wtfCode:
ur brother married the wrong.
some women are good at tearing families apart when married.
mehn, my own advice is prayer.
and always show him brotherly love he didnt gave u back then.
na ur brother oo,and aint nobody else gonna be him.
#let love lead bro.

Miami11:


Why are people always quick to blame the wife, what about the husband that knows where he came from and chose not to help,

Your brother is at fault here, he knew the situation back at home and could not help the family anymore, talk to him poster maybe he does not even know he offended the family by not helping. His wife cannot hold a gun a force him to do his duties.

wtfCode:

dude, there are relationships in which the woman controls the husband and this is one of it.
he might even be under a spell.
if its not the womans fault, why would she write the family to stop pesting them of money?

Miami11:


Why are people always quick to blame the wife, what about the husband that knows where he came from and chose not to help,

Your brother is at fault here, he knew the situation back at home and could not help the family anymore, talk to him poster maybe he does not even know he offended the family by not helping. His wife cannot hold a gun a force him to do his duties.

tellwisdom:
You see what i keep saying about these Nigerian women?...They are witch

Miami11:


Does that include your mother and sisters, because they are Nigerian women too

and your daughters

tellwisdom:


Don't ever never quote me again saying this rubbish to me. I'm in a good mood tonight.

Miami11:

What ya gonna do? Pass empty threats behind the screen of your computer! I just quoted you again proudly. You find no reason to converse cordially, well am here, bring it on buddy!!

Spits

joa2013:
Please don’t mind my long story.
Our parent have four of us. The first is a female, while the second is a male, he is my immediate elder brother, I am the third, I have a younger sister who is our last born. Our father died in 1990 when our eldest sister was in year one at the College of Education, my elder brother was in SS II, I was in SS I and my younger sister was in JSS I. With the death of our dad, An uncle who was also trained by my dad took responsibility for the training of our elder sister at the College of Education while the responsibilities for the education and upkeep of the remaining three of us fell upon our mom who at that time was employed as an office attendant in the civil service of the old Ondo State before Ekiti was carved out. She retired from the service of Ekiti State Government on Grade Level Six in 2009.
All of us could be described as above average academically while in school. Secondary School was not really free in those days even though the fees weren’t much, It wasn’t easy for my mum to cater for the three of us with her meager income, I remember that we had to really work hard in the farm to cultivate staple foods like cassava, maize etc to augment whatever our mom collect as salary. It wasn’t easy at all.
My elder brother completed his SSCE in 1991 with good results and had to be employed as sales assistant in a bookshop in Akure then, I completed mine in 1992, I was lucky enough to be employed as a clerical officer in the former office of my late dad, it’s a federal government agency, therefore I earned more than my elder brother and even close to what my mum was earning then. At this point, we made a family arrangement to allow my brother go for further studies first while my income and that of my mum would be channeled towards his education and our upkeep while I will get enrolled after he had completed his and that he will also help in assisting the remaining two of us in our education after he secures a job God willing. Things worked out, he was admitted to study Mechanical Engineering at FUTA. It wasn’t a nice time at all, I couldn’t just say I’m buying dresses or shoes at will, I worked for the whole of the over six years my brother spent at FUTA with my income being used to take care of his studies.
He completed his degree in 1998 and went for service, I got admitted to the University of Agriculture, Abeokuta to study Environmental Management and Toxicology (EMT) in year 2000, my brother had completed youth service then. He came back from service in Rivers State with a lady whom he wanted to marry, we all accepted Aunty Moji very well, thinking that they would still court for few years before marriage and that during that time, he would be able to render whatever assistance he could to us. My brother secured a job with the Federal Government with the assistance of a friend of our late father who was a Director General in a Federal Government agency then. My brother’s first pre-occupation after securing this job was to get engrossed with marital plans which I don’t see as bad anyway but I expected that he pity and come to the aid of our mum who had suffered so much for us and our younger sister who had left secondary school but couldn’t move any further and myself who had tried my best to keep my own side of our agreement. My brother closed his eyes against all of us. We attended his wedding somehow and continued with our lives. I told my mum to face my younger sister who was admitted to Owo Poly while I began my struggle to have university education. I was given study leave without pay in my office since my boss said study leave with pay could only be approved in Abuja, I suffered a lot in school. I became an emergency home teacher for two families in Abeokuta, the pay was peanut, I spent close to 50% of the earnings on transportation because I lived in the hostel since I couldn’t afford an off-campus accommodation. It wasn’t easy for me to combine the teaching jobs with the tasking academic schedule of UNAAB. I made frantic efforts to seek help from my brother to no avail until his wife, Aunty Moji wrote a nasty letter to my mum, asking her to warn me to stop troubling her family by my monetary demands. My brother did not contribute a dime to my education or assist my sister and mom, his wife will not even offer me water not to talk of food each time I visited them, meanwhile the mother and younger sister of Aunty Moji lived with them, this wasn’t my problem anyway but that I seriously needed financial assistance in those days.
My elder sister who had secured a job as a teacher tried her best for me, her hubby, a lawyer wasn’t doing well at that time, but things improved for them later in 2003 when PDP won the governorship election in Ogun State, he got a political appointment from the then Chief Gbenga Daniel’s administration in the state, they were of immense help to us. I completed my first degree in 2006, went for service and came back to my former office as a school certificate worker. My brother in-law also assisted in getting me a job later with his PDP connections. My younger sister finished her HND and got married to a university lecturer, she secured a job with a federal government health institution. I thank God for everything.
My issue now is that my brother has refused to relate freely with any of us, his wife don’t even relate with my mum or any of us at all, my brother usually sound apologetic or someone in deep regrets anytime I talk with him but he keep his distance and our relationship with him isn’t cordial at all despite all efforts we have been making to reconcile and get things right with him and his family. This is a big source of worry for my mum who should now relax and enjoy her retirement having labored so much for us, my elder sister is damn too emotional and spiritual about it all, she will cry and cry each time I discuss it with her, that’s her own nature anyway, her husband is too busy with politics and his business, my younger sister is the “I don’t care type”, she sees no reason why we should bother ourselves with him and his family since they have consistently kept their distance, my mum isn’t happy about the fact that his first son is estranged from our family, she even begged the parent of Aunty Moji, our in-law to intervene and help her beg them if she had offended them in any way, nothing seems to be yielding positive result. Our uncle who tried to wade into the issue at a time quickly withdrew because of the insulting nature of my brother’s wife.
The situation looks helpless but I have read a lot of issues like this on this forum and I saw a lot of good contributions from well meaning and experienced members, kindly advise me, I beg you, please don’t trivialize my story, God bless you all.

Vikky014:
Your brother is living a life of regret bc he married a bad woman...tell your mum to stop disturbing herslf about him and enjoy herslf

wtfCode:

dude, there are relationships in which the woman controls the husband and this is one of it.
he might even be under a spell.
if its not the womans fault, why would she write the family to stop pesting them of money?