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Although by virtue of my financial status and profession I am in the upper class of society, I come down to make friends with the poor and lowly.

Therein lies [b]your [/b]problem!
I'm sure in your interaction with those "poor and lowly", you remind them that they are indeed
"poor and lowly" and that you are "in the upper class of society".
So why won't they then ask for financial assistance from you?
By virtue of your "financial status and profession", you can afford to help? Right?
and I'm sure your disposition lets them know!

To curb the requests being made of you, you could:

a) Stop interacting with people that are not in your class socially.
b) Always have mint N1,000 notes ready to be doled out to the masses.
c) Recognize that you can't be friends with EVERYONE- some people are just opportunists!

Or you can do a mixture of all. Limit your interaction with people you don't know personally, professionally or through a friend, be ready to give in once in a while for the truly pitiful of cases and learn to be a bit of a snob.

Works 4 me!
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Pls can we not waste time on this thread?this guy is really trying to advertise himself as a high posh class so people can get to view his profie and stuff. and get to ask for his email address.BULLS@&T.Lets know where he works first.Probably security officer

Hello Guys, I believe that God has given us freely,
so freely we are expected to give without complaining.
This is based on the fact that whatever we have is from God.
Remember the Bible says
"a man( woman- emphasis mine) receives nothing except it is given him (her) from above (The place of His Majesty)"

Wishing you all the best.

if u stop sending then pictures of you having fun even when you know its at no cost, they might stop asking you for money which we all know you don't have regardless of what class you placed yourself! Maybe na watin you even tell them be that now you wan run, I beg! yearn something else boo

simple - u have bad and hungry friends-

oko_obo:
simple - u have bad and hungry friends-

hehehe!

oko_obo:
simple - u have bad and hungry friends-

people are bad becos they asked for cash , i dint know that or mabe thats in ur own commandment

then when u ask for directions in a place where u are nt familiar with, wat are u? an abductor or better still a murderer

This guy is most likely working the graveyard shift in an assembly plant that utilises toxic chemicals and he's here pretending to be all that.
Abeg let's hear something

ROFLMAO . thats the case most times for some of this self acclaimed "highclass" xters

hi folks,

you said your friends is always asking you for money.

why not teach him how to fish instead of giving him a fish that you catch every time for your self and family.

This was what my friends introduced me to some months ago, and i never told any one.

i am telling you now, to tell him to stop begging and do something for himself


when my friend told me this, i never believed i could work in lagos as an international staff and still work with my old firm, while i earn my money in dollars.

every month i earn over $6000 dollars from clubfreedom.

clubfreedom just started in nigeria. it is already in existence in 6 countries like Indian, Austrialia,, since september 2006--- last year.

Their head office will soon be in Nigeria.

i never believed it, until i saw that my friend who introduced me to it with his job with MTN earn $6000 monthly for little or nothing

you too can be a member/staff and earn your money with little or nothing.


cheers.
call me on 08054228517 to become a member/staff of clubfreedom and earn over $6000, daily, weekly or monthly depending on your zeal/flare to work

hi folks,

you said your friends is always asking you for money.

why not teach him how to fish instead of giving him a fish that you catch every time for your self and family.

This was what my friends introduced me to some months ago, and i never told any one.

i am telling you now, to tell him to stop begging and do something for himself


when my friend told me this, i never believed i could work in lagos as an international staff and still work with my old firm, while i earn my money in dollars.

every month i earn over $6000 dollars from , club , freedom.

clubfreedom just started in nigeria. it is already in existence in 6 countries like Indian, Austrialia,, since september 2006--- last year.

Their head office will soon be in Nigeria.

i never believed it, until i saw that my friend who introduced me to it with his job with MTN earn $6000 monthly for little or nothing

you too can be a member/staff and earn your money with little or nothing.


cheers.
call me on 08054228517 to become a member/staff of clubfreedom and earn over $6000, daily, weekly or monthly depending on your zeal/flare to work

change ur number or tell em money doent grow on tree u gotta work 2 get money so dey should work as well its the naked truth

while @funloving might have come across as condescending, his post raised several valid points.too many people are freeloaders who will take advantage of others more fortunate than them if given the chance.

in secondary school (boarding), i sometimes found myselfin a situation in which all my ´friends´had 'borrowed' my best gear, leaving me with nothing to wear.sometimes, somone would tell me that he'd 'misplaced' a shirt .

all this meant that when i went to university, i adopted a hardline wih people from the very beginning.It is often easy to disparage others who are fortunate as being selfish.i also did this in secondary school.(see ___ he doesn´t want to share his grub!bloody miser) but one must keep in mind that one mans discipline is another man´s stinginess.

as to giving people assistance, i recomend the approach adopted by western universitis in awarding scholarships:proven evidence of finacial acumen/discipline, and immediate cancellation of assistance in the event of the _´s failur to meet some set goals.in order to be effective, philantrophy must be hard headed.the aim is to elevate people to independent, capable individuals, not perpetual welfare cases.
my old man worked in the middle east for 10 years. it was no picnic for him, or for my mum.it was pretty cool for us kids(grin).some of my my dad´s siblings are . . . .you get my drift. he had a sister who was running a trading business.you know the kind-soft drinks, buiscits, indomie, etc, that you see in a thousand locations in Lagos.My dad pumped capital into her biz.Bought her a deep freezer, put up an allowance, he even put her up in our house in lag.the moment he came back home, and the cash flow stopped, the business immediately shrank to a miniusle operation.as for the house,i live there now(thats another long story) and she left it in a terrible state. the amount of money i´ve sunk into fixing it up makes me sigh(and i´m not half done yet)I've often wondered what would have happened if all that money had been invested in shares or in a more capable person(beleive me, the full story of the wasted doe/opprortunities is sickening!).

Maybe i´m being cold, but i beleive you should get maximum utility from any expenditure/investment. if my aunt had developed into a highly successful businesswoman, one would smile and be happy for her.sadly, she developed into a parasite.and thats what most people who come around asking for money are,in my opininon.

as to lending out money, i try to follow some advice i read somewhere,'lend out half of what was asked, or the borrowr will regret not asking for more.alternatively, if i feel the person is in need, but is a risk(why spoil our friendship?) i'll GIVE a fraction of the amount asked, pleading difficulties.

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asking for money is not really bad,
but the problem is that they over ask and no amount of
money u send to them will ever be enough,
i think they should take it easy, people out side the country
go through a lot too,

i think is time they know the time different,

at least they asked not stole.

the dude must be hardcore i bet he wud ve preffered they stole or forced it out of him.

i have lost my friendship with my best friend in the whole world. i loved her so much but it's sad it came to something flimsy that put us apart. she asked me for money, that she was going to a wedding and she was the bridemaid and needed money for the clothes. 2years earlier, i had given some money to her mom out of love.

here am i, a full time student doing a little part time job to kill boredom, i gave it a thot and well the reason my friend wanted money wasn't good enough for me. so i ignored the mail. she never wrote me anymore. i miss our friendship and i tried to get in touch with her to no avail. I'm sure if it was a life and death thing, i will be more than happy to help. but this was for fashion  i expected her to know better as an educated girl.

was I wrong, my heart tells me no. but then i miss her alot but such is life.
when you ask for money, and someone says no or give excuse, don't be mad at the person. being oversea is not tantamount to rich student etc. . you never know what that student has in mind or is facing.

it's when it comes to money that you know who is your friend.

Gayle, Oprah's best friend has said it that if she was asking Oprah for money, their friendship wouldn't have been where it is today. she said even when she was struggling, she never asked of money from Oprah. And that's how it's supposed to be. They both still laugh about those hardship days.

I miss my friend alot. I hope someday we will be able to talk to each other.

aw how sad, u shudnt ve ignored the message though u shud ve tried xplaining how u dnt ve free cash to throw on irrelevancies and how hard it is to make ends meet abroad.

i think the problem lies on how most people place their selves to there friends,if u give ur friend the idea that u are one rich kid,they will come beggin, so's up to you.

Feel you@omoege. I have also lost a friend back home, because I could not fulfil his outrageous demands. The guy even had the nerve to tell a former classmate of mine that our friendship was not working out, because of this reason. I say, don't lose sleep over it.

@ Ndipe

thanks. it's friday and am remembering those good ol' days at the suya joint just two of us mulching away teasing and chatting away the night.

@ zigbo

nah you don't always have to tell them anything, once you board that plane to the yonder land, letters are already following you. (even if you don't have mailbox yet, sure look well cuz they already opened one for you)

omoge:
@ zigbo

nah you don't always have to tell them anything, once you board that plane to the yonder land, letters are already following you. (even if you don't have mailbox yet, sure look well because they already opened one for you)

roflmao, now that is funny , but seriously she is ur friend explaining to her would ve been better than ignoring her, mab she kinda felt insulted/inferior by/to you for ignoring her cos u are in yanks. u know how people start imaginig things like no one wants to kiss anyone's ar$e.

I don't know why you are complaining Mr. Millionaire. Give if and when you can or ignore.

I saw the topic and burst out LAUGHING!!! , haven't read d replies but I bet somebody has given you one similar to the one im goin2give, but im still goin2give it anyway, "ur frnds in Nig always ask you for money cuz ur not in the country n the automatic 9ja way of finkin is dt "u've gone outta d country to ENJOY" forget d fact dt u mentioned dt ur frm d "upper" class in 9ja, they'd still ask u for money even if u guys washed toilets together for a livin( b4 u travelled).

However, with sum1 who has lived on d streets b4(not literally), dey r streetwise n know how to ignore such demands without offendin d asker but for the "aje-butters", its a different story, some r a lil bit street wise and can deal with such demands, while some are just plain selfish and choose to avoid such situations, while the other innocent unsuspectn ones give, give and give, after some time, dey bcum wary, excesssively wary so dey cnt differentiate btween d genuine demand for help and the fake one, and just stop altogether, (u cn usually tell when u meet pple like dis cuz they r honest, brutally honest)

But from ur story, u said u dnt discriminate in choosing pple u associate with, ryt? So, you shld have frnds who belong to the street wise category, learn frm them, and "stop actin like u r frm the "upper" class, if u wnt to mix, mix totally n leave dt "upper" class accent at home, u know, dnt try to "remind" them, dt u r not in their class, and dey shld wash ur feet cuz u r bringin urself down to "associate" with them (if u r dt kinda person )

nyways, nuff said, me finks, goodluck with it

There is joy in giving

I think your manner of approach to those your poor friends makes them demand for money from you. what i mean by your manner of approch is that, you have make feel you rich and in a higher level of living.
Otherhand, i will advice you to come out plain by letting understand friendship is not all demanding.

just xplain things out to them. se who won't understand, just ignore them. Don't pick their calls.
When you receive a private phone call, let it go into voice mail so you know who is calling b4 ck that phone.

nigerians are  natural takers & askers i dont want to say beggers.  they ask even when they have more than you

Cos they think u can afford it and cos you probably give them impression that you have money to give.

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@ funloving

I totally see where you're coming from, but at the end of the day its just an order of the day. Don't actually think you can be able to put a stop to it.

If you have to give a few less priviledged, do so. But the truth remains that you can't feed every mouth that comes your way, you can only afford to a point, so you just have to say "NO" in the most polite way ever.

It is left for them to show their "friendship quality" and not let the money issue come between you or be the deciding factor, now if that happens, then take my words, he wasn't even worth it in the first place

Its said that money is the root of all evil, but the good still manages to stand the test of time.
Be prayerful too, Cos after the refusal its difficult to knowwho turns out to be an enemy and will on the other hand want to see you harmed or even dead, be careful too with what you eat, where you go and who you make friends with

The fact that you want to be generally social, doesn't mean you should call just anybody your friend!!!!

True.

Not just Nigerians but Africans in general, they are always asking for money but Nigerians are the worst sha, back when I was in university, just because I was using my money wisely like eating, paying bills, and taking care of my self rather than spending it recklessly, everybody started looking at me like one millionaire always asking me for money, trying to be friends with me because they want to be eating my money then when I refuse they start taking about me behind my back saying that I am a snob.