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NL1960:
Gbam. The question i have even asked people that say this is if they stay with the kid all throughout the school session in a day school. You can only have a minute-by-minute monitoring of your kid only if you are a 24-hour stay-at-home mom or dad. Even at that, don't you go to the market and leave them at home?.

Even before stepping foot in a boarding house, I was already trained to wake up and begin my day by 5am. The only difference was the voice of a prefect "barking" or the sound of a bell did the waking up.

If there was any training I got while being a boarding student that I didn't get at home, it was simply how to survive without my parents. Visiting days were even privileges for me all through. Yet the fear/love of my family's name made sure I never went off course. I had been trained already from home. Boarding school only made me tougher.

This discussion should have been "Mixed or Singles sex boarding house, which is better?". Because in all honesty, boarding schools have far greater advantages than your regular day school.

Aquariann:
You'll only end up heartbroken.

And why is almost everyone before me saying "No one would raise my children for me?"

My teachers never raised me. My parents (especially my mother) did even though I attended a boarding house.

Sending your kids to boarding houses is different from abdicating your parental responsibilities.

Aquariann:
Even before stepping foot in a boarding house, I was already trained to wake up and begin my day by 5am. The only difference was the voice of a prefect "barking" or the sound of a bell did the waking up.

If there was any training I got while being a boarding student that I didn't get at home, it was simply how to survive without my parents. Visiting days were even privileges for me all through. Yet the fear/love of my family's name made sure I never went off course. I had been trained already from home. Boarding school only made me tougher.

This discussion should have been "Mixed or Singles sex boarding house, which is better?". Because in all honesty, boarding schools have far greater advantages than your regular day school.

Well captured. As captured by Aquariann above, there is the misconception that sending a kid to boarding is to make the teachers or make somebody to help you train your kids. Boarding house cannot train your kids for you. My boy in boarding house now was already bathing himself, polishing his own shoes, washing plates, washing his own clothes and ironing them before going to boarding. These are what his mother has already trained him to do at a certain age. Most people that even complain of this boarding thing saying that they want to keep watch over their kids most times end up leaving the kids in the care of maids.

Anyway, i have always advised people to go for what suits them and what they think is best for their kids. Afterall, the kids are theirs.

Actually most that I know of do not use maids or nanny services, you can't hate boarding schools and like maids.

Amelian:
Day school abeg...
I no fit shout..
Need to watch my kids like a hawk...

I no one hear stories, they are all have got when that time reach.... Even in university sef, i will try to let go small...

Wetin sef! you wan choke em kids? Allow them breathe...

NL1960:
This debate has always been on with no clear position as to which one is preferable.

Iam a product of the boarding school system and it really helped to shape my life. Because of this, iam a great supporter of the boarding system. This is my own personal opinion. I have already sent my son to a catholic secondary boarding school and the girl will soon follow. The boy is a TV addict just like i was when i was younger. He can watch TV especially DSTV all day long. The only way i could make him read and concentrate is by sending him to a boarding school. Even to concentrate and prepare for the highly competitive common entrance he was to take then was war. PHCN always came to the rescue because if there is no PHCN, he will then grudgingly go and read.

The reason why i personally prefer boarding is that these days, in most middle families, the kids are holed up in a flat all the time without any opportunity of mixing or making friends. Even if a family lives in a block of flats, families hardly allow their kids to mix with and play with other kids in the compound. You always see the kids looking lost whenever they are out. Primary school hardly allow them to mix because once it is closing time, they are taken straight home and the next thing is eat, TV, games and home work. There is even no enforcement of siesta. In boarding, they tend to bond well with their mates through siesta, evening games, evening prep and other social activities normally organised by the school. The friends i really have today are my classmates from boarding school. Even the women that are now married, we still relate as brothers and sisters as we were relating in school whenever we across each other even if their husbands are there.

I cannot be agree with u, boarding school is kinda the best, cos there they learn a lot of things dat those who attended day schools would wish to know. There are a lot of activities one can engage in order to unleash their potentials, talents are being discovered and skills are being enhanced. I am a product of both day and boarding school but I could deduce that attention is being paid to d boarders more than d day students.

Amelian:
Day school abeg...
I no fit shout..
Need to watch my kids like a hawk...

I no one hear stories, they are all have got when that time reach.... Even in university sef, i will try to let go small...

Even the hawk do leave her chicks to go look for food otherwise hunger go kill them.

I went to a boarding school and I must say it helped me a whole lot. We all went to boarding school in my house. In my opinion, I think a child should start the whole boarding school phase in Jss2 or Jss3 tho..

Ehnn!!!!!! Please their standard don change o! If I hear say my child reach their gate sef!!

byvan03:
Learning field international is both boarding and day, St Monica's college ogbunike is boarding and day too. You have to be inside to tell how good really.

boarding school coz what will be will be, i went to a military school & learnt a lot of stuff both good n bad; i live a balanced life where necessary
both of them have got their perks so hope for the best *fingers crossed*

lovinam:
Ehnn!!!!!! Please their standard don change o! If I hear say my child reach their gate sef!!

Tell me how you measure their standards.

The things I look out for in a boarding School

1. The environment( Security, well kept, classrooms etc)


2. Academic standard( check the Education board in the LGA)

3. The spiritual activity in the school

4. Scope the staff( once you walk into a school, you will know if its a war zone)

5. I watch the body language of every staff I come across including the heads.


6. Check the hostel accommodation.

7. Look out for parents that will give you an honest opinion

8. Prayerfully make your choice.

My children are in boarding school and I have no issues with the school. Well just one issue- they are over fed.

byvan03:
Tell me how you measure their standards.

lovinam:
The things I look out for in a boarding School

1. The environment( Security, well kept, classrooms etc)


2. Academic standard( check the Education board in the LGA)

3. The spiritual activity in the school

4. Scope the staff( once you walk into a school, you will know if its a war zone)

5. I watch the body language of every staff I come across including the heads.


6. Check the hostel accommodation.

7. Look out for parents that will give you an honest opinion

8. Prayerfully make your choice.

My children are in boarding school and I have no issues with the school. Well just one issue- they are over fed.

Will you do no 2 for every school you intend to check out? Are there no day schools that perform well according to the education board's record? As for the body language thing I don't get how that works. It means it might take consistent visiting to find out all these. I doubt if schools will give every parent access to their hostel area.

I think these things have more to do with what works for each family. I really can't sleep at night knowing their might be so many things my kids might want to express but won't because am not there to listen. I boarded, it has its highs but they aren't just enough for me. If a senior beats my kid and injure him in the name of being the prefect... no comment. I just can't deal mehn...

Most good schools have zero tolerance for bullying. They. Also separate seniors and junior( both in school block, ref and hostel). They have limited interaction. My dear just give them good training and they won't disappoint you. Also schools have call days and visiting days.

Good schools give you access to their hostel area during open house. If they don't RUN AWAY!!! You can acess a school by looking at staff countenance o! I've mastered that one. Lol. ( That's my day job)

Calm down I'm sure when the time comes you will make the right decision. Meanwhile if you want home away from home just go and make plenty money cos "good soup na money make am".

byvan03:
Will you do no 2 for every school you intend to check out? Are there no day schools that perform well according to the education board's record? As for the body language thing I don't get how that works. It means it might take consistent visiting to find out all these. I doubt if schools will give every parent access to their hostel area.

I think these things have more to do with what works for each family. I really can't sleep at night knowing their might be so many things my kids might want to express but won't because am not there to listen. I boarded, it has its highs but they aren't just enough for me. If a senior beats my kid and injure him in the name of being the prefect... no comment. I just can't deal mehn...

Some private school students dont even get home until 6pm in lagos.......

That same child will do housework b4 going to sleep

Manage to do assignment.....watch a lot of tv....sleep late,wake up early,and den the cycle continues

Funny how some parents think a child not mixing with his peers in the hostel wont be exposed.......with all the tv he is exposed to as a day student?

And who says boarding house students are trained by teachers??really??

Ofcos if a jss1 boy doesnt know how to wash his clothes yet,he will be taught...albeit the hard way

Bottomline,spoilt children will find a hostel hellish....

Boarding house does it for me.....my children must go to a boarding school if they r to school in naija

lovinam:
Most good schools have zero tolerance for bullying. They. Also separate seniors and junior( both in school block, ref and hostel). They have limited interaction. My dear just give them good training and they won't disappoint you. Also schools have call days and visiting days.

Good schools give you access to their hostel area during open house. If they don't RUN AWAY!!! You can acess a school by looking at staff countenance o! I've mastered that one. Lol. ( That's my day job)

Calm down I'm sure when the time comes you will make the right decision. Meanwhile if you want home away from home just go and make plenty money cos "good soup na money make am".

No way dear, I will never want home away from home for them at that age : It's not home,its not home. Boarding school holds no appeal for me no matter how furnished. Zero tolerance for bullying but it still happens, you and I know that it can't be eradicated completely if we are going to be realistic and not patronising .

During open day only? Now that is just the usual, your child must have been there already before the open day, meaning you didn't access it before registering because I really doubted the part of giving a tour of the hostel to every parent that asked.

Like I said before, I work in this system and all you mentioned are just the very familiar. Nothing new really , these just won't cut it for me. Good training yes but I won't say am done training a 9 years old, then send off to boarding school. I will rather give child raising my best shot, most of these kids walk around with heavy hearts, no one to talk to. Lots of deep seethed issues but parents aren't just there to rely on. The only decision for me is day school, don't even need to think about.


The most important thing is that whichever we chose, works well for us.

Nl1960, you make great points but I'm not sure about modern boarding (or even day schools). Do you know how many other terribly brought up kids are surrounding your child? Especially in very posh boarding schools (where someone has security following his child, another knows the teachers won't discipline him/her because they are scared of Daddy or Mummy). A few of the females will be seeing innapropriate boys (university boys dating SS1 girls). They will tell you bullying is not tolerated but how many truly enforce that law (it is dependent on the victim stepping forward to complain, hard to do if you know the bully will still be around). And there are way too many horror stories around for me to ever send a daughter to a mixed boarding school.

Day school kids will mostly be dumped at different after school activities or left at home (unless they have stay at home parents). There's no guarantee they won't sneak out for parties (same as boarders).

As for kids not playing outside and interacting much, it's a lack of facilities coupled with change of behaviour. Nowadays, we are surrounded by a lot of electronic gadgets so even if there was all the space in the world, most kids have to be dragged away from their phones, videogames and TVs. I've seen this a lot and parents will say "under this hot sun, you want junior or pretty to be running around like chicken??"

I still don't know which to choose.

Hahahahahah. We will revisit this topic in a few years time

It also depends on the future you plan for your kids. I mean St Monica's knows zero about checkpoint exams so why enroll my child there. I will go for schools that are in line with my plans for them. I also told you earlier, environment plays a huge factor. If you've gott no good school around you then you really don't have an option. Who sends a 9yrs old child to boarding school. OYO is your case.


God forbid that my child's first experience of independence will be In a University. I saw first hand what it did to my friends in uni. No way! Let's do it now and make our corrections.

Meanwhile, you are just being emotional. Lmao! In their first year,I'm not sure I ever had a good nights rest for a whole year. Rotfl! I was hyperventilating!! Now I'm so cool and get to read their hilarious diaries. ( I asked them to keep diaries)

#Teamboarding #TeamCo-ED

byvan03:
No way dear, I will never want home away from home for them at that age : It's not home,its not home. Boarding school holds no appeal for me no matter how furnished. Zero tolerance for bullying but it still happens, you and I know that it can't be eradicated completely if we are going to be realistic and not patronising .

During open day only? Now that is just the usual, your child must have been there already before the open day, meaning you didn't access it before registering because I really doubted the part of giving a tour of the hostel to every parent that asked.

Like I said before, I work in this system and all you mentioned are just the very familiar. Nothing new really , these just won't cut it for me. Good training yes but I won't say am done training a 9 years old, then send off to boarding school. I will rather give child raising my best shot, most of these kids walk around with heavy hearts, no one to talk to. Lots of deep seethed issues but parents aren't just there to rely on. The only decision for me is day school, don't even need to think about.


The most important thing is that whichever we chose, works well for us.

lovinam:
Hahahahahah. We will revisit this topic in a few years time

It also depends on the future you plan for your kids. I mean St Monica's knows zero about checkpoint exams so why enroll my child there. I will go for schools that are in line with my plans for them. I also told you earlier, environment plays a huge factor. If you've gott no good school around you then you really don't have an option. Who sends a 9yrs old child to boarding school. OYO is your case.


God forbid that my child's first experience of independence will be In a University. I saw first hand what it did to my friends in uni. No way! Let's do it now and make our corrections.

Meanwhile, you are just being emotional. Lmao! In their first year,I'm not sure I ever had a good nights rest for a whole year. Rotfl! I was hyperventilating!! Now I'm so cool and get to read their hilarious diaries. ( I asked them to keep diaries)

#Teamboarding #TeamCo-ED

Totally agree with Co ed, St Monica's used to be very good, may be it has changed since Lady Ezigbo retired. Considering boarding in SS might be in line but for JS, I won't dream of it. Most of them here in Js1 are 9yrs old. Thank God you agreed that 9years is still a baby . From SS classes, the child is pretty much formed with a voice and thought of his own.

Exactly, it depends on the future planned for the kids really. It's all good . Don't even know if I can shout team Co ed if a daughter is involved . Parenthood no be beans walahi!

No 9 year old should be in secondary school!!
Whether boarding or day school.

Minimum 10years

Did the child start primary school at 3?
Primary school is 6years its people who insist on jumping primary 6 that push 9year olds into secondary schools.

diportivo:
Some private school students dont even get home until 6pm in lagos.......

That same child will do housework b4 going to sleep

Manage to do assignment.....watch a lot of tv....sleep late,wake up early,and den the cycle continues

Funny how some parents think a child not mixing with his peers in the hostel wont be exposed.......with all the tv he is exposed to as a day student?

And who says boarding house students are trained by teachers??really??

Ofcos if a jss1 boy doesnt know how to wash his clothes yet,he will be taught...albeit the hard way

Bottomline,spoilt children will find a hostel hellish....

Boarding house does it for me.....my children must go to a boarding school if they r to school in naija

When i was a Senior in boarding house, there was a student whose mother was coming every 2 weeks to wash his clothes for him or bring new sets of clothes for him. We discovered this and then we decided to teach the student how to wash his own clothes instead of suffering his mother. What we did was to gradually take him through the process of clothes washing starting from the simple stockings, to shirt and then shorts. After 2 weeks, when the mother came, she was shocked when the boy told her to take the clothes back that he has washed hiw own clothes. That was how the mother was relieved from the stress of making a journey of Lagos to Warri every 2 weeks. That boy was now at the forefront of passing such lessons to his juniors.

lovinam:
Most good schools have zero tolerance for bullying. They. Also separate seniors and junior( both in school block, ref and hostel). They have limited interaction. My dear just give them good training and they won't disappoint you. Also schools have call days and visiting days.

Good schools give you access to their hostel area during open house. If they don't RUN AWAY!!! You can acess a school by looking at staff countenance o! I've mastered that one. Lol. ( That's my day job)

Calm down I'm sure when the time comes you will make the right decision. Meanwhile if you want home away from home just go and make plenty money cos "good soup na money make am".

Bullying used to be rampant in boarding house and that was why parents dread it. Most Private schools especially catholic schools have solved this problem by putting together students of the same set. The dinning is also setup the same way. This even allows for more bonding and friendship time.

Onegai:
Nl1960, you make great points but I'm not sure about modern boarding (or even day schools). Do you know how many other terribly brought up kids are surrounding your child? Especially in very posh boarding schools (where someone has security following his child, another knows the teachers won't discipline him/her because they are scared of Daddy or Mummy). A few of the females will be seeing innapropriate boys (university boys dating SS1 girls). They will tell you bullying is not tolerated but how many truly enforce that law (it is dependent on the victim stepping forward to complain, hard to do if you know the bully will still be around). And there are way too many horror stories around for me to ever send a daughter to a mixed boarding school.

Day school kids will mostly be dumped at different after school activities or left at home (unless they have stay at home parents). There's no guarantee they won't sneak out for parties (same as boarders).

As for kids not playing outside and interacting much, it's a lack of facilities coupled with change of behaviour. Nowadays, we are surrounded by a lot of electronic gadgets so even if there was all the space in the world, most kids have to be dragged away from their phones, videogames and TVs. I've seen this a lot and parents will say "under this hot sun, you want junior or pretty to be running around like chicken??"

I still don't know which to choose.

I know these quite well. This is not restricted to the boarding school alone. It is also in day schools. Once you drop that kid in school or you tell him/her to go to school, you do not know where he/she has gone to. Even phone cannot help as he/she can switch it off.

You will also agree with me that there are bad parents or parents who think that the best way to show love and care to a child is to awash the child with money. I was to pick my kid from school after vacation and here was a woman who said that she is lawyer shouting and harassing the boarding house master that she was going to sue him for not acknowledging the 10k she paid into his account for his boy. Everybody just looked at her. 10k for 2 weeks for a Jss1 kid in a boarding school that the kids are well fed and taken care of. You need to see how other parents washed her down that she became ashamed and had to apologise to the boarding house master. The truth of the matter was that the boy did not even use the money because he still had a balance from what was dropped for him earlier and the money was in the bursary.

lovinam:
Hahahahahah. We will revisit this topic in a few years time

It also depends on the future you plan for your kids. I mean St Monica's knows zero about checkpoint exams so why enroll my child there. I will go for schools that are in line with my plans for them. I also told you earlier, environment plays a huge factor. If you've gott no good school around you then you really don't have an option. Who sends a 9yrs old child to boarding school. OYO is your case.


God forbid that my child's first experience of independence will be In a University. I saw first hand what it did to my friends in uni. No way! Let's do it now and make our corrections.

Meanwhile, you are just being emotional. Lmao! In their first year,I'm not sure I ever had a good nights rest for a whole year. Rotfl! I was hyperventilating!! Now I'm so cool and get to read their hilarious diaries. ( I asked them to keep diaries)

#Teamboarding #TeamCo-ED

I also had this first hand experience. There was this girl that was in my class in secondary school. They are brought to school at exactly 8am or about 5 minutes to 8am. Classes start by 8am. The driver that picks them comes to pick them exactly 1.45pm when classes end or latest 2.00pm. You need to come and see this girl in Year 1 in the university when she first tasted independence. I think what finally saved her was that we her set members from school decided to rally round her to save the situation because she was becoming a complete embarrassment. She had to change department and this was somebody that very was hot in academics and giving the boys a run.

I just saw this online :

IS YOUR CHILD GETTING READY FOR SECONDARY SCHOOL?
If you are reading this as a parent getting ready with your child for secondary school congratulations. First, let me ask you this. Is your child a minor or fit for secondary school?
Answering the above question with all sincerity is the starting point of a journey that will end well. Secondary school life is a different ball game.
WHAT TO DO
1. Visit the school you intend your child to attend over and over again. While you are there please take note of every move and silent happenings. Look at teachers conduct unconsciously. Don't ignore any little negative observation please. Most importantly, watch how teachers communicate with students in that school community. Don't visit just once please make it frequent.
2. Demand for facility tour. You must insist on going round the school. Make sure the school has the laboratories, entrepreneurial department, most especially functioning ICT room. Research has shown that in high schools where they don't have facilities students really really go wide.
3. Listen to what parents in your community or the school community are saying about the school. Try to ask questions from parents who has children in the school before.
My personal advice: if you need to sacrifice now few of your luxurious life to have your child in a good school better do. I say this because your next generation must be better, that is the evidence of great success.
Good school I mean is not all about the price but schools with great facilities and good leadership.
Coach Enitan Ayoade.

Cc byvan03
Onegai

lovinam:
I just saw this online :

IS YOUR CHILD GETTING READY FOR SECONDARY SCHOOL?
If you are reading this as a parent getting ready with your child for secondary school congratulations. First, let me ask you this. Is your child a minor or fit for secondary school?
Answering the above question with all sincerity is the starting point of a journey that will end well. Secondary school life is a different ball game.
WHAT TO DO
1. Visit the school you intend your child to attend over and over again. While you are there please take note of every move and silent happenings. Look at teachers conduct unconsciously. Don't ignore any little negative observation please. Most importantly, watch how teachers communicate with students in that school community. Don't visit just once please make it frequent.
2. Demand for facility tour. You must insist on going round the school. Make sure the school has the laboratories, entrepreneurial department, most especially functioning ICT room. Research has shown that in high schools where they don't have facilities students really really go wide.
3. Listen to what parents in your community or the school community are saying about the school. Try to ask questions from parents who has children in the school before.
My personal advice: if you need to sacrifice now few of your luxurious life to have your child in a good school better do. I say this because your next generation must be better, that is the evidence of great success.
Good school I mean is not all about the price but schools with great facilities and good leadership.
Coach Enitan Ayoade.

Cc byvan03
Onegai

Good