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ogawisdom:
I always have my opinion move on if u dnt like them.

To me op is a big goat

And if u Siena can't see d wisdom in my post them u might b dull too n dnt ve a take on issues like this.

FYI spare d rod n spoil d child is a divine injunction frm d all knowing God

Siena:
[color=Blue]You still don't get it. You can express an opinion without being rude and uncivil. Or is rudeness a divine injunction from God too?[/color]

cherrymum:
God bless my parents' slaps and canes. Mummy should have given u "the look" since Na.

Udochee:
spot am.the look was epic.my mum needs not say anything. jus "the look" is enough to process the coded information.

cherrymum:
If u miss dat look or pretend like u didn't catch it....OYO is ur case.

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

ogawisdom:
U r a weak ass Dad, spare d rod n spoil d child. By d time she is 16yrs she will bring boys to ur houz n Bleep them mumu

EfemenaXY:
You have an expressive daughter

You were wrong in forcing her to drink up all that water. She probably just wanted your attention - some daddy time. Kids that age do it a lot, especially girls. It's just her way of bonding with you.

You should have apologised to her, then kindly corrected her that what she said was naughty. Remember, she's learning a lot so lots of dialogue is needed between you both. Siena was absolutely spot on in his post about forming her own personality.

Children learn by example. Always strive to correct your kids with love and never violence as suggested by some posters on here. You'll get there daddy.

Baylam:
You're just an irony of your moniker ....

FYI : To whom wisdom is given sense is expected!!!

ogawisdom:
Like I expected u to understand me, get lost already

Baylam:
Don't come at me ogawisdom, Imma get your ass bleeped up!!!! Ain't no Bleep boi zone!!!!

ogawisdom:
Ur profile pic says it all tot I was dealing with an adult b4 nw

Dyt:
Sambarry Iya wura
I see you ooo

Udochee:
spot am.the look was epic.my mum needs not say anything. jus "the look" is enough to process the coded information.

classicB:
do not beg her. at 3 years shes already telling dad she is mad at him and getting unnecessarily angry. if u continue saying sorry to everything u think you did wrong then u will have to keep doing it, your kid looks like a potential angered person. who born me to say such thing to mum even at this age not to talk of a 3yr old?? my mum used to force Us to eat excess food we want to waste by the time we feel like "am okay" she will ask whether we no dey there when she dey dish the food. discipline ur child. dont be a feeble dad, you dont pamper kids with 'indiscipline' like mummy used to say "i cannot pamper a kid with indiscipline, a lot of varieties are in the market to pamper you with" i always get surprised when i see these new generation kids abuse their parents all in the name of freedom nonsense!!
if i keep saying sorry to a toddler what will i say by the time she is all grown up? my opinion would not even count.
my next door neighbour would beat that child right

cherrymum:
God bless my parents' slaps and canes. At almost 30, I can NEVER tell my mother that I'm mad at her. I can grumble inside my mind or to my siblings but no one DARES form westernisation with my mama. My mother will tell u dat okra no dey grow pass person wey plant am.

Op pls teach ur child how to talk to older people with respect before she will embarrass u outside. I used to teach in one of these oyibo schools. You'll hear things like "mummy you are silly, why are u just coming to pick me now". And mumu mummy will smile, hug and say "sorry darling or baby I was held up in traffic. Chai! If I slap that child, luth will reject ur case!

Na small small like this e dey start. I went to visit a friend few weeks back as we were talking her daughter said, "mummy stop talking u talk too much" and mummy replied "I will just pinch your breast now". In the first place u cant be around where mummy and her visitor are talking. Mummy should have given u "the look" since Na.

Pls these are the children we are praying that will take over from us in the nearest future. Let them learn to speak with respect and regard in their tongue. Teach them what is right inside before they disgrace you outside. Mbok!

Cultured:
@OP

Don't mind all these people telling you that your child is an "expressive child/ forming her own personality" ish. The last time I checked, The essence of coaching/training is to enable the learner to learn from the coach, simply put the leaner is expected to pay at least 90% allegiance to the instructor- obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying. Therefore, the rule on how your child should behave should be your dictate not your child making. When she turns say 18 years, she can start to form her own personality and assert her expressive wish based on the virtues you might have already inculcated into her. The axiom which says, don't spare the rod to spoil the child remains divine. Be a wise, diplomatic, strong-willed, caring and loving father to your child.

Siena:
Dictating to your child will make him or her resentful.

I understand there are certain doctrines that need to be instilled in children from a young age, but there are better ways to accomplish this than being a dictator. I would like to believe "dictate" was NOT the word you intended to use. Influence, probably?

Forming her personality from the age of 18?? That is NOT possible. Children begin to develop their personalities shortly after birth. Your suggestion implies that prior to the age of 18, a child has no personality, or should not have developed one. As I previously stated, this is not possible, even if the child was born severely brain-damaged, with learning difficulties.

You can influence their personalities from a young age, what you can't, or shouldn't do is curtail or halt their personality's natural development.

SAMBARRY:
Mrs siena at that age a child doesn't know what is right or wrong good or bad.its for the patents to instill it into their children before they become juvenile delinquents.at that age commanding works better. YEs she'll resent you for it but as she grows and matures she'll start understanding why mummy or daddy usually commands her to do this and that. You're preparing/moulding the child's character for a harsh world outside.there'll be a time mummy and daddy won't be there to entertain all your whims and caprices

Siena:
[color=Blue]Siena is male, NOT female. [/color]

blackedwin:
She took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

classicB:
The girl in this case is too young for using the word 'mad' for her dad. These kind of kids grow up lacking manners for anybody. if i can tell my dad am mad at him then who else can i not use foul words for? he is even more wrong for raising her in such ways. this is Africa and opinion of parents counts. my parents helped me become a responsible personality. my parents influenced the way i dress. even if i am insane i still cannot wear trash in my father's house, but now small kids wear what they like cos mom and dad wants them to express them selves. i started washing plates since nursery2 till i gained admission into university, i cannot stand a dirty kitchen now cos it irritates me. what do we have now? maids all over doing what kids are supposed to do cos the kids don't feel like washing plates and mommy don't wanna go against their wish/expression. that is also a personality. pampering a kid is diff from discipline which can be done without cane of course.
na "i am mad at u" she still say. na for public she go tell u say " you are mad dad" if u don't tell her what she said is wrong. what kind of movies does she see? does she know the meaning of "mad at you" maybe u caused it. she is not a dry fish yet u still fit bend am.