banttieman:
How did u mean well by forcing her to take more than she wanted? Go and apologise to her then take her out to have a nice time.

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

banttieman:
How did u mean well by forcing her to take more than she wanted? Go and apologise to her then take her out to have a nice time.

yvelchstores:
Op, being a man, I understand why u felt she needed to drink more. I don't see what you did as wrong. Water is good for the body. Children don't knw all that is good for them. Taking more water is good for her. If she says she is mad at you tell her that's not a good thing to say. Discipline your child o. Naira landers don't love your child more than u. Don't let them tell u how to disciple your child. Tell her not to say such again and buy her ice cream for listening and obeying afterwards.

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

Blade21:
oh please kids drink water all the time and de do so ON little quantity except the are very thirsty you have no right whatsoever to force de child becuase you are de parent who does that I have a toddler I know how annoying what she did is but that's not discipline he bullied her

Blade21:
oh please kids drink water all the time and de do so ON little quantity except the are very thirsty you have no right whatsoever to force de child becuase you are de parent who does that I have a toddler I know how annoying what she did is but that's not discipline he bullied her

yvelchstores:

Call it anything. It's his child, when u have your own, treat her how u like.

There's no need to get unduly defensive and aggressive. The thread starter asked for opinions, which he's getting. That's all they are - opinions. He doesn't have to act upon them. You also posted your own opinion, and a suggestion.

Besides, the person you quoted here DOES have a child.

yvelchstores:

Call it anything. It's his child, when u have your own, treat her how u like.

Siena:


In a manner of speaking, yes. It is not unheard of for a child to have a fear of water, if drinking times become more akin to torture or punishment.

Water is good for us, a child will know when he or she has had enough. Adults are the worst culprits when it comes to NOT drinking enough water daily, opting for fizzy drinks, juice, squash and for some, beer. Children don't often have these options, so they generally drink more water than adults do, on a fluid-to-body ratio.

Yes, kids can run their parents ragged, asking for water frequently, but that's what parenting is all about. It is actually best if children drink water in small quantities at frequent intervals, than large quantities, at widely-spaced intervals.

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

PresVA:
Apologise ko, odi mma ...

Don't see anything wrong with what the op did.. some kids can disturb a lot, i tell you if the op hadn't commanded her to take more water, she would come back every 5mins asking for water... You can't be disturbing for water only to sip a lil when it comes

The op did what he thought was best at that moment. . The kids mustn't have their way all the time..Also, just for asking her to drink more water, she's angry and mad already. . Ok oo

OP, ask her why she's "mad" at you anyway. ..

yvelchstores:
Op, being a man, I understand why u felt she needed to drink more. I don't see what you did as wrong. Water is good for the body. Children don't knw all that is good for them. Taking more water is good for her. If she says she is mad at you tell her that's not a good thing to say. Discipline your child o. Naira landers don't love your child more than u. Don't let them tell u how to disciple your child. Tell her not to say such again and buy her ice cream for listening and obeying afterwards.

banttieman:
How did u mean well by forcing her to take more than she wanted? Go and apologise to her then take her out to have a nice time.

zaynie:
Op, brace up for more if you have an outspoken and headstrong child.

My 3 year old son came home from school, apparently I had forgotten to put his snacks in his bag.
" My mummy, you are a naughty mummy. Why didn't you give me snacks today? Everybody was eating snacks and I didnt have snacks"
I had to apologise buh the way he said it so shocked and pained me.
And when we are dragging eat or no eat nko? and maybe I mistakenly spill water or drop soup on him! He goes " you see....you see...you see what you have caused" .

So if you have an outspoken child don't shut the child down, instead steer her towards proper venting using only polite words.
Tell her "I'm sorry I made you drink all that water but you shouldnt have said ......... next time you have to say ........... to express your anger or displeasure"

SAMBARRY:
eyin lenbomoje.ogedenbaje elo npo.

She gave her the water she will need so she won't have to be calling her mummy even 2minutes.can't you see she's already showing signs of someone who will be aggressive and easily upset

Solution. Ignore her.children forget things easily. When she cries and sees nobody answered her she will sleep off.by the time she wakes up she's the one hugging you and has already forgotten what happened

yvelchstores:
Op, being a man, I understand why u felt she needed to drink more. I don't see what you did as wrong. Water is good for the body. Children don't knw all that is good for them. Taking more water is good for her. If she says she is mad at you tell her that's not a good thing to say. Discipline your child o. Naira landers don't love your child more than u. Don't let them tell u how to disciple your child. Tell her not to say such again and buy her ice cream for listening and obeying afterwards.

SAMBARRY:
Continue encouraging rudeness from your son.na una type dey get those kain pikin wey dey tell their mama to shut up.being outspoken is different from being rude.even if he wasn't happy with what mummy did he should have said it in a respectful way.

Una no dey use please, thank you ma/sir,excuse me ma/sir to train una pikin ni?

banttieman:


I understand ur expression. Do u know there are so many things u can't save for when u need them? There is no spoiling here. Even after forcing the child, do you think she wont come back demanding something else? So u would beat her at every demand? Kids annoy us often but we need to deal with it.

zaynie:



Not Me, Not Today

SAMBARRY:
what is forcing there by dropping extra water for her? Did the Op push it down her throat? If she get angry and she is ignored she will know that throwing tantrums is not allowed and will be ignored till she communicates.if you give her attention every time she shows aggression you're only fueling her anger the more and I hope you know anger is also a terrible trait that grows with children and it's hard to remove. This is the time to remove IT from her

banttieman:


Daughter said I'm ok.
Dad said Finish it.

That is coercion if u dont know. I will rest my case here aa u dont seem to understand my point.

blackedwin:
Hello House,
I'm in shock as I'm writing this, I seriously need advice on the way forward
My 3 year old daughter said she was thirsty and wanted drinking water so I walked over the fridge got a bottle of water poured it into her cup and hand it over to her,she took a little and said she was done I was upset cos I was like is this why you made me drop what I was doing.to ensure she won't come back saying she was thirsty I said to her drink all of it she answered dad I'm ok, I repeated finish it she took a few rounds and then walked to the kitchen table and dropped the water cup walked back to me and said Dad I'm angry Dad I'm mad and walked away since then I've been feeling really bad.
How do I assure her I meant well for her

ogawisdom:


U r a weak ass Dad, spare d rod n spoil d child. By d time she is 16yrs she will bring boys to ur houz n Bleep them mumu

Siena:


Bro, you may not agree with how the thread starter chooses to raise his child, I get that. But it wouldn't kill you to be civil.

Please, respond with the wisdom your username suggests you have.