cyprus000:
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U may be used to the popular saying of "to forgive is human".
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cyprus000:
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U may be used to the popular saying of "to forgive is human". it kinda sound lame and unreasonable, especially when a suppose adversery is at your mercy, after suffering hell at the hands of that same person(I feel same way too).

But I tell you
,. Transfering hate/anger in this situation is illogically and unapt, Considering that this woman is not just a stranger,but a family to you, bounded by blood.
Nature and karma may leta dance shoki with that little blessing you feel you have presently, if you decide to go on with ur plans. (Nobody has monopoly over success)
Don't forget that no matter how you may think that her daughter, hate her.
She will always have soft spot for her mother and wouldn't completely support you kicking her mother out, which is ironically a slap to her person...infact, when your other inlaws hear how you treated their daughter. They will never have favourable opinion of you.

Maturity demands that you help her out and make provision for her leaving. By doing so. You have shown her maturity and she will surely regret the way she treated you.
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Omotayor123:

It's actually, "To err is Human and "To forgive is Divine" Nice contribution by the way. On point!

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Lol..I actually dey hear the thing from far, I nova settle down learn am.


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helphelp:

Bounded by which Yeye blood

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If yes, na him be say you no get argument. [/size]

cyprus000:
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U may be used to the popular saying of "to forgive is human". it kinda sound lame and unreasonable, especially when a suppose adversery is at your mercy, after suffering hell at the hands of that same person(I feel same way too).

But I tell you
,. Transfering hate/anger in this situation is illogically and unapt, Considering that this woman is not just a stranger,but a family to you, bounded by blood.
Nature and karma may leta dance shoki with that little blessing you feel you have presently, if you decide to go on with ur plans. (Nobody has monopoly over success)
Don't forget that no matter how you may think that her daughter, hate her.
She will always have soft spot for her mother and wouldn't completely support you kicking her mother out, which is ironically a slap to her person...infact, when your other inlaws hear how you treated their daughter. They will never have favourable opinion of you.

Maturity demands that you help her out and make provision for her leaving. By doing so. You have shown her maturity and she will surely regret the way she treated you.
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nani212:
if I were in your shoes, I will forgive her but I wont give her a kobo of my money. She doesn't deserve any atom of kindness.

ng.cars:
I think she is not a responsible mother. I can assure you that she will come back for more if you help her now.

what if something bad happened to her daughter during pregnancy? she will treat you Like a maga if you fall for this.

daveson07:
she just finished her apprihentice,she is now a nurse and i'm trying to set up her mini-shop for clinical purpose so i'm gonna do all the marriage rites before this year runs out by the grace of God,,tnx a lot

EggovinMma:
You got her daughter pregnant despite you knew you were a destitute and you expect her to be nice to you abi? Not only that you left her with her mother to take care of, as if the woman no get her own problem? You are not serious. I'm happy she chased her daughter back to you, at least it made you remember to take care of your responsibility. If you like help, if you like no help her, heaven no go fall.

madgoat:


OP, i am very happy for you that God has blessed you and changed your story to glory. Also you have made positive impact in the life of your proposed wife. God bless you and you wife.
Plz i would like to advise you not to open shop for your wife for 'clinical purpose' as you put it. Shes an auxiliary nurse and should work under the supervision of a doctor in d hospital. I dnt knw what u mean by clinical purpose or what the shop is going to be used for but God forbid anything bad should happen in d shop she wil be arrested and sent to prison. Apart frm that its illegal for a nurse to run a clinic and more so, she was trained as an auxiliary nurse. Im just trying to point all this things out to you because you seem like a very good man who jas passed through a lot in life but things are now changing for the better. It wont be good to start facing problems just bcoz of the good you are trying to do by helping your wife.

LastProphet:


i think you are wrong, there was nothing TOO wicked with what the woman did, she was just human, who will be happy to feed a daughter impregnated by a guy without job? if she was a rich woman that will be different, but she wasn't.
the OP should not think the woman was wicked because she was not, she was just angry and she had a right to be.
he can help her and he can decide to play God since he has little money now but don't be too comfortable because "nothing is certain"

TheArchangel:
a nurse Apprentice ?? Which world are you living in?? Oh my God, my enviable profession is being rubbished by my fellow countrymen.
Your woman is a ward maid, in as much as this is not related to your quest, please send that girl to school to be a professional nurse not Eliza nurse.


See my homies on our exam and break period.....damn.

InvertedHammer:

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You were a destitute and you impregnated her daughter. What were you expecting from her? A high five?

She reacted the exact same way a sane mother would.

If you have the means, help her. If you don't help her, be ready for war ahead. This time it will be mother/daughter tag team
against you.

No condition is permanent. Who says you will not need her help in future?
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daveson07:
she just finished her apprihentice,she is now a nurse and i'm trying to set up her mini-shop for clinical purpose so i'm gonna do all the marriage rites before this year runs out by the grace of God,,tnx a lot

doveda:


You have a point but she is still her daughter. What if something else had happened to her?

Khan1993:
Bad in-laws everywhere. But look the brighter side. God has fought for you. Help her with the money but DONT allow her live with you afterwards.

daveson07:
My first thread on Nl....
Please pardon my way of writing i aint that a good writer,just a learner
It happens that i mistakenly impregnated a girl some years ago,i wasn't ready bcuz i was a destitute then,my mother in-law was suppose to be taking care of her daughter then,but something really baffles me
My mother in-law was the type that like to evade the responbilities of takin care of her children,to cut the long story short..
She always make life difficult for her daughter during pregnancy,she won't even give her a single meal per day,it was i that was taking care of the girl then,just that she aint living with me bcuz i was managing with one of my friend then,she always insult her daughter that why must she get pregnant for someone so destitute
Eventually she sent her packing to come and be living with me that she can't live with her again,bcuz i normally visit her and she can't stand the sight of me
But the girl love me die,when she brought her luggages to my friends place i was so ashamed so i had to go and borrow money from one man in our area that normally give out money with a huge interest,I used the money i borrowed to rent a face me i slap you single room,we were managing there untill God finally answer my prayer and now God has really favour me.....
Now to why i open this thread,my mother in-law borrowed money from those people they call (gurumi,napo,ship nd so on....)Now she is unable to pay them and she is now living with us for the past two weeks now and they are looking for her all over
She wants me to help her pay at least a little out of the money,actually i'm capable of paying all the money but i don't want to,and am getting bored of her presence,I just need advices from mature mind either to pay the money or chase her out of my house....
Pls I swear this isn't a Fantasy,it's my life story and am typing with tears of Joy and sadness,I need your help urgently Nl brainiacs...forgive my long samon.tnks nd God bless

daveson07:
My first thread on Nl....
Please pardon my way of writing i aint that a good writer,just a learner
It happens that i mistakenly impregnated a girl some years ago,i wasn't ready bcuz i was a destitute then,my mother in-law was suppose to be taking care of her daughter then,but something really baffles me
My mother in-law was the type that like to evade the responbilities of takin care of her children,to cut the long story short..
She always make life difficult for her daughter during pregnancy,she won't even give her a single meal per day,it was i that was taking care of the girl then,just that she aint living with me bcuz i was managing with one of my friend then,she always insult her daughter that why must she get pregnant for someone so destitute
Eventually she sent her packing to come and be living with me that she can't live with her again,bcuz i normally visit her and she can't stand the sight of me
But the girl love me die,when she brought her luggages to my friends place i was so ashamed so i had to go and borrow money from one man in our area that normally give out money with a huge interest,I used the money i borrowed to rent a face me i slap you single room,we were managing there untill God finally answer my prayer and now God has really favour me.....
Now to why i open this thread,my mother in-law borrowed money from those people they call (gurumi,napo,ship nd so on....)Now she is unable to pay them and she is now living with us for the past two weeks now and they are looking for her all over
She wants me to help her pay at least a little out of the money,actually i'm capable of paying all the money but i don't want to,and am getting bored of her presence,I just need advices from mature mind either to pay the money or chase her out of my house....
Pls I swear this isn't a Fantasy,it's my life story and am typing with tears of Joy and sadness,I need your help urgently Nl brainiacs...forgive my long samon.tnks nd God bless