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ramuona:
My issue is that I'm naturally jealous. Why do business with her? Since September last year.. Business I have not seen.. Or heard the business name. He can do business but not talking and chatting all the time. If I'm talking to him he will be busy chatting with her.... If I come close he hides his phone.
My issue is not self esteem... My issue is that I'm jealous they talk all the time + laughing too (to my hearing .. Even in mid night. She calls him

ramuona:
My issue is that I'm naturally jealous. Why do business with her? Since September last year.. Business I have not seen.. Or heard the business name. He can do business but not talking and chatting all the time. If I'm talking to him he will be busy chatting with her.... If I come close he hides his phone.
My issue is not self esteem... My issue is that I'm jealous they talk all the time + laughing too (to my hearing .. Even in mid night. She calls him

Saronna:
Wow , how are you still calm? Do you have any blood in ur vein?! Any self respect!?? If my husband's ex called him at midnight and he answers in front of me!! huh well I would deal with him and her. U need to talk to him now and be serious about it! Does he care about ur feelings at all? Ur pride? I Pity you oo

Dyt:
Haaaa
Since September
My dear

Wonti gbe nkan gba eyin e
Dem don dey carry something behind you
Mogbe modaran

Dyt:
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These men are just polygamous in nature
Hianus

Souljaboi1:





Meji, Meta tabi Merin ni Olohun so.

Dyt:
Ehn na
I rem someone said this to me some days back

Saronna:
Wow , how are you still calm? Do you have any blood in ur vein?! Any self respect!?? If my husband's ex called him at midnight and he answers in front of me!! huh well I would deal with him and her. U need to talk to him now and be serious about it! Does he care about ur feelings at all? Ur pride? I Pity you oo

Souljaboi1:


Its all good. Take a chill pill. Second wifey is loading real soon.

MrCork:

Saronna:
You've got issues, please get off my tail.

MrCork:

Saronna:
Whose the one angry set off to ruin people's day as a job , u are a miserable and a sadistic being with no hope.

My issue is that I'm naturally jealous. Why do business with her? Since September last year.. Business I have not seen.. Or heard the business name. He can do business but not talking and chatting all the time. If I'm talking to him he will be busy chatting with her.... If I come close he hides his phone.
My issue is not self esteem... My issue is that I'm jealous they talk all the time + laughing too (to my hearing .. Even in mid night. She calls him

Siena:
[color=Blue]I don't understand what the issue is here. Your husband still has contact with his ex, you say you trust him, you say you're jealous. Huh?

I am still on good terms with my ex, we still maintain contact, big deal! I have never hidden this from my wife either. My wife still chats with her ex on occasion, I have no issues with this. I trust my wife, she trusts me. If she ever told me to cut off all contact with my ex, then we WOULD have a problem. Because I would NOT do that on her say-so.

My advise? Start trusting your man, or be prepared for resentment to set in, and risk losing him.[/color]

Saronna:
Wow , how are you still calm? Do you have any blood in ur vein?! Any self respect!?? If my husband's ex called him at midnight and he answers in front of me!! huh well I would deal with him and her. U need to talk to him now and be serious about it! Does he care about ur feelings at all? Ur pride? I Pity you oo

MRBrownJ:
after reading the above, we can clearly understand that in your world everything is about you, you and only YOU.... i do feel sorry for the man who has to live "under" you command.
to each their own misery.

Saronna:
How! So ur telling me she should let him talk to his "ex" every night and smile pretending as if nothings happening?!

What kinda bussines is diccussed at midnight?

And does this bussines discussions have more priority than his wifes feelings?

He clearly doesn't CARE!

I'm sure if it was vise versa he would break the phone and the marriage! Talk about hypocrisy!!

MRBrownJ:
probably not, but i doubt that "dealing with them" can solve anything, far from it. your violent ways will only give him tools to use against you, and possibly ruin a business deal.
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



i dont know as i dont have a crystal ball, but it certainly isnt impossible to only have free time at night to discuss such dealings. if they are busy with other jobs during the day then night time would be the only time to discuss. if she is a mother and have a family of her own to deal with then only when the kids are asleep could she be free to discuss business. would that be so far fetched or do you women see everything NEGATIVE as soon as another woman is involved?
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



what a selfish statement!!! so now just because you aint cool with your men's business dealings, he should stop them to accommodate your low self esteem and insecurities, without having a mature discussion about the issue 1st?!
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



bwaaaaaaah! women are quick to throw the above statement when they have no valid point to bring to the table. why dont you explain to us why your feelings should be more important than your husband making money?
actually he does care... but obviously he cares more about his business. again, your feelings are important but NOT a priority in a family's wellbeing. get over it.



he probably would but is it RIGHT?!

Saronna:
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

MRBrownJ:
then i certainly would hate to see what will happen when your husband EQUALLY "reacts" to your sudden madness, and deals with you accordingly.

Saronna:
Don't worry about my husband. I will make sure I marry someone who will put me first as I would and definitely have mutual respect!

raumdeuter:
Would it be okay if your husband calls this ex during the day? Cos it seem say na the midnight dey cause issue

MRBrownJ:
women like yourself who think that THEY can overreact to whatever they desire, and expect their husbands to be quiet and accept whatever nonsense you throw at them, are simply dreamers.

[b]here is the reality of life (take note):
- most men would accept all your childish act before marriage, but will put you right in your place when you guys are a few months/yrs into that marriage, unless you guys COMMUNICATE beforehand.

- if ever your future husband foolishly puts you 1st, it will only last until you guys have kids, and then THEY will be 1st... and therefore any business dealings will be needed to improve their wellbeings (whether you like it or not)

- the "mumu" that you describe here on NL (as your "perfect" man), and that you dream of marrying, is NOT a man... he is a muppet that hasnt got a backbone, and who everyone will use and abuse (starting from you).

- COMMUNICATION is the only stepping stone to possibly settle any issue in marriage.

- Women like you who talk about mutual respect, yet dont have a clue about the meaning, is the reason why so many marriages are failing these days. how can there be ANY mutual respect if you expect your husband to DISREGARD his business dealings, DISREGARD his own feelings, STOP being himself, so that he can accommodate YOU (and your feelings) 1st. mutual respect should have you respect him as a man and whatever he choses to do, instead of trying to force him to be who YOU desire him to be. i mean, who are you kidding?! if both your feelings are respect equally, why yours should be 1st?

- we men rarely give a damn about y'all feelings because we all know that you women are emotionally driven creatures, and overreact most times (especially during that time of the month).
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Dyt:
I can imagine your facial expression

Saronna:
You talk rubbish as if you know me! Iam sorry but you seem someone whose pained by a woman who chose not to be walked over and suffer evrytin u do because ur the man and she's just a "woman"!! U seem like on of these men who are taught at young age that they're superior nd therefore can treat women anyway they like!! Ur the kind of MEN who expect ur wife to still wash ur dirty underwear after u just cheated nd feel guilt free!

MRBrownJ:
again, read carefully what i wrote as it isnt about men vs women (or even cheating) but mostly about respect/communication/understanding in any union. all this issue was NEVER about someone being superior than the other, but all about COMMUNICATION.

as for wifey washing my dirty underwear, how hard is it to throw an underwear in the washing machine?! please!

raumdeuter:
Idaya abi no be so? Make OP ask the husband to make those calls in the afternoon

Saronna:
Very funny! I believe that's what I said 'mutual respect, understanding and communication ' but if none of this works on him then it can't be helped can it? Like the ops husband whome u seem to be defending, she talked to him and said how it made her feel abt the situation (COMMUNICATION )and waiting for months just so that he might finally tell her abt the"bussines" he's doing during midnights tells you that she is (UNDERSTANDING ) and for the fact that he isn't shows you that he is DISRESPECTFULL AND CARELESS abt her feelings and one can only take so much! Idk how in the name of god she's enduring his crap!!