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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by obaisexy: 7:36am On Apr 07, 2016

God bless you bro....real men doesn't depend on anybody to survive....you tried! Mine was that my father who was a banker died at my primary 4. My mother is a petty trader and am the first among 3 boys and a girl. After secondary school. I trained myself in university.....Proudly an Architect. We thank God for His grace.

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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by obaisexy: 7:37am On Apr 07, 2016

Forgive your father ok

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by MzPecs(f): 7:41am On Apr 07, 2016

greatiyk4u:
Serious?

Yap

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by schumastic(m): 7:41am On Apr 07, 2016

MzPecs:
My father didn't train me in the university too and doesn't even know bout my well being so forgive him anyway...

ah

mzspecs even you as well, okay o cwontinu

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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by greatiyk4u(m): 7:46am On Apr 07, 2016

MzPecs:
Yap

Then you must be a diligent chap.....if done the moral way.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by wobia007: 7:47am On Apr 07, 2016

Forgive and forget Wht he did to u in the past, tho its difficult bt u ve to, all u need is His Grace to hlp u. God bless you

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by 9jatatafo(m): 7:47am On Apr 07, 2016

OlowoB:
God bless you bro.

Moving on is the key word and not coming on a public forum and pasting pics of your family....insulting one's family online...thats so immature not with the kind of different bloggers we have on nairaland who are ready to do anything to make money

Don't be surprised that tomorrow morning you will see a headline with "Boy insults his father for not paying his school fees" on Vivian Gist.

You are very correct and I wonder why people of today get offended easily. The most annoying about the post was the guy putting down his full name and family name which is bad.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by olac21(m): 7:49am On Apr 07, 2016

Are you the one by the left or by the right?
Now to the que:I don't know what to say cos my mum usually behave like that but not like this though!

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Godsonkemz(m): 7:51am On Apr 07, 2016

Eventhough he failed to live up to his responsibility, yielded to bar advise from from his so called friends, You have to forgive him, you have to erase every grudges you have against him so that God will bless you. You need his blessing to make it in your chosen career because he's the only God you have here. You don't necessarily have to go to university to be successful in life and if he had trained you to the level you can make it, he didn't neglect you entirely.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by basingstoke: 7:52am On Apr 07, 2016

Apart from him being your father, I think it is always good to forgive. It is always better to communicate. call him speak with him, and you will be shock of the revelations he will give. I am not making excuses for your father, but you never know...

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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by ismo234(m): 7:54am On Apr 07, 2016

Uchan4u:
You can never have another father, forget that he didn't sponsor you through the university. Thank God that you have conquered, because it is not by your might. forgive your dad and move on with your life. Remember that you have benefited and will still benefit from your father, if you doubt ask orphans what they are passing through

You are very correct @Uchan4u. One can only have one father.
I also had this same issue with my mum but am trying hard now to show her some love.
She was actually not there for us back in the days, she never believed in us succeeding in life and i think its because of the strained relationship she had with our Dad
this actually led to a disconnect between myself and her
there is simply no connection between us
but I thank God for the situation now.
At least, I credit her account monthly as soon as my salary is paid.
though i still feel the pains at times.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by lastpage: 7:56am On Apr 07, 2016

mikketech:
See you that even has a man to call a father.
Bro to you that man is useless. But you never know what hi worth are untill he will kick the bucket. As for him not training u in the uni. It's not a must and he don't owe u that. Atleast if he had not been doing these things u afore mentioned. Who knows how lazy u would become now. If I tell u wetin my own case be. You will forver be grateful and thankful to ur father. Like it not he is still ur father. So appreciate him in all. He will change. Believe me.

That your own case go really make me laugh this morning!
But seriously, everything you said is GBAM!

We dont appreciate our Parents until they die .....and we then start shedding crocodile tears!
Trip them and make them happy while they are still alive..... it costs nothing, makes you happy, blesses you and does not last forever!

Lastpage!

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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by MzPecs(f): 7:56am On Apr 07, 2016

schumastic:
ah

mzspecs even you as well, okay o cwontinu

Yes oh! Even me as well

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 7:58am On Apr 07, 2016

U might av conquered buh ask urself.... Av u finished ur conquest?? If d ansa is NO..

I suggest u 4get abt ur dad 4 now nd focus on getting a job.... Wen u secure a good job... Get ready 2 hear evrybody begging u to recognize him as ur fadar.

I'm kinda in ur situation so i knw hw u feel... I wont say i've forgiven my dad buh simply put I've learnt to a survivor... I've grown beyond d anger nd hate.... I've made myself my own father

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by banme1(m): 7:58am On Apr 07, 2016

Gbam. If I hear say u give that man a dime from ur pocket!! Make I no talk.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by MzPecs(f): 8:02am On Apr 07, 2016

greatiyk4u:
Then you must be a diligent chap.....if done the moral way.

I am only by the grace of God

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 8:02am On Apr 07, 2016

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by ETEYEN79(m): 8:02am On Apr 07, 2016

My brother, your father remains your father, nothing changes that fact. Pray God should give you a good job, take good care of your parents because they did everything for you especially when you were less than 5 years old. Those who don't have a father wished they still have one, if he was not there you will understand that you are far better than those whose theirs have gone beyond, so no matter the condition, be wise. God bless you.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by lastpage: 8:02am On Apr 07, 2016

basingstoke:
Apart from him being your father, I think it is always good to forgive. It is always better to communicate. call him speak with him, and you will be shocked of the revelations he will give. I am not making excuses for your father, but you never know...

I like people who can think beyond the surface!
Respects Man.

Lastpage!

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Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Dklef(m): 8:02am On Apr 07, 2016

mtcheeeeeew

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by greatiyk4u(m): 8:05am On Apr 07, 2016

MzPecs:
I am only by the grace of God

May God enlarge ur coast

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 8:08am On Apr 07, 2016

thou any well meaning father who knows the value of education(I don't think he passed through the university himself) would see his child through the university level,you're an adult,it isn't a right.
if you still desire to go on with any revenge plan,first of all refund all the money he'd ever spent on you,just to be square undecided

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by MzPecs(f): 8:08am On Apr 07, 2016

greatiyk4u:
May God enlarge ur coast

Amen, thanks

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by nwakibe: 8:10am On Apr 07, 2016

you get papa, you dey complain. Me wey papa don die nko? I wish my papa still dey alive. wether he dey do anything for me or not.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Galaxydon1(m): 8:10am On Apr 07, 2016

makasimatics:
well, it's not me sha. but the corper who puts on both NYSC crested vest and the jacket is my friend who encountered such from his father.

he is presently searching for job

he never get work self. Make him hammer first.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Burgerlomo: 8:11am On Apr 07, 2016

Uchan4u:
You can never have another father, forget that he didn't sponsor you through the university. Thank God that you have conquered, because it is not by your might. forgive your dad and move on with your life. Remember that you have benefited and will still benefit from your father, if you doubt ask orphans what they are passing through

God bless you.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by beatricewebb: 8:12am On Apr 07, 2016

This madness has been a trend in Africa from time immemorial only because the parent knows the child will forgive them

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by dare2differ: 8:12am On Apr 07, 2016

habsydiamond:
what is wrong is that, he won't be able to witness the comedy of the people in power and the present economy of nigeria and tell stories of it.

Tell stories of it to who undecided

How do you people come up with things like this?

The reason why you are alive is to go back to and end up in hell/paradise.
You can't miss what you don't have.
There is nothing special about living.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 8:18am On Apr 07, 2016

He is your dad. You love him regardless. What you can do is to take care of them enough on basic levels. Food and shelter. No extravagancy. No buying of cars for him or building a mansion. Basic shelter so that your conscience will be clear enough. Pele.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by alaskido(m): 8:19am On Apr 07, 2016

He is your father. Please forgive him. If he was educated, he will know the value of education. Please do not blame him for he was under some sort of influence of external forces.

But like you said you have something in mind, please do not go and shoot the old man o because all his sins will be on your head o.

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by Memyselfu2009(m): 8:23am On Apr 07, 2016

Bible Ask Children to Honour your parents so your days shall be long. The bible highlight love as an identifying mark of a true Christian which made it one of Go greatest commandment and also the bible talk more on forgiveness that's why God forgive us our sins when we truthfully and willingly ask for forgiveness. So your dad might not realise his mistake but Jehovah would always always take notice of ur kind gesture

Re: Advice: My Father Didn't Train Me In The University,should I Forgive Him? by MDOLOFU: 8:23am On Apr 07, 2016

Guy if u kW wat is gud for u forgive him. Some people are praying they father stay alive n be making noise u have n can't forgive. He even train u to secondary level. Wat if he had use u for money ritual wen u were 2month old? Will there b any young man dat will go to university n graduate? Stop thinking of d tins he never did for u n think of the one he has done. I was so so shock wen my guy father was bragging in a joint dat he has a graduate as a son we I kW dat he dose not kW d course his son study or even kW d amount of sku fee but al thanks to God my friend still hav a bragging father who is alive

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